potty training

Kristy - posted on 08/24/2010 ( 175 moms have responded )

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My 18 month old son keeps pulling his diaper off.....he will go to the bathroom and pee on the floor but getting him to pee in his potty is a no go iv tried everything i can think of.....i think hes ready to be potty trained but i just don't know what to do. Please help

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Dawn - posted on 08/24/2010

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have him sit backwards on the potty. the seat is narrower and he won't feel like he's going to fall in, plus he can hang on to the back. Then have some cheerios next to the toilet to throw in and pee on. My boys are 16 and 11. They sit facing forward now, but there are no boys in my house, husband included, who stand and pee, unless they want to scrub the bathroom walls and floor. Its a great motivator.

Dawn - posted on 08/25/2010

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First of all when he does go on the floor, are you kindly pointing out what he is doing? Also if he pees in tub point it out too. When his tub is done you should even ask him to go pee in tub. Learning to pee upon asking really helps. This will help him make the body connection. Keep his diaper super dry and clean all the time. Don't let him get used to being soiled. If he goes off in a corner to poop in diaper, point out "Are you pooping?"

Next step is get a small potty. The big potty can be intimidating at 18 months. Second make a really really big deal about that. Take him to go get his special potty. Then get training underwear and make a really big deal about that too. Let him know that they are super soft and comfortable. They are not diapers and he can wear them if he does not go to the bathroom in them. If he has an accident, than change him immediately and remind him next time he can use the potty. When you are home, always have him wear training underwear. Take him to small new potty, and sit him on it, and say go pee pee or what every your phrase is-You must do that every hour to hour half-he may or may not go. If he does go, make a huge deal about it. I used a heavy reward system and would give my son a super great treat like a jelly bean (something he normally would not get) when he would go in potty. When he started getting the hang of it, I actually used hot wheel cars as a motivator for his poop. If he would poop in the potty he would get a hot wheel along with huge excitement and praise.

If you are positive and make the experience really exciting and positive for him he will go for it. Just make sure he has the mind body connection first before you go full force into potty training, otherwise it will be stressful for him. Good luck. My son seemed ready at 18 months, but we just worked on body mind connection until he was two. He is now 28 months and is fully potty trained, meaning no accidents and asks to use potty in middle of night if he needs to.

Rachel - posted on 08/24/2010

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You should definitely get him some pullups since they will be harder for him to take off by himself and then start taking him to the potty every 30 min to an hour. I've just started with my 16 month old and it's going great and he's going in the toilet at least once a day which is a good start. I have a soft potty seat that you place on top of the toilet that a toddler can sit on comfortably and I also have a small potty chair on the floor and we alternate and I let him read books, and play with other toys and if he goes in the potty he gets a chocolate chip and also gets to flush the toilet and of course a lot of cheering from me!!

Melissa - posted on 08/26/2010

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My son was done potty training at the age of 16mths. But he wasn't standing to pee until 18 or 20 mths. So I am a firm believer that when they take the diaper off it is time to run with it. I am sure if you just stick to one routine (like going potty and getting a reward) he will catch on. He sounds like a smart little guy, so just don't let the opportunity pass or you will be potty training a 3 year old and that is even less fun (I have seen way to many friends miss this time because they weren't ready) I think that giving him lots of his favorite juice and taking him to the potty a lot in a day or two he will get the idea. Good luck (i also have 2 girls that were potty trained by 2)

Jean - posted on 08/24/2010

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sounds young to have the muscle control to be fully potty trained, so do not get crazy about it! Talk this one over with the pediatrician. One fun thing we did with my son was get the little kids potty and put some cheerios in it ---- great target practice!

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Kandy - posted on 09/07/2010

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i had to make a game out of it put cheereos in the toilet and you know the rest and as far as the diapper thing try pullups he is at that stage wants to be a big boy they work like a diapper but act like underware

Jackie - posted on 09/07/2010

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Now I see why they used a restraint belt years ago. Kids little busy bodies to active to sit on the pot. My 20 month old grandson did the same thing as soon as he stood up from the pot. He do give me signs pulling his pamper off & will say pot to me butttttt

BONNIE - posted on 09/06/2010

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ha ha. Sometimes they just Tell us when they are ready. Boys are generally slower at it than girls. My oldest was 18 mos. and she told me she wanted big girl pants (the ones with the ruffles on th behind). I bought several pair and told her that big girls did not pee or poop in ruffled panties. And that was all it took. I tought that would work with my son, BIG MISTAKE. But ya know, he didn't go to kindergarten crawling, drinking from a bottle or wearing diapers so it all worked out in the end.

Marge - posted on 09/06/2010

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I kniow this where you ans a question, but as reading the answers this has given me insight to what I will try with my 2 1/2 grandson.thanks. My two grown boys were both different. My oldest trained just like that at 3. we used the toilet showed him how to stand and once he caught on at 3 he was done with diapers. My youngest son did not train until he was 3 1/2 -4 can't remember but he said he was sick and tired of diapers as he found out his friends had real pants on. then he trained. thanks all for suggestions

Renee - posted on 09/05/2010

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I used the home brand fruit loops and put a small amount in the toilet and the game was to see if you could pee on one of them ;-) and it works ;-) i have heard people using a ping pong ball but i did not want to get the ping pong ball out of that yucky water so the fruit loops are easier as you can flush them!!! Good luck ;-)

BONNIE - posted on 09/05/2010

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Yup. When it is time for her brother to go to bed or take a nap let her know that babies get toDO things that big girls dont have to do, but if she feels like he gets to do stuff then you will hapily put her to bed at the same time as brother and she will get to nap at the same time. Maybe even eat what he eats, just tell her gently and with a smile. You don't want it to sound like punishment just that it's way more fun to be a big girl. If she is looking forward to preK or other out of home activities on a regular basis you could tell her that those things are really fun but that they don't allow children who don't use the potty when they are three to attend. My son didn't get potty trained until he was 3 but his big sister was done at 18 months. I just wasn't smart enough back then to figure out how to con them into it. ha ha. By the time the third one rolled around I was WAY smarter. Sounds like your little girl is pretty good at figuring things out. Just try the early bedtime, naps and some baby food. It can't hurt and just might do the trick.

Kelly - posted on 09/05/2010

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My daughter is a week away from her 3rd birthday and we just welcomed a baby boy into our family who is now 9 months old. I am having issues potty training her we have tried everything we even have a rewards sticker book she gets to put a sticker in every time she goes. She has went over 30 times. I have even took a picture of her and her poo in the potty and showed daddy when he got home from work. So I asked her the other day why she won't use the potty and she says Ryder doesn't have to use the potty (that's her brother) I said Ryder's a baby you are a big girl. Does anyone have any other suggestions?

Pat - posted on 09/05/2010

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Get him heavy training pants...the disposable ones and tell him they are grown up pants and not diapers.

Jennifer - posted on 09/05/2010

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Have him sit on the potty and give him a book. This worked very well with my 6yr old and he was completely potty trained by 20 months

BONNIE - posted on 09/04/2010

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Cheerios, tissue paper airplanes, etc are a perfectly acceptable means of encouraging using the potty. If a child still needs that encouragement at age 5 there is more going on than "not getting the idea". My son loved aiming at something when we first began, he i now 43 and certainly doesn't need floating things to encourage him (his wife is quite grateful. It is not a behaviour that lasts for ever ffor crying out louod, it just works. Potty training is not a war between parent and child, it is learning to know their own bodies and its signals. If you don't want to go the cheerios route then don't. Each family can decide for itself. The aim is to raise a child who stays clean and dry and can take care of it themselves. In the grand scheme of life it is but a moments concern. Wait until they are driving.

Jennifer - posted on 09/04/2010

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I let my boys run around with no pants or anything on. When they pee or poop on the floor I helped them clean it up. I told them that poops and pees go in the potty. I also had a quart mason jar filled with m&ms and when they went pee on the potty they got 1 candy and if they pooped they got 2. It worked with all 4 of my boys. You have to be able to handle the mess. With my oldest (he loved Thomas the Tank Engine) I found Thomas underwear and told him not to pee on Thomas. I would have them wear pull-ups at night and for naps or if we were going somewhere but most of the time they just had on t-shirts and nothing else. Good luck.

Deepanwita - posted on 09/04/2010

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Please try and make him do potty on the adult comod...the same was with my kid and it worked :)

Megan - posted on 09/04/2010

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I know this sounds weird, but it works. I used to work in a Daycare, and they used this trick a lot with boys. Put a few Cheerios in the potty, and ask him to hit the o's with his pee! Boys love it! It might get him interested in getting the pee in the potty. Good luck!!

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Kristy, Is he waking up dry in the morning? If not he's not ready. He's not holding it over night. I have three children and they all trained differently. My third child, a girl, fought until she was three to use the bathroom. Her one thing in life she wanted to do at that age was ride a school bus, so I told her that they don't let children ride school buses in diapers. She cried. Another trick we used was putting tidybowl in the toilet and showing her that when she peed it turns the water green like MAGIC. It worked. She is a stubborn child but I won because of consistency and patience. Good luck with your son.

Rustina - posted on 09/04/2010

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I have the same problem with my 18 month old little girl be patient it will all work outl.

Jodi - posted on 09/04/2010

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I drew a funny face on a table tennis ball and told my son to 'shoot him' lol made it a fun time instead of a stressful one...hope this helps :-)

Lisa - posted on 09/04/2010

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i started potty training my oldest wen he was 2 1/2 yrs but he didnt take to it, i tried everything for a few months but just ended up stressing us both out so stopped. 6 months later he came up to me saying he needed to wee, from then on there were no problems. every child is different and he will most likely let u know when he is ready. my youngest (just over 2) takes his nappy off as well, but all my friends tell me its just a phase that most kids go through( they just like the feel of being bare) good luck

Cathy - posted on 09/04/2010

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My granddaughter is doing the same thing, i would just put a pair of underwear or something similar over his diaper, then he wont be able to take it off, it is just a phase some kids go through

Tracy - posted on 09/03/2010

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My son did the same, however was not ready to be potty/toilet trained yet, so I just got sticky tape and taped them all round the top lol!

Kellean - posted on 09/03/2010

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18 months is too young to potty train. They aren't showing any signs until at least 2 to 2 1/2. Two months really does make a huge difference. My pediatrician always told me if you start too early they will revert back when they are 2 1/2 to 3 and it will take them longer the second time around.
Wait awhile longer, you don't want to rush them. If you do then they will associate going pee with emotional stress.
When they are ready buy them pullem-ups and have them watch the "I am a big boy now commercial". My boys loved that commercial. They would always say I am a big boy now.
I like the cheerios idea too! Anything to help them relax. Just don't make it too fun or they will find things to do in the bathroom when they are older to make it more fun. Like peeing on the wall when they are older. They need to know that isn't necessarily play time. There needs to be a balance in everything. Buy a potty seat for the toilet. Children have a serious fear of falling in.
Best wishes! :)

BRENDA - posted on 09/03/2010

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Place the little potty on the big potty and sit him up there and watch him work. (He's a man now Mom) LOL

Deahdra-Lynn - posted on 09/03/2010

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He's too young. Unless he can get himself on/to the potty, he's not ready. I suggest duct tape. Lots of kids take of their diaper because running free feels good and a wet or itchy diaper isn't always as comfy. While it sometimes can mean that they are ready to use a potty, it doesn't always. Good luck, they make duct tape it great colors now. :-)

Valeria - posted on 09/03/2010

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i have a 13 and 16 year old; we waited till they were ready; a friend's daughter (who lives next door) we rewarded her with ice cream, she would call me and I would take her ice cream...

Sarah - posted on 09/03/2010

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The good news is your son knows that he has to go to the bathroom! That's the hard part. Now your son maybe too nervous to use the potty everyone is scared of new things from time to time. Its like a new food you just have to keep putting it in front of him. I suggest a steam cleaner if you have carpets. lol Have patients it will take time. Talk to him about the potty! When you go to the bathroom take him with you, Even if he won't sit on it he will see you sitting on the big potty. When your done congratulate your self!!! "Yaaaaa WE went Potty" Keep the potty close by you may be able to catch him before he goes but you will have to make sure he can tell you or you see the sings, It will be a little frustrating but it will happen and you will be so happy! And when you are training for nights wake them up and take him to the potty. Most of the time he will be to tired to go but you may get something from him! good luck! ;)

Wilma - posted on 09/03/2010

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Hi Kristy I have had 4 boys and it seems that it always takes longer for boys they usually start at about 2 if you can just wait it will be easier when he is ready to do it on his own right now he is just learning and imitating what he sees he just don't understand how it all works yet, don't worry it will happen, I hope this helps.MiMi

Carrie - posted on 09/03/2010

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Make it fun. Leave the diaper off. Shove a cool whip bowl in front of him...Little boys like to see pee. Then put the empty bowl near him and let him run for it...then worry about the toilet.

Joyce - posted on 09/03/2010

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something else thay need to do .when thay.do start to use there potty .praise .them and teach them to wash there hands .then thay will allso get used to that as well.x

Joyce - posted on 09/03/2010

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when you take him to the potty .keep telling what a clever boy he is .and keep praiseing him.that helps a lot .he will start thinking .he a big boy and wont t do it himself.

Nenna - posted on 09/03/2010

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Oh my baby girl now 17 months old is doing the same shes started taking her diaper off two weeks ago, and I thought she probably understood the meaning of washroom "call" =) so i tried helping her get to the potty without luck!
I though to myself, she will go when shes ready to go, Just enjoy this baby times as much as you can, and he will amaze you one day with his first time in the potty!

Elizabeth - posted on 09/03/2010

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This is why I'm such a huge advocate of infant potty training! They begin to associate the toilet with elimination and never learn that going in their diapers is the "correct" thing to do! My 7-month old will hold her urine through naps and sometimes for several hours at a time, and I haven't changed a poo diaper since she was 2 months old!

The bottom line is that they are ready when they are ready, but setting up regular toilet visits and keeping the potty fun, is important. My daughter starts singing the minute her butt hits the seat!

Jean - posted on 09/03/2010

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put him in pants - - he'll take them off easier - since he is doing it anyway :) and give reward for going potty in potty chair - something wonderful like a favorite biscuit or? but ONLY when he goes there....you will have a couple of tantrums, but he will get the idea in a week or so - -really!

Jill - posted on 09/03/2010

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I guess I do not understand the actual problem whether it is in timing or aim. I explained to my boys to point their penis down and close their legs tight to prevent from going on the floor and/or on their clothes. My younger 4 year old son if he waits until almost too late too go I think forgets these techniques and misses and goes on the floor. I just simply remind him to try to go potty before it is really urgent and to remember to close his legs tight and point his penis down. He has not shown interest in standing up and going potty and I do not push the issue; I am just glad he is going potty and encourage him and also still let him know accidents happen but to try to go potty before he is in a time of urgency.

Tersia - posted on 09/03/2010

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just put him on the toilet that has a little toilet seat on and see what he does

Shauna - posted on 09/03/2010

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everytime I go to the washroom my son comes in and goes on his potty .. I let him run around outside naked and everytime he started going he would yell peeeee!! I think that helped alot

Corrina - posted on 09/02/2010

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My son would not use his potty either when we started toilet training however we got him an adjustable seat for the toilet and haven't looked back since. The other thing is that if you want him to learn to go standing up (mine progressed to this themselves) you can put a couple of ping pong balls in the toilet to help them with aiming - That way they don't flush down.

Brenda - posted on 09/02/2010

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Trust me, he is too young. Any pediatrician will tell you that children will actually potty train themselves if you wait until they are older. My daughter was almost 3 but it was quick and uneventful. Boys usually do well at 3-3 1/2. My sister decided her son was ready at the same age and for the same reasons as yours. It took a year and a half before he was completely trained. Just wait and keep him in diapers at least another year.

Timna - posted on 09/02/2010

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18 months is really young to be potty training a boy. just because he takes his diaper off doesn't mean he is ready. try using onies. this will prevent him from taking them off and save you the trouble of trying to potty a train a child who doesn't want to and may not be ready to potty train yet

Kelly - posted on 09/02/2010

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He enjoys being able to control his body function and see it come out. He`s probably too young to balance himself on a small potty stool for in front of the toilet. Sitting to go potty doesn`t let him actually see what he is doing. Is there a potty for his level where he could learn to aim in it? I raised 4 boys, they did something similar except outside. We lived out away from anyone,so it wasn`t a problem. Hang in there mom!

Patricia - posted on 09/02/2010

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I have a 16 month old who sits in the little potty since he started walking (9 months) to read books. He goeas in it once in a while but most of the time when I have him naked he goes to the potty after he is done peeing somewhere else. I have not been very consistent or I think he would be fully potty trained.
Babies can be potty train at any age is just a matter of work for the mom. My aunt has 2 boys and 1 girl and all of them were out of dipers by 3 months.
I think this as many other things, depend on you and your baby, how you two work and what makes you two happy.

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i am really going to blow out of the water, any thoughts that you have had about children being ready for potty training at whatever age. This will be totally different to what anyone in western society is doing but it works and it is THE natural and normal way to do things. My son was potty trained at 5 months of age. Yep. Thats right. It is called elimination communication. The only reason I took so long to do it was that I had hurt both of my thumbs and I couldn't do a lot of picking up and putting down in the first five months after my sons birth. Do some research on the internet. If you really think about it, there are not too many people in third world countries/tribal villages who can afford nappies or who would even think to use nappies. It is a very large population of people who do not use nappies! The chinese have pants with slits in them so that the babies/toddlers just squat whenever they are ready to go outside or inside. Parents listen to cues from their children from the time they are born. They give you cues loud and clear unless you TRAIN your children to go in their nappies. Because if your children are in nappies, that is effectively, what you are doing, training them to do their business in their nappies. Parents who E.C with their children are WITH their children twenty four seven so they start to get understand the cues. Now I understand that not everyone is in the position to be with their children 24/7 due to financial or partnership positions but for those who are, you can save yourself a lot of money and a lot of time and a LOT of frustration. I had to change someone elses childs pooey nappy (they were three) not so long ago and I have to say that it was a very strange experience and one that actually felt counter-intuitive. Like animals, children to not want to soil their own nest. They don't like to wear nappies. They don't like to poo in their own pants. It is a totally unnatural thing to do. Just because they are children does not mean that they don't feel just the same way we do. Their brains are JUST as developed as ours are. They are just not able to communicate the same way we can verbally. I want you to just imagine now, that you are in nappies. Yep. You are in nappies. And now, you have to do a poo and a wee in them. And now I want you to imagine that you are going to have to walk around in them like that for lets say, at least a couple of hours. Are you self-conscious about the feeling? The smell? The bulk and the uncomfortable rubbing against your legs, bottom? Now imagine that you are now sitting down in your nappy but..you have just had a poo. But you can't walk yet. You just have to stay sitting with it until someone else notices the smell. Does that revolt you? Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Now think about your children as they wear those nappies. All that expert advice about children being ready or not ready is just totall B.S. Experts only parrot what they read. They don't care about your child or their total health. They only care about the money that they make out of you. That is the truth about professionals. Their hearts are not there for your child. They may be interested in children or even have their own but at the end of the day, bottom line, they are there to make money out of you fhrough whatever means with their "expert advice". I know that I am going to totally rub some people up the wrong way with what I have to say but unless you try elimination communication for yourself you won't be able to say that I am not telling the truth.

Karen - posted on 09/02/2010

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When I potty trained my grandson, we went every 30 minutes (after he actually peed, we would wait about 90 minutes...adjust that to your son's needs) and he got a sticker each time he was successful. He got to put the sticker on a chart and when he got X amount of stickers, he got a special treat. Worked like a charm! he started coming to ME when he needed to go...and then he just started going without expecting any kind of reward.

Jodi - posted on 09/02/2010

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Quoting Helen
"PS did you not read what i put in my second posting"

Yes, I did. You asked a question, I was just clarifying for you. That's all. But, in all honesty, your first post was rather judgemental, and that's what was being questioned.

Michelle - posted on 09/02/2010

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if YOU feel he's ready, use the tips the moms gave above. If you're wanting to keep the diaper on until he's two-ish, turn the diaper around or move to potty training pants. You'll find out quick enough it it's real readiness or just a game. Best!

Candi - posted on 09/02/2010

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Signs that your child may be ready to start potty training include:

Staying dry for at least two hours at a time.
Having regular bowel movements.
Being able to follow instructions.
Being uncomfortable with dirty diapers and asking for them to be changed.
Asking to use the potty or saying that they need to urinate or have a bowel movement.
Showing interest in the toilet and/or wearing “big kid” underpants.
When you begin potty training:

Choose a potty seat that your child can easily navigate on their own.
Encourage your child to use the potty at regular intervals - or whenever they show signs that they need to go.
Be supportive and use rewards, such as stickers, when they’re successful on the potty.
Use praise, applause, special songs, reading a special book in the bathroom - whatever resonates with your child.
Let them pick out new ‘big kid” underpants with their favorite characters (Dora, Thomas the Train, etc.) on them.
Use potty-themed books and videos to reinforce key messages.
Avoid pressure - your child will likely have accidents during the process. Don’t punish him for any setbacks.
Don’t begin toilet training during a stressful time (e.g., moving, new baby, starting a new preschool, etc.)
Recognize that your child has control of his bodily functions, and you can’t get him to “go” on the potty until he is ready. Don’t turn this into a power struggle - because it’s one that you won’t win!
Be sure that your nanny understands your approach to potty training and is consistent with rewards, praise, etc.
And, remember, some children potty train very easily, while others require more time and effort. With your patience and encouragement, your child will (eventually) be potty trained.

Misty - posted on 09/02/2010

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With my four kids I found that they didn't want to use the big potty in the bathroom (thought they would miss something going on in the rest of the house or something =) ) so I let them put the little training potty where they wanted it (usually in the family room) for a little while until they got used to using it ( lots lots of praise when they would) and then moved it to the bathroom. I know no one wants a potty sitting there, but it was easier than cleaning up messes off of my floor. The cheerio thing works too, a little later though maybe.

Heather - posted on 09/02/2010

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You can try putting underwear on over his diaper to keep him from taking it off. I had my son sit on his potty chair to watch a movie and during the hour-and-a-half movie, he went on the potty! I did that the first few days and then he got faster and more comfortable with it. We also did a sticker chart. Good luck!

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When my daughter was potty training her son, he would do the same thing. She got cheerios and would toss them in the toilet as a target...you tell him to pee on the cheerios and try to sink them...but if they hit the floor they don't get any cheerios the next time. Worked great and he does not miss even now at 15 years old.

Nakita - posted on 09/02/2010

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Hi Kristy, my son just turned three and decided that he would use the toilet. no matter how you rant and rave, i realize that when they are ready they will just go. it is up to them when they are ready, my daughter wa spotty trained much younger, ye sit behooves me but what can you do....it is during these times thst we learn the true meaning of patience.

Tabitha - posted on 09/02/2010

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18 months thats great. I am dealing with a 3 year old who refuses to poo in the potty. Any ideas on how to get him to go on the potty. He does great with tee-tee. He will go all by himself. I have tried everything. Please all suggestions are welcome!

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