Question for mom's with daughters.

Hailey - posted on 11/01/2010

my daughter has screamin fits on he shop floors if we turn the simpsons off or if i wont get her sum sweets i will ignore them to a point but if she has tears down her face i tend to give in she has got a little better im just puttin it down to terribke 2`s

Kathy - posted on 05/25/2010

Ignore them. Of course she is more vocal-she is female. Wait til is a tween! Hormones and the mouth-ughhhh. Try not to teach her to talk! LOL She will move on to the yelling and crying phase with words once she learns them. Not sure what is worse though. Yeah I do-with temper tantrums you can step over them and walk away atleast. Good luck and have fun with your little princess!

Kirsty - posted on 05/25/2010

my girl has always been vocal but her temper tantrums didn't start til my son came along 3 and a half years later. In my daughters case they are a scream for attention and usually occur when i have to do something for bub. But i have noticed that the girls in my family resort to screamng and yelling more readily than the boys do, though the boys generally start doing stupid stuff that could get themselves hurt. To each their own i suppose

Emma - posted on 05/24/2010

oh dear,2 hrs i think i would of pulled my hair out! does she have a partcular thing that makes her have a tantrum? if yes is there a way that u could prevent it from happening?

Sharon - posted on 05/24/2010

I hate to say it but I had to start ignoring her when she throws her tantrums. Even out in public I have to ignore her for her to stop....basically I sit her in a corner, or the shopping cart when out, and tell her: When you are done mommy will talk to you and no I'm not embarrassed by this.

She usually stops after about three minutes now but she's had one that has lasted 2 hours when we first started this routine.

Emma - posted on 05/24/2010

I have 1 girl & 1 boy! They r 8 & 6 yrs old now! when my girl was just over 2 she used 2 b very cheeky,i used 2 just look at her,take her 2 her bedroom & tell her not 2 cum out untill she had finished being horrid! my advice would b when she starts screaming & shouting pick her up take her 2 her cot or bed & leave her there & ignore her till she has finished,if u rise 2 her tantrum she will do it even more as she will know that she has your complete attention!

Melissa - posted on 05/24/2010

I myself have three daughters and I know exactly what you mean! Girl are just more emotional and do, as Katherine put it, tend to scream like banshees. With mine, I will first try kneeling down in front of them and try to explaon to them that that they need to use their words so that I can understand the problem and help them. And tell them that if they continue to scream they will have to sit in time out until they are ready to use words rather then screaming. If they continue I will put them in time out, and tell them that when they are ready to stop screaming, I will come back in and we will talk. I give them a little bit of time, depending on how worked up they are, until they seem to be settling down and then I go back into them to talk. Honestly, at the age your little girl is, sometimes the screaming is just enough to wear them out so that they fall asleep. My girls have always seemed to throw more tantrums when they were overtired or have had too much sugar. She just needs to learn how to handle her emotions and giving her some time to herself helps her learn how to do that. My oldest two who are now 5 and 3, don't have many of these fits anymore, Im happy to say, but Im sure my 7 month old will pick up where they left off in 6 months or so. LOL. Good luck!

Angie - posted on 05/24/2010

It's just her personality, it has nothing to do with her sex - LOL. Just let her scream but walk out of the room and let her do it alone. She'll soon learn that it's no fun to yell alone....

Michelle - posted on 05/24/2010

thanks everyone you all are very helpful

Myra - posted on 05/23/2010

If you have a loud one, try throwing a wrench into her brain and hold out your arms and hug her and ask "what's the matter?" I usually let my oldest daughter who will be 2yrs old next week just have her fit for a few minutes, but if she's upset and not just having a tantrum, I hug her and ask what's bothering her. But two very simple, yet easy things to overlook is hunger and being sleepy. I usually let her have her fit for a few minutes, hug her ask her what's wrong, then ask if she wants a snack or nap. Surprisingly, her tantrums don't last very long.

It seems with her, and maybe yours, too, that little girls just need comfort...that whatever the fit is over doesn't mean you don't care about their feelings or their want.

Amanda - posted on 05/23/2010

My daughter is 6 and she still screams. I have found that holding her and speaking in a calm voice and repeating what she says (in simple terms, eg. you're mad because you want a cookie, you want a cookie now) until she calms down, then explaining why she can't have what she wants usually worked at that age.(She only screams now when she thinks she is misunderstood or frustrated, due to a developmental disorder, but a similar approach still works).

Melissa - posted on 05/23/2010

I have twin girls that are now 7yrs old, have u tried just ignoring her? Sometimes they think it will get ur attention, so act like it doesn't phase you.

Tracy - posted on 05/23/2010

I put my daughter in her room when she started that, with the stipulation that she can come out when she's ready to be polite around the rest of the family. Now, at 3 she puts herself in her room for a good scream, comes out and says "I all better now". And she knows, if she needs to scream, then come tell us what the problem is, that's GREAT. Her "no" phase lasted a week. And now the screaming fits are short, she'd rather just come talk it out. I'm still dreading the pre-teen through teen years though

Erryn - posted on 05/23/2010

try sitting her in a playpen, or something like that with a warm bottle and a quiet toy. if that doesnt work i find laying down with them for 5 minutes to settle them helps.. generally after doin that my daughter falls asleep

Michelle - posted on 05/23/2010

Thanks Katherine :)

Katherine - posted on 05/23/2010

LOL welcome to having a female. They scream like banshees I tell you.



*sigh* It's hard, the screaming makes me want to scream but, well girls are much more emotional. That's how they display their frustration and anger. I would give her a quiet time. 1 minute (ha ha that's what they recommend) But seriously? Walk away....she'll probably follow you and continue it wherever you go. Mine used to do that,she's almost 5 and my other one is 14mo. Both girls so I feel you :)