Question for anyone who's daughter has or had long hair.

Shannintipton - posted on 10/27/2011 ( 109 moms have responded )

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My daughter is five and has hair down to her butt. I love it and hate it at the same time. Sometimes its a real pain to wash and style but I love how it looks. The problem is everyone keeps touching it or plays with it and it driving her crazy. I dont know if I should cut it or not. I know stupid questions but I was wondering if there was anyone out there who has cut there daughters long hair and regretted it. Please let me know if you have done this. Thanks

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Kellie - posted on 10/27/2011

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Shannin, tell her to politely tell people to please not touch her hair. Really they're not respecting her personal space and need to start.

I also agree with the others, ask her and let her decide, she's old enough :)

Heather - posted on 10/28/2011

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Hi Shannin. My daughter will be 5 in December and her hair is as long as your daughters. I love it and so does she. I would check out this site, http://www.dreamweaverbraiding.com/index... - they have really great instructions on how to make french braids. Not an easy decision - good luck!

Dolly - posted on 10/27/2011

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As a little girl I had really long hair.. .My mom tried to trim it herself one day and made an ooops! It wasn't even so she tried again.. still not even.. It was eventually even... But she ended up cutting in to almost chin length (mine was not as long as your daughters) Still I was devistated!...



Just realize it really needs to be her decision! She is old enough now to take an active role in caring for herself. My daughter knows if she wants long hair she is responsible for keeping it out of her food.. helping brush it, wash it, etc. Even if that just means she gets herself dressed to save me time so I have more time to work on her hair once she is done! So She has to either decide its worth having people touch / mess with or to let you cut it. But you don't want to force it on her.. I was so upset and obviously still remember it to this day as a tramatizing event!

Katherine - posted on 10/28/2011

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Trim it a few inches. See how that goes. You don't have to do it all at once. Definitely don't chop, and if you do donate it to locks for love. But DON'T.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/28/2011

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Shannin, ask your daughter what SHE wants. If she wants to keep it long, she will tell you. Give her the option of cutting it, and see how she responds.

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Shannintipton - posted on 11/03/2011

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Thank you ladies for all your input. I think I am going to take about three or four or maybe two inches off. LOL This is going to be so hard. But I think she really means its when she said she wants it shorter. I will ask her again. I am going to close this thread and thanks so much. I may open it again after I cut it. Talk to you soon. :)

Shannintipton - posted on 11/03/2011

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Tiffany, I never thought about it that way. Some things cant grow back. that is an excellent point. You may have just helped me make my decision. Thanks for your input. :)

Saundra - posted on 11/03/2011

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Shannin,
I cut my daughters long hair and wished I had never done it, however she seems to really like it.

Carrie - posted on 11/03/2011

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I love long hair for girls! I find that with my daughters hair, braiding it before bed is helpful. We brush it each morning and then again before bed. Yes it takes time, but keeping it well kept keeps it healthy.

Danielle - posted on 11/02/2011

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I cut my daughter hair and actually ended up loving it! I think it really shows off her cute little face. Also, my daughters and I all enjoy growing our hair out and then cutting it off just so we can donate it to Locks of Love. They make wigs for children with hair loss from things like alopetia and Leukemia. They always get excited when they are just inches away from being able to donate and it's a really great feeling knowing youre doing such a wonderful thing for someone else and you get a new do in return...just a thought. good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 11/02/2011

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My daughter is 3 and her hair was down just past her waistline before we cut it. It was gorgeous and wavy... but it tangled ALL the time and she screamed bloody murder when we tried to brush it. So we cut it to her shoulder blades. Its still "long" but easier to manage. I do not regret it much, but I do miss the pretty curls and waves it used to have.

As for your siutation, think about it this way, it might look nice but this might be creating a real deep emotional impact on your daughter that can't be re-grown like hair can. If she's really bothered, there is no point in putting her through that. Cut it enough that no one touches it anymore, but dont go shorter than you both like.

Ivy - posted on 11/02/2011

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My daughter has hair the same length and she loves her hair,
we trim it all the time, her hair is thick & beautiful, my daughter is 9. One day she went with her dad to get a trim and ended up cutting a bit more in the front, her idea. She has regretted it ever since. She gets her hair in her face all the time now. But she can't ever say she didn't try something new. I am glad she tried the bang area first, just to get the taste of short hair out of her system. I always comb her hair in the morning and her being in sports, I have to tie it back all the time and it has to be tight to last all day, that is a chore, LOL but it makes her happy having it long so I deal with it. I also have to help her shampoo and condition it, not to mention blow drying it.
I get a break in the winter when I don't have to pull it back as much with the cooler weather, she likes wearing it down. Thank you Lord : ) But when I do pull it back I have less people pawing at her hair, since we live in Texas, I have it braided most of the year. Most of the people we encounter ask permission first to touch her hair, which is nice. Get her a shirt that reads " ASK PERMISSION 1st!" in different colors for different days of the week : )

Marie Jayne - posted on 11/02/2011

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Try cutting it bit by bit, if you're sure thats what she wants.. As for people touching her hair, tell her to ask them politely not to, or if you're with her when they do it, just tell them that she doesnt like having people touch or stroke her hair. Hope this helps.

Shannintipton - posted on 11/01/2011

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Hi Joyce, I wanted to rate your post as funny too. But I dont know if I would think it is funny if it had happened to us. So I didnt rate it funny. But it does sound like it worked out for you guys. Thats a plus.

Joyce - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter took the decision out of my hands when she chopped a huge chunk out of one side and it and to be cut. (I ended up keeping her ponytail) It is SO much easier and she loves it. Best thing is it can always grow back.

Patricia - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter had long hair, and it was such a pain to take care of because she didn't care how messy it would get. I loved the long hair, and assumed she did too, so one day when she was being particularly cranky about my brushing it, I said, "If you don't sit still and let me fix your hair I'm just going to cut it all off." Rather than get upset she said, "Okay!" Well, I cut it off and she loved it....and she looked adorable too!

Diana - posted on 11/01/2011

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I cut my daughter's hair when she was 6 because she was tired of long hair. I was so sad because it was so pretty, but I figured that it was her hair not mine. It still looked cute short. It's just hair...it grows back. Now she's 9 & it's almost back down to her waist. She has decided that she doesn't want short hair again even though it was much easier to take care of, but I made it her decision, not mine. When I was little I had the opposite issue with my hair. All I ever wanted was long, pretty hair like my cousin, but everytime we would go to the hairdresser my mom would insist it be cut like a boy. When I moved in with my Grandparents when I was 11 (medical issues) my Grammy said that I could have my hair however I wanted it as long as I took care of it because it was mine. I loved that & wanted to give my girls the same kind of authority (as far as length that is) even though they were young. I figured if I don't make a big deal out of it now maybe they won't shave it off or dye it green when they are older. LOL. :) If she likes it long though, I would just mention to everyone that she really doesn't like when people touch it.

Nicole - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter is 3 1/2 yrs old and her hair has been down to her butt since she was 2 1/2. I have only cut about 2 inches, just so that wiping her butt would be easier. I can't bear the thought of cutting it off. She loves it, I love it, family loves it. However, I keep it in braids or a french braid most of the time, this way people are less apt to play with it and it keeps the knots at bay. I too had long hair as a child and like some of these moms have stated, I too ended up with a cut that I hated. Back then Dorothy Hamil was very popular and I loved her hairstyle. The cut turned out to be too short and it looked nothing like hers. I'm not cutting my daughters hair until it either becomes a real problem or she wants to do it. Even then I will do nothing drastic. Good luck. Oh and remember that detangling conditioner is your best friend! :)

Meagan - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter and I both had butt length hair. We went and got ours cut at the same time :) It was too much work taking care of both of our hair after my 2nd was born. I didn't want to make her deal with it ..if I couldn't so off it went!! and it all got donated! She loved her short and sassy hair.. I think I was more upset than she was. I miss our hair but it sure has made things alot easier!!!

Karen - posted on 11/01/2011

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Don't do it unless you are sure! I cut my oldest daughters and hated it afterward. My youngest had to wear short cuts because her hair was so thin. Just politely ask people not to mess with her hair.

Candace - posted on 11/01/2011

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My oldest daughter also had long thick hair at five. I used to put her hair in two long braids for school because if I did not, it became tangled. This also stopped her and others from running thier hands through it. I never thought of cutting her hair, until one day when she was a little older, I asked her what she wanted for her birthday. She replied that she wanted to cut her hair. Since hair is a very personal thing for a girl, I let her decide when she wanted to cut it. Afterall, she is the one that has to wear it. If your daughter decides instead of you, she may have less regret after the fact. It also gives a child some autonomy.

Eloah - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter had hair to the back of her knees and when we decided to cut it because kids kept playing with it, we regretted the cut as did she, as a compromise we put it in a ponytail then braided that and put that braid up again into the top scrunchy. It looked cute, kept it tangle-free, and the other kids left it alone for the most part.
Good luck!

Eloah - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter had hair to the back of her knees and when we decided to cut it because kids kept playing with it, we regretted the cut as did she, as a compromise we put it in a ponytail then braided that and put that braid up again into the top scrunchy. It looked cute, kept it tangle-free, and the other kids left it alone for the most part.
Good luck!

Mary - posted on 11/01/2011

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Cut it to a length that is more manageable. Super long hair has it's drawbacks. Leave it so she can still have all the fun of pony tails etc but so if it's down it's not so tempting of her or others(who shouldn't) to touch. She can always grow it back if she wants to.

Amanda - posted on 11/01/2011

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I had bobbed hair until I was five, and then wanted to grow it out. My mom's take on it was that long hair was great, but *I* would have to take sole responsibility for keeping it clean, neat, and out of my face at all times, because she was not about to fool with detangling long hair. I always wore mine in a braid or bun to keep it tangle-free and to keep people from fooling with it. Still do, actually.

Hayley - posted on 11/01/2011

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It is not right for people to be touching her hair without her consent. If he enjoys it there really is not a problem so keep it long. If it annoys her getting touched all the time plait or braid it or put it in a bun so it is less tempting to touch. Unless it is cut into a bob style it will still require a lot of maintenance half way down her back so if you like it and she likes it, keep it just tie it up more around people that can not keep their hands to themselves.

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2011

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I've had my daughter's hair down to her bum too, and had a similar problem and decided it was time to cut it to a more suitable length i.e. just below her shoulder blades and she much prefers this. Her hair has grown out a little bit longer than this again but doubt I'd ever let it get quite that long again. Just because her hair is slightly shorter doesn't make her any less feminine or girly. x

LeAnne - posted on 11/01/2011

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My daughter had long hair and we cut it best move we ever made, it was easier to manage and did keep people from touching or asking her things like does mommy have to do your hair all the time which drove her crazy, we went to a trusted friend who was a stylist she sat with books and internet pictures and let my daughter find a hair style she liked

Cassandra - posted on 10/31/2011

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As a child I had hair to my bum I was not allowed to cut having hair that long always made me feel specail. I still remember having to sit there crying while it was being combed out, and I was resentful at not being allowed to cut it. I finally cut it when I moved out, (my mom still hates my hair) It is much easier to take care of but I still miss it from time to time.

Misty - posted on 10/31/2011

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When I was 5, my hair was long, but not that long. My mother decided to cut it into a dorothy hammil type cut. We went out one time and some waiter mistook me for a boy. It made me really mad. LOL. After that, my hair was long all through my school years, and everybody liked to play with my "barbie hair" as they called it.

That having been said, my son had long hair until he was almost 3, and we let him make the decision. It really depends on your child. If she doesn't like it, it might work to cut it, but I'd talk to her and find out what she is really going to be comfortable with first. Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 10/31/2011

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I would ask your daughter what she wants to do. My Mother made me get my hair cut very short at age 12, because it was too much trouble to take care of. I was traumatized and I still remember it to this day! I didn't cut my hair again until I was 40.

Patty - posted on 10/31/2011

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Share with her the Locks of Love stories; my seven year old is growing out her hair so she can donate it. She got the idea from a friend who did it last year. It will make it meaningful to get it cut and she can always grow it back!

Ans - posted on 10/31/2011

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Don't cut it!! I cut my daughter's hair once before and although it looked cute I regretted it. She's almost four now and has hair to her lower back. I never let her wear it loose though. She either has two braids, or (my favorite), a loose bun which is soo easy to do! Pull it through once, then the second time you pull it through the elastic half, then fasten it it with those butterfly thingies. Everyone comments on it, but nobody touches it.

Selisa - posted on 10/31/2011

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I had very long hair as a girl...
I suffered for headache for many yrs, we thought I had a medical problem.... Untill the day I got my hair cought in my brother remote control car. So I had to have it cut back my shoulder... From then on I never got headaches has a child. My point is it gets heavy on there little heads.

Jayne - posted on 10/31/2011

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I cut my daughter's long hair when she was just 6 into a bob with a fringe (bangs). She told me then "now I'm going to grow my hair back and until it reaches my feet". It's now 10 years later (she just turned 16) and, when wet, her hair is between her butt and her knees. I braid it for her every day. When she went to her formal recently, it was curled (her hair curls easily) and looked stand-out amazing. One little girl we know calls her "Rapunzel" lol. Don't cut her hair - just keep it trimmed and braided (especially as it's easy to get nits at school and is difficult to treat with long hair - been there done that too).

Ann - posted on 10/31/2011

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Easy enough to do but hair falls out if you are working with fine hair...The corser the hair the better the braid stays in

Ann - posted on 10/31/2011

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I've had the same experience with my daughter when she was that young, I cut her hair and she cried and said "I want it back!!" LOL But it finally grew back...

Ann - posted on 10/31/2011

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I cried when my daughter was 18 and cut her long beautiful blonde curles....You will definatly regret it if you are like me!

Alisha - posted on 10/31/2011

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My 5 year old has never had a haircut and people always want me to cut it, which gets annoying! I would tell your daughter its ok if people she knows touches her hair but when she's doesn't want them to anymore to just say please don't play with my hair. tell her not a lot of little girls have hair that long so people love it, she's like Rapunzel!

MARLENE - posted on 10/31/2011

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I have three granddaughters and they all had long long hair one has dark hair and she is pretty good to get her hair washed and dryed but the two blondes well different story it was a fight each time and it almost needed washing ever night so there mom sat them down and asked them the question do you want long hair or what do you want nanny just about died but the youngest got hers cut right off and the other ones hair is not quite to her shoulders now they do there own

MARLENE - posted on 10/31/2011

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I have three granddaughters and they all had long long hair one has dark hair and she is pretty good to get her hair washed and dryed but the two blondes well different story it was a fight each time and it almost needed washing ever night so there mom sat them down and asked them the question do you want long hair or what do you want nanny just about died but the youngest got hers cut right off and the other ones hair is not quite to her shoulders now they do there own

Tonya - posted on 10/31/2011

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My daughter is 6 and her hair is down to her butt also. Her school friends are always combing it and changing her hair style. I told her to politely ask her friends not to comb her hair or Mom will have to cut it. It worked so now I am not surprised with a different hairstyle when I pick her up after school. My daughter wants her hair long. She looks cute with it long.

Brenda - posted on 10/31/2011

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Hi, I have 2 daughters with long hair The first one kept it long till she was in grade 8 then cut it shorter. She did regret it because is had never got to that length again. My youngest is 9 now and has hair to her mid back. There are days she wants it short and then days she wants it long. Until she sticks to one idea for a month or so I am only trimming. And...with the lice situation that seems to be invading schools as of late I tend her put her hair in a bun or pony tail etc...so it is not flying everywhere and people are not touching it all the time. Do know if this helps or not just my experience Happy Halloween.....

Sue - posted on 10/31/2011

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Your daughter is five...old enough to be able to kindly ask people not to touch her. It's her body...hands off. I'm sure if they were touching other parts of her body it would not be allowed. Neither should this. Sit down with your daughter and talk to her about things she could say to those that are touching her hair. Give her the words she needs to use without sounding like a little brat. No One has the right to touch any part of her.

Kimberly - posted on 10/31/2011

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My daughter is four years old and has long hair. When it grew down to her butt, I asked her if she wanted to have it trimmed. She never had an interest in cutting her hair, even when we would ask. I always put her hair in a pony tail so that it is out of the way while she plays or is at preschool. Eventually she let us take her to have it trimmed, just a little. I didn't want it to become too long. She understands that if she wants long hair she has to let us brush it. I make sure to use a good conditioner and keep tangle remover on hand to make brushing easier. I get looks and comments from family at the very mention of trimming her hair because they like her hair long, but it will always be her decision.

Kathy - posted on 10/31/2011

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My daughters both had long hair when they were young. My younger daughter wanted it cut when she was five. She, too, didn't like people touching it etc. I took her to a salon that specialized in kids cuts. They talked to her about different styles and showed her pictures. She picked a short hair cut. I cried when they cut it but it turned out great. She was a much happier child! AND it was easier to keep up.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/31/2011

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If she doesn't like people always touching it and wants it cut, ask her how short she wants it and just advise her towards a length you are comfortable with. My daughter's hair was really long and she wanted it cut, she pointed to about mid neck length and I talked her into letting it have layers that short and having the longest layer to just under the shoulder blades.
I myself had long hair as well when I was a child and my mom wouldn't let me get a cut until I was 12, when I finally did it, I regretted it deeply. I have thick curly hair, it's hard to find someone to cut it right, I wound up with a super puff on my head.
Good luck with it! And remember.....it's only hair, it will grow back!

Diane - posted on 10/31/2011

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hi, my daughter has long hair halfway down her back; i've also been tempted to "trim" it to a more manageable length;' but have to agree with the ladies here; let her decide and maybe show her pictures of girls with their hair in bobs (or whichever style you are looking for). its a nightmare to brush and plait my daughters hair but its just so pretty, its worth it. i agree with the plaits; and if you can't french braid; then learn - lol, its really so easy; you start with three lengths of hair and the top of the head (as you would with a normal plait) and just pick up pieces from either side of the head to join the big plait... google must have a step my step guide to french braid; and it really makes it more manageable - good luck.

Jeri - posted on 10/30/2011

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One easy solution instead of traditional braiding is to take a thin scarf or ribbons, thick or thin, and tie it around her ponytail and take the 2 ribbon pieces and braid it with her hair. Her ponytail would be one piece and the 2 ribbon pieces would be the other two pieces for a traditional braid. Is that confusing enough...lol? You can use two thin ribbons of different colors.
My neice would part hers front to back and make two side ponytails and the braid each of those and then twist each into a bun and secure it with those bright colored clips. That was really cute.

Stephanie - posted on 10/30/2011

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Both of my daughters have really long hair. My 8 year old has cried when I do her hair because of all the tangles and finally she told me to cut it so all I did was trimmed it a few inches and afterwards she cried. The other day I gave my 6 year old bangs for the first time (she asked for them) and then she cried right after it was done because she didn't like it. So sometimes they think they are ready for change but they really aren't....

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My grandaughters hair was way down her back.She recently went to Auckland to visit her dad and returned with a short bob/When I first saw it I had a few tears,but now i have got over the shock,I actually like it.Her mother I and decided it WILL grow.Now would be the best time to take th e plunge with summer just around the corner.Good Luck Shannin

Ruby - posted on 10/30/2011

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my 4 yr old has long hair about 3 quarters down her back and I'm the same its a pain to wash dry style etc but if its your daughter who hates people touching her hair simply plait it

Shannintipton - posted on 10/29/2011

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Rochelle that is a beautiful story. I will think about it. I really will. Thanks. :)

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