Pull ups on a 6 year old!

Jenny - posted on 10/23/2011 ( 201 moms have responded )

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My 6 year old still wets the bed unless he wears pull-ups! He says he can' feel himself going to the loo and wakes up wet EVERY day! I'm not sure if he is telling the truth or is just plain lazy!

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Medic - posted on 10/23/2011

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His brain bladder connection may just not be mature enough. I would not scold him or make him shammed as that gives no motivation. He is still within the normal age for wetting the bed.

Nikki - posted on 10/24/2011

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Completely normal :) Has anyone else in the family has a history of bed wetting, it is hereditary. My mum wet the bed until she was 13, I was about 9-10, my sister was 7-8. We were all just such heavy sleepers we wouldn't wake up to go to the toilet.

I wouldn't even wake most nights once I had wet the bed, mum would just know to get up and change my sheets. (back before pull ups were invented!) He will grow out of it, try not to make a big deal out of it he is probably feeling pretty uncomfortable with it in himself. Maybe it might be an idea to talk to your doctor and get the doctor to firstly eliminate any medical reasons then reassure your son that we will grow out of it.

My mum used to restrict fluids and take me to the toilet a couple of times before she went to bed, it didn't work, I would still wet every night. He will get there :)

Jodi - posted on 10/27/2011

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"My son is also six. He has never wet the bed, even as a toddler, and I believe it is because we trained him early on to go to the bathroom right before he goes to bed."

Maria, a child who continues to wet the bed doesn't do it because of lack of training. It is a genuine problem for these children, and not because they haven't learned to go to the bathroom before bed. So congratulations that you don't have a child who wets the bed, but I hate to tell you - it had nothing to do with you.

Toni - posted on 10/24/2011

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Little boys tend to play hard. When they sleep, they sleep deep, they are exhausted. As the mother of two boys, now 13 and 21, I say relax and see what happens, if he is still doing it at age 13, then there is a problem. And by all means don't be afraid to mention to your doctor the next time you go. But, don't embarrass him or make a big deal out of it, that could cause problems later down the road. Good luck and God Bless.

Jane - posted on 10/23/2011

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Some kids, especially boys, take longer for their bladder to mature. Eventually, if it continues several more years, you might talk to your doctor about it as there are some medications that can help. There are also training methods. Check out http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/bedwe... and follow the links to get more information. In the meantime you might consider watching how much fluid he is taking in two hours before bedtime up to bedtime, and waking him in the middle of the night and taking him to the bathroom to pee.

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Loretta - posted on 11/01/2011

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when my son was potty traing tried pull ups.then thoughtr try putting him in gitch & he was potty trained.

Marcella - posted on 11/01/2011

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The pull ups are simply enabling him. Get a mattress cover that keeps moisture out and put underwear on him. Eventually it will just click. Also check for any sleep disorders. ie sleep apnea, asthma, to much stimulation ie video games or tv before bedtime.

Melanie - posted on 11/01/2011

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That's why they make the "Good Nights 'underwear'". He might be a light sleeper. As long as he's going to the bathroom during waking hours without a problem, I wouldn't be worried.

Diana - posted on 11/01/2011

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I was a bedwetter until I was 11. I think I may have also had a week bladder because I used to have trouble holding it in when I was awake too. Some of my problem was that I had asthma & a lot of trouble breathing especially at night if I would lay flat, so when I finally fell asleep, I would sleep so soundly that I wouldn't wake up. I used to sleep propped up with pillows. It wasn't until I moved in with my Grandparents and my Grandmother kept my bedroom as an "allergen-free" zone that I was finally getting decent rest & the bedwetting stopped. During the day when I would have to go it would be so sudden that I would have no time to get to the loo. It was extremely embarrassing and somehow I hid it well because no one other than my Grammy knew about it and that was because she did my wash. Good luck!

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I have a 7yr old boy and have the same problem. We took him to the doctor, cut back on how much he drinks by a certain time, anything you can think of. We do the pull up thing and he doesnt wet the bed. So we tried tough love. He wet himself, no TV time, next time, no toys for the day. Finally, after he got tired of the punishment, he decides to tell the truth. And that truth was, "I was comfortable and did not want to get up". Since then, no bedwetting. Hopefully a little persuasion like tough love will get the truth out of your 6yr old.

Roberta - posted on 11/01/2011

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Dear Jenny:
I am now a grandma, but my oldest son Greg had bedwetting issues until he was 7 or so. His problem was that he was a very sound sleeper and just wouldn't wake up when he needed to go! We started getting him up before we went to bed hoping that this would help the problem. Most of the time it worked, but not always. We also reduced drinks close to bedtime. Greg was very embarrassed about this and wouldn't go and stay at friends overnight. I believe the worse thing you can do as a parent is make them feel ashamed. I do have a nursing background and am also aware that in some children their bladders can be immature and they just don't have the control that most kids have. I would suggest that you try what we did: get he/she up when you go to bed and cut down on evening drinks. If this doesn't work go to your Dr. and talk to him about this issue. They may want to check and make sure there isn't a physical problem there. You can get a device at home healthcare stores that gives your child a slight shock when they start to pee, which wakes them up. It does not hurt them really. I don't know how you feel about that. Boys also have more issues with night time training. I would still go and talk to my Dr. before I purchased one of these devices and ask his/her opinion.

Karen - posted on 11/01/2011

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I had 3 kids and they all wet the bed til they were that old and one of them was much older. I had to put diapers on them too. It was a hassle but eventually they did out grow it. The medication for that tends to have bad side effects so I chose not to go that route.

Regina J - posted on 11/01/2011

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Post a reply!he or she may sleep to slient so you may wont to set alam to weak you to take to pottie for about aweek or two thats what i done he great on his own after that

Tracy - posted on 11/01/2011

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Hello Jenny, It took my son 11 Years to stop wetting the bed. Hes 12 now. It does take boys longer to mature. Just have some patients with him and some understanding. He will stop... I talked to the doctor. I wouldnt worry about it. I hope that hepled!!! ;-)

Beth - posted on 11/01/2011

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I hated wetting the bed but nothing helped me. I wish there had been pull ups way back then.

Peggy - posted on 11/01/2011

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My son had a problem with bed wetting until he was 8 1/2. We got a couple of crib mattress protectors and put them on top of his sheet, and he wore pull ups. The mattress protectors saved me from washing sheets every day, and the whole thing eventually passed. He wasn't doing it on purpose and it upset him whenever it happened. Restricting his fluids helped, but did not solve the problem. I really didn't want to medicate him, so we just waited and encouraged him, and eventually it stopped.

Elaine - posted on 11/01/2011

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My son was in pull ups until he was 10, he slept so heavily that even that would not wake him, he is now 13 and is fine.

Izzy - posted on 11/01/2011

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My 7 year old still wets her bed some nights and she tells me she just has a dream that she is on the toilet and lets go. I believe her because i wet my bed till i was about 12 and i also would just dream i was on the toilet.

Pamela - posted on 10/31/2011

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Why would you have a 6 year old child in pull ups? Excuse my bluntness, but it seems that the child is in charge here, not the parent.

How long will you tolerate the behavior? That's how long he'll be in pull ups.

Lila - posted on 10/31/2011

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I took my son to the doctor for this problem and he was given a tablet i cant remember what but it cured it it is something that niether restricting fluids or going to the bathroom before bed will help,It definitly is not their fault and should not be berated for it, hope this helps

Georgia - posted on 10/31/2011

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Get him a Potty Pager. My son peed the bed and wore pull-ups until he was about 10 or 11! The Potty Pager is expensive (about $80, I think), but it works. You put it into the front pocket area of his tighty whitey's. At the first micro drop of moisture, it vibrates pretty forcefully and wakes him up. It took less than a week with the Potty Pager, and he never wore a pull-up again. His pediatrician said it was just a matter of his brain not being developed enough to wake him from a deep sleep when he needed to pee. Good luck! Oh, and check ebay for the Potty Pager.

Sarah - posted on 10/31/2011

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Try bringing him to the chiropractor! We had this problem with our daughter... brought her to the chiropractor and she hasn't wet the bed but 1 or 2 times since and its been over 2 years. Its definitely worth a shot!

Suzy - posted on 10/31/2011

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I have a niece that wet the bed until she was 11 or 12. Her parents finally took her to the Doc and she had a medical condition. She had to have a procedure done. You should take him to be checked out just to be on the safe side.

Becky - posted on 10/31/2011

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My daughter wet the bed until she was nearly 8 years old. Everynight. There weren't pull ups for her to use. I wish there had been. She got up wet, sometimes 2 or 3 times during the night. I took her to the doctor, tried everything. She wasn't allowed a drink before bed for a while. No, she was not lazy. She hated it. She would get up and remove bedding and her clothes because she was cold. She would wrap up in a clean blanket and go back to bed. I don't know what it was that made a difference. She just finally stopped wetting the bed. Of course it was difficult to have to was sheets and blankets everyday. But, it had to be worse for her to wake up cold and wet. My family including my husband thought she could stop. I know when she was finally able to stop, she did.

Cynthia - posted on 10/31/2011

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Its OK. he probably sleeps to strong to wake himself up, so wake him up and get him to the bathroom, and don' t give him liquids 2 hrs. before bed.and reward him each time he did not wet the bed. this may work for him but don;t give up.Keep trying I know its not easy.

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2011

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It's a common problem, especially with boys. His bladder has not caught up with his growth!!! He should wear Pull-Ups, but it should be a "non-issue". No discipline & no rewards. He will not be wearing Pull-Ups when he leaves for college.

Aurelia - posted on 10/31/2011

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Don't let him drink after a certain time, and make him use the bathroom before bed

Kristin - posted on 10/31/2011

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I had stress incontinence as a child, brought on by my parents divorcing and me not knowing where or with whom I would be living. Eventually I went to live with my dad and his new wife. She put so much pressure on me about still wetting the bed at 7, that it just made the situtation worse. She tried all sorts of things, which simply humiliated me. That just added to the stress I felt. You can't treat stress incontinece by applying more stress. I was 12 by the time I stopped wetting the bed, but I'm sure I would have had dry nights much sooner if my stepmother hadn't added so much extra stress. In you son's case, I would say steer clear of anything that adds more stress to him about his bed wetting. Otherwise you run the risk of adding stress incontinence to the issues of his bladder maturity. And that could make the issues continue long after his body is mature enough to cope.

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2011

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He's probably telling the truth...my son still wears them as well (he's 5). One night, he vomited and went right back to sleep without waking us. My husband found vomit in his hair in the morning - otherwise we'd never have known. Some kids are just hard sleepers! Don't worry...I try not to.

Catherine - posted on 10/31/2011

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give it time there bladers are small and is 1 of the last things to catchup my brother was 13 it is natural for some children not to worry

Evelyn - posted on 10/31/2011

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It isn't unheard of, my oldest daughter went even longer than that wetting her bed and wearing her Pull-ups but just reassure yourself, speak to your doctor as he/she may have some suggestions.

Jessica - posted on 10/31/2011

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Tell him when they are gone, they are gone. If he wets the bed, he will just have to lie in it until you get up to strip the bed. Also, making him strip his own bed and throw the sheets in the wash helps. Also, showers immediately following getting up out of bed we found to do the trick. We had the same issue with our now 5 year old. Once we did what I said, we were fine. Good luck!

Denise - posted on 10/31/2011

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He is likely telling the truth. My son was almost 13 before he stopped wetting at night and wore pullups until then. Some kids bladders mature late. The doctor told me that by age 5 - 50percent of boys are dry and then every year a few more percent are dry. So believe your son and be thankful for pullups.

Dana - posted on 10/31/2011

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Do you have a plastic sheet or cover on your bed? Does he feel wet when he wakes up? Does he wake up after he's wetted the bed? I only ask because an idea that worked with my son is I put a plastic cover or sheet on his bed. He wet the bed a few times and would wake up because it got cold. It wasn't long before he could "feel" the need to go and woke up to go. Also make sure he goes right before bedtime and doesn't have anything to drink after he's gone just before bedtime.

Sharon - posted on 10/31/2011

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Ig he can stay drug in a pull up it didn't a physical problem. Just explain he is too old to west pull ups. Then just deal with it. Never ever get mad or upset with him. Just change the sheets. Have him do it. It might last a while. Don't give in or he wollbe 12 and eating them. Remember you are the one who needs to make decisions. It's not what's easy that is usually the right decision.

Jodi - posted on 10/31/2011

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This is not uncommon. I had a friend who's son wet the bed until he was about 10. I have degree in child psych and this is common in boys especially if he is an active kid and sleeps deep. Don't worry. Nobody ever walkeup to the podium to get their high school diploma in a diaper.

Courtney - posted on 10/31/2011

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This is highly possible. My brother had this issue as well (he is now an adult, and grew out of it LOONG ago). His dr's informed our parents it was part of natural development and that his hormones were not quite maturing as fast as his body. with time and patience he grew out of it.

Monica - posted on 10/31/2011

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My son didn't stop wetting until he was 10, and apparently my husband had the same issue when he was a child. My son is a really deep sleeper, so despite double voiding before bed, and even trying a bed wetting alarm, he would still wet his bed. We used a plastic liner on his bed to prevent the mattress from getting wet, and used absorbant mats, (like they use in hospitals) when he hit an age where he really didn't want to use pullups. Once he wet, he would tend to wakeup, then learned to change himself, put his soiled clothes and remove the wet mat, go to the bathroom in case he still needed to pee some more, then go back to bed. After a while he started to wake up in time to go to the bathroom. But as everyone said, this isn't a case of laziness. Ask your pediatirician, but it's problaby his bladder not having caught up to him, and perhaps being a deep sleeper.
Incidently, to wash soiled clothing, I soak the in water and soda or borax first, run them through the rinse cycle than wash.

Rhonda - posted on 10/31/2011

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My eldest son wet the bed for years, he is a very eavy sleeper. I spent an absolute fortune on devices, drugs and nasal sprays to stop him wetting the bed. The best think I did was o take him to am accipinturist. It did take sometime and it may sound daunting but it diffinately worked. She was a marvel and I would recommend it to anyone having a problem

Laurel - posted on 10/31/2011

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The responses indicate this is quite normal. Perhaps he can be in charge of stripping his own bed and washing his own linens when this happens. A six year old is absolutely old enough to perform this task. Hope it all works out. :)

Bridgette - posted on 10/31/2011

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Boys at 6 do that it is a normal thing for them to sometimes do that Physically. My child being autistic used the larger new bed time pullups. Rarely boys at this age do have a problem it is wise to consult a urologist.

Stacey - posted on 10/31/2011

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my 5 year old still wet the bed and im not at all worried she has pull ups at night she really does not know when she needs a wee while she is asleep n id rather she had pull ups on than wash her sheets every day

Jolene - posted on 10/31/2011

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This is NOT laziness. This is a physical issue that his bladder has not caught up with his body. I went through this with my daughter who wet the bed longer than this. I took her to a pediatric specialist who said this is normal. The ONLY thing that really works is time. Limiting fluids, alarms, waking them up does not really help and this came from her pediatrician and the specialist. Eventually he will outgrow it. My daughter too wore pull-ups but we referred to them as "nighttime underwear" because that is what they were. I put a waterproof mattress pad on her bed too. If she leaked through I never scolded her. She knew she had to strip her bed, put the sheets in the washer, and when she was old enough start the washer and make her bed. Until she was old enough (and six is old enough) I started the washer and helped her make her bed. Doing this helped her take responsibility for it but did not make her feel bad or feel like she had done something wrong.

Joanna - posted on 10/31/2011

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Yep normal. I wet the bed til I was around 10 and had occasional accidents after. I was not lazy, I was horrified and I was teased mercilessly by my brother. I had my grandmother pinning dishtowels on me when i stayed at her house. If I could have stopped it, I would have. How I wish they had, had pullups back then. I was potty trained at 17 months but somehow, I couldn't control it at night. My 6 year old still wets, but luckily she is not upset by it like I was, as now I have pull ups for her to use. And that is just normal for her, and so she doesn't feel bad like I did, at least I hope she doesn't. But please don't make him feel worse by bringing attention to it. eventually he will be able to control it.

Michele - posted on 10/31/2011

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I took my son into a specialist at about age 6. He said that 85% of six year olds are able to wake up and use the loo. Each year after that 85% more are able to wake themselves up (85% of the 15%). Rarely does he see 9 year olds who are unable to wake themselves up.
At 10 my son still sleeps HARD! and there are nights when he has an accident.
I would check with your pediatrician to be sure that your son does not have a medical reason for his accidents and also help him to be successful by limiting liquids right before bed and using the loo right before bed. (For a while, we even woke him up before we went to bed and had him go). Hope this was helpful!!

Marie - posted on 10/31/2011

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I have a son who does the same thing, I tried waking him at night to go pee, he is so asleep it's no use. His Dr. say's he'll most likely out grow it. It does help to have him go pee before bedtime, no drinks an hour before, except a sip. Hope this helps you, good luck!

Grace - posted on 10/31/2011

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I would also talk to your pediatrician. There may be some developmental issues associated with his bladder. I don't think it is laziness though. No one wants to wake up wet. This is the reason they make night time trainers for this age, because bed wetting for one reason or another still happens.

Penny - posted on 10/31/2011

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In no way is he lazy! and I sincerely hope no one tells him he is! His body/bladder just hasn't matured enough. Some kids just take longer. Its part of what makes us all unique! When his body is ready, he will stop having wet nights! Try waking him during the night and taking him to the bathroom, make sure he goes to bathroom before bedtime, and limiting beverages after 6pm. this is often hereditary so check with family members about what the best solutions might be. BUT MOST OF ALL, NEVER EVER PUNISH HIM OVER SOMETHING HE HAS NO CONTROL OVER!.

Terralyn - posted on 10/31/2011

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My personal opnion, if he was wetting himself daytime because he didn't want to stop what he was doing to go to the bathroom thats lazy. night time is another matter, kids don't have a whole lot of control over whether or not they wake up in the middle of the night. My friends son wet the bed until he was 12 and after numerous trips to different dr's and trying different perscriptions etc they finally told her that children develop a hormone that allows bladder control at night and until that hormone is present nothing you can say or do will help. punishment over something they have no control over is cruel in my opinion. Hang in there, he will develop this hormone and he will be fine, just don't be stressed about it and yes the doctor said boys develop this hormone much later than girls. Waking him in the middle of the night and making him go to the bathroom will just mean he does not get the sleep he needs and can make the matter worse. the best solution is to continue with the pullups until he no longer wets the bed. its less embarrassing for your son and less laundry for you. to me that makes for a win win situation. Good Luck!

Rebecca - posted on 10/31/2011

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Every child is different. My son well be six years old this coming April. Well he just now started potty training thank god!, he also has problems at night so we always put a pull up on him before he goes to bed just to be safe. plus he usually has a sippy big no no. its normal i think a lot of children wet their selves at night.

Darlene - posted on 10/31/2011

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hes not lazy! i have 3 kids and they all had issues with over night wetting. I talked to our pediatrician and to some older ladies and came up with solutions. different one for each kid. but it is very common and in my experience genetic!

the common thread for my kids was to limit fluids in the evening, and to put a path of the tiny night lights to the bathroom so if they did get up in the night theyd have a lighted way. wake up early and get to the bathroom quick. but if he cant feel that he needs to go or is going it may be something medical.

So chin up, he is not the only one and it may take a while but he will have some dry nights in his future. NEVER PUNISH!!!!! use some little rewards but dont make too big of a deal cuz its kind of embarrassing. and remember they make under jams and good nights for kids as old as 12 and 13 for a reason! Good luck!

Francine - posted on 10/31/2011

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Please don't blame him for this. The urinary tract system doesn't actually totally mature to age 13...or so I have read in a book about bed wetting. My son is six as well and wears goodnights every night and wakes up wet every morning (just about). He is a very deep sleeper and doesn't wake up to pee. During the day he goes frequently but doesn't hold it for too long. He is embarrassed by this and feels badly because his sister never had this problem. My grandmother has told me that two of my uncles had this problem till they were 8-10 years old. It is common with boys. Please don't be hard on him! I am strict by most people's standards with my kids, but I have never and will never blame my son for something he can't control.

Robynn - posted on 10/31/2011

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MY SON IS SEVEN AND WEARS ONE TO BED EVERY NIGHT TO, HE ALSO HAS A BED WETTING PROBLEM. LET HIM WEAR ONE TO BED BUT CUT OFF HIS WATER ABOUT 6PM EVERYNIGHT. AND SEE WHAT HE SAYS WHEN HE WAKES UP DRY EVERY MORNING. HOPE THIS HELPS.

Jayne - posted on 10/31/2011

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My son was exactly the same but we decided that he would never learn whilst wearing pull ups so we decided to take them off and although he has a few accidents as long as we get him up before we go to bed all is ok. He is 8 now and things are much better. Hope this helps, Jayne

Ariana - posted on 10/31/2011

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my 7 year old has had the same problem his whole life! We just got a bedwetting alarm last week and it is helping and begining to boost his confidnece! It is a Malem ultimate. We got it on reccomendation from our pediatrition. www.bedwettingstore.com

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