proper authorities to be called because parents fight?

Sharon - posted on 01/24/2010

complain to your doctors' superior.



If what you say is true - then he's full of shit.



You can flat out deny arguing too. Every couple argues. Some argue more loudly than others. My husband and I have been in full blown screaming matches. Away from my kids but I'm sure they heard anyway. Life happens.



But those are RARE. Most of the time arguments around here go like

"HEY Fartknocker! Get up off your ass and clean the damn kitchen!"



"I'm fixing the damn toilet!"



"I don't give a rats ass what you're doing! I need to fix dinner and all this shit from last night is in the way! You fix the friggen toilet while I cook dinner!"

Emily - posted on 01/24/2010

It's hard to say whether he's out of line without knowing all that's going on. But understand that doctors are mandated reporters, so even if they suspect there's something wrong, they are required by law to report it. If there is no abuse or neglect going on, you have nothing to be worried about. But by all means find a different doctor if you don't feel this one is meeting your needs.

Faith - posted on 01/24/2010

i agree with you Cori. But we don't fight to an abusive point. i barely know this doctor. we go out of the way to not fight in front of our son. we leave the room and ensure he is in a safe place. im only 20 soon to be 21. i don't have much support. We both see a therapist as well. we are working on our problems. our fighting seems to "flare up" when there is a change. we are do to get married in april. i think it is mostly stress. Im in school, raising a child, trying to plan a wedding, and keep up with house work. all while he sleeps or plays on the computer all day. he gets mad when i get upset cuz he sleeps all day and all night. i am not wonder woman and can't do everything. and i do have depression. part of me wonders if he really wants to be with me becuase of his actions. normally a fight will break out when i say i need help. or he continuously says he will do something and doesn't do it. I go out of my way to take the baby and leave so he will clean a room, but when i get back its not even touched. I am gone ATLEAST 4 days out of the week. he stays home as he is on disability. but he still sleeps and does nothing. it just twirks me. I ask for help and i get so frustrated with him when he does this. I can' ever sleep or whatnot but he can. i only ask to sleep when i really need it. im confused about it. i get depressed when he doesn't spend time with me. and if i am doing dishes or something and he is watching over the baby, that is his idea of spending time with me. it is just really frustrating. my son is as happy as can be, and i put him before everything in my life.

Cori - posted on 01/24/2010

i am not going to lie to you, it may not be your dr's place but i am considering calling family practice on 2 of my very close friends. they are fighting constantly (verbally, but very loud and abusive) and in front of their daughter (2 years old) they are fighting over petty drama but fighting constantly none the less. they fight over taking care of their daughter, over accusations of cheating and it always ends up in one of them leaving the house in a rage or one of them threatening divorce (all in front of their poor daughter) i know she is only 2 but she doesnt need to see mommy and daddy like that and i have tried my hardest to protect her and stop them but its just not working, its beyond me, them and their daughter and its obvious a third party needs to come in and set things straight.

family practice is a military thing, they wont just come in and take your kids away like CPS but they will require counseling and other mediation. i think after 2 months of this poor little girl seeing mommy and daddy fight constantly they need to do something (or be forced to do something) about this situation.

Faith - posted on 01/24/2010

the fighting is verbal. im not sure how he found out about it in the 1st place

Beth - posted on 01/24/2010

I think the dr is way out of line... unless the fights are really disturbing, like very loud and lots of anger.. that isn't good for any child to see or hear. How does your Dr know about the fighting anyway ? One thing, I used to argue with my late hubby when the kids were little, I didn't think it hurt the children in anyway, but they remember, so think about what you want your child/children to remember about their Mommy and Daddy when they grow up.. I learned the lesson the hard way, I hate that thats what my kids remember alot about..

Faith - posted on 01/24/2010

we BOTH are going to a different dr. its not the 1st time hes threatened it. but this time it was "if you don't come..." so he's threatening us to come in too. My son is happy all of the time. I would do anything for him. and so would his father.

Melanie - posted on 01/24/2010

I would have to say yes. People fight all the time as long it's not violent i don't see the harm in it. No parent can be an angel all of the time and i think this dr should focus his attention on children who are suffering because of parents fighting xx

Deborah - posted on 01/24/2010

This doctor is totally out of line. I believe a relationship without fights is not healthy. No two people can be happy with eachother all the time. As long as there is no abuse the doctor needs to butt out and you need to find a different doctor.