potty training boys

Brittani - posted on 08/16/2012 ( 214 moms have responded )

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my 2 almost 3 year old son refuses to use the potty. what tips or advice do you have fore me?

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Sara - posted on 08/17/2012

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I highly recommend the book "Potty Training Boys" which I got off Amazon. The low stress, no pressure method worked well for my twin boys, who were diaper free well before they turned 3 . One thing that probably got them started was making it fun to pee (OK, that sounds weird, but it worked). First I had them pee into a disposable cup in the bathtub. And I let them run around in just big T-shirts in the yard, and they took to peeing off the deck, which they found hilarious. I think you've gotta let your son know he can control what's happening and take some of the scary out of it by not worrying about the potty right at first. Once he is willing to pee with confidence somewhere besides his diaper, and knows he can choose to pee, then move on to some thrilling big boy underpants and follow the steps in the book. I also bribed shamelessly with M&Ms or jelly beans at first. They still have the occasional accident standing in front of the toilet a minute too late, and yes, they do still want to pee off the deck or porch sometimes, XD but whatever, I don't require that huge diaper budget item anymore and 99% of the time it's in the toilet.

Nicola - posted on 08/17/2012

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I had the same problem with my fourth child. No amount of bribery, rewards modeling by Daddy etc would help. I was determined not to go back to nappies or pull ups though. For my own sanity I put a chart up for me - toilet verses floor. It reminded me that I wasn't cleaning up messes all day and kept me sain.
Little things were progress. A puddle near the toilet door meant he was trying to make it in time. He eventually got to know if he wet to put his clothes in the bucket and put on clean clothes (I got these ready for him). I figured that dressing himself was a good skill to learn. Try not to grump too much but give lots of praise for those little things.
My boy would stay dry for shopping trips so I knew he had it in him. He had other things he wanted to do. He also wanted to do it his way so I tried to back off. I made sure that everywhere we went I was prepaired clean ups and pleasant apologies. I also showed him toilets everywhere we went "just incase you need it".
Hang in there. It may take a while but it's worth the effort.

Sherri - posted on 08/16/2012

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You get rid of all diapers except for bed only NO matter how many accidents he has and place him on the toilet every 20mins for 1-5mins or until something happens.

Holly - posted on 08/16/2012

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My boys were both tough for potty training. With my second son, we just went to underwear and only did the pull ups for going in the car/visiting places. Amazingly when we was in the underwear more he stayed dry. Why get up and go to the bathroom while playing if you have a diaper/pull up on and can use it.

Good luck, he will also do it when he is ready. My son was so proud when he got to tell people he was wearing underwear all the time.

Kym - posted on 08/25/2012

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I had trouble with my nearly 4 year old really stared to panic that she just was not interested in the potty at all .

My son was easy to do and at 2 and half was dry day and night .

I tired everything with my daughter fancy pottys with sticker charts, no underwear ect ect .

But my advise to u is not to both and they will do it when they r ready because 1 month ago she got up 1 morning and took off her nappy sat on the potty and did a wee and has done for the last month no accidents at all can't Belive it I took the pressure off with the toilet issue she decided the time was right , just leave the potty where it's easy accessible and stop worrying .

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Cassie - posted on 09/27/2012

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the way that we potty trained our son was made a chart with stickers so whenever he would use the potty we would let him put the sticker on the chart and at the end of the week if he had ten stars we would take him to the store and buy him a little toy. And it didnt take long to have him completely potty trained. i hope this helps :)

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I have this same problem my 3 almost 4 year old daughter refuses to use the potty, I have tried everything need help!!

Carol - posted on 09/27/2012

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Try using temporary tattoos ! Thats how I got mine to like going to bathroom then when they saw the tattoo it reminded him and he was proud to show them off ! I would some times find large ones to put on his belly when he would go #2 ! I found this worked better than smarties or candy !

Tessa - posted on 09/26/2012

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Oh, and my kid doesn't eat sweets at all and could care less about stickers so Im definitely in a painful position....

Tessa - posted on 09/26/2012

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I just started potty training my 2.5 yr old son a month ago and it's definitely a work-in-progress. What started out being a fight is now a consistent schedule. He wears the pull-ups now, but I'm hoping in a couple of weeks we can switch to regular underwear. Every 20-30 minutes is potty time and it has to be consistent. He's only told me maybe 2 times that he's had to go potty before taking him. I hear boys are the hardest to train so patience and consistency is the key! Good luck!!

Ginny - posted on 09/26/2012

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when i was potty traning my middle boy he was refusing to use the potty so we started rewarding him with toys from the dollar store,stickers, or even candys/cookies everytime he went and he started using the potty so he could get the reward.. it yook a few months but he got it

Ginny - posted on 09/26/2012

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when i was potty traning my middle boy he was refusing to use the potty at first. but then we started rewarding him with a sticker or lil dollar store toys or candy when he went and he started wanting to go even if it was just a lil one just so he could get the reward.. it took a few months but he fianly got it ....

Jessica - posted on 09/26/2012

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My little boy is a little over 3 and a half and he just now decided he wanted to potty train. Even though he entered preschool as an EC student, they expected him to be fully potty trained. He will do it when he is ready, just be patient and give lots of encouragement.

Dianna - posted on 09/25/2012

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have him join you hubby or boyfriend in the bathroom it sometimes work's it did my boys

Kristina - posted on 09/25/2012

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I Started potty training before he turned 3 and I let him run naked all over the house for the first few months. I was also on vacation so it was kinda hard. When we got back home still let him run naked. Yes you will have poopies in several places just know there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!! I then went to the craft store and let him pick out a scrapbook page and his own stickers to put on there every time he went poop!! Pooping was the hardest time for us. He finally has it down. I still do not let him sleep in underwear but during the day he is great!! Only thing is when they say they gotta go they really have to go!! Let them be in charge... let them pick the stuff to get every time they poop in the toilet.. A sticker and a little treat Ex: would be a few gummy bears or something small just to encourage them to keep going and keep up the good work!! Always tell them Good Job and give positive affirmation they will feed off all the positives!! All in all they are boys!! We know how the daddys like their ego boosted they are the same way!! GOOOD LUCK!!!!!!



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Sadee - posted on 09/25/2012

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I waited until my twin boys were ready. I knew that if pressured them we all would get frustrated and it wouldnt work. Early this summer my boys spent a lot of time playing outside and swimming in there wading pool. I left them in the buff and on there own they began peeing outside on the grass. That was my first indicator that they at least understood some control of going potty. I began by asking if they needed to go and EVENTUALLY one of them said yes. Once he figured it out i moved the potty chair into the playroom with a towel under it and again left them naked. We didnt go anywhere for about 2 weeks. Just kept at until it took. Dont get me wrong here i cleaned up lots of messes and still do occasionally. I slowly moved the potty closer and closer to the bathroom until they were able to make it all the way to the bathroom. Sometimes they still potty in there pants but i knew it would take a long long long time. Be patient it will happen be consistent and encouraging. I wanted it to happen so bad because we have 3 boys under 3 and diapers are sooo exspensive. More than once i felt like i was the one being trained!!!

Jenny - posted on 09/24/2012

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I just posted on FB today how my 22 month old little boy decided it was time to use the potty! He just ripped off his diaper and sat on the potty chair, went a little, stood up and dumped it in the toilet, and then flushed. Then he immediately sat back down and went again, dumped and flushed. Right after that he stood in front of the potty chair, peed & had pretty darn good aim, dumped, and flushed. Again, he stood and did this again. Finally, he shut the potty chair lid. He then slid the potty chair to the toilet, used it as a step stool and then backed his little behind onto the toilet seat, with me holding him so he wouldn't fall in. By this time, he was only squeezing out a few drops; he made sure, however, that he jumped down and went around to flush. I'm sorry for the long story, I just thought this was the most extravagant display of potty time.

Honestly, I believe it's because he has watched everyone else using the potty and he just wanted to try it himself. Learning by example and curious minds work well together. His sister is 3, and she is incredibly intelligent, but is really not concerned with making it to the potty all the time. She knows when she has to go, but just doesn't go. I just think its all about when they are ready, and every child is different. Good luck!

User - posted on 09/24/2012

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I was just thinking I wonder if there is something out there that could change the water color, be cool and fun for a young child and there is!!! You can google it and find a number of items, but an easy, cheap one is food coloring....if you squeeze in a color, other than yellow of course, when he pees, it will change color (most times). So red, makes orange, blue, makes green and so on....hope this helps!!! :)

Shannon - posted on 09/24/2012

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Having 5 boy's ...when they are ready they will, around 3 they get interested have them go with dad, then they want to be like him and it helps but dont stress no one starts kindergarten not potty trained LOL also having them pick out there own underwear 'special" and having just were them nothing else at first because they will pee in them,but then tell them if they do pee again they have to throw them out. That worked good for me but don't get mad just stay calm" hot days outside work good for this".

Amanda - posted on 09/24/2012

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An fun thing both my sons enjoyed was me placing fruitloops or cheriosin the toliet & them shooting them into the bowl

Annie - posted on 09/22/2012

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Let him pick out cool underwear, use a reward chart redeemable weekly (rewards can be a trip to the zoo or the like or small toy) I used a hot wheel car of his choice. To have him sit on the potty I used an inexpensive handheld video game that was only for potty time. Hope this helps!

Elaine - posted on 09/21/2012

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oh yes, and one more thing, have a potty on each

floor of your house so it is not a drama when he

starts to use the potty and train him to sit and pee,

getti g him to lean forward so he doesn't spray

everywhere with wee!

Elaine - posted on 09/21/2012

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Hi, don't worry about it! Boys are much slower

develop and therefore want to train than girls.

My little girl was trained to

go without diapers during daytime when she was 2.5 but was

slow to train at night. I left my little boy until he was

3 and 1 month because until that time

he was happy to stay in his diaper when he wet

or dirtied it. As soon as he started to tell me he had

a dirty diaper , I started to train him.

Boy was he fast to train - because he was ready

for it, after three days he was trained to go without

a diaper during daytime , I stopped his night diapers

in that third day, two nights of accidents , then

dry for the six months since :)

Listen to your little boy , he is not ready - forcing

it will make the whole process stressful and may

lead to wetting issues and bad training habits.

children must dislike being wet/dirty in order to

see the benefit in doing the whole potty traing process.

Give him another two months, relax .. it will

be easy once he is ready. Elaine

Kim - posted on 09/20/2012

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Cheerios work really well. They like the fact that they get to shoot the cheerios with their pee. Also they sell little targets that you can put in the toilet. Anything to make him want to do it. Boys love anything they can shoot.

Jamela - posted on 09/18/2012

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you have to wait until he is interested. Let him see the potty and show him how it works first but is going to be at his pace. Boys always take longer.

Elfrieda - posted on 09/17/2012

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I did what others have suggested and took off my son's diaper and pants, so his bum was naked but he was wearing crocs and a shirt. Then we went outside and I gave him lots of diluted juice, as much as he wanted. In 2 hours he understood what to do and it's been 5 days with only one accident when he wasn't wearing pants. It's more difficult for him when he is wearing underwear, but today (day 5) he wore the same underpants all day. I give him one treat (a smartie) for going pee on the potty, two for poop, and one every time he goes AND his underwear is dry. I wasn't going to do treats because they didn't seem necessary, but with clothes on he needed a bit more of an incentive.



Don't push too hard. I tried 6 months ago and it seemed to be going well (I was putting him on the toilet at intervals and we would read stories, sing, etc) but then suddenly he turned against it in a big way. He was terrified of the toilet. So I waited until now, he's 33 months. He started on the potty, and today I managed to convince him to go on the big toilet and he thought it was pretty great that his pee made a sound and bubbles when it hit the water. (we were on a different floor from the potty and I didn't feel up to dashing down with him, so I just balanced him without a seat and I think he actually liked that better than the better-fitting seat)

Pip - posted on 09/16/2012

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Try get him to wee outside, let him get around in just undies and wet himself. Look up the 5 day plan I found it pretty easy with my son who had just turned 2 when i did it. If you stick to the 5 day plan you should be ok. Don't push using the potty go straight to the toilet with a cushy seat. Try getting him to sing as well to destract him on the toilet, and always reward him for his good work. Good luck :)

Alicia - posted on 09/14/2012

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I used helium ballons with my daughter she got to blow up her own balloon every time she used the potty...she loved it and it worked

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We tried A LOT of things with my son, who turned 3 in July. He showed an interest in the potty pretty early on, and would even have dry diapers for 2-3 hrs so we knew he "could" do it but it took awhile for him to "want" to do it. We tried "cool" underwear with characters, and we even tried to tell him if he peed on the characters it would make them sad. lol, he's too smart though and knew the characters weren't alive and couldn't feel sad.



What worked for us was a "potty chart" so that each time he peed on the potty instead of his pullup/undies he got a mark on his chart (and usually a marshmallow too). Once his chart was full we'd do something special, like go out for ice cream, play at McDonald's, or buy a small toy. At first I started with like 6 marks to make a full chart, so he could see the reward work. As he got better about using the potty I increased to 9 marks, then 12 marks. There was a short time he regressed a little so we started taking marks off the chart if he peed in his pullup, he didn't like that at all and it didn't take long for him to get back on track!



Now we don't use the chart anymore, and he rarely asks for a treat when he goes potty but occasionally still asks for a marshmallow so I give it to him. :O) I'm about at my wits end for poops though. He won't poop on the potty, so we still use pullups most the time because it is not fun cleaning poopy undies.



Best wishes! And just remember, every child is different and develops at their own rate. My friend's son was well over 3 by the time he potty trained, but when he was ready he was really ready! It only took about a week for him to be fully trained. One of the most frustrating things is trying to get your child to do something they are not ready to do, so if you give it a try for a few weeks and it really isn't sticking...wait a couple months and try again.

Amanda - posted on 09/11/2012

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My son did not want to potty train and demanded wearing his diapers and would cry if I would try and put underwear on him. I thought it was going to be impossible to potty train him at the time but fortunatley I was able to potty train him by getting him his own little potty and squeezing a little soap inside at the bottom so the first time that we were able to get him to pee in there, he saw bubbles in the potty (from pee hitting the soap) so he thought that was cool. Also everytime he peed or pooed we gave him one M&M. We also got him underwear with spongebob on them and told him that he can't pee on spongebob!! Hope these little tips help!

Kimberly - posted on 09/11/2012

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My son was also difficult to train. We did underwear only after months of trying and he was trained in a week. We had been using pull ups when we went somewhere or he was at his nanas house but after we threw away all the pull ups it didn't take long.

Marta - posted on 09/11/2012

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Wait. That is all you can do. My boys didn't train until they were 3 1/2 (I wanted to wait for summer so they could run around outside without pull ups) and omit the pull ups--they are essentially a diaper which can be confusing for kids. Lastly, be patient and ask him every half hour if he needs to go. When he does congratulate him and tell him he is a big boy; that's all the reward my kids needed...oh and I taught my boys to sit to pee because I frankly don't want to mop their pee every time they go potty.

Lucille - posted on 09/11/2012

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My son 2 weeks after his birthday decided he was done with diapers. No accidents. Dont force it each kid is different. Show him the basics and if he has a potty trained friend encuorage the friendship and point out his friend uses the potty. I tried everyrhing under the sun. Rewards, bribes, cherrios, tissue paper, targets.... it just clicked one day. Be patient

Tinna - posted on 09/09/2012

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They sell Toilet Rings, you toss them in the toilet and let them aim, lol they make diff. colors and styles. Helped my friends son

Jeremy - posted on 09/09/2012

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I had a very simple approach if they peed in the potty they got a dollar for a brown bear they got 2 dollars first time they got 10 bucks i took them to the toy store and let them buy what they wanted even if i didn't necessarily approve (playdough) wrecks carpet but they got it lol

Maria - posted on 09/09/2012

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i am also potty training my lil boy its really hard at first but i take him to the potty and he stands up and goes pee but it has been hard for him to let me know so what i have been doing is i have a chart and everytime he lets me know he needs to go he will get a sticker its been wrkn so far

Jeanette - posted on 09/08/2012

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My newly 3 year old is very hit or miss with it. I think I am just going to get all tough and serious now and go underwear all the time. (Except for night time.) It's suuuuuuch a process, isn't it?

Jeannie - posted on 09/08/2012

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Ive worked in daycare for 11 yrs and what works for me is to make them change their own cloths when they have an accident. I help as little as possible even if they are poopy. And use underwear pull ups rarely work. Then when they realize how much of a pain it is they will start going. When they do go assist them with their clothing and reward them with a special treat of your choosing. They will learn that mom helps me when I do go so if I don't want to do it then I need to go potty.

Nena - posted on 09/07/2012

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I have had both, two girls and two boys. It's true girls are easy because all they do is sit, but if you start him off sitting and explain to him sitting is for # 2 for boys, but BIG boys stand up like Daddy to go pee. I think they understand more when they do see Daddy at work, they now have a visual understanding. It also helps if he is circumsized to watch daddy because he can learn it's important to keep the penis clean. Explain how important it is to grow out of pull-ups compared to the cool selection of Super heros on little undies, and take him to the store and maybe try one pkg... you have to express how proud you are for just trying. I never believe it should be a bad thing, but a fun educational thing to learn on how to become a big boy.

Good Luck....

Melissa - posted on 09/06/2012

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I just started training my boy, he will be 2 in november. When he has to go he goes to the gate and says "pee pee". Sometimes he goes and sometimes he doesn't. Reading these comments I think I will try underwear and not pull ups. Good luck training your boy!

Sophia - posted on 09/06/2012

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Some kids just want to use the bathroom ,just as they see you do. No potty....

Sophia - posted on 09/06/2012

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I have 3 boys --- each of them started out sitting down just like me ... before daycare my husband start teaching them how to hold their penis . Most children will have a B/M after meal ---- watch and see when he have his B/M and start from there. I always say I have to pee , maybe you have to pee too.

Hannah - posted on 09/05/2012

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matter of a fact he is pooping his self right now he was potty trained over 2 months ago by my boyfriend and he was officially potty trained 2 days after! he is also 2 months away from being 3:) so proud!!

Hannah - posted on 09/05/2012

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I used the going outside method and it worked very well with in 2 days he was going in the potty and refuses to potty in the pool i know every child is different but bribery didn't work and going outside did!

Donna - posted on 09/05/2012

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Be patient... wait until he is 3 or a couple weeks thereafter and try again. It's a maturity thing too and sometimes boys just take longer.

Kim - posted on 09/05/2012

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if u have the luxury...let him go bottomless...if he has no where to deposit...then he has to go and use the potty...my guy was also confusing a pair of underwear for a pullup...I had to start him off with boxers rather than briefs...and when he had the urge and realized that there wasnt something there to catch the potty stuff he would rush off to the toilet and have at er lol....

and of course the big free for all of way to go hugs all around etc...and he got it in short order...now I am not saying there wont be a ooopsie a time or two...but saves a ton on diapers as well lol

Michelle - posted on 09/04/2012

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They make paper targets you put in the toilet and if your soon his the target, it sinks. I never used those because I am too cheap, but wish I would have from time to time!

Conda - posted on 09/04/2012

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Be patient with him. My son is 3 and he has just recently decided that he is interested. We are still very much in the midst of training, but he is getting there. It seems like the more we "push" the less interested he is. But we give encouragement, and make a BIG deal out of when he does use the potty. Oh, and gummy bears and M&M's are a great reward for using the potty. We also let him put stickers on the calendar. We have one just for him and it has rather large squares for each day. He has been so excited because one day he had 6 stickers. Don't get discouraged Mom, it will come with time.

Anne-Marie - posted on 09/03/2012

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Try letting him wee on a tree in the back yard & then introduce the toilet. Thats what my mum did with my little brother. She also used table tennis balls in the toilet too (coz they don't flush away)

Michelle - posted on 09/03/2012

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I have seen parents who told me their 6M old was potty trained and hadn’t pooped in her diaper since 3M. I felt like saying that’s parent training vs potty training IMO. I have also seen boys who trained fine in the day, but took years to train at night (like 10-12yrs old). FYI – I've heard 25% of boys night train quite late. He needs to be developmentally ready for it to be successful without too much hardship on either of you. If you aren’t sure, ask your pediatrician if he’s ready or not.



Ultimately, I suggest WAITING until your child is ready. Hard I know… especially when you’d like to be done with diapers. However, I have heard many mom’s tell me that their child trained in 1-3 days. I was in shock! Really are you kidding or serious?!? And I tried a few times before he was really ready and it was a mess. So I stopped and returned to pull-ups. Once he was ready (my son made this decision when we were traveling and away from home – I was stressed out at first, but went with it although in an ideal setting I’d suggest you be at HOME) it was under 36 hours for him to be fully day trained and it was not messy (two pre-dribbles in sweats or training undies that were simply washed and no pee anywhere else). My son was between 3 ½ and 4. Yes many consider it late, BUT it wasn’t a big mess for me and after 2 days at home we could go out without diapers and not have any trouble (even when I had to ask and get directions for a toilet). It was well worth it to wait IMO.



As for suggestions, be cautious and consider the potential outcome and THEN decide what you want to try!!!

**My son loved the idea of peeing on a tree with Grandpa camping and loved to do it! However when we got home he wanted to continue to do so in the yard at home!

**I had a friend who taught her oldest by telling him to pee on a rock. Today he still gets up and first thing in the morning runs out to pee on a rock and the rest of the day uses a toilet.

**I was told to drop a single cheerio (or other floating cereal piece) and tell him to aim at it in the toilet. My son only wanted to eat the cheerios in the bathroom and that concept only lasted part of a day in our home. I switched to tissue paper squares that were dark colors for visibility and they never clogged the toilet.

**I had a friend who told me that I had to make him sit on the toilet every two hours and try. That worked for her girl. Sure I can make him sit, but I can’t force him to try to pee. However, running the water in the bathroom can help them feel like they need to go if their bladder is getting on the full side.

**Another friend gave a piece of candy for each successful toilet trip. For her a piece = 1 MnM or 1 skittle. NOT a big piece!

**Another friend gave a hot wheel car for each poop and a sticker/tattoo for each pee successfully.

** I also stumbled upon an ELMO in a diaper and an tiny size toilet. We played “Elmo goes potty” for a while BEFORE he decided he was ready to train. When we got home he took the diapers off Elmo and said he didn’t need them now and could use the toilet (after my son was trained away from home)!

**I had other friends who said they taught sitting first and standing later (when they were tall enough to not need a stool). FYI -- I do think it is important for a boy to learn how to pee standing. I do know some adult males who are unable to pee standing due to mom’s teaching them only to sit and not teaching them to stand.



Best wishes and good luck!!!

Kimberly - posted on 09/03/2012

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I just finished training my 3yo son and i did everything from pull ups to putting him on every? hour. Finally i let him go naked in the house and if he peed on floor i would shut tv off and take away his toy he was playing with and make him clean up after himself. This happened 4 times and he finally got the hang of it.night time he still wakes up wet and he has a pull up on at night.

Michelle - posted on 09/03/2012

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Not sure where you live, but letting my boys pee outside for that ball rolling nicely! Just don't rush it, I rushed my first and he had wetting problems till 4th grade! Best of luck to you! :)

Irene - posted on 09/03/2012

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hi brittany, i started to do the same just a month ago to my 2 and 4 months old daughter, at first she is ressistance to use it and end up playing with it instead. what i did is basically making it her habit, after she eats or drink i asked her to sit on the potty and making the sounds of pee pee to help her and she did it. i am so happy because eventually she makes it her habit and now she is the one telling me or her nanny if she is going to either pee pee or poop. hooray to my yana,. i hope that will be affective to your son too.. God bless!

Ria - posted on 09/03/2012

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my little girl started 3 day after her 1st b/d she 3 october so i going do the same for nights but i realli did fand the stick wall works

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