partner leave for 11 days soon ideas to help me cope pls?

Jodi - posted on 08/08/2009

Melissa, I understand how you feel. I miss my husband really badly whenever he goes away (which thankfully isn't very often). I handle it by looking at all of the positives of him being away! I can organise dinner around what suits me and the kids instead of around his work schedule. I can cook some of my favourite meals that I know he doesn't really like, so generally I avoid them. I can have a few friends over in the evenings and do some scrapbooking. I can watch whatever I want on TV!! I can hire some chick movies to watch! One night I grabbed Gone with the Wind (and all time favourite of mine) and sat down with popcorn and enjoyed a movie I know he doesn't really enjoy!! Thinking of all the positive things really helps with the negatives.



Also, keep yourself so busy you will drop by the time you go to bed. If you have a hobby, use it as good time for that.



I also always feel better when we talk on the phone each night. He rings me once he knows the kids are in bed to have a talk about our days, and it really helps me relax for sleep (he does call the kids too, but generally before they go to bed).



Good luck Melissa. Nothing can stop you missing him, but there are things you can do to make it easier :)

Debby - posted on 08/08/2009

okay every parent is different the first thing you have to realise yes babys are fragile but so are you. you got to be able to take care of your self and look after your self to be able to look after your baby. there are groups you can go to for help and occasional care can help too. dont be afraid to even go to a family member for help because trust me they are there to help if need be. your partner will be proud of you and he needs to know you will be there when he returns. im a single mother of 3 kids and i had to raise two babys on my own and i tell you it was hard but i learnt to live with it. also dont be afraid to make noise. noise is good it helps the baby to know that its house work time. so get that vacuum cleaner out walk through the house as if the baby isnt there and get your little one to understand that hey mums working, mums making noise i know im too call out when i need too. putting bubs in front off the t.v. in a bouncer will keep them quite. put some music on thats soothing for your baby it will keep bubs calm aswell. i hope i could help and if you need anything else let me know kk

Edie - posted on 08/08/2009

I would walk the floor now, before you have to do it by yourself in the middle of the night and see where you can step that it's least noisy...also, leave a little sound on all night...soft radio or tv on low so that there is already sound and the creaking won't sound so loud in silence. As for dealing with being alone... that's going to have to come from inside you... your inner strength. You can pray a lot for guidance and leave some kind of sound on in the house so you don't feel so alone - not so quiet. Also, determine ahead of time with your partner when he's going to call you - when you can call him, and ask him to text you every chance he gets - if he goes to the bathroom or out for a smoke or to eat... just a quick "Love you and am thinking of you" will work. Making up meals ahead of time, while he's still there can help too... freeze them in individual portions so that when you are not feeling like cooking or eating you have something you can pop into the microwave and take care of yourself anyway - he can even remind you to eat from away. You'll get through it!