PPD - help please. Has anyone recovered from PPD?

Kim - posted on 04/20/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Im sorry if this is not in the right place. This is my first post. I have been diagnosed with major PPD. I had a full break down 6mths ago and was not treated properly by my doctor. After 6mths of feeling like i couldn't keep going. Crying every day and wanting to die i was guided to a psychiatrist that diagnosed PPD. That was 10 days ago. She has put me on Lexapro 10mg. I am still feeling so sad and down and crying. I am feeling so alone like no one else has PPD as bad as me? I really need some hope from anyone who has recovered or is recovering? Has anyone felt like they would be better or dead, crying daily, miserable and seeing no joy in life and made it out the other side????? Im sorry my post is so miserable.

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Mariel - posted on 05/03/2012

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I don't remember how long it took for my medication to kick in, and I am still recovering from the PPD. It is hard but it is worth it in the end because now I am happy and taking care of my song and enjoying every minute of it. I agree with Tia it does get better and just remember you are not alone.

Tia - posted on 04/30/2012

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Took a while to find the right meds but about a month until the right ones worked. Hang in there! It DOES get better and you are not alone!

Katherine - posted on 04/30/2012

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It took a cople of weeks for my meds to kick in, and a few months to actually feel like myself again. It was totally worth it though!

Tia - posted on 04/26/2012

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Yes I know what you mean. I felt awful. The only thought in my mind was I wanna die. Feeling near suicidal while taking care of two kids all alone was the most painful and difficult thing I have ever gone through. But I got through it and it made me stronger. It made me a believer in GD who watches over you when you feel like your world is crumbling down. Pray. You will get through this. You are not alone. Thousands of women like you suffer from this. But we all get past it. As long as you are getting help. Pray, eat right, take care of yourself. Go to therapy and support groups. Get plenty of rest even if it means you have to pay a fortune for day care. Your mental health is worth it. Meds are one component but you need all these other things. Hang in there, it gets better.There is hope

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Kia - posted on 07/30/2012

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Thanks for responding, I feel like no one understands me. All of the crazy feelings and physical changes are really tearing me apart. It seems as if I just can't cope any longer. I'm so scared my brain will just shut down on me

Vanessa - posted on 07/30/2012

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Recovery is possible I suffered from severe ppdocd it was horrible And I thought I would never get better, well I did it took a year and it took 2 medication changes And finally 9 weeks on the right medicine before I even felt a bit better. It may feel like you will never heal but kudos to you for taking the right steps! Be proud of getting help it won't come over night but it will happen! I can proudly tell you I am a survivor of the most extreme form of ppd and 4 years after my diagnosis I am currently 25 weeks pregnant and off my medication without any relapse! You can do it! You will be ok find a good counselor and the right medicine and don't expect miracles and you will get better it's just not overnight! Take care and blessings!

Kia - posted on 07/28/2012

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How are you doing now? I'm going throught the EXACT same things as you? Are getting better?

Katherine - posted on 05/08/2012

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Anxiety meds help a TON! I take Clonopin. If I didn't I wouldn't be able to leave the house. My anxiety is that bad.

Don't think you're the only person in the world with PPD, because you're not, and don't think you have it worse than others because mine was as bad as yours if not worse. I had a total breakdown.

Here are 10 myths about PPD:
Myth 1: PPD is normal -- all new mothers feel tired and depressed.

Fact: New mothers often feel tired and overwhelmed. They may be experiencing "baby blues." Women with baby blues may feel tired, weepy, and have no energy. However, the feelings that go with PPD are stronger and longer lasting. A mother with PPD may not want to play with her baby. She may have trouble paying attention to things and may not be able to meet her baby's needs for warmth and affection. She may feel guilty or worthless.


Myth 2: If you don't get PPD right after you give birth, you won't get it at all.

Fact: PPD can happen any time in the first year after a woman gives birth.


Myth 3: PPD will go away on its own without treatment.

Fact: The "baby blues" may last up to 4 weeks but usually goes away on its own. Like many illnesses, PPD almost never goes away without treatment. The good news is that there are available treatments that work.


Myth 4: All women with PPD have thoughts about hurting their children.

Fact: Women with postpartum psychosis, which is a life-threatening disorder separate from PPD, are at risk for hurting their babies or themselves. If you have thoughts about harming yourself or your child you should ask for help right away from your family and your doctor.


Myth 5: Women with PPD look depressed or stop taking care of themselves.

Fact: You can't tell someone has PPD by looking at her. A woman with PPD may look perfectly "normal" to everyone else. She may even try especially hard to look polished or put together – keeping her makeup done, and her hair styled – to turn attention away from the pain she is feeling on the inside.


Myth 6: Women with PPD are bad mothers.

Fact: Having PPD does not make someone a bad mother.


Myth 7: If you have PPD, you must have done something wrong.

Fact: PPD is nobody's fault. There is nothing that a woman with PPD could have done to avoid having this disorder.


Myth 8: You'll get over your PPD if you just get more sleep.

Fact: Although it's important for women with PPD to get enough sleep, sleep by itself will not cure PPD.


Myth 9: Women with PPD can't take antidepressants if they are breastfeeding.

Fact: Studies have shown that there is a very small risk to the baby with the antidepressants most likely to be prescribed for PPD. If it is necessary for a woman with PPD to take an antidepressant, her doctor will carefully choose one that is most likely to help her and least likely to hurt her baby.


Myth 10: Pregnant and postpartum women don't get depressed.

Fact: Being pregnant, or having just given birth, is not a guarantee against getting depression. In other words, pregnancy does not protect a woman from depression, and in fact, studies show that the childbearing years are when a woman is most likely to experience depression in her lifetime.

Paula - posted on 05/08/2012

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Im gonna repost what I just wrote on your other thing just in case you dont check it!

First order of business: 1.) do things for yourself. You are still your own being with needs.
2.) Do what you feel is right for your kid right now. Even if it's not much. You'll have many months to sort yourself out
3.) Talk to someone (preferably a therapist) that can help you organize your thoughts. If your therapist sucks, get another one. If you choose anti depressants, if they don't work, go on new ones, up your dose. You really do have many many months before your child will emotionally need you.
4.) Don't try to explain yourself to other people. They won't get it unless they've been there and this may just make you feel more inadequate.
5. and most importantly- DONT FOLLOW A MOMMY TEMPLATE. Do what works for your family. Whatever you choose will be good enough. Your kid will love you I promise.

I have been here and it's been a year and I still remember with great nausea of how I felt. It was the worst thing ever. Here I am a year later and it's easy peasy. I still don't feel like a mom I SHOULD be according to others, but we have our own relationship and I love her to death! I swear it gets better. Don't worry about medication, it won't kill you or make you suicidal. Just try things. Anxiety meds helped (xanax).... sorry to go on, I'm just passionate about this! Change is inevitable. Your life will change a billion more times before you die. Take this as a dip in your ebb and flow of life. Here's to hoping you find a change that suits your needs soon. Don't give up! ♥ !!!!

Kim - posted on 04/30/2012

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Thank you so much to all of you for responding. I have 2 children. A daughter 3 and a son almost 2. I am 40yrs old. I have been suffering for such a long time and i feel like i will never ever recover. I guess i must have had mild postnatal depression after my son was born and that it gradually got worse and worse and went undiagnosed or treated. It wasn't till October last year that i went into full break down. My period returned and a week later i was suffering palpitations, hot flashes, anxiety, panic attacks and then major depression that hit so hard it was like a switch went off in my brain. After months of searching for answers as to what was wrong and being put on medications that did not do anything finally (6mths on) someone told me to contact a psychiatrist who diagnosed postnatal depression that went unchecked and turned into major depression. I cry daily and feel hopeless about the future. My new doctor took me off the medications that were doing nothing and put me on lexapro 2 weeks ago. I have felt some what improved compared to the last 6mths but today i am crying again and feeling hopeless. Will i ever get well? Or will i be this miserable lifeless person forever? I love my children so much and i love being their mum so i just don't understand why i am so sad and miserable. What is causing this? I have absolutely no reason to feel so depressed and anxious.
How long did it take for your medication to start to work? And how long was your recovery?

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Kim, it does get better. I was diagnosed quite some time after my son was born and I too went on Lexapro. I took it for about seven months and felt better so I came off it , but it was obvious that I wasn't ready as my symptoms returned, so I was advised to stay on the medication for about three years. I did this and by Christmas last year I was ready to wean off the Lexapro. I am now off my medication and doing well.

Stick with the medication and give it time to work, stay in touch with your Dr to make sure all is well. Give yourself time to heal and as some of the others have said, join a Mum's group . Although it can be very hard to socialise when you feel so low, it's amazing how healing it can be to connect with other Mums.

Mariel - posted on 04/26/2012

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I was just diagnosed with postpartum this past september and I can tell you that it does get better. You will get happy. My postpartum was really bad but I got the help. It is good that you are on medication. You need to give the medication sometime to work but if you still feel that after a while of waiting it still isn't working then you should talk to your psychiatrist about it. They might need to up the dosage. and I agree with Katherine Collins, you should try joining moms group. try to find mom groups in your area just for moms with post partum to.

Shannon - posted on 04/23/2012

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Hi my name is Shannon and three years old this week I gave birth to my son. I have had bi-polar since 15 . The doctors did not medicate me after birth and I went into full ppd in 6 weeks and then it went to physois(spelled wrong) no one told me my chances of this happening was so great! I was in the hospital 3 times and it seemed like nothing was working. I hate to be honest but I found it just takes time!!! Yes you need to take meds and check in with your doctor but i found the help of family and a ppd support-group was great until my body got back to normal. I am sorry to any woman who has to go through this it is sooo hard. I also feel like the medical profession still does not have enough education. You might think I am crazy , but I am actually ready to think of having another baby, but this time I will not be leaving the hospital after birth unmedicated! I hope this can help someone out. Always here to listen. One day I want to open up a place where women can come for support on this issue!!!!

Mrs. - posted on 04/20/2012

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I had it bad too. I couldn't go on anti-depression meds, but for some it helps to give you a leg up while you get yourself some help to deal.

I still struggle with depression now and then...but it is WAY better. I can connect with my daughter and I'm no longer scared to be alone with her. I am a good mom and it took me a long time to figure it out.

It does get better and you will get your feet under you.

Make sure you find the right fit with a therapist and get yourself into a routine. Routine is key in the beginning. Make sure you take care of your essentials....sleep, making sure you eat, getting out and exercise. I know sleep is challenging right now with a baby, but you have to make arrangements, until you can manage better to get enough in to function. If that means your partner/family member or friend must come over and watch the little one so you get a regular nap, that is what needs to happen. These things are like medicine, you need to look after them to get better.

You will get better and it won't be like this forever - I promise.

Katherine - posted on 04/20/2012

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I felt the same way with my PPD. You have to give your meds some time. It was definitely awful! Try to get out of the house, join a moms group, join meetup.com....get out or you're just going to get more depressed.



I had it really badly too. I never wanted to hurt my child, but I thought I'd be better off dead too. I cried ALL the time, I couldn't get out of the rut. It lasted quite some time. I am still on meds. I don't know how long you have to be on them.....how old is your child?

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