Reasonable amount for pocket money for a 12-yr old.

Hanna - posted on 09/18/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Hi,
my husban'td older son has recently moved to live with us. what is a reasonable amount of money to give him for pocket money a week? in return he will be expected to clean his room, pick up his stuff from common areas and do 2 chores in the house -- feed & walk our dogs and do dishes/clean the kitchen once a day.
thanks in advance, it's a new territory for me, my son is only 18 months old:)

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Jodi - posted on 09/18/2010

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And why should it go further? That's life and learning to manage your money more carefully. My wages, once I started working, never went far either, but I just had to get by!!

Geoia - posted on 06/23/2011

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Some may pay $20 a week but I wouldn't pay that!!! I have "base pay rates" for my kids. For the 8 year olds it's £4/week and for my 13 year old it's £6.50/week but they can earn money for good behaviour and have it taken away. Here's what they've earnt in the last 5 weeks each:

Clairke (8) = £2, £5, £8, £4.30, £2.50

Oliver (8) = £2.50, £4, £6.50, £4.90, £6

Madisse (13) = £6, £10, £12, £6, nothing

Last week Madisse got nothing because I had to collect her from school because she was being violent so it went down to £1.50 and she started swearing at me when we got home so it went down 10p for every "naughty phrase" she used until it was nothing. But she's not normally like this i think something must have happened at school so i may be slipping in an extra few coppers next week.



They have to tidy their bedroom but no other chores if they don't tidy their room that's being naughty so I'll take off some money - generally if they just don't do it I'll take off 50p-£1 but if they make a fuss if i ask them to do it (for instance if we have guests) I may take off up to £3. If they have a full-out tantrum (Oliver sometimes does) then it'll be up to £5 off even if that means no pocket money.

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My almost 9 year olds don't/won't ever recieve an allowance. They can do 'extra' work other than what I normally require of them and I'll usually pay them $1-2 for that. I provide for all their needs. If they want anything else they can work extra for it. If I shelled out $16/week to them... they'd have more 'free spending' money than I have. ;)

Jodi - posted on 09/19/2010

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Allow me to clarify to chores for pocket money thing. The chores are non-negotiable, pocket money or no pocket money. I absolutely agree that kids shouldn't be "paid" for being part of the family. However, from my perspective, paying a child an allowance is also a positive step toward teaching them the value of money and how to manage it. It can be a brilliant way of teaching kids to save hard for what they want. So in my case, my son gets an allowance ONLY if he does his chores. If I have to battle him to get the chores done, he doesn't get his allowance, or he gets a reduced allowance because he has to pay *me* to do that chore, or to nag him, if you can see what I mean. But, it is very clear that his chores are his chores regardless of that allowance, and they are his job as part of the family.

And no, kids shouldn't have reduced chores when they find a job, unless they are paying a decent amount of board. Honestly, getting a job outside the home doesn't reduce the fact that they are part of the household.

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Sam - posted on 09/21/2010

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Hi all, Im with Sherri, i don't give mine an allowance ( or pocket money ) because i think they have everything they need already, if we go somewhere we buy everything, if they need anything we get it, my oldest (11) does her house hold chores, but doesnt get paid for it, as i see tidying her own room, and putting away her clothes etc as part of living as a family and tidying up after herself is good for her, she will have to do it when she has her own place someday. If she wants any extra money, for phone credit etc then we will give her some other things to do, ie wash her nanna's car, which she loves to do anyway :) xxx

Tracy - posted on 09/21/2010

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I have 4 kids, 14, 12, 8, 6....knowone gets a paid allowance. my thoughts are we all live in this house, and we should all contribute time to maintain and enjoy it. My kids from time to time will get some extra $ to go to the store with or if I think they have earned something special. My kidss basically get to do fun activities, like movies, swimming,rock climbing, stuff like that. If you contribute to making things good for everyone, we can all enjoy something together. If my older kids ask to go to a movie, I will give them $10 to go to a movie. My older 2 can now babysit, and thats how they are learning to budget their own $. My kids all have after school activities that they do, that cost me $. Im a single mom, I cant afford it all, and I think its important that they know I am doing all I can for them, and that they can help out with things as simple as doing the dishes after dinner. If there is something I know they really want, I usually suggest they put it on a wish list for bdays/christmas. tryin to teach my kids need, not always want.
it should be a respectable thing, if you ask your 12 year old to help out, he should do it out of respect, not because he may possibly earn $1 for it.
Goodluck :)

Rachel - posted on 09/20/2010

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I would think $10 is a good amount. I didn't have an allowance growing up but I wish I had. It would have taught me some important financial lessons early on. Just try to teach him how to use and save his money responsibly.

Jane - posted on 09/19/2010

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Standard rule of thumb for those that do give an allowance is $1.00 per year of age. So, for a 12 year old, 12 bucks a week. I'm all for allowance but some are not. Sounds like you're willing to pay an allowance so I'd go with the $12.00/week deal.

Angie - posted on 09/19/2010

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I don't believe that allowances should be paid for being a part of the family. The chores you listed are just part of living in the house. For instance, my 12 year old got money ($2.00) when I didn't have time to mow the lawn so she did it for me - our lawn is TINY. She gets money from her brother when she cleans his room or does his laundry. She is not paid when she cleans her room, bakes a cake, does her laundry, takes her turn changing the litter box, cleaning up after our dog, or does the dishes. I always tell my children that they get paid in food, shelter, and clothing for taking care of themselves. If she is going somewhere, to the movies with a friend or something like that, I give her admission to the movie and a few dollars for a snack. She gets money for her birthday and Christmas. She puts half in the bank and uses the rest for spending. This summer she got a job watching a neighbor's pets and was paid $10 a day (it was a dog, 3 cats, and 23 mice). She saved enough money to buy a pair of $80 Converse that I think are as ugly as a homemade sin.

Sherri - posted on 09/19/2010

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I give my 13, 12 & 4 yr old none. They are given all the money they need if they are going somewhere special, field trip etc. They get money for Christmas and Birthdays and that is the only money they receive. They are expected to help with the running of the house and no none of us get paid for this. It has worked beautifully for us.



I will say if they wish to earn money there are always opportunities but it is up to them to seek them out. Like I just severely damaged my ankle on crutches and pretty much out of commission. My oldest (13) stepped up and did all the cooking and all of the chores I couldn't do all on his own. He was rewarded for doing these things with $25. But his everday normal chores cleaning his room, bringing down laundry, emptying trash. That is his part of being in the family,.

Hanna - posted on 09/19/2010

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hello everyone, thank you very much for your responses. a dollar per year of age is a great system. i never thought of it:). yes, i was thinking along the lines of $10-15/week just for him to have some kind of money for his own personal expenses (e.g. new cool shoes that he wants in addition to the ones that we buy or a new game). he does have a cell phone (which is currently part of my plan), access to computer (which again we don't really control who he talks to) and overall, all i really want him to do is help out with the dishes and the dogs and just clean up after himself, i.e. not to leave his back pack in the middle of the living room, hang up his towel after he's done taking a shower, etc. i don't want him to do these chores because he's earning money, but i figured it would be a good way to stimulate him to do them. in addition, i will give him an opportunity to earn additional money by washing my car ($20, raking leaves in my friend's back and front yard -- she offered). so i don't want him to feel like he's being overworked, but at the same time, i don't want to have to dish out $100-$150 every time he wants another cool hat or pair of shoes that are "in" this season or another game for his pc or flowers for a girl that he likes -- he can save up for it and then decide what he wants to do with that money (except drugs of course).



as far as chores, yes he will be expected to do the same chores, probably more once he has a car because it's not a matter of his allowance, but a matter of things that need to be done in the house. i work close to 55-60 hours a week and i have an 18-m old and i still manage to find time to cook, clean, do laundry. so there's no reason why he can't do basic chores that take maybe 1hr a day. when i was his age, i had a younger sister that i was expected to take care of -- make lunch, help with homework, pack lunch box. in addition i did most of the ironing for a family of 4 (and my mother ironed everything from sheets down to socks), cleaned the house (4 stories high) every saturday and vacuumed downstairs every morning before school, did all the yard work, raked leaves and made dinner at least twice a week. and i graduated from the same program this kid is currently attending (IB) with a very high score. so i really don't see why he wouldn't be able to do it.

Jenn - posted on 09/19/2010

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Actually she did say that's he's 12 ;) Also, my personal thought is that while the kids should most certainly be responsible for some household chores as a member of the family, they shouldn't be "paid" for doing these chores. And an allowance is a great way to learn how to manage your money, which is why you should let them decide what to do with it. It's fine to encourage saving, but it shouldn't be mandatory. And I somewhat agree with Joanna - I think when kids get a bit older and start to have more responsibilities outside the house their chores should be fewer around the house, but I don't know that I'd go so far as to say that if they get a job they have no chores other than their room. I know that's not the message I'd want to send to my DH and most definitely not to my son - that if you "work" you don't have to help around the house.

Firebird - posted on 09/18/2010

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I'm with Jodi. Why should it go further? He's just a kid. If you need it to go further, save up. And by mathematical terms, to 'round it off' would be to drop it to $10 dollars per week, if her stepson is 12 years old. But she hasn't given his age. What if he's only 7? Why would he need $20 a week? A couple of things to think about for you Hanna.... if your stepson gets a part time job in high school, will he still get his allowance? If not, is he still responsible for the same amount of chores? Just throwing that out for you as it might come up in a few years. I know people who have a house rule that if a family member get a job they no longer have to do house chores aside from cleaning their bedroom. btw I think a dollar per year of age is about perfect. Way better than the $4/week that I got!

Lyndsay - posted on 09/18/2010

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I would round it off to $20 a week. I only got $10 a week for my allowance and it never went very far.

Jodi - posted on 09/18/2010

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My son just went 13, and I do the $1 per year of age thing......for this he has to maintain his room, load and unload the dishwasher, hang washing, bring the washing in, fold it and put it away, take the rubbish to the bins, and various other chores (some things depend, I occasionally send him to the shops to buy milk, etc).

He is then responsible for purchasing his own phone credit, and anything else he wants other than necessities outside of Christmas and his birthday. It is also expected that he NOT complain about his chores, because he is part of this family and doesn't get a free ride. I will withhold his pocket money if he doesn't do his chores or decided to get the shits about doing them :)

Rachel - posted on 09/18/2010

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This would be a great age to teach him how to handle money and know how to save and how to spend on certain things. Maybe figure out about how many hours a week it would take him to do the chores and pay an hourly rate like a real job. So if it's just an hour a day then he would get $7 a week. It's not much but at that age I only received $2/week for a lot more work and I was expected to give 10% tithe to the church every week and to save most of it. I would think $7-10 would be a good weekly amount and maybe encourage him to put aside some of it for something expensive that he can save up for and then still have a couple dollars to spend on something cheap. It's never too early to teach the importance of a dollar. Good luck!!

Jenn - posted on 09/18/2010

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From what I've read/heard they say a dollar per year of age per week is a good amount. So for a 12 year old that would be $12 a week.

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