Sandra - posted on 03/23/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Hi everyone, I'm 66 and divorced. My son is almost 21. He's been living with his Dad part of the time and with me part of the time. He has always been a good kid and I love him dearly but he has become increasingly disrespectful since he was 13.
Recently he had friends over without my permission while I was away for 3 days. They brought alcohol into my home and damaged a door which is how I figured it out. He was barely apologetic and didn't seem at all remorseful.
4 weeks ago I asked him to pay 1/3 of his health insurance which would have amounted to $26.00 out of each $175 paycheck every 2 weeks. He became angry and began raising his voice & said, "You even want me to pay for my own gas! My Dad NEVER makes me pay for gas! He was so loud and rude and it was so hurtful that I made him leave. I sent him a text a week later saying that whenever he was ready, I wanted to have a conversation with him that was mutually respectful and signed with "Love, Mom" but did not get a reply.
I'm very sad and have no other family. I miss him terribly and I want to talk to him but I'm afraid he will just ignore me again and that would be even more hurtful. I'm sure his Dad is playing a big part in this because he has been condescending toward me during our marriage and since our divorce several years ago. And has never encouraged our son to be independent
Would love to hear from other moms.