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seperation anxiety at night

Heather - posted on 02/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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our 9-1/2 month old son has just recently(when waking up)at nightime started crying then screaming until we go into his room..Even prior to this we have left a nightlight + soft music playing in his room while he's sleeping.Once we go in and he sees us everything changes.Problem is that during the day he is quite happy to play independently without wondering where we are.Any thoughts or suggestions?It would be nice to nip this behaviour in the butt, sooner than later : ) Heather

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Rhea - posted on 02/26/2009

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hi, i kind of have the same problem, but my little girl is just about 20 months, some nights she wakes up in the middle of the night..what i do is pick her up and than go read her a book (a short one), and than put her back , she than goes back to sleep( i now i should not pick her up but when i lie her back down she get back up and screams) so that is what i do, and it only takes about 10 mins.. it is better than 1 hour or more of cry..



hope this helps

Anne - posted on 02/26/2009

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it might not be a behaviour problem at all.   If he has just recently started this it could be he is working on growing or teething and it hurts more at night because he isnt doing anything else and can feel the pain more.      



Before you treat it like a thing to correct I would look into seeing if he is teething or something.       My daughter is 16 months old and we have been up with her at night for the past 6 months now I think.       she has either been teething or sick or just plainly having an anxiety attack at night.     If it happend during the day would you comfort him?       So perhaps that is all he needs now too.         Personally I am learning that parenting is not just a day time job.      For me it has been a 24 hour on the clock not a lot of sleep job.      I, like you, have had the idea that I could 'nip this inthe butt'    But some times kids need things too, and maybe our agendas will ahve to wait.



Anways, check into seeing if something else is going on, to cause him to wake at night

Lindsey - posted on 02/26/2009

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My suggestion is take a chair and set beside his bed until he falls asleep the 1st night. The next night move the chair a foot towards the door and stay until he falls asleep. Keep getting closer to the door until your out and stay outside for another couple nights. By then he will be comforted then that you are near if he needs you. Worked with my son and he didn't even call for me the last couple nights. Also, get a good solid routine. Bath, snack, book in the chair w/ lights, lights off w/ you in there and then leave. Hope it helps!

Kimberly - posted on 02/26/2009

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I would just say make sure when u go in to check on him at night, make sure the lights remain off and you don't pick him up to soothe..gently lay him back down and stroke his head or rub his back to get him to go to back to sleep.



How long do you wait before you go into his room?

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