Pregnancy 2months after section - need TIPS

Carla - posted on 12/26/2011 ( 68 moms have responded )

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Basicly me and my husband havent been too careful when making love and i think i may be pregnant for the 3rd time - I'm excited but scared too.. i only had my second csection 2months ago, i need some tips on keeping the pregnancy easy and painless as possible



Has anyone been in my postion? how did it work out



Thanks

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Elizabeth - posted on 12/27/2011

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Omg, I'm shocked and saddened by the offensive, judgmental, and unsupportive commentary you've received, Carla. Do people really think that being rude will really put the cow back in the barn? Or maybe they want to punish you because of what happened, as if that will bring any light to the end of your tunnel, the baby's or theirs?

I don't have any first-hand-experience advice, alas. My c-section was in Oct 2008, and I had my next baby in Nov 2010. The doctor never said anything to me about it being high risk (and I did a vaginal after c-section!) within two years of a first c-section, so I'm not sure I'd believe that one.

I'm sure you have some special risks to deal with, and I recommend you see your doctor and do exactly as requested - don't have your baby at home, do it in a hospital, and so on - because it sounds like there are major, life-threatening ramifications if you're pregnant again. This said...

Have you actually taken a pregnancy test to confirm? You may wish to do so before getting on the emotional roller coaster. Also, don't take the very negative comments by other readers to heart, hon. They don't know you, and there's always a % of the population who just can't resist the urge to be cruel. It reflects on them, not on you.

Kate CP - posted on 12/26/2011

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You know, when you already ASKED if this was a good idea BEFORE you got pregnant and people gave you a resounding "NO!" it should have been a clue.

Kate CP - posted on 12/27/2011

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Look, when Carla first asked about this, two months ago, she said she had a nasty infection in her incision and wanted to know if it was a good idea to get pregnant right away (as soon as the infection was gone). Several people told her it wasn't. Her DOCTOR told her it wasn't a good idea. And she did it anyway. And now she's scared of complications...and she should be. She did a reckless thing; she ignored personal and professional advice; and she decided to do whatever the heck SHE wanted to do, consequences be damned.

I hope against hope that she and her baby and her other children come out of this beautifully. I really do! NO ONE wants to see a baby or mother harmed in any way.

That being said, she fully knew the potential risks of getting pregnant so soon after a c-section and decided to do it any way. Do you think she deserves a cookie or a pat on the back for making a bad choice? Doctors recommend you wait at LEAST six months before getting pregnant again if you've had a vaginal birth. If you've had a c-section they recommend 18 months. An infected incision requires a full two years to heal! Carla KNOWS all this, knew this before, and decided to do it anyway. So...yea, she's going to get some "attitude" about it. That's life.

Ask a stupid question...get a stupid answer.

Elizabeth - posted on 12/27/2011

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*sigh* It's entirely possible that OP is a troll. It's also possible that she's not.

But frankly, who cares? The question was raised and we're all here in part for our own entertainment. This said - I find the negative comments offensive and rude, even if she did ask the advice of people before.

No one is obligated to take anyone else's advice, and if this is a real situation, then the negative commentary is not only childish and cruel, but also potentially seriously damaging.

I do not approve of the attitude as I feel it is putting the pride of a commentor above the mental health and prospective well-being of an unborn child. If people are so offended that she ignored their advice, I reckon they ought to avoid posting and exposing their ugly sides.

Amber - posted on 12/28/2011

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Carla,
You posted not too long ago asking if it was safe to get pregnant this soon after a section. You got a lot of great responses. Most of them if not all said that it was too dangerous for you and the baby. I have to say I am a little offended that you would post again so soon that you may be pregnent. It is your body and your choice. But you should not bring everyone else in to your poor choices.
It seems to me that you are determined to be pregnant no matter what the consequence are to you and the baby. If that is the case and you want to keep posting about it you should be ready for some strong opinions about your choices.
I wish you luck during you pregnancy and I hope the baby makes it here safely.

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Jodi - posted on 12/28/2011

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Sorry, but people have already been warned twice. This thread is now officially closed.

RoseAnne - posted on 12/28/2011

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Hi Carla, I have not been in your shoes, so I can not give advice on this subject. However, I could not help but notice how rude people are in the forums. People post on here to get help and advice, not to be put down and judged. It's funny that all of you on here that have made negative comments act like you have never made choices that were questioned, well guess what, WE ALL HAVE, so get over yourselves. Carla if you are pregnant I hope the best for you and your little one throughout the pregnancy.

Emily - posted on 12/28/2011

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I will be having my third csection in Feb. I've been told by my doctor that csections should be at least two years apart. Good Luck!!

Alicia - posted on 12/28/2011

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Best advice....talk to your doctor asap!! The Dr is the only that can really help and advise you properly in this! Best wishes that all works out!

Nelly - posted on 12/28/2011

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I'd say try to follow the doctor's instructions, try to rest as much as possible and try to get help to care for your baby now. I hope this helps to avoid complications. Send you many blessings.

Shawn - posted on 12/28/2011

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Just get to your Doc ASAP. That's the only person who can give you GOOD advice.

Michelle - posted on 12/28/2011

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I didn't have back to back c-sections but I did raise two step-daughters who were less than a year apart in age. Unlike posts above they were night and day personalites and anything but best buds. They were forced to share a room and ended up sharing classes in middle school and high school. Having the same lunch time at school and shared some activities at school. It was VERY hard on both them and the rest of the family because they didn't have that buffer to get away from each other. They are now in their twenties, both in the military, both single moms, and because of hard feelings, they don't talk. Which is sad because they are much more alike now.

My two children by birth, ages 8 and 10, are the same way. Night and day personalities. I'm so grateful they have a grade between them to put them in different lunches and recess. It gives them more time apart. So they aren't overwelmed with each other.

I think as they get older it will be easier thru middle school and high school given how they argue and, are so, not best buds.

I know it's not a pregnancy concern but something to think about for those wanting to raise best buds. You can't control conflicting personalities. Just something to consider.

For Carla, my first pregnancy was considered normal but my baby was born premature and only lived 4 hours. My next three 'high risk' pregnancies all went perfect. Just listen to your doctor, your common sense, and your heart.

Andrea - posted on 12/28/2011

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My goodness. I thought that this was supposed to be a place for support. I can see I won't be posting on this site. Congratulations on the baby!! My good friend got PG 2months after her 1st c-section. Her pregnancy turned out fine but she did get a lot of grief from her Dr's for getting PG so soon after the first. Good luck!!

Amy - posted on 12/28/2011

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I had four children all by c-section. The last two were 19 months apart. No complications! They love each other and play all the time. The hardest part is when they are very young, but with a family support system everything will turn out great! Good luck to you and your wonderful family.

Alison - posted on 12/28/2011

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Like others I can not believe that there are so many negative repsonses. I hope that your pregnancy goes well, my belief is that if your positive, positive things happen to you. Also babies come when they want to.. You dont get to always decide when they are going to be concieved. I wish you and your husband the best in the next step in your life. I hope your new baby and other child are the best of friends being they are so close :)

Lisa - posted on 12/28/2011

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No real tips, your dr will follow you very closely and you should listen very well to everything you are told. Getting pregnant that soon after a c-section is not good for your body, you face many possible complications.

Stephanie - posted on 12/28/2011

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I use to work I. High risk ob, & I have seen, tiny women carry 5 babies for a long time, I have seen healthy women, have problems with first pregnancies, I have taken care of women of women after they have given birth to there 4th kid, when there oldest is only 5. The point is every one is different & every pregnancy is different. Just like almost everyone else has said, the best advise is the one your dr gives you. Good luck.

Jolijn - posted on 12/28/2011

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I had two boys by c-section and the doctor told me to wait 2-3 years before having a third one because of complications. I took that seriously but fell pregnant after 18 months. I was really worried about my scar etc., went to see a different doctor who told me I could have gotten pregnant 40 days after the last c-section since that is how long it would have taken for the scar to heal.

Also I was lifting my 2 year old 5 weeks after the c-section and all was well and ofcourse my baby during those 5 weeks.

To be on the safe side I would see a doctor and have an ultrasound to see all is well. Congratulations and good health and luck with your babies! Enjoy your pregnancy and hopefully your 2 month old will let you have some sleep soon as well. Take care!

Oh and btw I know women who had up to 6 c-sections and are fine and so are their kids.

Dana - posted on 12/28/2011

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Emma, this isn't a debating forum. I think you have it confused with debating mums. :)

Amanda - posted on 12/28/2011

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I had 2 c sections 15 months apart, and had no problems! The second was actually easier than the first! So no, these problems do not happen all the time! Good luck!!

Jodi - posted on 12/28/2011

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Jesse - posted on 12/28/2011

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bye duck tape seriously!!! god do you think just because this happened to you that your a medical expert don't be so bloody nasty!

Jesse - posted on 12/28/2011

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seriously girls I think you have gotten your point across about how you feel! talk about nasty! If you do not agree with her choices then don't respond. EVERYONE HERE ALREADY KNOWS HOW YOU FEEL! let it be for goodness sakes! I honestly have no idea and have no advice to give you just seek medical advice i say. and also just try to block out some of the nasty posts on here. in fact they may even be right but to ramble on so much bloody bull shit! even if you have done the wrong thing or make a bad choice abuse is not needed!! GOOD LUCK!!!! wish all a merry Christmas and hopefully a happy new year with a happy healthy new baby

Suzanna - posted on 12/28/2011

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I'm so disscusted at what some women have wrote back to you! You need helpful words of encouragment not anger and opinions! My best friend had a c section and got pregnant again 12 week later she had two great pregnancies all the doc said was she would have to take it easy as she needs normal pregnancy rest but also has a new baby to look after and she would have to have another c section as a normal birth could cause a problem with scar tissue! She had no problems ! She had two wonderful boys who share the same day birthday . Im currently trying to get pregnant after loosing our baby over a year ago and it wouldn't matter what situation I was in I would be happy and everyone would be happy for me so steer clear of negative people good luck x

Rachel - posted on 12/28/2011

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I fell pregnant with my 3rd very quickly (I found out at my 6 week check up) all were delivered by caesarean and I had no major complications with any pregenancy my first was an emergency c section and thats why the next were too due to the length of time in-between they are now 8, 9 and 10 and although difficult I wouldn't change it for the world in fact my third was probably the easiest pregenancy and birth of the 3 just take it easy and enjoy

Tina - posted on 12/28/2011

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This woman is asking how to cope with her pregnancy after having a c section. So she's taken a risk by having another baby so soon. Big deal. Their a worse people in the world. What's done is done. Now if anyone has tips to help her cope go ahead and post otherwise leave her alone. You'd think a mother would know better then to bag on another mother when she's scared and needs some advice.

Pauline - posted on 12/28/2011

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I'd suggest a naturopath to make sure your body and your new baby's body will be getting all the nutrients possible and this needs to be a priority as your body will be depleted from the recent pregnancy. Good luck.

Bernie - posted on 12/28/2011

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Really? This is a debating forum, if you don't like what you read then don't continue.
If you know the majority aren't going to agree with your posting then why post?
She was given advise from her doctor, basically ignored it and now wants advise- the kind of advise SHE wants to hear!

Noelle - posted on 12/28/2011

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I'm saddened at how rude some people can be. My kids are two years and three weeks apart. Not everyone has complications with close pregnancies. My only advice is if you are in fact pregnant, make sure you go to your dr appointments, eat as healthy as you can (I know how difficult this can be while pregnant and having a little one to care for.), and rest when you can. Your dr will advise you of anything additional you should/not be doing. Don't listen to the ignorant people. Enjoy your pregnancy and the little one you have already. Life is short and there's no room for all that negativity.

Brandi - posted on 12/28/2011

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I've had 3 c-sections. July 05, March 07, and March 09. My 4th is planned for March 12. I don't think I would have felt good enough to have much intercourse less than 8 weeks after surgery, but judging by the fact that you did, you are probably healing quite nicely. Like you said, by the time your uterus does start expanding, your body will have had time to heal the scar. Take it easy, rest with your current baby and just enjoy the time you have before you get another infant :) I love kids and I don't care how far apart they are, that really doesn't matter. Those parents that "plan" their children make me laugh. Good luck to you and your babies.

Jan - posted on 12/27/2011

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Yes it happen to me I had a c-section and went for my 6 weeks check and I was shock when my doctor told me I was pregnant again it was like having twins and I love my boys they did everything together started school and driving now they are married and one has kids and the other not yet but want them . Good luck and you will enjoy them and just take it easy and rest when you can

Debby - posted on 12/27/2011

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You most likely will have a high risk pregnancy....but only because the doc has to track for all the possibilities that have already been mentioned. You must take very good care of yourself and try not to carry heavy items (including your baby - and that will be tough). Your doc will probably strongly suggest that you have a tubal ligation after this birth as more than three sections has a very high risk rate for both the mom and baby. I had 3 sections in 5 years over 21 years ago. I'm sure some things have changed, but it is still a risk to your female health. I did have many ovarian problems years later and my doctor said it was because I didn't give my body a chance to heal. Take care of yourself and good luck!

Bernie - posted on 12/27/2011

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I wish you well in your pregnancy but I do feel as though you've asked a question/for advise knowing full well you were most likely not going to get the answer you were looking for but you've gone a head and done it anyway.

You must have some sort of health/medical number that you can call for free advise?

Bernadette - posted on 12/27/2011

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I don't think there's a need for rudeness, the woman is just asking for advice. Now as for the question at hand, a friend of mine was in the same situation, and ended up pregmant. Her daughter was only 2 and a halt months old and she ended up pregnant with twins. Her dr told her to have a few extra drs apts a week, use herbal oils on her tummy and to make sure to eat healthy and take her pill. Sebastien and tobias are now extreamly heathy and active 3 year olds, she had nocomplications during pregnancy or delivey, and she is now 8 months pregnant with heathily growing little girl :)

Jennifer - posted on 12/27/2011

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I am. I have a 8 year old 15 month and 4 month old. I'm struggling but my husband and family are a big help.

Michelle - posted on 12/27/2011

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I would go to your obgyn, and find out his/her opinion. I'm sure your not the first person this has happened too. Take your physicians advice, and try to still to it. I would think you should not be doing anything to strenuous at this point. Congrats and good luck!
I had a c/s and my doctor told me to wait a year before getting pregnant. No birth control is 100% effective. Sorry about all the negative comments. Hope all goes well. Keep us posted.

Jodi - posted on 12/27/2011

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Brendalee - posted on 12/27/2011

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First off sorry, but this was not the best thing to do considering the advise you were previously given both here and by your doctor. Not just for you, but the unborn baby and the 2 you already have.
That being said the first thing you need to do is go to the doctor and find out for sure and be more careful until then.
If you are infact pregnant follow what the doctor tells you to the letter and maybe even be more careful then he tells you to be. All of the complications mentioned have a higher probabilty as it is so close. You also will get bigger faster this time around as nothing has tightened up yet so you don't have until say week 12. Every pregnancy breaks down the muscle and the closer together the less muscle control which is why you should wait several months even after a vaginal birth. If you are pregnant you have a long road ahead of you. DO NOT treat this as a normal pregnancy no matter how you feel or what the doctor says this is high risk.
I hope for your family's sake that if you are pregnant all goes perfectly so that no one involved has to suffer.

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Actually she didn't post 2 months ago. It was 11/17... Her baby was 3 weeks old at the time and she was still trying to recover from the infection.... ;)

Other than that, I fully agree w/ you.

Fiona - posted on 12/27/2011

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hi congratulations! cant really give any adice but eep well and safe and speak to your midwide n doctor asap. good luck x

September - posted on 12/27/2011

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I must have missed the first conversation that was related to this current post. My sister got pregnant 2 months after having a c-section and had a very easy pregnancy and delivered a healthy baby with no complications, but then again everyone is different. Her children are now 6 and 7 years old, still healthy and very happy little girls. I wish you all the best. Sorry I have no tips to provide. Good luck!

Misty - posted on 12/27/2011

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Mine were exactly 17mos apart. My Drs were concerned because my first Csection I got a really bad infection. The 2nd Csection was horrible. You will prob take longer to heal and they'll have to monitor you very closely for abruptions but your Dr will know what to do.

Kelina - posted on 12/27/2011

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I think regardless of how annoying something may seem or how angry it makes you, you still need to respond to people in a kind caring way. Responding negatively is not going to get you anywhere and may mean that if someone genuinely does want to answer the question or has some good advice the person asking will have stopped listening by then. If you don't like what's happening fine, don't bother posting. But responding with attitude just alienates other people. May help and care in responding will establish this as a community to trust that you can ask for help in no matter your situation. I understand that that's not necessarily real life, that people will always judge, but that doesn't have to be the case here. This is supposed to be a place that moms can come and ask for help without feeling like the biggest idiot on the planet. No matter what they've done. Carla: In some ways I applaud you. Having a sex drive right after a baby is not an easy thing to do. Lol in fact for the first 4 months after each of my kids were born my hubby was lucky to get it once. Getting pregnant this soon after a c-section while not necessarily the wisest of courses, is not necessarily a disaster either. My friend had 3 c-sections. The first two were 11 months apart, the second and third were 18 months apart and she never had any difficulty with her pregnancies. However, I would suggest taking a pregnancy test and talking to a doctor immediately. Just because someone managed it just fine it doesn't mean you will. on the other hand just because someone had difficulties and wound up on bed rest it doesn't mean you will either. Each situation is unique to baby and mom. If you aren't pregnant it might be a good idea to talk to your doctor about methods of brith control you can be on and what would be a good choice for you. There are hormonal birth controls you can take while breast feeding and if you're not there's even more. Good luck to you!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2011

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Just for all of you judging all the judgements and negativity in here know, this is not her first thread about this situation. Could this be troll activity?

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All of the *potential* risks have been laid out for you. If you have been careless in using protection, then you need to be grown up enough to face any possible consequences. For the life of me, I cannot understand WHY a woman INTENTIONALLY puts her life, body, and well-being at risk knowing she has children to care for. I'm perfectly aware of unplanned pregnancies, but the original poster clearly stated she was not being careful. So WHY bother posting? Listen to your doctor and follow directions. If you need to be on bedrest, then I truly feel sorry for your children who has a temporarily incapacitated mother.

Kate CP - posted on 12/27/2011

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Has anyone here ever had this happen? Where some one starts asking for advice on whether or not to do something, like say, whether or not they should try driving after they've had a few beers. Not really enough to get DRUNK, but enough that it could be of a concern. So they ask all these people "Hey, you think this is a good idea?" and all these people say "Uhh, no. It's really dangerous. You should call a cab or designate a driver or something." And then the person asking for advice gets really ticked off because they were really only asking for advice from people who had driven while a little tipsy. So then people who HAD driven while a little tipsy started saying "Yea. it's a bad idea. You shouldn't do that." And THEN the person asking for advice GOES AND DOES IT ANYWAY.

Ever had that happen? Kinda annoying, ain't it?

Tina - posted on 12/27/2011

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I fell pregant shortly after having my son via emergency c section, He was only a couple of months old. I took a bit longer to heal up after having my second child also because I was busy looking after 2 babies. My pregnancy went fine. Just treat it as you would any other pregnancy. No heavy lifting etc. I wouldn't worry too much. My son was a bit upset at first when our youngest came along but they are becoming best buddies. My youngest watches everything that my eldest does. She's 6 months old and in such a hurry to keep up with her big brother. He's so cute with her. He'll copy the stuff I do with him like when I give him a kiss on the forehead. I know how you feel I was the same. Don't worry about what others are saying it's your body not theirs. Every pregnancy has risks even if you haven't had a c section.

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I have a friend who had an emergency c-section (awful one), and then got pregnant 9-10 months later. She had to be put on bedrest for part of the pregnancy.

We can't give you medical advice. You need to be monitored closely by a professional. Good luck!

Maria - posted on 12/27/2011

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Just ignore what these people are saying to you, they are being nasty. You made a mistake it happens, you don't need these having ago at you. To those having ago at Carla leave her alone doesn't anyone understand stress can cause problems in pregnancy and she don't need it right now so if you ain't got anything helpful to say back off. Sorry Carla had to let that 1 out.

Maria - posted on 12/27/2011

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I have never had any c-sections but the only advice I would give is see your GP & chat to the midwife for suggestions. Hope all goes well for you though. xxxx

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2011

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Bed rest and talking to your doctor. yes you've had some negative comments but you are the only one who can make decisions.

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Not nice. I have 4 all by cesarean. Two of them are 11 months apart. They are now 8 & 9 and best friends. Be positive and take care of yourself. I would ask to the person that had the the complications does that mean you wouldn't have had that baby if you knew what was going to happen? I think not.
Good luck!

Merry - posted on 12/26/2011

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Wow. Honestly? I just feel awful for your two month old. Hopefully you aren't pregnant cuz that baby deserves to not be forced into big sibling before first birthday :-/
If you are pregnant then I hope you have good health and a healthy baby! Bjut remember that the second baby is STILL a baby even when here's another one.
It was brave to post this here, I hope you don't get offended easily cuz no one thought it was a good idea to conceive this soon!
Are you certain you are pregnant? If not please do your infant a favor and have safe sex! Let that baby have its fair share of time being your baby before its forced into big sibling role.

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