on a scale of one to ten how much does it hurt?

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13, Its not easy, but its doable. I would advise not to allow an induction it makes it worse. If you are starting to go at all tell the doc you want to hold off unless there is something wrong with the baby

Cristin - posted on 03/26/2009

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12! It hurts a lot! Even with the epidural! (mine didn't work properly.) But you forget all the pain and would do it all again, after you see that beautiful baby that you brought into the world!

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Jessie - posted on 03/21/2009

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Of course it hurts but some of the best advice I had from my prenatal instructor is that it is pain with a purpose - it is bringing your baby into the world! Everyone has different pain tolerances and you will know what you can handle in the moment. Find some prenatal classes - knowledge is power and makes you feel much more in control of everything and take a yoga class - it helps you to prepare and really helps during the labour. When you are actually in labour change positions a lot and you will find one that works for you. And of course a good support person(s) makes a lot of difference. Make sure you discuss pain control options and your preferences with your midwife or OB ahead of time. Good Luck!

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Frances - posted on 03/10/2011

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It was a 5 1/2. I'd consider it a moderate pain. I have had four natural births using the Bradley method.

Kate - posted on 03/27/2009

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for me it only got up to maybe 5-7 at crowning

i had a 9 lb 12.7 oz baby naturally

with no drugs!!!!

hypnobirthing baby all the way!

Carol - posted on 03/27/2009

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 have three kids two of them were with just nubain shot, which took the edge off, the pain is bad when you are pushing, but it is only temporary and you forget all about it after you have your little bundle of joy. i had three kids if it was that bad i would have stopped at 1

Lauren - posted on 03/27/2009

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all i felt were the contractions then had the epideral and then felt nothing from then on. felt a little pressure when the baby was crowning but not too bad. i only pushed for like 10 mins and had no tears or stitches. i think i expected it to be so horrible that when it happened it wasn't that bad at all. also, if you take the epideral, waiting til the babies head was right there is what i did and thats probably a huge reason why i did great. every birth is different so if you know its going to hurt but stay positive you'll do just fine

Angie - posted on 03/27/2009

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ten but you forget the pain when they but your little bundle in your arms.:-].

Lisa - posted on 03/27/2009

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it feels different for everyone and no two labours are the same but what ever you experience you forget most of when you see your baby so good luck you will be fine x

Lorna - posted on 03/27/2009

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it hurts like hell but the ultimate feeling is pushing that baby into this world and then all is forgotten

Presti - posted on 03/27/2009

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Ok so...for me the pain was literally off the charts. I'm NOT trying to scare you, but for me I didnt know what a "10" felt like until I had my son. I had no contractions until my water broke at 6:30am. I still went two hours with absolutly no pain or contractions. Then all of a sudden they just hit hard and fast. I had no warm up time or no warning. I went from a 0-10 in literally one contraction and they remained that way until my son was born. Now factor in sitting in NY rush hour traffic for 2 hours, barfing non stop, and pot holes and I became a little...flustered haha! My best advice is get to the hospital ASAP after you water breaks!!! As soon as you loose that fluid you have no "cushion" for those contractions. And also make sure to take a few towels. No one told me exactly how much fluid you loose...but lets just say that I flooded my husbands truck, the hospital loby, dripped down the hall to labor and delivery, and basically just made a mess of the entire place. Yea..its like the flood gates open up and you cant do ANYTHING to stop it hahaha!! Good luck! It will hurt but as everyone else said...literally the moment you see your baby everything will go away. I had my son two weeks ago and I've basically forgotton the birth. Its now funny rather than tramatic. Push HARD! If you dont give it your all it will hurt worse. Do exactly what the doctor says and just give it everything you've got.

Evonne - posted on 03/27/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

on a scale of one to ten how much does it hurt?




Out of ten hey! If you were a man I'd say 736 out of 10 - but you are a beautiful, resourseful, amazing woman  - and there are the MOST amazing drugs out there to assist you in your time of need. These days if you so choose it can hurt 2 or 3 out of 10 (but never let on to your man, use it for all its worth honey)

Heather - posted on 03/26/2009

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Oh girl it hurts terrible. I didn't have any medications though and was in hard labor for 12 hours. But as soon as you see your child you forget about it completely. You'll be fine and don't worry you won't regret it

Heather - posted on 03/26/2009

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Oh girl it hurts terrible. I didn't have any medications though and was in hard labor for 12 hours. But as soon as you see your child you forget about it completely. You'll be fine and don't worry you won't regret it

Jenny - posted on 03/26/2009

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i was in labour for more hrs than i can count.... being indiced with the gel, they broke my water and the pitocin...strong contractions every 3 min for 18 hrs...smiled through every contraction een though i wanted to cry.... you just have to be posotive.... love what your doing and pain doesnt matter but the epidural is sooo awesome

Tracy - posted on 03/26/2009

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There are at least 3-5 different stages of labor. The transition phase is probably most crucial its when your contractions are closer together and longer. example your contractions might be 2 minutes long and 30 sec apart so it feels endless. its also the time where you feel like pushing but the doc says its not time. I had three kids the first 12 hours the second  and third 8 hrs. my last one i felt no pain. wish that could of been my first experience LOL the main thing is that everyone's pain tolerance is different. The endless joy that is to await a small fraction of sorrow is worth it all, three times over and more. Congratulations on a love you've never experienced before.

Jessica - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts but i think everyones pain level is different. I started having contractions at 5a.m. i walked around my neighborhood until noon the my boyfriend and i went to the hospital and my son was born at 5:12. I didnt start to feel really bad pain until the broke my water at the hospital. But like everyone else is saying once you see your baby i swear its like you forget all the pain. My son is 9 1/2 months now and i would do it again.

Lindsay - posted on 03/26/2009

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deffinatly 10 ive had two the first took 27 hours and I had an epidural but that slowed down the labour so I had to be induced but with my second I was 7 cm dialated before I even went into labour and it only took two and a half hours but I used the gas

I think I prefered the gas because it made it seem like the contractions were going by faster. Any way good luck

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts terribly, 10 isnt a  high enough number, but believe me.....when you see that little face for the first time, the pain disappears...........its wonderful!

Michelle - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts terribly, 10 isnt a  high enough number, but believe me.....when you see that little face for the first time, the pain disappears...........its wonderful!

Amanda - posted on 03/26/2009

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It's a 12!!! It's very painful, you are definitely not prepared for it!!!! Just have to focus and give it your best!! Definitely recommend an epidural!!!!

Jana - posted on 03/26/2009

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I can remember that it was pretty painful. I have had two babies at a Birth Center with no real medical intervention.  My labors of course were very different but, once they got started they progressed very very quickly and  with both I pushed for less than 10 minutes.  I must say that the proper mindset is essential in getting ready for a natural birth!  be open to  going with the flow of the unexpected, but preparing yourself with the mind that you are totally capable of managing labor WELL without meds is essential also having a good support system that supportsyour choice is important.  Best wishes!!!!!

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neither of my labors were bad! Contractions with my first hurt at about an 8 and then i had an epidural because I was going on close to 20 hrs of labor and they had to speed it up with meds. The epidural shot was hard only because you have to stay perfectly still through your contractions while they insert the shot into your spine, but it is well worth it. Don't let anyone tell you you are less of a mom if you get the shot! It is great and if you have a low pain tolerance I would definitely suggest it. My second was a c section due to complications. I had no pain at all not even contractions!! That is why they had to take her c section. mY contractions weren't readable.

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neither of my labors were bad! Contractions with my first hurt at about an 8 and then i had an epidural because I was going on close to 20 hrs of labor and they had to speed it up with meds. The epidural shot was hard only because you have to stay perfectly still through your contractions while they insert the shot into your spine, but it is well worth it. Don't let anyone tell you you are less of a mom if you get the shot! It is great and if you have a low pain tolerance I would definitely suggest it. My second was a c section due to complications. I had no pain at all not even contractions!! That is why they had to take her c section. mY contractions weren't readable.

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neither of my labors were bad! Contractions with my first hurt at about an 8 and then i had an epidural because I was going on close to 20 hrs of labor and they had to speed it up with meds. The epidural shot was hard only because you have to stay perfectly still through your contractions while they insert the shot into your spine, but it is well worth it. Don't let anyone tell you you are less of a mom if you get the shot! It is great and if you have a low pain tolerance I would definitely suggest it. My second was a c section due to complications. I had no pain at all not even contractions!! That is why they had to take her c section. mY contractions weren't readable.

Megan - posted on 03/26/2009

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Like many of the other moms here, I also had an epidural. But for me I didn't have pain so much but more extreme discomfort. Personally, I wouldn't have any children without an epidural but that's because I had a great experience with having it. I didn't feel much but I DID feel when it was time to push (which is what you want). But let's be honest, everyone is different. You may get an epidural and feel everything or you could do it naturally and be able to handle the pain - I was not one of those people, not to mention that I pushed for 3 1/2 hours straight with mostly back to back contractions. And if you have the urge to bear down it feels waaaay worse than actually pushing. Pushing is sweet relief for that urge! :)



Oh and one note on the IV drugs - generally they only give you one dose of it (depending on the type)...so it WILL wear off.



And the real discomfort will occur in the week after giving birth anyway.

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2009

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It hurts, But it is the most beautiful thing you will ever experience.

Its not like normal pain its there for a reason, And you know the pain will go away, And you will then have the most precious miracle in your arms.I would go through the experience 300 times to get that perfect baby in my arms good luck x

Ky / mum of 3

Rachael - posted on 03/26/2009

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it hurts very bad! over a 10. i would get an epidural then u will have no pain:)

Lyndsey - posted on 03/26/2009

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after all the pain you had in the end was all worth it...u bring anuva life to ur world!! 

Lyndsey - posted on 03/26/2009

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after all the pain you had in the end was all worth it...u bring anuva life to ur world!! 

Lyndsey - posted on 03/26/2009

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i gave bith 19weeks 6 days ago and to be that honest with you i didnt think it hurt lol..im 21 it was my first had little boy labour time took 1 hour 56 mins and was very good..the contractions was painfull but the labour wasnt..every1 is diffrent tho so ul not no the truth till you give birth yourself..good look!!

Rachel - posted on 03/26/2009

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Don't torture yourself reading everyone horror stories, Some women have no trouble others have lots, you won't know what will hapen til it does. Just remember yes it hurts, if you need help there are lots of things there to help, i found a epidural really helpful. Best advice someone told me, If it was really that bad you couldn't cope, no body would have more than one child! You will be fine.

Amy - posted on 03/26/2009

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Having had an emergency C-section on my first (in labour found baby was breach), and natural on the second I can honestly say that getting the baby out with natural birth is a lot more painful. Byt, a recovery from Natural is a breeze in comparison to the op. I tore right through on the natural (and I mean, right through). If I have another child, I will go natural again. With an epi. Mine didn't work for the birth due to slight complications, but it helped for labour, and afterwards while they stitched me up.

1) Easier recovery, even with 17 stitches that I counted

2) You lose weight. Labour and birth uses the same amount of energy as a marathon. I zipped and buttoned my pre-preg jeans the next day :)

3) Baby is healthier. My first has chronic ear infections. My second not. (check this your self, it is also a fact)

4) If it was so bad, we'd have died out by now as a species. Think about it...

5) Your body, and your baby's body is made for it. Really! Your pelvis was designed to open enough to allow baby's head through, baby's head is soft and has openings (fontanels) to prevent injury. Birth also pushes out all the fluid inside the baby's airways so they don't need that awful suction (it is awful to watch baby go through it).

Amy - posted on 03/26/2009

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Having had an emergency C-section on my first (in labour found baby was breach), and natural on the second I can honestly say that getting the baby out with natural birth is a lot more painful. Byt, a recovery from Natural is a breeze in comparison to the op. I tore right through on the natural (and I mean, right through). If I have another child, I will go natural again. With an epi. Mine didn't work for the birth due to slight complications, but it helped for labour, and afterwards while they stitched me up.

1) Easier recovery, even with 17 stitches that I counted

2) You lose weight. Labour and birth uses the same amount of energy as a marathon. I zipped and buttoned my pre-preg jeans the next day :)

3) Baby is healthier. My first has chronic ear infections. My second not. (check this your self, it is also a fact)

4) If it was so bad, we'd have died out by now as a species. Think about it...

5) Your body, and your baby's body is made for it. Really! Your pelvis was designed to open enough to allow baby's head through, baby's head is soft and has openings (fontanels) to prevent injury. Birth also pushes out all the fluid inside the baby's airways so they don't need that awful suction (it is awful to watch baby go through it).

User - posted on 03/25/2009

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lol...... 10........ but once the head is out, all that burn stops.... amazing. Its like some one has a match on your bits........ when your time comes you really dont care you just want baby OUT



so many women go back 2nd,3rd or if there mad 4th... so it cant be that bad or should we say easily forgotten



good luck and try not 2 listen 2 much of the bad. its a fantastic time 4 you xxxx

Alison - posted on 03/25/2009

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Yes-it hurts-but every woman is different and copes with pain in a different way-go with what your body is telling you-if you need pain releif use it-i have 2 girls and the first was a long labour which resulted in a forceps delivery, gas and air and pethadine, the second was 4 hours but more painful-you just don't know until it happens, as soon as your baby is born the pain seems to disappear because you are filled with a feeling i can't describe. Enjoy it and good luck

Candice - posted on 03/25/2009

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downside of the epidural....my legs KILLED all night after ...i couldn't sleep and they wouldn't give me anything for the pain...not sure what that was about...i must have done something to them when i was pushing ...and i'm not the only one i know who had this problem. the labour was nothing compared to that!

Candice - posted on 03/25/2009

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depends! drugs or no drugs? i had an epidural...didn't hurt at all until the last little bit of pushing when i felt like i had ripped in two!...but that only lasted a minute or two :) the other 24 hours of labour i spent laughing my ass off! YAY EPIDURAL!

Maria - posted on 03/25/2009

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it hurts super bad if you get the pitocin it makes the contractions about 20 times worse then they are without. i had planned on going natural (no drugs what so ever) but my water broke and then i still wasnt having contractions 5 1/2 hours later so they started the pit and i broke and got the epidural and OMG it was a breeze after that!



make a birth plan and try to stick with it but if you need the drugs then get them there is no shame in it its the most wonderful thing ever and once you have the baby you forget just about all the pain anyway!



besides the worst is the recovery especially if you tear :(

Glenda - posted on 03/25/2009

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It hurts like hell!!!!!!But i still had three and dont regret it for one minute.......

Kate - posted on 03/25/2009

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If you can bear it try to labor as much as you can at home. You body will tell you what to do. As soon as you get to the hosp. they're all about keeping you on your back and hooking you up to everything. I don't know if most women know this the worst way to deliver is laying down. You should do what is best for you. As for as the pain scale More than 10, definetly.

Mary - posted on 03/25/2009

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I wanted to get an epidural but the nurse said to wait then it was too late so I had to go natural. To be honest, it was the worst pain in my entire life. I thought I would die or couldn't make it through each contraction. They say moms forget the pain- but I remember it like it was yesterday! It was all worth it though of course. :)

Jessica - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hey, I can say from experience that I had an epi with my first baby and I was so drugged and it slowed the process down so much that I hardly remember anything. I was happy to have my baby at the end, but b/c you can't "feel"where you are pushing it makes it hard to make progress. THe second baby I did not have an epidural, it was definetly more like a ten, but the uphoria you have afterwords when you are alert and you see your baby for the first time is SOOOO worth it. You will NEVER feel such happiness and RELIEF after experiencing a pain like that. If I ever had another child I would most definetly forgo the epidural! Our bodies are made for this! You are a strong woman and you can do it if you choose to! Good luck.

User - posted on 03/25/2009

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Every1 is different ..... ive had 2 children first one 6lb 11oz, the second 9lb 11oz. The fear is not knowing what is going to happen, the unknown!! lisen to your midwife!!?? try and do most of it at home, in the hospital it just stresses u out! i left my contractions til 5mins, then went in ..... but, I could cope with it, if you cant then go in! dont stress cause ur stress the baby. it will be easier if your in control rather then panicking. when they say they c the head ... the hard work is over!! u just have 1 last push and out it pops!! remember one of mine was nearly 10lb ... and im only 5ft2 ... pain scale 8 ... and I just had gas!! if u can have pain relief - take it!! y suffer if u dont have to?? and GOOD LUCK

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