Potty Training my 17 month old daughter

Nicole - posted on 07/09/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Hey, I would love some input on potty training my 17 month old daughter. We just started the process yesterday and she already peed on the potty two times yesterday and once so far today. She has shown so many signs that she is ready. Should I be putting "big kid panties" on her or should she still wear diapers? I hate to put diapers back on her during the days, as I am a SAHM, so I am with her 24/7. I am scared if I put diapers on her during the days then it will pretty much defeat the purpose of "potty training". I feel if she was in big kid panties that she would find out that she doesn't like having a wet or dirty bum (as she doesn't like to with diapers as well). I am very aware that we are going to have lots of accidents, which is completely normal with the potty training stage. If you have any advice can you please kindly share your thoughs or opinions. I am open to anything:) TIA

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Alexandra - posted on 07/09/2012

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we are using big girls pants. But I do believe that 17 months is way early. Instead of being a few weeks process, it will take you more than a few months, probably. And a regression sometime in the future.
We only put diapers at night. When serious about it, you can try and put your daughter at the potty every 20 to 30 minutes.

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Susan - posted on 07/14/2012

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Amen to all of the above! Yes, put her in big girl panties. Her age is perfect and yes you are a wise mother. You listen, and she will let you know what works for her. I applaud you.

Cheryl - posted on 07/14/2012

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I wouldn't try yet- so young! I learned the hard way that a child will potty train when she's ready. I tried to actively potty train my oldest. She fought it and then one day was trained. She was 2 3/4. It dawned on me that a toddler has no control in her life- everything is dictated but she can control eating and eliminating so they hold onto control. My 2nd one potty-trained herself at 27 mos and I went through the same "fight" with my 3rd- she decided to be completely trained at 35 mos. You'd have thought I'd learned the first time but I guess in 7 yrs I forgot! I agree that Pull-ups are only helpful for YOU- they seem to make the PT harder as they don't feel wet. "Real" training pants better! BUt don't force it on the 17 mos old. YOu can introduce her and make it fun but don't force- doesn't work.

Cynitra - posted on 07/12/2012

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When I potty training my daughter at that age, she learned fast too. I brought panties and pullups because she would have accidents if I was on a long road drive or something. At night, I let her wear the pullups too. Don't give her any sodas and too much water! Especially the sodas. Girls are smart and they love doing what mommy does.

Fabiola - posted on 07/11/2012

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i potty train at the same age but used pull ups at the begining she is 100 % now i did 5 mini m& ms for pees and 10 for poops it work great for me she was out of diapers in a week for a wile but after two month she wanted her diapers again but after like two weeks she was back on big girl undies and at 2& 1/2 she did not wanted a diaper at night and start waking to go potty i put a potty by her bed now she just turn 3 and she is 100 % pooty train for a long time ,but listen to your child cause they are all different.

Melissa - posted on 07/11/2012

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Just use big girl panties and stick w/it. when U need to go out keep track of when she last went so U can take her to the bathroom, or just take a change of clothes!! I was a toddler care giver for 5 yrs ages 18 months-3.5 yrs. Those training pants R such a joke. U may not have as many accidents as U think U will! Best of luck! I even had one child who while walking back from a walk w/the group, pooped and all mom had sent was a pull-up, this girl never peed or pooped except for this insidence in 7 months, 1 hr after putting pull up on she peed and said she could p cuz it was a diaper!((

Jeannie - posted on 07/11/2012

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Oh sorry for another post, but if she can try having her sleep on a mattress on the floor for her nap. My daughter loves to go potty during nap time, being able to get out of bed by herself makes her feel like a big girl. She sleeps to soundly at night for this to happen yet, but hey she is only 21 months it will come. She has come to love having panties so we tell her we will take them away if she has accidents, somewhat works. They get treats for going on the potty but they know they there are consequences if they don't. If you need to down the road find something that she likes that is not a security item, like a blanky, and say if she has ____ number of accidents this gets taken a way. I did that with my son's rocking chair last night and he has not had a single accident today because he likes rocking his mickey and blanky to sleep at night. Again this is a suggestion for you box of tricks down the road, hopefully you will never need it. My kids come from two very stubborn families. Good luck.

Jeannie - posted on 07/11/2012

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First off good for you for listening to your daughter on when she was ready. I took a lot of heat for starting my daughter at 18 months. I would never go back to diapers because that sends the message that you are giving up and she was not successful. Plus when the babysitter put both my kids in diapers (my son was three and started about 2-3 months before my daughter) both of them thought it was ok to go in their pants again! We use pull ups at night because my son has sencetive skin and would wake up if his big boy underpants where slightly wet. He would only sleep maybe 3 or 4 hours a night. I always called them night time panties (girl) or (boy) sharts, grandpa's word ;) I would suggest no panties until she has more success than not. It is hard for the younger ones to realize they have to go and get there on time, trying to learn how to pull down panties just adds one more thing. 4 months in my daughter finally understands to pull up her dress. She wheres dresses one size to small (short) so she doesn't have a lot to pull up and it is harder to get in the way if she forgets. I don't know if this works for you but my daughter is so tall for her age that most stuff that fits her waist is to short.

I hope this helps, and again don't listen to others saying she is to little only your daughter and the people who care for her 24/7 can truly know when she is ready! Way to go!

Emma - posted on 07/11/2012

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start by giving a smartie when she sits on the potty, then whn she is happy to do that a smartie when she does a wee. do expect lots of accidents, dont use pull ups and dont venture too far, see how she goes she might still be a little young i did mine not long after they were 2.

Deanna - posted on 07/11/2012

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I found putting underwear on worked. We would put her on every hour, then every 2. Now she runs herself.

Holly - posted on 07/11/2012

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Around the house, all three of ours wore nothing. They were more likely to go in a diaper than on the floor, so they had fewer accidents.

Alisha - posted on 07/10/2012

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I don't think her wearing diapers will stop her from going on the potty if she wants to. She's pretty young. You could try underwear and see how it goes but I'm not sure if she's ready. Take it slow, I know it's exciting but there's no rush. She should be fairly easy if she's interested already. Don't force her and be prepared for lots of backsliding, just when you think she's doing perfect, she will have like 9 accidents in a row. Don't get upset at all, just say it's ok, let's clean this up. But if she likes it, keep having her go on the potty and make it exciting!

Faye - posted on 07/09/2012

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Please do not buy the pullups! Nothing like telling a kid you are a big kid now BUT let's go ahead and have you wear a diaper.



Make a special trip to the store to buy the Big Girl Pants! Let her choose the colors and pictures on the undies (also while at the store buy extra laundry soap as you will need it).



19 years ago our daughter received for Easter the terry cloth panties in pink, yellow, green and blue. After the first month, she was in diapers at night. She was in cloth diapers 99% of the time anyway (thanks to her sitter) so she already knew the feel of wet.



15 years ago our son received for Christmas: Mickey Mouse, Pooh Bear, 101 Dalmations and dinasours. We had such a hard time with our son that we set a timer for 30 minutes, slowly moved it 45 minutes and before I moved it to 60 minutes, I was informed by him "Mommy I am a big kid now, I don't need that timer." He was also told that Mickey and Pooh would be disapointed in him if he messed in them and that the puppies and dinasours would bite him. I think it took him about 3 months before he had night time figured out. He was in disposable 99% of the time (as the 1st sitter did not want them in her house) and so it took a while for him to realize what wet felt like.



The timer acts as an independant reminder and the child does not think you are constantally on them to try to go potty.



If there is success, CLAP, YELL, PRAISE. If no success, then Praise for trying.

Cara - posted on 07/09/2012

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Hi! I potty trained my son about 3 months ago and I didn't put anything on him around the house, this way if he peed, it would go all over him rather then in a diaper. I did buy pull ups and big boy underwear and he was good to go. Obviously all kids are different, but if you are home anyways, I wouldn't put the diapers on her during the day, she will likely just use them. Hope this helps:)

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