Pregnant and smoking....What's your opinion?????

Tanya - posted on 02/02/2009 ( 231 moms have responded )

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Hi Ladies!
Well...here's a very touchy subject for most people.
What's your opinion on smoking while pregnant? I know of one pregnant woman who continues to smoke though she's four months pregnant. I'm a nonsmoker myself and I've very opinionated on this topic. What's your view??

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You should be arrested for being so judgemental.... What sort of person says something like that?????

Jenna - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Maureen:



Here is something to stir the pot....I'm sure I am not the only one but I have heard about mothers smoking just so that their baby will weigh less when they are born and be easier to push out.






i've heard this but it is not true so meny things make up ur babys weigh my mum smoked with me i was an 8 pound baby she stoped before her second baby and she was 6 pound and the reast of her babys were small.  



We have a law that u cant somke in ur car with children under sixteen so y should u smoke when ur pergent the worse thing for ur new born is somking they r sure it is related to sids y risks it

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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Well, it's not ok to put other people down, and if someone is doing that then they are wrong, sure it is everyones choice what they want to do, we are just saying they are not very good ones (smoking that is) and like I said before you can smoke while pregnant and be a wonderful mother, I just want that message to get accross that smoking is NOT GOOD for you or the baby, and just want to say PLEASE to some of the moms that smoke ofcourse to try and cut back, I know it's hard very hard, but it is a good thing to do. Good luck ladies and lots of health to you

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Quoting Tanya:

Pregnant and smoking....What's your opinion?????

Hi Ladies!
Well...here's a very touchy subject for most people.
What's your opinion on smoking while pregnant? I know of one pregnant woman who continues to smoke though she's four months pregnant. I'm a nonsmoker myself and I've very opinionated on this topic. What's your view??






well i think that being a good mother starts right away and it is our responsibility to make sure our children are healthy and smoking is not healthy!!!! nor is being in the same room as anyone smoking!





 

Lisa - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Tanya:

Pregnant and smoking....What's your opinion?????

Hi Ladies!
Well...here's a very touchy subject for most people.
What's your opinion on smoking while pregnant? I know of one pregnant woman who continues to smoke though she's four months pregnant. I'm a nonsmoker myself and I've very opinionated on this topic. What's your view??



well i think that being a good mother starts right away and it is our responsibility to make sure our children are healthy and smoking is not healthy!!!! nor is being in the same room as anyone smoking!

Erin - posted on 02/03/2009

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I think people who smoke are digusting.  It's just as bad as abusing your child OUTSIDE of the womb, in my opinion.  Those people should be arrested!

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By the way...I was a smoker and quit immediately when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. Then I started up again a few months after he was born, smoking very little. I got pregnant less than two years later and quit two months before that pregnancy. To this day I still crave cigarettes, but I don't want my children to see me do it and I want to live longer for them and myself. This is my opinion. Everyone is entitled to their own.

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Hey we all know that smoking is bad for you and especially what it can do to an unborn baby. These people though are adults who have made their own decisions, is it up to others to remind them of what wrongs they are doing? I think not....

Some of the discussions that have been posted ARE attacking people and are putting people down, I am not saying that you directly have but if you read through the posts , they are on here, and that is what i have directed what i have written to.

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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But I am not putting anyone down, I am not calling anyone names, or saying thay are bad moms, there are mothers who don't smoke, drink but abuse their children, so just try to understand that what I am saying is that cigarettes are bad for you period, like I said before I smoked a pack a day and I made a choie to quit while pregnant and maybe I will smoke again after I have the baby and that's bad also for me, so what I am trying to say is only that cigarettes are bad and we as humas know that and we still do it.

User - posted on 02/03/2009

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DON'T Do IT! It is linked to SIDS, low birth weight, and premature birth. Low birth weight is directly linked to the fact that the fetus is not getting enough oxygen and nutrients through the blood because it is restricted when a woman smokes while pregnant.

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But you are putting these people down, you are attacking what sort of person they are if they are choosing to smoke whilst pregnant... There are people in this forum that are obvioulsly taking what you are all saying personally.... If you don't want to put people down then don't have such a forcefull opinion....

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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Yes! but what do you think about some of the moms that have been writing on here getting angry at us that think smoking is bad while you are pregnant or just bad in general....why do they get upset and call us "perfect" like we have not done anything bad in our lives.

Heidi - posted on 02/03/2009

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I think it is very selfish to smoke either while you are pregnant or even after..If you are going to make the decision to bring a helpless little one into the world then making sure their well-being should be top priority.

Heidi - posted on 02/03/2009

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I think it is very selfish to smoke either while you are pregnant or even after..If you are going to make the decision to bring a helpless little one into the world then making sure their well-being should be top priority.

Heidi - posted on 02/03/2009

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I think it is very selfish to smoke either while you are pregnant or even after..If you are going to make the decision to bring a helpless little one into the world then making sure their well-being should be top priority.

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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What are you talking about?? NO ONE SAID WE ARE PERFECT!! please read carefully, we are talking abut what cigarettes do to kids and us adults!! and ofcourese we are not perfect, ofcourse we made mistakes in our lives...we are talking about the risks, no one is telling the smoking pregnent moms they are not good moms or worse than anyone else, we are simply talking about cigarettes and how bad they are for you and for the baby, but it is every moms choice what they do, now is that ok with you???? no one is putting anyone down as a person, we don't know each other just having a normal conversation and opinion about smoking.

Kelly - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Tanya:

Pregnant and smoking....What's your opinion?????

Hi Ladies!
Well...here's a very touchy subject for most people.
What's your opinion on smoking while pregnant? I know of one pregnant woman who continues to smoke though she's four months pregnant. I'm a nonsmoker myself and I've very opinionated on this topic. What's your view??


So no one is offended, just sharing our OPINIONS!  I will answer the question from the OP!  She was asking our OPINIONS!



 



What's your opinion on smoking while pregnant??  I think its selfish!



 



Whats your view?  It think is selfish for any pregnant woman to smoke knowing the dangers she is possible putting on her unborn child, just because she can't quit a discusting habit!  It should of been a priority for her to quit if her pregnancy was planned and number one priority for her if it wasn't planned!!

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To all out there who are writing on this forum.......

When did this society get so opinionated???? I am sure that all of you people writing here judging other people are just so perfect yourselves.... When and how did you become so perfect? Please share in the forum so the 99% of Mothers you are calling Selfish, Bad Parents, etc can learn from your perfect lives...

We all have opinions on Various topics regarding our kids, every mother wants to protect their children/child. This is a forum for all people to share their topics, people don't want to be on here to be put down and called a selfish mother and worse...

I am sure that all you perfect people out there writing on this site have done things to yourself or others that has inpacted on yours or someone elses life at some stage, if you haven't then you really are perfect and have a right to judge..... COME ON !!!!!

All people on here regardless of if they did smoke or didn't are HUMAN BEINGS... All humans have FEELINGS !!! Take a deep breath and really think about what you are all writing, If people do smoke whilst pregnant- HOW DOES THAT AFFECT YOUR LIFE ??? Your right it doesn't so why have such aggression toward the topic? Grow up and do the best you can in your own life instead of judging people obviously less perfect than yourself......

Kelly - posted on 02/03/2009

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I use to smoke and the morning I took my pregnancy test, I threw away my pack. I felt way too guilty to even continue smoking. I've had friends smoke while they were pregnant and understand that it might not be easy for everyone, but I've always found it so ugly seeing a beautiful pregnant lady with a cigarette in her hand. Would you have a stranger blow smoke in your new born's face? Of course not, so why do it with your own child inside your belly?


I applaud you!!!!

Cath - posted on 02/03/2009

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I use to smoke and the morning I took my pregnancy test, I threw away my pack. I felt way too guilty to even continue smoking. I've had friends smoke while they were pregnant and understand that it might not be easy for everyone, but I've always found it so ugly seeing a beautiful pregnant lady with a cigarette in her hand. Would you have a stranger blow smoke in your new born's face? Of course not, so why do it with your own child inside your belly?

~Jennifer - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Kelly:



Quoting Jennifer:




Quoting Betsy:





Quoting Jessica:






Quoting Sara:

No excuse for it...if you can't put the needs of your unborn child before yourself, then maybe you should rethink whether you are ready for motherhood or not. In my opinion, you owe it to your baby to give them the best start possible, and that means no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.











First of all, who are you to tell people they should rethink being a mother?  Yes I am not one of those parents who tried getting pregnant for a year and did everything to get healthy before hand, I got pregnant on my birthcontrol completely not planned. But dont sit here and say rethink parenthood. Are you perfect? Did you get rid of every unhealthy cleaning product in your house when you clean since your breathing it in when you clean. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant or paint the nursery. Where you in a perfectly stable condition in your home. Dont sit here and tell people to rethink what they want to do! There is not a day that went by in my pregnancy that I didnt try to quit!! This is not something I wanted to bring up but I was addicted to drugs for 5 years!!! I did get clean but after a numerous amounts of tries!! Just like every addiciton it is not easy!!!!!! Are you going to tell me I shouldn't have a kid cause of my past mistakes???? I am a fantastic mother. My child is healthy and I have not thought about using a drug in 4 years!! So take it from me having a 6-8 a day habit of oxycontin to quitting that smoking is harder then quitting drugs! So if a doctor tells me what is best for me and MY CHILD then I will listen to him then all the people on here who think they are Doctors. I know that smoking while you are pregnant is not healthy but no one sit here and say dont use this excuse its hard or any of those. I give the poeple who qui when they got pregnant credit! But no 2 people are alike! I am sick of ll these people on here saying all this incorrect information that your child stops breathing and there i.q. and what not. Another thing I dont get is the person who started this, why did you?? Do you want people sitting here arquing? Since you said yourself your a non smoker but wanted to hear peoples thoughts. This is  very touchy subject to me. I cried almost everyday cause I was trying to hard to quit!! I went from 2 packs a day to 4 CIGARETTES A DAY! I cut down as much as I could! NO ONE tell me or anyone else they didnt try! Or they are unfit parents cause I would put money on it that all you people who are traching all the smokers that you are doing something that is bad for your child or unfit and wrong. Do your swear infront of your children. Fight with husbands. Bad examples... I am sure NONE of you are perfect. How bout everyone just keeps there comments to urself. You do whats right for you and we will do what is right for us! NEVER call me a BAD PARENT or tell me to rethink having a child!! Who do you think you are telling people that!
















Excellent post Jessica. While I don't support smoking while pg, I find some moms making comments like this asinine.  First, I won't rethink my readiness for motherhood, as I have had and raised children for 20 yrs now lol. With that experience also comes the knowledge that these moms pick what doesn't apply to them and make attacking comments to improve their own self-worth, but if we looked into their households, we would find many things that might give others to question their readiness for parenthood. Do they exercise daily and eat a heart healthy diet so they will be heathy enough to raise their children and set a good example for their children to have healthy heart habits? Do they argue with their spouse in a healthy way not to emotionally damage the child and to teach the child how to have healthy relationships in their adulthood? Do they have a stable home where respect of others is ALWAYS taught? Are they responsible financially so they have a nest egg to provide a stable environment in case of unforseen circumstances, teaching their children esential money management habits they will need in their lives? Did you eat tuna while pregnant? Did you use cleaning goods while pregnant? Did you eat deli meat while pregnant? Most importantly, do you take full stock in the reality and flaws in your own life before judging and being negative towards others in order to set a good example to the children you are the role model for and teaching how to treat and respect others?  Start there. I guarantee you have more work to do looking in the mirror that is more pressing than what your neighbor is doing.  By the time you correct your own parenting flaws, you won't have the time to worry about everyone else!












Well said!









Well Said?  I think you all need to reread and maybe you will get how RIDICULOUS you sound!!! Your  trying to JUSTIFY smoking while pregnant!!!  COME ON!!! 






I understand we are human we make mistakes but its a GOLDEN Rule in pregnancy, you don't SMOKE OR DRINK!!!    Dying your hair is harmless to baby,  Tuna once in a while HARMLESS,  Eating Lunch meat once in a while HARMLESS!!  SMOKING, NOT SO MUCH!!!!






So please stop trying to justifying something so careless!  The OP asked our opinions and we are giving them.  So if you don't like the fact that what you did was WRONG.  They don't read anymore! Just say I smoked and THANK GOD my baby is fine NOW, we don't know yet if there will be any long term effects because you don't know!   I'm praying your children live Healthy and Happy lives!





I don't condemn or condone either way.  I said that she posted a well thought out reply.



Please don't look to argue with me.  Your posts are very in-your-face and confrontational in my opinion.  I comment on posts I find intelligent, whichever 'side' they are on.   I am reading this purely for the debate it was supposed to be, and to interject a few ideas along the way.



No need to be hostile.  I'm glad you feel as strongly as you do....but please don't make me a target for your quest to argue.



 

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To all out there who are writing on this forum.......

When did this society get so opinionated???? I am sure that all of you people writing here judging other people are just so perfect yourselves.... When and how did you become so perfect? Please share in the forum so the 99% of Mothers you are calling Selfish, Bad Parents, etc can learn from your perfect lives...

We all have opinions on Various topics regarding our kids, every mother wants to protect their children/child. This is a forum for all people to share their topics, people don't want to be on here to be put down and called a selfish mother and worse...

I am sure that all you perfect people out there writing on this site have done things to yourself or others that has inpacted on yours or someone elses life at some stage, if you haven't then you really are perfect and have a right to judge..... COME ON !!!!!

All people on here regardless of if they did smoke or didn't are HUMAN BEINGS... All humans have FEELINGS !!! Take a deep breath and really think about what you are all writing, If people do smoke whilst pregnant- HOW DOES THAT AFFECT YOUR LIFE ??? Your right it doesn't so why have such aggression toward the topic? Grow up and do the best you can in your own life instead of judging people obviously less perfect than yourself......

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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I was a smoker big time, I just quit for the health of the baby, and I am sick of ladies that don't want to talk about this or "I joined circle of moms to get some good tips" ahhh what is this???? if you don't agree with the cigarette smoking during pregnancy that's fine but don't judge us moms that are against it, we are against pregnant women smoking, there is nothing wrong with that, and we are just talking about one of the harmful things and there are many more, just simply someone had a question about this and all of us wish to respond to it and give our opinion.

Donna - posted on 02/03/2009

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What a LOOSER! If she cant quit when she is pregnant then she is is a self absorbed idiot. So pathetic and sad really!

Angie - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Natasha:

while smoking is harmful to the baby quitting is even worse...remember the baby would also be addicted to the nicotine and to stop cold turkey could result in miscarriage or put the fetus in stress...most doctors will tell you to cut down but not quit completely.





Um sorry, but this is yet another "guilt reliever" for moms.  These doctors make me sick.






I TOTALLY agree!  I'm sick and tired of people making bad choices that affect others - and doctors making excuses for them.  Smoking isn't good for anyone and why anyone would ever start such a nasty habit is beyond me.  One thing that isn't often mention is that second hand smoke causes bladder cancer so if you want to kill yourself - do it, but don't murder me or my family with your bad habit.

Kelly - posted on 02/03/2009

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I have had enough with reading this. This is a application called "circle of moms", I joined this because I thought it was about helping mothers out, with some postive comments and feedback. I figured I would check out this thread, but I am now reading this, and some of you people (non-smokers) are being completely arrogant and rude to these other women (smokers). I wish there was a topic about "drinking or doing drugs whilst pregnant" I would expect to hear such vulgar comments on there. There is actual proof, hard evidence, FAS, and a lot more information on it then women who smoked while pregnant. I am really shocked and appalled and I feel like I am in highschool with the way some of you are acting. I am wondering how many of you non smokers had mothers who smoked while you were in the womb. Do you hate them? Would you dare say half of the things you say on here to these women to your own mothers? I doubt it. It all comes down to the fact that every human being has choices, and whether they choose the good or bad ones, it's their choice.





It was your choice to put your baby at risk, yes!!   And my mom never smoked while she was pregnant, and if she did I would tell her now as an adult how irresponsible it was of her. But then again 30 years ago we didn't know the horrible affects it could have on an unborn child like we do today!



One person asked what the health benifiets of smoking were!  Anyone, anyone?????

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I have had enough with reading this. This is a application called "circle of moms", I joined this because I thought it was about helping mothers out, with some postive comments and feedback. I figured I would check out this thread, but I am now reading this, and some of you people (non-smokers) are being completely arrogant and rude to these other women (smokers). I wish there was a topic about "drinking or doing drugs whilst pregnant" I would expect to hear such vulgar comments on there. There is actual proof, hard evidence, FAS, and a lot more information on it then women who smoked while pregnant. I am really shocked and appalled and I feel like I am in highschool with the way some of you are acting. I am wondering how many of you non smokers had mothers who smoked while you were in the womb. Do you hate them? Would you dare say half of the things you say on here to these women to your own mothers? I doubt it. It all comes down to the fact that every human being has choices, and whether they choose the good or bad ones, it's their choice.

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We all know of the countless number of health hazards of cigarette smoke. Directly, second hand, and now even studies are showing the negative effects of THIRD hand smoke. Can anyone name the health BENEFITS of smoking?? So why do it at all? Especially to your children. As far as quitting...like the NIKE slogan, JUST DO IT!



I like to gamble, I play poker, go to the casino...what you guys are doing is really  gambling. In the biggest way possible, with your babies being the stakes.

Magdalena - posted on 02/03/2009

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Reply to:Patricia Lord

We are not talking about only low birth weight, you were really one of the lucky ones. Ok, your children are fine etc. but you still put them at risk by smoking during pregnancy, you could not have known if your kids would be ok, you basicly took a risk, and you did poison them regardless if they are healthy or not they still were exposed to it. Now please don't take this the wrong way, we are just putting our opinons out there. Do you smoke in front of your kids now? well anyway good luck to you.

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Quoting Jennifer:



Quoting Betsy:




Quoting Jessica:





Quoting Sara:

No excuse for it...if you can't put the needs of your unborn child before yourself, then maybe you should rethink whether you are ready for motherhood or not. In my opinion, you owe it to your baby to give them the best start possible, and that means no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.









First of all, who are you to tell people they should rethink being a mother?  Yes I am not one of those parents who tried getting pregnant for a year and did everything to get healthy before hand, I got pregnant on my birthcontrol completely not planned. But dont sit here and say rethink parenthood. Are you perfect? Did you get rid of every unhealthy cleaning product in your house when you clean since your breathing it in when you clean. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant or paint the nursery. Where you in a perfectly stable condition in your home. Dont sit here and tell people to rethink what they want to do! There is not a day that went by in my pregnancy that I didnt try to quit!! This is not something I wanted to bring up but I was addicted to drugs for 5 years!!! I did get clean but after a numerous amounts of tries!! Just like every addiciton it is not easy!!!!!! Are you going to tell me I shouldn't have a kid cause of my past mistakes???? I am a fantastic mother. My child is healthy and I have not thought about using a drug in 4 years!! So take it from me having a 6-8 a day habit of oxycontin to quitting that smoking is harder then quitting drugs! So if a doctor tells me what is best for me and MY CHILD then I will listen to him then all the people on here who think they are Doctors. I know that smoking while you are pregnant is not healthy but no one sit here and say dont use this excuse its hard or any of those. I give the poeple who qui when they got pregnant credit! But no 2 people are alike! I am sick of ll these people on here saying all this incorrect information that your child stops breathing and there i.q. and what not. Another thing I dont get is the person who started this, why did you?? Do you want people sitting here arquing? Since you said yourself your a non smoker but wanted to hear peoples thoughts. This is  very touchy subject to me. I cried almost everyday cause I was trying to hard to quit!! I went from 2 packs a day to 4 CIGARETTES A DAY! I cut down as much as I could! NO ONE tell me or anyone else they didnt try! Or they are unfit parents cause I would put money on it that all you people who are traching all the smokers that you are doing something that is bad for your child or unfit and wrong. Do your swear infront of your children. Fight with husbands. Bad examples... I am sure NONE of you are perfect. How bout everyone just keeps there comments to urself. You do whats right for you and we will do what is right for us! NEVER call me a BAD PARENT or tell me to rethink having a child!! Who do you think you are telling people that!













Excellent post Jessica. While I don't support smoking while pg, I find some moms making comments like this asinine.  First, I won't rethink my readiness for motherhood, as I have had and raised children for 20 yrs now lol. With that experience also comes the knowledge that these moms pick what doesn't apply to them and make attacking comments to improve their own self-worth, but if we looked into their households, we would find many things that might give others to question their readiness for parenthood. Do they exercise daily and eat a heart healthy diet so they will be heathy enough to raise their children and set a good example for their children to have healthy heart habits? Do they argue with their spouse in a healthy way not to emotionally damage the child and to teach the child how to have healthy relationships in their adulthood? Do they have a stable home where respect of others is ALWAYS taught? Are they responsible financially so they have a nest egg to provide a stable environment in case of unforseen circumstances, teaching their children esential money management habits they will need in their lives? Did you eat tuna while pregnant? Did you use cleaning goods while pregnant? Did you eat deli meat while pregnant? Most importantly, do you take full stock in the reality and flaws in your own life before judging and being negative towards others in order to set a good example to the children you are the role model for and teaching how to treat and respect others?  Start there. I guarantee you have more work to do looking in the mirror that is more pressing than what your neighbor is doing.  By the time you correct your own parenting flaws, you won't have the time to worry about everyone else!









Well said!





Well Said?  I think you all need to reread and maybe you will get how RIDICULOUS you sound!!! Your  trying to JUSTIFY smoking while pregnant!!!  COME ON!!! 



I understand we are human we make mistakes but its a GOLDEN Rule in pregnancy, you don't SMOKE OR DRINK!!!    Dying your hair is harmless to baby,  Tuna once in a while HARMLESS,  Eating Lunch meat once in a while HARMLESS!!  SMOKING, NOT SO MUCH!!!!



So please stop trying to justifying something so careless!  The OP asked our opinions and we are giving them.  So if you don't like the fact that what you did was WRONG.  They don't read anymore! Just say I smoked and THANK GOD my baby is fine NOW, we don't know yet if there will be any long term effects because you don't know!   I'm praying your children live Healthy and Happy lives!

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When I was pregnant with my daughter I was told NOT to quit smoking due to fear of miscarriage. I was told that quitting "cold turkey" would put me and my daughter at higher risks. I had miscarried with twins prior (not smoking related) and my daughter was a "high risk" pregnancy. I was in the doctor's office every week having stress tests and other blood work in my 3rd trimester.








I call BS on this one!!!  Sorry!

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When I was pregnant with my daughter I was told NOT to quit smoking due to fear of miscarriage. I was told that quitting "cold turkey" would put me and my daughter at higher risks. I had miscarried with twins prior (not smoking related) and my daughter was a "high risk" pregnancy. I was in the doctor's office every week having stress tests and other blood work in my 3rd trimester.



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i am a smoker and its peolpe say it hert yur baby when pregnet and the baby has low birth weight but i smoked when i was pregnet not a lot but i did and my kids were 9 pounds 8 pounds and 8.1 when they were born.i dont think its the greatest thing to do and im not braging but i can think of other people doing werse things when they are pregnet,

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I smoked a pack a day until I got pregnant with my first child. The morning sickness was triggered by the cigarette smoke so THANK GOD for negative associations. Needless to say the thought of a cigarette makes me sick to this day! That's a good thing, in my opinion.

~Jennifer - posted on 02/03/2009

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Quoting Betsy:



Quoting Jessica:




Quoting Sara:

No excuse for it...if you can't put the needs of your unborn child before yourself, then maybe you should rethink whether you are ready for motherhood or not. In my opinion, you owe it to your baby to give them the best start possible, and that means no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.







First of all, who are you to tell people they should rethink being a mother?  Yes I am not one of those parents who tried getting pregnant for a year and did everything to get healthy before hand, I got pregnant on my birthcontrol completely not planned. But dont sit here and say rethink parenthood. Are you perfect? Did you get rid of every unhealthy cleaning product in your house when you clean since your breathing it in when you clean. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant or paint the nursery. Where you in a perfectly stable condition in your home. Dont sit here and tell people to rethink what they want to do! There is not a day that went by in my pregnancy that I didnt try to quit!! This is not something I wanted to bring up but I was addicted to drugs for 5 years!!! I did get clean but after a numerous amounts of tries!! Just like every addiciton it is not easy!!!!!! Are you going to tell me I shouldn't have a kid cause of my past mistakes???? I am a fantastic mother. My child is healthy and I have not thought about using a drug in 4 years!! So take it from me having a 6-8 a day habit of oxycontin to quitting that smoking is harder then quitting drugs! So if a doctor tells me what is best for me and MY CHILD then I will listen to him then all the people on here who think they are Doctors. I know that smoking while you are pregnant is not healthy but no one sit here and say dont use this excuse its hard or any of those. I give the poeple who qui when they got pregnant credit! But no 2 people are alike! I am sick of ll these people on here saying all this incorrect information that your child stops breathing and there i.q. and what not. Another thing I dont get is the person who started this, why did you?? Do you want people sitting here arquing? Since you said yourself your a non smoker but wanted to hear peoples thoughts. This is  very touchy subject to me. I cried almost everyday cause I was trying to hard to quit!! I went from 2 packs a day to 4 CIGARETTES A DAY! I cut down as much as I could! NO ONE tell me or anyone else they didnt try! Or they are unfit parents cause I would put money on it that all you people who are traching all the smokers that you are doing something that is bad for your child or unfit and wrong. Do your swear infront of your children. Fight with husbands. Bad examples... I am sure NONE of you are perfect. How bout everyone just keeps there comments to urself. You do whats right for you and we will do what is right for us! NEVER call me a BAD PARENT or tell me to rethink having a child!! Who do you think you are telling people that!










Excellent post Jessica. While I don't support smoking while pg, I find some moms making comments like this asinine.  First, I won't rethink my readiness for motherhood, as I have had and raised children for 20 yrs now lol. With that experience also comes the knowledge that these moms pick what doesn't apply to them and make attacking comments to improve their own self-worth, but if we looked into their households, we would find many things that might give others to question their readiness for parenthood. Do they exercise daily and eat a heart healthy diet so they will be heathy enough to raise their children and set a good example for their children to have healthy heart habits? Do they argue with their spouse in a healthy way not to emotionally damage the child and to teach the child how to have healthy relationships in their adulthood? Do they have a stable home where respect of others is ALWAYS taught? Are they responsible financially so they have a nest egg to provide a stable environment in case of unforseen circumstances, teaching their children esential money management habits they will need in their lives? Did you eat tuna while pregnant? Did you use cleaning goods while pregnant? Did you eat deli meat while pregnant? Most importantly, do you take full stock in the reality and flaws in your own life before judging and being negative towards others in order to set a good example to the children you are the role model for and teaching how to treat and respect others?  Start there. I guarantee you have more work to do looking in the mirror that is more pressing than what your neighbor is doing.  By the time you correct your own parenting flaws, you won't have the time to worry about everyone else!





Well said!

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I can't even believe there are women on here trying to justify themselves....how selfish





Wow, talk about some strong opinions! Listeneing to some of you i'm thinking that if I can't wuit next time I'm preggers then maybe I should just get an abortion!

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Quoting Betsy:



Quoting Jessica:




Quoting Sara:

No excuse for it...if you can't put the needs of your unborn child before yourself, then maybe you should rethink whether you are ready for motherhood or not. In my opinion, you owe it to your baby to give them the best start possible, and that means no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.







First of all, who are you to tell people they should rethink being a mother?  Yes I am not one of those parents who tried getting pregnant for a year and did everything to get healthy before hand, I got pregnant on my birthcontrol completely not planned. But dont sit here and say rethink parenthood. Are you perfect? Did you get rid of every unhealthy cleaning product in your house when you clean since your breathing it in when you clean. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant or paint the nursery. Where you in a perfectly stable condition in your home. Dont sit here and tell people to rethink what they want to do! There is not a day that went by in my pregnancy that I didnt try to quit!! This is not something I wanted to bring up but I was addicted to drugs for 5 years!!! I did get clean but after a numerous amounts of tries!! Just like every addiciton it is not easy!!!!!! Are you going to tell me I shouldn't have a kid cause of my past mistakes???? I am a fantastic mother. My child is healthy and I have not thought about using a drug in 4 years!! So take it from me having a 6-8 a day habit of oxycontin to quitting that smoking is harder then quitting drugs! So if a doctor tells me what is best for me and MY CHILD then I will listen to him then all the people on here who think they are Doctors. I know that smoking while you are pregnant is not healthy but no one sit here and say dont use this excuse its hard or any of those. I give the poeple who qui when they got pregnant credit! But no 2 people are alike! I am sick of ll these people on here saying all this incorrect information that your child stops breathing and there i.q. and what not. Another thing I dont get is the person who started this, why did you?? Do you want people sitting here arquing? Since you said yourself your a non smoker but wanted to hear peoples thoughts. This is  very touchy subject to me. I cried almost everyday cause I was trying to hard to quit!! I went from 2 packs a day to 4 CIGARETTES A DAY! I cut down as much as I could! NO ONE tell me or anyone else they didnt try! Or they are unfit parents cause I would put money on it that all you people who are traching all the smokers that you are doing something that is bad for your child or unfit and wrong. Do your swear infront of your children. Fight with husbands. Bad examples... I am sure NONE of you are perfect. How bout everyone just keeps there comments to urself. You do whats right for you and we will do what is right for us! NEVER call me a BAD PARENT or tell me to rethink having a child!! Who do you think you are telling people that!










Excellent post Jessica. While I don't support smoking while pg, I find some moms making comments like this asinine.  First, I won't rethink my readiness for motherhood, as I have had and raised children for 20 yrs now lol. With that experience also comes the knowledge that these moms pick what doesn't apply to them and make attacking comments to improve their own self-worth, but if we looked into their households, we would find many things that might give others to question their readiness for parenthood. Do they exercise daily and eat a heart healthy diet so they will be heathy enough to raise their children and set a good example for their children to have healthy heart habits? Do they argue with their spouse in a healthy way not to emotionally damage the child and to teach the child how to have healthy relationships in their adulthood? Do they have a stable home where respect of others is ALWAYS taught? Are they responsible financially so they have a nest egg to provide a stable environment in case of unforseen circumstances, teaching their children esential money management habits they will need in their lives? Did you eat tuna while pregnant? Did you use cleaning goods while pregnant? Did you eat deli meat while pregnant? Most importantly, do you take full stock in the reality and flaws in your own life before judging and being negative towards others in order to set a good example to the children you are the role model for and teaching how to treat and respect others?  Start there. I guarantee you have more work to do looking in the mirror that is more pressing than what your neighbor is doing.  By the time you correct your own parenting flaws, you won't have the time to worry about everyone else!





Well said!

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Smoking during pregency in and of itself does not make you a bad mother. It make you and your baby blessed if your child is in no way harmed. Many families have histories of respiratory illness...I was a smoker for years but when I carried my children I realized that if I smoked I wasn't just making a decision about my life but about theirs. I have 3 boys and one girl and during my pregency with my daughter I was experiencing alot of stress and in my last trimester I lit up. Of the four children my daughter is the only one that has Asthma. Hey maybe it has nothing to do with the fact that I smoked while I was carrying her. BUT! maybe it has everything to do with it. The point is we have enough to worry about when we are planning to welcome this new person into out lives. If we can do one thing, make one choice that might make a difference, that may make life a little easier for them. I believe we should do it.

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Sara:

No excuse for it...if you can't put the needs of your unborn child before yourself, then maybe you should rethink whether you are ready for motherhood or not. In my opinion, you owe it to your baby to give them the best start possible, and that means no smoking, no drinking, no drugs.





First of all, who are you to tell people they should rethink being a mother?  Yes I am not one of those parents who tried getting pregnant for a year and did everything to get healthy before hand, I got pregnant on my birthcontrol completely not planned. But dont sit here and say rethink parenthood. Are you perfect? Did you get rid of every unhealthy cleaning product in your house when you clean since your breathing it in when you clean. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant or paint the nursery. Where you in a perfectly stable condition in your home. Dont sit here and tell people to rethink what they want to do! There is not a day that went by in my pregnancy that I didnt try to quit!! This is not something I wanted to bring up but I was addicted to drugs for 5 years!!! I did get clean but after a numerous amounts of tries!! Just like every addiciton it is not easy!!!!!! Are you going to tell me I shouldn't have a kid cause of my past mistakes???? I am a fantastic mother. My child is healthy and I have not thought about using a drug in 4 years!! So take it from me having a 6-8 a day habit of oxycontin to quitting that smoking is harder then quitting drugs! So if a doctor tells me what is best for me and MY CHILD then I will listen to him then all the people on here who think they are Doctors. I know that smoking while you are pregnant is not healthy but no one sit here and say dont use this excuse its hard or any of those. I give the poeple who qui when they got pregnant credit! But no 2 people are alike! I am sick of ll these people on here saying all this incorrect information that your child stops breathing and there i.q. and what not. Another thing I dont get is the person who started this, why did you?? Do you want people sitting here arquing? Since you said yourself your a non smoker but wanted to hear peoples thoughts. This is  very touchy subject to me. I cried almost everyday cause I was trying to hard to quit!! I went from 2 packs a day to 4 CIGARETTES A DAY! I cut down as much as I could! NO ONE tell me or anyone else they didnt try! Or they are unfit parents cause I would put money on it that all you people who are traching all the smokers that you are doing something that is bad for your child or unfit and wrong. Do your swear infront of your children. Fight with husbands. Bad examples... I am sure NONE of you are perfect. How bout everyone just keeps there comments to urself. You do whats right for you and we will do what is right for us! NEVER call me a BAD PARENT or tell me to rethink having a child!! Who do you think you are telling people that!






Excellent post Jessica. While I don't support smoking while pg, I find some moms making comments like this asinine.  First, I won't rethink my readiness for motherhood, as I have had and raised children for 20 yrs now lol. With that experience also comes the knowledge that these moms pick what doesn't apply to them and make attacking comments to improve their own self-worth, but if we looked into their households, we would find many things that might give others to question their readiness for parenthood. Do they exercise daily and eat a heart healthy diet so they will be heathy enough to raise their children and set a good example for their children to have healthy heart habits? Do they argue with their spouse in a healthy way not to emotionally damage the child and to teach the child how to have healthy relationships in their adulthood? Do they have a stable home where respect of others is ALWAYS taught? Are they responsible financially so they have a nest egg to provide a stable environment in case of unforseen circumstances, teaching their children esential money management habits they will need in their lives? Did you eat tuna while pregnant? Did you use cleaning goods while pregnant? Did you eat deli meat while pregnant? Most importantly, do you take full stock in the reality and flaws in your own life before judging and being negative towards others in order to set a good example to the children you are the role model for and teaching how to treat and respect others?  Start there. I guarantee you have more work to do looking in the mirror that is more pressing than what your neighbor is doing.  By the time you correct your own parenting flaws, you won't have the time to worry about everyone else!

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Well, I'm a registered nurse and mom of two.  PLEASE do not smoke.  Smoking more than anything puts the baby at low birth weight, decreases your ability to get as much oxygen as possible to the baby...oxygen and blood in baby terms..is food.  So please don't smoke.

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Selfish is the RIGHT word, some moms get angry when we use that word, but they only get angry because it's true and naturally they try to defend them selves..but smoking is not right, there is NO excuse for it, like I said in my previous statement, you want to poison your self go right ahead just quit for the time you are pregnant and after that do what you will with your body.

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I think its terrible too. Having a baby is such a blessing and to do something that you know is so wrong and could hurt your baby is so selfish .

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i just dont think anyone has the right to call another mother a bad mother because they smoked, yes you have your opinion, but come on, you dont actually know these ppl so you dont have the right to call them a bad mother. You dont know their circumstances, you dont know how their child is, smoking isnt nice during pregnancy, i know that, but that doesnt make me a bad mother.....if anything im a great mother....just ask my daughter!!


Its ok that you feel guilty for putting you baby at risk for NUMEROUS health problems.  I corrected myself and said SELFISH!  Its very SELFISH of any woman to get pregnant or try to get pregnant WHILE they are smoking!!  And the day you find out your PG you QUIT!! PERIOD!!!  There is NO justification, I have TONS of friends that smoke and the moment they found out there were PG they quit for the sake of their baby!!!  THAT IS A GOOD MOTHER!!! 



 



I'm Hoping ALL your babies are healthy, I'm hoping they don't develop asthma down the road for your lack of judgement.  Sorry I sound mean but It irritates me that "the smokers" are trying to justify themselves for making poor decisions!

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i just dont think anyone has the right to call another mother a bad mother because they smoked, yes you have your opinion, but come on, you dont actually know these ppl so you dont have the right to call them a bad mother. You dont know their circumstances, you dont know how their child is, smoking isnt nice during pregnancy, i know that, but that doesnt make me a bad mother.....if anything im a great mother....just ask my daughter!!


Its ok that you feel guilty for putting you baby at risk for NUMEROUS health problems.  I corrected myself and said SELFISH!  Its very SELFISH of any woman to get pregnant or try to get pregnant WHILE they are smoking!!  And the day you find out your PG you QUIT!! PERIOD!!!  There is NO justification, I have TONS of friends that smoke and the moment they found out there were PG they quit for the sake of their baby!!!  THAT IS A GOOD MOTHER!!! 



 



I'm Hoping ALL your babies are healthy, I'm hoping they don't develop asthma down the road for your lack of judgement.  Sorry I sound mean but It irritates me that "the smokers" are trying to justify themselves for making poor decisions!

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I am 6 months pregnant and I smoked I mean smoked!!! As soon as I found out I was expecting again I quit right away, just because I poison my self does not mean I should poison my child. Some risks are when you smoke, your childs lungs might not develop right, asthma, and early birth. Have you heard of 2nd hand smoking? well immagine what goes on with your baby, there can also be child birth defect! baby's brain may not develop right, I mean if adults die from 2nd hand smoke or get sick, what happens to the baby??? so why not quit now and have a healthy baby, then if you want to go back to smoking that is your choice, but a choice you are able to make as an adult, your child can not make that choice so why not make the choice a healthy choice for your baby, and be the best mom you can before the baby is born into our world. Don't listen to friends that say, you should not quit right away because it's shock to your body and baby, well that is a healthy shock better than smoking right?? and one more thing, have you heard of parents smoking in the car with their kids in it..I know, the window is open but have you heard that their little girl did die because she got lung cancer? well she did and she was 5 years old...so why not make the right choice and quit, trust me you will feel so much better!! good luck and I hope you'll take my advice.

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no no no its very wrong,i smoked quite a bit but the minute i found out  i was pregnant i gave up completely ,it was hard but i thought of my baby havin birth defects and made me angry,i no of plenty of people that have smoked through pregnancy and had perfectly heathy babies but thats not the point.

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To be perfectly honest, I smoked through my entire pregnancy. Not something I'm proud of at all,  that was my 4th pregnancy! I had 3 misscarriages prior to that.



My Doctor advised me to cut down how many but NOT to quit! He said the stress and change to my system from quitting would more than likely cause me to misscarry again.



My son was born at 9lbs 4ozs more than a week over due!!! By c-section because he was breech. He is in perfect health!!



To add insult to injury, my Mom is a cancer survivor!! She was diagnosed with Lung Cancer almost 5 years ago! She was a smoker over half her life and with all her kids! No one has any health problems either! She quit smoking before her treatment, but my Dad and I STILL smoke!



By no means am I trying to encourage this, but at the same time, nothing is wrong with any of us whose parents smoked.....

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Ah yes, one of those "what's your opinion?" debates that is going to do nothing but get us all fighting. Why do we continue to post these threads?
Addictions are different for everybody. One person might be able to just "put their mind to it" and quit, while others may need patches or gum - and sometimes it may take several tries before you get it right.
Yes I believe very firmly that you should not smoke when you are pregnant. But my firm beliefs were not enough to get me to quit when I was pregnant with my daughter. The addiction was too much. You have no idea how badly I wished the cigarettes would make me sick! But they didn't. My doctor came up with a plan to get me "weaned off" the cigarettes, but that only worked for a short time. I still haven't managed to quit, but I'm still trying, and that has to count for something.



I had the same problem when I was pregnant. I cut back but couldn't stop. It didn't help that I was sooo stressed out. Being in the Military and leaving my boyfriend in Korea while I went back to the states pregnant didn't help at all. But we are going to take Chantex, if you can get it from your doctor I highly recommend it. It will give you some super crazy dreams, but after the first week or two cigs will taste soooo unbelieveably nasty you will quit ans not have cravings. And even if you did have a craving a light one up, u will toss it out after the first puff. Good stuff!

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