Severe Child Abuse

Iridescent - posted on 06/04/2010 ( 335 moms have responded )

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Please keep Jeremiah in your thoughts. He is my great-nephew and was beaten horribly by his mother's boyfriend. He is 16 months old.
http://www.keyc.tv/node/38090

Currently, my husband is going to the hospital as a guard as police refuse to provide any protection and they are being harassed terribly by the father's family (the father himself is in prison) and the boyfriend's family as well as news now. The hospital is unable to provide any security either.

Jeremiah's head is three times the size it usually is due to all the swelling and bruising. The left side of his face is completely swollen shut. They cannot tell if he's blind or not in his left eye. They cannot tell if he can hear out of his left ear. He has full handprints down his entire body with the exception of his butt and his stomach. A full body CT scan amazed us because somehow, his brain is not swollen and his bones are not broken, nor does he have any major organ bleeding. We do not know if he has brain damage. He used to say a few words, now he says none. He could walk earlier this week, now he cannot but it may simply be due to pain, balance, or current head swelling. He can move all his limbs and can breathe and cry. We are grateful he has survived, but with all the bruising they still have to watch for liver failure and kidney failure, seizures from the beating, brain damage...

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Jodi - posted on 06/05/2010

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Supernanny, this is a thread for support for Amy, and trying to assess the situation over the internet is not helping. As you can tell, this is very upsetting for the family, and the last thing Amy needs is someone trying to tell her that the family were in any way to blame. I am sure that this will be covered by the powers that be, what is needed right now is thoughts and support from her fellow mums.

Pam - posted on 06/09/2010

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Anyone who knows a child (up to 18) who has been abused (physical; emotionally; sexually) contact a BACA chapter to help you. BACA is Bikers Against Child Abuse - a non profit organization of bikers across the USA and in some other countries. This is a fantastic organization that helps empower children to testify against their abusers and supports them through the process and protects them from further abuse. Check them out at www.bacausa.com. If you are able you can help by becoming a supporter or a member of the organization. BACA works within the boundaries of the law and works with the court system and departments that help the children.



We need to stand up and protect our children from all forms of abuse. The only ones that need to be blamed for the abuse are the abusers and those that stand back and allow it to happen. We need to realize that most children do not tell they are being abused because of threats made against them or more importantly to them their family members. Most abusers abuse in a way that there is no physical signs. Before you start making accusations or remarks - find out the truth.



In Missouri alone there are over 150,000 convicted child abusers. How many are in your state? How many are in your community? Most states have a website that gives the name and address of these monsters - be informed - protect your loved ones.

Gina - posted on 06/06/2010

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I have heard that skin to skin contact helps babies/children heal quicker. My daughter is 7yrs old and when she is sick she likes to put her head on my chest so I wear a tank top so her ear and cheek touch my chest by my heart. Try holding Jeremiah if you can with his head touching your chest above your heart. I think this works because they feel more secure and loved. I hope Jeremiah makes a full recovery. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Reverend Ruby - posted on 06/06/2010

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The best thing to do is contact a domestic violence shelter for advice. The victim doesn't have to be a resident of the shelter to get advice. The can help by providing an advocate to go to court with them, to provide moral support. The can also help to make sure that all of the rights of both the mother and child are not being violated. The mother may have to get counseling or take a class on parenting. Contacting Child Protective Services can be a double edged sword. They sometimes over-react by removing the child from the home. If the mother has done nothing wrong, except picking abusive men, she should not lose custody of her child. She should however take a parenting class and go to counseling. There is a reason that she accepted an abusive man as a boyfriend. Domestic violence victims are created usually in childhood, someone so screwed with her self-esteem that she feels she doesn't deserve anyone better. I am sure the warning signs were there before Jeremiah was beaten. Why didn't she see them or why didn't she speak up? Why didn't she leave?
She is not at fault here except that she brought an abusive man into her home. She needs to learn and to look for the warning signs and act before she or her child are abused again.
Check out the "power and control wheel" and "The 21 signs of an abusive person" both are available online. When she is able to look at it go over these two things with her and ask her to point out where his behavior was an early warning to his horrible temper. It was there but she and her family dismissed it.
Also remember that most people who abuse anyone are also victims of abuse. It is a behavior pattern they learned in childhood. I don't believe that abusive people should be allowed to inter-act in our society, unless they get counseling and are willing to change. But we also need to undrstand that they are victims too.

Jade - posted on 06/05/2010

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Amy Lea is looking for support people!!! She didn't ask that you put her family down because this has happened...you don't know if this is a one off or not...if she says it's a one off then it is! yes the guy might have been mean to the little boy more then once but by the sounds of what amy has said its the first time he has been physicaly abused. At the moment while they are going through this they don't need you giving them shit...it's not the time or place for it. So HUSH and pray that this little boy recovers well!!!

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Ash - posted on 06/10/2010

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thats so very sad, i too had a child to a pedophile when i was 16 and just for the record not all young mothers are bad mothers.. i have raised my daughter well i am now engaged we own 2 houses i finished my education and i now have a son who is 10months i am now 19... the point is she like all mothers regardless of age needs support and love and so does her son :) and all the family.... the one saying that has stuck with me my whole life is.. " there is nothing more dangerous to a child then a stepfather" that by no means means all stepfathers just that the majority of child abuse cases are from step fathers.. if she or any of your family ever needs to talk my email is "rabbyibnish@hotmail.com"

Samantha - posted on 06/10/2010

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Amy, my family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your grand nephew at this very sad time. We pray that he makes a full recovery and that the monster that did this to him spends the maximum possible in jail! I know that all mums in South Africa will be supporting you! Please keep us updated with his progress. XX Sam

Tracy - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am so so sorry that poor little child had to endure the abuse he did....honestly what the hell is wrong with some people??? Our thoughts and best wishes are with you and family, and I hope the little Jeremiah recovers fully and with little or no memory of this abhorrent treatment. I hope this man gets hit with the full extent of the law!!!

Robin - posted on 06/10/2010

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The mother knew he was violent. Sanity is seeing things for the way they really are. Mothers must fiercely protect their innocent from violence or they are guilty themselves.

Amy - posted on 06/10/2010

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I know that it won't be much consolation, but people who hurt children don't tend to fare well in prison. The only reason that I say this, is that back in my younger, pre-mom days, I dated a guy that did some time. He, and others that I have met that are ex-cons say the same thing: they don't tolerate people who hurt kids.

It's not much, but at least remember that justice for Jeremiah is comming.

Elaine - posted on 06/10/2010

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Prayers for little Jeremiah and the rest of the family. I hope he heals quickly and has no lasting effects, physical or otherwise, from this awful experience.

Cynthia - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am so repulsed by the treatment Jeremiah received. I pray for him. Thank God, His Guardian Angel somehow shielded Jeremiah. I pray that he forgets the trauma and that there is no permanent damage.

Jennifer - posted on 06/10/2010

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You got me crying. I'm not an attorney but the hospital is legally responsible for Jeremiah's safety and security. Get copies of all related medical reports and get photos. This is evidence that must be used so the monster who did this gets prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
No broken bones, no brain swelling, no major organ bleeding and range of motion are good signs. Severe pain and psychlogical trauma are probably preventing him from walking and talking. Soft tissue trauma and organ rupture are a concern that need to watched carefully. For what it's worth, I'll put Jeremiah in my prayers along with Kyron Horman.

Markita - posted on 06/10/2010

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Oh wow, I just don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you, his mom and the entire family. I hope and pray he recovers and is back to his normal self in no time. Many prayers coming your way.

Jane - posted on 06/10/2010

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What's with boyfriends hitting little children? My prayers for Jeremiah for a speedy recovery and no lasting affects. I hope this boyfriend will be happy in prison.

Kimberly - posted on 06/10/2010

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Oh my Goodnes!!! I hope that fella gets a big package when he goes into jail. How can anyone do such a thing on a child when he's only so young... Haven he been a baby before too.... But anyway, enough of him. The law will deal with him..... Most importantly now will be to take good care of yourselves and baby. I'm sure he'll receive lotsa prayers from everyone who knows about this and get well soon. :-) Do keep up updated. Take care!

Dora - posted on 06/10/2010

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That is a crime! I hope it gets treated as such. That won't help Jeremiah, but it might prevent this happening to someone else. I'm so sorry, Jeremiah! There are people who don't deserve children!

Christine - posted on 06/10/2010

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That's so sad. I am sending him love and hope. Thank goodness he has family like you and your husband to help protect him. See if you can report it to the children's aid and if you can get custody right away. my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Franca - posted on 06/10/2010

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This story has broken my heart...... I'm so sorry that something like this had to happen to your precious g-nephew.... My thoughts are with him and I hope he makes a full and quick recovery....

Lianne - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am so very very sorry your family has to go through this-I know I don't know you, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers..no child should have to endure this :(

Kelly - posted on 06/10/2010

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Definently will keep him in my thoughts. Also hope he pulls through with out any permanent damage. Glad your husband is there to protect him in the hospital. Atleast someone is (not the cops or hospital) :( Very very sad and please let us know if the shity boyfriend gets the full punishment.

Louise - posted on 06/10/2010

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Father i pray that you heal this child but alway keep him in your care and i pray Father God that the mother of jeremiah would make good decssion when it to her son and show him love and to be careful who she let near her child if she gets him home with her

Ann - posted on 06/10/2010

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Hi, oh my god i am in deep deep shock reading this.Excuse my cursing but i am so so angry- who the f**k did this to a beautiful little boy? Please for ye'r own sake get this beast locked up bec ause people like him are repeat offenders and he will do it again and the next baby may not be so lucky. I have a 16 week old and the joy he has brought to our house and our lives is just amazing. My heart goes out to little Jeremiah and i pray that he makes a quick recovery. I'll never understand why people kick and abuse children,they depend on us for everything.Thinkin of you little sweet boy xx

Melissa - posted on 06/10/2010

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Jeremiah will be in our thoughts and prayers...

..though, from what you have said--I think God already is watching the lil guy... please keep us posted and may he go someplace safe after his recovery where this will NEVER, EVER happen again... we'll be praying for that, too.. =hugs=

Janine - posted on 06/10/2010

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OMG! You poor things, my thoughts r with u in this absolutely terrible time. What possesses anyone to do that to a defenseless little child is beyond me and i hope that he (the abuser) is getting his dues in prison.
Please keep us updated with Jeremiah's progress and hope that he pulls through soon:0)

Mary - posted on 06/10/2010

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I can't even think of one reason to lay a hand on a 16 month old child. My thoughts are with your family and hopefully the man who does this gets what is coming to him and then some. As for the family of the "man" they have no business to even say a word. Be strong and have faith. -Mary

Tiffany - posted on 06/10/2010

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I WILL PRAY FOR HIM, HE SOUNDS LIKE A TROOPER BUT I WOULD TOTALLY BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF SOMEONE IF THEY DID THAT TO ANY CHILD.

Brenda - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am horrified by this story and wonder how some people can be so sick as to hurt a child when most of us will do anything to protect them.

Helen - posted on 06/10/2010

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Thank for keeping up date on Jeremiah believing for a full recovery that he will be whole no brain damage our God is a great God his hearing will not be affected.Thank you Lord for a full recovery.

Dana - posted on 06/10/2010

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Amy, I am so sorry to hear of this terrible act. I will definitely pray for little Jeremiah's full recovery, as well as wisdom and strength for his mother.

Iridescent - posted on 06/10/2010

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Sorry - the whole link has to be copied and pasted.
I hope the court does look at it.

Erin - posted on 06/10/2010

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So I went on his facebook page. All I can say is WOW!! I realize that you should be able to put whatever you want on there but all he talks about is getting high and smoking crack! I wonder if he realizes that the courts are probably going to be looking at that? And there are so many on there defending him, but there were a few that were not.

FYI the link you posted takes me to my own home page. I had to type in his name. I hop it all works out for you guys!

Iridescent - posted on 06/10/2010

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Actually, Betsy, his full name and address are posted in the first news story. It is public information.
James Spidahl
921 3rd St. So. in St. James (Minnesota)
And he also has a Facebook page - http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/profile.php?id=100000537817021
All of which is legal, public, information.

Betsy - posted on 06/10/2010

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I hate to be hateful but after reading this, I wish you would post this mans name and address so that he could have visitors like myself. Though I am 7months preganant I would love the chance to be alone with anyone who has hurt a child like that. I believe an eye for an eye and would love to put handprints all over that piece of trash. I will pray for Jeremiah and the entire family.

Iridescent - posted on 06/10/2010

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Thank you everyone for your replies. As there will be no more updates for at least a week, I'm going to request this thread be closed. When we find out what's going on (at the end of the month) I'll post an update. Thanks again.
Amy

Doreen - posted on 06/10/2010

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What an animal who does that to a baby??? My prayers to Jeremiah and his mother I can only imagine what shes going throu. Sorry to hear.

Mahwish - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am so very sorry n shocked to hear about ur nephew's story i mmust say that boyfriend is suffering from some severe mental prblem and should be arrested by nw i mean how come smone hurt a baby of dis age and whr was his mother is she also involve in his acts?
bt i wil surely pray for your nephew and may GOD bless him a long successful life full of happiness and pray that man be behind bars !

Silvia - posted on 06/10/2010

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OMG How some body can do that to a baby, so defenseless, How come they don't find some body of their own size to do something that horribly, they have to find a little baby that can't defend himself, This guy should go to jail for ever, and I hope Jeremiah get 100% better, hopefully he won't remember anything of this nightmare and he can live with people who really loves him, he will be in my prayers.

Tania - posted on 06/10/2010

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I will Pray for him. I wish you luck getting more help. Keep trying, don't give up. There are other avenues out there utside of police that can help. Keep searching someone can help. Meanwhile I will keep him in my prayers

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2010

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This is so sad and sick! I will never understand people who can hurt a child or anyone for that matter! I will add jeremiah to our prayer list a church and personally pray for him everynight. May God watch over him,heal him and protect him! xoxox

Angela - posted on 06/10/2010

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This is very sad and heartbreaking. What an absolute monster to hurt a tiny innocent baby! I will pray that Jeremiah makes a speedy recovery and that he returns to good health.

Tannie - posted on 06/10/2010

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I hope that all mother's reading this post becomes more aware of how dangerous it is to leave your children with someone. I do not trust my children outside of IMMEDIATE family because sometimes you can not trust even beyond that. So many mother's children get hurt (or worse) in the hands of the mother's boyfriends or just friends. I have an 18 months old and I could not imagine someone doing this to my child. It is heart wrenching and my heart definately goes out to Jeremiah and his family. My family and I will keep you in your prayers.

Kathiren - posted on 06/10/2010

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I am so sorry to hear that a child is suffering so much..Jeremiah and all your family well be in our prayers and heart

Dana - posted on 06/10/2010

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How very, very horrible! I pray that he makes a full recovery and has no memory! Poor, poor baby!
As for the ass that did this to him-I hope somebody does the same thing to him! What a piece of shit!

Farrah - posted on 06/10/2010

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I have been so saddened and horrified by this stroy and wish I could lend support in some way. If the mother is in a situation where she needs donations, etc.... please let me know. Baby J is in my prayers. Please, please keep us posted on his recovery. As to the evil man that did this, why has he not been charged with a more serious crime? Or additional charges, like "failure to render aid" just to add years to his sentence? This is why I fully support the death penalty. It's people like this that do not deserve to be on this earth. My heart goes out to your entire family. Wishing you alll the best.

Mary - posted on 06/10/2010

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How shocking. I will certainly keep him in my prayers. May God bless Jeremiah.

Ginny - posted on 06/10/2010

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im so sorry for this baby and his good family. please God punish this animal that did this. i will pray for him. myself, my sister, and my mother lived with a child and woman beater. my mother died from the abuse and my sister passed away with hate and anger in her heart from our father. please tell this mother to get consuling and for Gods sake dont get involved with another man like she seems to be picking. or if not convince her to give this baby to a family member that will raise him with anymore pain and suffering.

Timna - posted on 06/10/2010

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That is Horrible!! I am terrible sorry that such an aweful thing had to happen to someone so young and inocent. I will pray for your family.

Leticia - posted on 06/10/2010

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I can not even fathom how anyone can lay hands on a helpless innocent baby! This story brought me to tears! It's all I could do to not lose it! Jeremiah will be in my family's prayers.
Though I can never understand how things like this happen, I have faith that the Lord will judge and Jeremiah will have justice for his sufferings!
I have never been one for violence or revenge...but I'm quite certain the one that did this to Jeremiah will get what's coming to him in jail!

Jagoda - posted on 06/10/2010

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What a sad story. I had tears in my eyes when I read this. I will keep your family and Jeremiah in my prayers. I don't understand how people can do this. How sad.

Marie - posted on 06/10/2010

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Amy, I will sincerely keep Jeremiah and your family in your prayers. It is so sad to hear this.

Teresa - posted on 06/10/2010

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I will pray for Jeremiah to come through this with as few scars as possible. Fortunately he is young enough not to remember it as he grows. I also will pray that the man who did this will receive what he has coming to him legally and will go through counseling in prison. What a horrible situation. God bless your family. I hope it all works out.

Sharon - posted on 06/10/2010

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Amy, thank you for the updates! Wow, there are so many comments good and not so. Here's the thing, all the neg. Comments are the same. There were warning signs missed etc. Maybe, maybe not at this point that can't be the focus. It's like putting your seatbelt on after the crash. Bottomline people in glass houses should't throw stones.

Amy I can't stop thinking about Falon. This young lady has been through so much in just 16 yrs. Rape, bad relationships, CPS in her life, separation from her child, guilt. Etc. The list goes on I'm sure. Please, please ensure she's getting the proper mental help and life tools to break the patterns already established in her life. She has many years ahead of her and lots of decisions to make. It's all about the decisions we make in life. I agree with right now, that the best place for the baby may be in foster care. Falon really needs to focus on herself, and the changes she needs to make. So that when she and her son are reunited, she can be the most God fearing, well rounded, good decision making, forgiving, and loving woman and mother she was meant to be. I pray for Falon that she has a personal relationship with Christ. I pray that she would come out of this experience a champion, humbled, and with knowledge and wisedom.

Jeremiah, well he's been blessed from the beginning. I believe God has a special calling on his life and as we all are, has a great purpose. I know he will have a complete recovery, will heal him then use him in some way, if he hasn't already.
God bless you and your family!

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