only 1 respones for my sons birthday party

Michelle - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 71 moms have responded )

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I have invited his entire day care class (22 kids) to his birthday party for next week.. I handed out the invitations with a 2 week RSVP date which was a week ago..Only 1 parent has responded.. He knows his party is coming up and keeps saying his friends will be there to have fun at his party.. I am worried no one else will respond since we only have 5 days left.. Another parent invited 16 of the kids and only 2 responded.. What do I say to him to ease this unfortunate scenario..

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Kate CP - posted on 04/12/2011

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Great googly moogly. This post is over 2 years old. I'm sure the birthday party conundrum has been solved. CHECK THE DATE ON POSTS PEOPLE!!!

Becky - posted on 12/03/2009

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Definitely speak with the parents at the daycare as they are dropping off or picking up the kids. I have never invited my daughter's daycare friends to her birthday parties because I know they won't come. Unless you have some sort of relationship (friends) with the parents, it's highly unlikely they will show. Luckily, I have a great group of friends from college or mommies I have made friends with from daycare and my kids parties are always well attended. Good luck next time.

Markita - posted on 12/05/2009

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Unfortunately it seems that people don't know how to RSVP these days. I've gone through the same thing in the past and have gotten to the point that I personally invite the people we want to come. If you have a phone list I would start calling. Good luck.

RenaFaye - posted on 12/04/2009

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Michelle, I really sympathize with your dilemma. I would try to say something to him like " Your friends really like you but maybe their parents had something else they had to do on that day." Fortunately the younger your son is, the sooner he'll forget any disappointment. The rule of thumb when my kids were little is that you invite as many kids as the age of your child. If you didn't know all the parents very well they may have been somewhat uncertain about coming to your home. Hope this helps!

Katherine - posted on 12/03/2009

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I would talk to the parents!!! Just be polite, "hey are you coming on (whatever date) I need to plan accordingly. That is on THEM. You would think people had common courtesy these days, poor guy. I wouldn't say a thing until you know for sure. Let us know what happens :)

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Miriam - posted on 04/12/2011

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I completely admit that I am usually one of those people that never really RSVPs, but usually attends. (I'm working on that). Hopefully that's the case. If not, just make sure to make it a lot of fun for whoever does show up, whether it is 1 or 2 kids or 20+. Its not about the number of people there to celebrate. Its about the fun of the celebration.

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My children never went to daycare. Before they were of kindergarten age we just had family parties. That way they didn't know any different....only kid invited was the little neighbor girl. Have the family party and let him take cupcakes to school or something on his birthday.

JAYNE - posted on 12/09/2009

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20 KIDS IS NOT SO BAD..... THAT USUALLY IS THE SIZE OF YOUR CHILD'S CLASS , AND BY NOT PUTTING OUT THE INVITE TO SOME OF THEM WOULD HURT SOME FEELINGS OF THOSE CHOSEN KIDS. WE ALL KNOW THAT SEVERAL WILL NOT BE ABLE TO COME AS WELL.
I LOVE CELEBRATING ALL HOLIDAYS BUT BIRTHDAYS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT ONE OF ALL .... AFTER ALL IT WAS THE DAY YOUR CHILD WAS BORN .
I'M NOT WELL TO DO , INFACT WELL BELOW THAT, BUT WE ALWAYS DO SOMETHING FUN.... OLD SCHOOL WITH MUSICAL CHAIRS AND FUN GIFT BAGS .... NOT LEAD LEADED JUNK. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE TO HAVE FUN.

JAYNE - posted on 12/09/2009

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THE BEST WAY TO FIGURE THIS OUT IS A LITTLE TIME CONSUMING BUT WELL WORTH IT.
KIDS ARE TERRIBLE ABOUT GIVING PAPERS AND NOTICES TO THIER PARENTS ... INCLUDING INVITATIONS.
CALL THE PARENT(S) AT HOME AND ASK IF THEY WERE PLANNING OR ABLE TO HAVE THIER CHILD COME TO THE PARTY. AND ALSO U MAY WANT TO SAY A GIFT ISN'T REQUIRED TO ATTEND. TIMES ARE TOUGH FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE , SO THIS CAN ALSO CAUSE SOME OF THE REASONS U MAY NOT HAVE HEARD BACK FROM A FEW PEOPLE.

Bethany - posted on 12/07/2009

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make sure you explain to your son that not all his friends are likely to show. Have fun with the ones who do and make sure you invite other family, friends and neighbors with children so regardless if his classmates show up, there will be others there to celebrate with him.

With 3 daughters we've also run into this quite a few times. Now we let the kids pick 3-4 close friends from school to invite to thier parites and the rest of the invitees are family and close friends. I don't waste my time or money on people we don't know well and who may not show up. It's more fun and less stressful to stick wiith inviting people who are more than likely going to accept the invite.

Winfield - posted on 12/06/2009

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Good day,

I know how frustrating it is to send invitations and get the unexpected response. However, my suggestion if it `is okayq with you: 1. to send his birthday cake at the school. During the children's break time, the Teacher and the rest of the class can sing for him and you can be part of it if you have tie on that day. This will mean that there is everyone to share his special day. The piece of the cake can be cut into half. Half eaten at his school and the other half can be shared with the rest of the family. My suggestion is that later that afternoon [if birthday is during the week], or occuring weekend, let the parents who have responded bring their kids at your house or where you want to celebrate the birthday, that will make a difference. It will mean that you will explain easily why you had to do it at school and at home; and why he needs to share that special moment with those 2 kids whose parents have responded. I hope this helps!

Cristi - posted on 12/06/2009

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I have two boys, one in college and one in high school. This has been a common scenario for us for the last 20 years! What I found works best is to get phone numbers or e-mail addresses for all the parents and call them a few days beforehand. I began doing this because I had a few parties where I planned for a certain number and twice the amount showed up. Nothing like not having enough food and goody bags for everyone or buying too much food! Another tactic that I think is a little brazen (and I've never had the guts to do!) is to put a note on the invitation to say that those who don't RSVP won't be let in the door. My son's friend's mother did this and she got an RSVP for every person who showed up!

Yolande - posted on 12/06/2009

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hi Michelle it can be so frustrating when people do that i am sure they are all planning on going but alot of people dont bother to RSVP i hope he has a great day.

Mary - posted on 12/06/2009

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i agree that lota peeople nowdays have no sense i also think u should reach out and c for sure if anyone is plannig on coming or not,if for whatever reason u cant find out give it a hour at the party do presents and cake early keep him and the one friend entertained , and maybe get out of the house. if he is bummed that noone showed, then do something fun for the two of them he might not normally get to do, bumper cars, or a grown up movie, put put golf is good for little kids -if its only one or two,-it doesnt matter if they do it rite,be goofy with them and he might have the best day ever! unplanned adventures are usually the best! good luck!!

Iysha - posted on 12/06/2009

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Most people do not RSVP...I am guilty of not letting people know I am going to be there. lol.



If you can get the parents phone numbers or talk to them after school to see if they are coming or if they can drop off their kids for a few hours to play and eat cake or whatever you have planned. If you are there or have them on the phone, they kind of have to answer.

Stephanie - posted on 12/06/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

Really not sure why some Mothers have these huge parties to begin with.. How about invite 1 child per age...



   I totally agree!

Dina - posted on 12/06/2009

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I’d agree with Katherine … calling them politely can help you find out how it would go eventually. On the other hand, I might have a tip to avoid that in the future:



I find it a perfect surprise for my son every year showing up at his classroom with gifts for the whole class and a cake. He sets off his candles, have fun with his friends for half an hour or so, enjoy the cake, all the kids are happy about their gifts and I'm back home clean and clear :)



I know this might not work out for all daycare centers, but they didn't mind it at my son's or even at his current school (second grader now). I just need to inform them a week ahead to get it arranged with all the classes running and all.



A party at home is much more fun, I know. However, this at-class party has its advantages too:



1. Your child becomes popular, he's the birthday boy who enjoyed a surprise party in the middle of the school. You might think kids are too young to notice it, well ... trust me, they do!



2. Gifts make friends. And you don't need to go fancy ... a coloring book with a set of 12 or even 6 colorful crayons, or even an attractive story book per kid would draw the most beautiful smiles on their faces.



3. You're catering for no more than a cake, and all you need in addition are disposable plastic dishes. You don't even need glasses; if you're planning for juice then you may simply buy the kids some of the bottled fresh juices.



4. You don't need to deal with any RSVP's or any inconsiderate parents. You're having the party for your kid and his friends to enjoy ... and they're all there happy and smiling.



5. You're back home waiting for your son with nothing to do ... no clean up, no long hours waiting for late parents, no screaming children around … the party is over.



6. Go for more and surprise your kid once more … buy a pack of balloons and fill his room. That would be his SECOND birthday party on the same day! Light a candle with him and his dad and enjoy the moment quietly while giving your son his birthday’s gift. Never give him that gift in the class party, the kids won’t be busy enough to miss it after all.

Matilde - posted on 12/06/2009

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Have the party at the daycare! That is what I did! He had a lot of fun, and all his class mates show up!

Kelly - posted on 12/06/2009

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Really not sure why some Mothers have these huge parties to begin with.. How about invite 1 child per age...

Kelly - posted on 12/06/2009

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It is such a sad comment, but people have no common sense when it comes to manners anymore. You will have to track down parents, unfortunately--a child doesn't understand when adults are rude. Hope it's not too late. I have avoided this frustration by having smaller, more eventful parties when my boys were younger. I have a Christmas baby too (literally - December 25) so planning parties has always been a little, um, stressful. Fun, but stressful. Hang in there!

Sharon - posted on 12/06/2009

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You're welcome babe!



Oh hey, be sure to let me know how the party turns out!

Michelle - posted on 12/06/2009

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Thanks Sharon, you took the words right out of my mouth, but I welcome it all

Sharon - posted on 12/06/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

I don't understand why everyone feels they have to have big birthday parties all the time for their kids. No wonder kids today are so spoiled and think they they have to have everything. Just wait when they are older and still want these big parties and hitting your pocket book...remember you set them up for it. Maybe some of these parents can't afford to buy your child a gift ecspecially during these times. If you are going to have aparty for your kids..then put No Gifts! Maybe people will show up. A party with 20 kids is ridiculous!



All right now, don't be hatin'!



 



Let it be said that after the first couple of birthday parties where my kids were inundated with a crap load of dollar store leadfilled shit toys, I DID put "no gifts!"



 



Are ya happy now?



 



"No gifts required" has been on our invitations for years.  My kids are over indulged in toys anyway.  What they really want is a chance to hangout with their school friends  OUTSIDE of school.



ALSO!  When we invite 20 kids, its because we only expect about 10 to show up, 1 or 2 to actually RSVP.  Last year for my daughters' birthday we invited 15 girls to a pool party.  TWO RSVP'd and 8 showed up. 

Nicky - posted on 12/06/2009

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hi michelle, im a mum of four girls and they always get invited to partys and sometimes its hard with other kids to take just one ....what i would do to save disapointment is have a little party at day care ,you still have enough time to see what the rules are with food etc ,,im sure some ballons and party things wouldnt be a problem and buy some cheap prezys the kids could play pass the parcel with,im sure it would be the funnest day ever!!!

Stephanie - posted on 12/06/2009

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I don't understand why everyone feels they have to have big birthday parties all the time for their kids. No wonder kids today are so spoiled and think they they have to have everything. Just wait when they are older and still want these big parties and hitting your pocket book...remember you set them up for it. Maybe some of these parents can't afford to buy your child a gift ecspecially during these times. If you are going to have aparty for your kids..then put No Gifts! Maybe people will show up. A party with 20 kids is ridiculous!

Ailysh-Hope - posted on 12/05/2009

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I have come to the conclusion that in todays world do not expect a response. Do not expect anything. As sad as that is, it is our job as mums to ensure our children are cared for physically and emotionally... that may mean that when planning a party, plan to call all parents the week before to get confirmation, if they can not give it, they won't be catered for!
this has always worked best for me, even though it's anoying and takes time. It has the best outcome for my kids and that what makes me happy!

Marsha - posted on 12/05/2009

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My children are adults now, but we went through this when they were young. Tell your son that it will be a surprise to see who is at his party. Make a game of it and don't dwell on the negative. Then plan for the 22 that were invited. You can always freeze leftover cake (if only a few do show up), or take it into the day care center for the staff and children to enjoy!

Sabrina - posted on 12/05/2009

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I have encountered the same problem with people not replying to invitations. What I now do is call each parent and ask if they are coming or not. My son's birthday is on Dec 8, so I know what it's like to work around Christmas. I try to have his party either the end of November or first part of December. The other problem we have found is that alot of boys are in hockey and most can't make it. We phone the parents to see what time would best. We also let him have a party in the summer with his friends. It's not another birthday party just a party for him and his friends to have fun when it is warm outside.

Jacinta - posted on 12/05/2009

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I totally agree with Sharon. People are so ignorant. My daughter's birthday is in October and we had the exact same issue when we invited her friends from daycare for her 2nd birthday party this year. Except for one mum who told us her little boy couldn't come because they would be away (but thanked us for inviting him anyway), and the mum who rang after the rsvp date and said she would bring her son (but just didn't bother turning up on the day), not one person replied! I was so furious!
It shouldn't matter that she was 'only 2 and won't remember anyway', I will!!!!
Regardless, we had a great day with her other friends who were there and really that's all that mattered in the end. The people who bother to make an effort are the ones who count, not the ones who can't be bothered. At least we know better for next year!

Nimalee Sri - posted on 12/04/2009

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if this is confirm that only 1 parent is turning out for the party, then go ahead to take them out of your home and celebrate in Mc Donalds or some other fast food stores. His focus shall turn to other side of his expectations....

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Rough, sorry!!! I think tracking down parents (at pickup and drop off times) and getting phone numbers is a great idea. Send a reminder text or ph call the day before it also brilliant. Good luck!

Sakshi - posted on 12/04/2009

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u can make phone calls and get confirmation for the party or pass on the word once again in the class with the help of the teachers.

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Could it be that they just don't understand what RSVP mean to the hostess? Here in my country, it seems that it doesn't mean anything. However hard I try to put an RSVP to my invites, 3 or 4 would respond & the whole roll of my invitees show up! So now, when I throw a party, I just assume that everyone's coming.

Or you can text the parents.

Julie - posted on 12/04/2009

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Well from my experience of doing birthday parties with my 6 children, probably not all 22 will show up. Also I don't know where you live, but I live in Utah and people are rude here. No one R.S.V.P.'s for parties even though they come. Plus most people here will give you an invitation for their birthday party 1 or 2 days before and we've even received invitations the day of. We also get a lot of word of mouth invites. I refuse to let my children go to those. They've told their friends that unless they get a written invitation where I can call and talk to a parent they can't go. I wasn't raised this way so it's been a real shock to me to deal with this. So I'm guessing at least half if not more of your guest list is planning on coming, they just don't understand the importance of the R.S.V.P. It's frustrating when your 14 year old wants a party with 20 people and you order pizza from the expensive pizza joint she likes, for 20 people and only 9 girls come. Only 1 of those 9 had R.S.V.P.'d, but from my past experience I knew that all 20 might come even though unlikely. So we were stuck with a lot of pizza. I made my friend take a whole one home with her. I would tell your son that most of the parents probably forgot to tell you their child was coming, but that they're probably planning on it. With inviting that many kids as long as the boys he's closest to come, he probably won't even notice the ones that don't.

Michelle - posted on 12/04/2009

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Thank you all so much, I can't begin to tell each and everyone of you how Thankful and appreciative I am with all of your responses... I have found all of your responses very heart warming and helpful.. My son is 5 and we did invite a couple of friends that have kids but figured he would enjoy the kids from day care since he is with them all the time... All of our family lives out of state and we decided to have a party this year here since its his last year at day care.. We are not having the party at our house... I will tell you I finally received a phone call a few minutes ago saying his son would not be able to make it... I felt courageous this moprning (from all of your respones) and asked one of his friends mom if she received the inviation and she said no.. She said she received so much stuff the day before Thanksgiving (the day we handed out the inviations) that she didn't look at everything... I saw the envelope on the floor of the car and she opened it and said they will be there... I plan on having even more courage with all of the support of all of you to ask more parents next week... I don't know how I would be able to deal with all of this without all of you... GOD Bless you all... I will let you all know what happens, Michelle

Kay - posted on 12/04/2009

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I learned along time ago, if your going to do something like this, get permission and have it at the school. most places will alow this.

trust me it wont get any easier, my granddaughter had her sweet 16 party and 3 came.
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Rowan - posted on 12/04/2009

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I cannot tell you how stressed out I have been over the exact same situation!! A few tips - trust me, I have pulled out all of the stops:
1. Linger at the daycare when you pick him up and drop him off. Verify with parents whether or not they received the invitation. If this is too awkward, incite your son to bring it up with his classmates, in front of their parents with you nearby. It works as an easy in.
2. You could try giving class mates reminders - maybe a lollipop with a little reminder attached; something they will be sure not to lose and that their parents will see.
3. Maybe mention it to the teacher and he/she could casually mention the party in front of parents.
4. Discuss the party with your son as you are dropping him off - get him really excited about it so that he is sure to pass his excitement on to his friends - hoping they will absolutely BEG their parents to let them go.

Good luck - I know how nerve wracking this is!

Susan - posted on 12/04/2009

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First find out if there are other children coming, whose parents might not have remembered to RSVP. See if his daycare has a list of phone numbers so you can call the parents. In the meantime see if there are other children who could come .....cousins, neighborhood children, etc. Good luck!

Stacey - posted on 12/04/2009

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My youngest son's birthday is two days after Christmas. I usually wait until a week or so into January when everyone's back in school & back in town to have his party. As with all my kids' parties, very few parents RSVP (even though I always set a date on the invitation to RSVP by with a note that it's so I can plan accordingly). Still, some will show up even if they didn't RSVP. Last year, however, for my youngest son's party, only one child RSVP'd and this time that child was the only child to show up. My son was devastated (some of his friends had said they were coming but I didn't hold much truth to it since I never heard from the parents). He felt like his friends had lied to him & let him down. Really, all you can do is keep up with the parents & call them yourself to check if you don't hear from them. It's very frustrating. Sometimes I wonder if people know what RSVP means.

Kathy - posted on 12/04/2009

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hope it all worked out better than expected. Just speak the truth in love to your son whether the others show or not. Don't put them down or say anything negative - will only hurt your son. He probably won't be hurt if that one special (now) friend shows up for ALL the fun.

Peggy - posted on 12/04/2009

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I hope he has more than one show up. I am very dismayed with how children are being raised today. My granddaughter is 13 and the other girls in her class are so rude and treat kids in their class like total bullies. I blame the parenting. She did not get invited to one of her good friends parties because some of the other girls didn't want her to come. I blame that girl's mother - if I had seen that one of my daughter's best friends was not invited to a party my daughter was having I would have been asking why and putting a stop to this snobbery and rudeness and teaching my child what matters!!! It is a sad state of affairs!!! Girls are allowed to be petty and jealous. Get over it!

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A friend of ours had the same problem so she emailed, or sent another note home to remind everyone since you have to pay ahead for a certain # of kids. They got lots of replies from the reminder. Hope this helps.

Kirsi - posted on 12/04/2009

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I'd like to know how old your child is? I have 5 children at school myself and they all get invitations for at least few parties each year. To us weekends can be quite hectic so to be honest I have tossed some invitations out if the person inviting is not a close friend to my child and I do not know the parents.



When your kids grow up they will have more friends and naturally you will get to know their parents along the way. To be involved with YMCA or other programs locally with your child is a great way to get to know families with children same age as yours who share same interests and lifestyle.



We are lucky to live around the neighbors with plenty kids so there is always some extra children in our house and parties seem to be jam packed even when I do not send invitations to the class, just the friends my kids have.



I believe some parents feel awkward coming to a party in a house if they do not know you at all, keeping the party in the bowling alley, arcade, local cafeteria, park or so on might be a great idea! I do not think people are rude because they do not answer, it s your job as a parent to get involved with little more than a written invitation to get your child to make friends to invite, those friendships could last a lifetime, so it is well worth the extra effort!

Beth - posted on 12/04/2009

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Unfortunately, this time of year is always hard to throw parties for kids since there is so much going on with the holiday season. The best you can do is to invite any cousins, neighborhood friends or anyone else he likes to play with that may not go to his school and when the time comes, just emphasize what a great thing it is that his friend "Billy" or whomever came and they had such a wonderful time. Remind yourself that it's not about the number of kids that show up.

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My kid is in preschool too and has moved around to different preschools for various reasons: one shut down, one I felt put too much pressure on 3-year olds to learn how to read and not enough socialization; and now this last one- we like it. For the 1st preschool- we brought a little cake for the 2-year olds and they sang happy b-day. For the 2nd preschool, we brought pizza to and my kid passed out party favors (coloring books/crayons); for the 3rd preschool- there are student-aid teachers who's responsibility is to plan bday parties for all kids w/ a birthday in that particular month. Therefore, every kid at the preschool is there and gets to be part of the action.



I did two b-day parties (her 1 yr old and 2 yr old) at home- we rented a jumper etc.. we invited close family, friends w/ their kids and neighbors. It was a good-sized party- but it did hurt my wallet! So, my opinion- I'd wait until elementary-school to do bday parties. Preschools seem to have it covered- all the kids want is cake and to play on the playground afterwards :))

LYNE--RAILYNES GRANDMA!! - posted on 12/04/2009

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I think I would call a few of the Mom's you have invited and just remind them in a friendly way, realizing that we are all so busy. Let them know your son is so excited to have his friends over. I have come to realize people dont know what RSVP means! LOL

Shelle - posted on 12/04/2009

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I totally agree with you!!! Why people dont RSVP is beyond me. I go thru this EVERY time we have a party. We spend tons of money to make it a great day and we are lucky if we get 2 or 3 replies. WHY WHY WHY!!! I always just plan for all the people we invited. I do not give goodies bag anymore, we just have a pinata instead..

Your right, people are rude.

Christina - posted on 12/04/2009

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2 of my sons have birthdays in September right after school has started. I send invites to school with them but only a few parents ever rsvp and even some that do dont show up. I talk to the parents the day before to make sure they will be there and still they show so we always have way to much cake left over but I found that doing it at the park saves a lot of money and hurt feelings.

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I find people just don't respond but do show up! If it makes you feel more comfortable having an exact count...why not ask a few parents when you go in for pick up??

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This has happened to me and a my other mom friends a lot. I think people decide to "play it by ear" and go if nothing else comes up and so they don't RSVP. I've always ended up with many more than had RSVP'd. But I agree with Sharon Grey -- take lemons and make lemonade -- let him know that it may be that only one friend can come but that will make the party even more special. More probably will show up, though. If your daycare office doesn't mind, ask them to forward on an email from you to the parents of the classmates describing your concern -- that may get a few more of them to cough up a response!

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Always make sure to include extended family in a December birthday party, this really helps to ensure there are some guests there, in case the little one's daycare or neighborhood friends don't turn out.



Additionally, we've actually celebrated December birthdays by moving their dates to either the earliest available date in December or waiting until January when the holiday hecticness is over. It eliminates a lot of heartache for the child who ends up thinking it's them ~ when it is not the case at all.



Just be sure and explain to your child what you are doing and why [if you move the date to accomodate his age appropriate friends]. Then you an always just do a family party on the actual date at home.



I agree with some of the other posts, know the people whom you are inviting so that at least a week from the party date you can start calling each and every one of them to see if they will be in attendance or not.



My youngest son's birthday is July 1st ... and that means party time usually falls to the weekend of the fourth of July. Only 1 child from his daycare attended his party out of a class of 25. But I knew in advance that would be the case. I made to to invite extended family, and include some of my friends who have kids [that I knew would be around town that weekend and available]. Otherwise, we move the party up a week into June or postpone it until the 2nd or 3rd weekend in July when there will be a greater chance of a better turn out.



I sure hope things work out well for you. You can always do like another suggestion, take treats and goody bags to his center while he is there to celebrate his birthday in school that day. That saves you from having the party expense at home [and the crushing heartache your child feels without anyone showing up]. That has got to really sting. The last thing any of us want is to see our children hurt in that way so with all the advice in these posts, it does give you a bunch to think on and plan for in the future.



Best of luck to you and yours in this birthday and holiday season. God bless.

Carolyn - posted on 12/04/2009

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Birthdays at daycare age hardly ever have a big turn out. The best advice I can give is to talk to the Center and ask if he can have a party at the Center. The parents are more likely to participate if it is easier for them to attend. Everyone is on such a demanding and tight schedule. I was a Day Care Provider for over 26+ yrs and we found that parties are more fun with friends. We planned games and safe play, it was always a fun and safe for all. Do not be disappointed that you did not get a large response, I do not think it is you or your child. I would ask the Center?, It would be a happy time for all. Hope things work in the best way!

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It's not just December, my son's birthday is in July and we've had the same problem many times (he's now 15). We'd invite 15 knowing only 5 would come. A few years ago he went to a friend's party in the Fall and he was the only person to show up. We felt so bad for his friend but he ended up staying overnight and they had a good time anyway.



For your son's party, try to follow up with the daycare parents when they pick up their kids. You could also ask the daycare provider to inquire on your behalf.



For future years, it really works best if you only invite kids from families you know. If there's a friend from daycare or school he really wants to come, get their phone number so you can send an invite then call and personally follow up in a few days. I gave my son a small address book many years ago and he's filled it with friends over the years. It was a big help to me in contacting his friends' families to arrange play days.

Leslie - posted on 12/04/2009

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As far as a December birthday. Our daughter's is four days before Christmas - this year we moved her "friends" party up to the 6th to get it a little further away from the holiday. We will have her "family" party the Sunday before her birthday.

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