S - posted on 09/12/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
Yesterday morning I had to go to work. Hubby was at work as well so we had to find a sitter. My daughter's nanny is amazing but expensive, I was telling a friend about it which resulted in his volunteering to watch her instead (paid). *this is a highly trusted family friend* He was supposed to watch her at my house but he wanted us to bring her to his house. I started to agree but then I had to think about it. My house is set up for an infant, her toys, bed, changing table, etc are readily available. I know it's clean here and I know she doesn't have to worry about rolling around in dog hair.
His children are all grown, he has two dogs and none of the things she would need during the day. He doesn't know about her development exercises, defrosting and heating her milk properly or how to put her down for a nap successfully. Due to his unwillingness to come here so I could show him how to care for her (she is a micropreemie, she's 10 months but only 13lbs) I cancelled.
I felt kind of bad but I would rather hurt his feelings than have her in a potentially bad situation. I ended up calling her nanny after all.
Was I wrong? Am I overreacting or are these legitimate concerns? I am aware that I acted too hastily in agreeing to let him watch her, that is a mistake I will not make again. I would rather her be with someone who already knows what she needs, and how to care for her rather than drop her off with someone I would have to give an impromptu tutorial.
Do you have any friends you would not let watch your children? How do you handle it when they keep volunteering to keep them? I have a neighbor whose really sweet who wants to keep her too but she smokes and considering her prematurity and lung disease, I think not.
What are your thoughts?