Sapphire - posted on 02/20/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )
Over the last few days, I have been reading many posts that question adding more children into the family. I noticed many women replying in a negative manner about the status of only children: spoiled, selfish, not knowing how to share, need for a sibling, not fair, lonely, sad, etc. I would truly love a more open and positive dialogue about only children. The list I described above can describe ANY child, with or without siblings. I write this as a proud mother of an only child. I have no desire or yearning to have more children, and my husband feels the same way. We make it our point as parents of an only child (my son, age 5) to ensure that he is well socialized not only in preschool, but with community activities, sports, playdates, etc. Yes, he has 2 local cousins very close in age I and acknowledge that cousins are not the same as a sibling-but it is family. The point I am making is that an only child can be equally as happy and well-rounded without siblings. It's a parent's job to see to it. My siblings and I have a decent relationship, but we're not all buddy buddy best friends. My husband and his brother despise each other. We knew the decision we were making to have an only child would cause for questions, which is natural. But why should I always have to defend my choice? Do any of you have to defend your choice for having 2+ children? As a parent, I make it my job to see to it that my child is emotionally, mentally, physically, and academically stable (that's the techer part of me-the academics). That would be the same for any parent, no matter how many kids they have. I hope this thread can add some positive insight that only children can grow up to be just as happy and involved as their peers with siblings.