sex after baby

Melissa - posted on 06/28/2009

It is true that lubrication really helps while you are still breastfeeding and also doing kegals. This is what helped for me.

However, if this continues you should go visit your doctor again. I know someone who had the same problem with pain and then found out it was a condition that was going to have to be treated with hormone suppliment once her baby was done with the breast. Make sure you take care of yourself.

Megan - posted on 06/28/2009

Everybody's different, some can go only 6 weeks after having a baby and others take much longer. I've talked to women who have had 4th degree tear, and their children are over 2 years old right now, and she says it still hurts sometimes... it just depends.

Angela - posted on 06/28/2009

Ok, I must be the odd ball in the group. I was ready for sex about 2 weeks after I delivered both of my boys. I told my boyfriend and he was a little nervous, but it didn't take much convincing. We just went really slow and easy, but everyone is different.

Katherine - posted on 06/28/2009

We had to wait 6 months because of the pain, and it wasn't an issue of dryness, but it felt like I needed to stretch a bit. I bought this program from vaginismus.com and used it about 2 months and honestly it doesn't hurt anymore. And like my husband told me, we're probably having the best sex now that we've ever had. Hope it helps!

Lucy - posted on 06/28/2009

I'm exclusively breastfeeding and sex was impossible until around 8weeks after birth. My little girl is now 11weeks and we still have to be carefull!

Michele - posted on 06/28/2009

6 weeks was a little early for me too, 2 weeks more made a good difference for me though. Also just go slow, listen to your body. It needs to heal and that is individual as far as when each person is ready. Tips: use lots of lubricant; hormones can cause dryness, go slow and gently, stop if you can't get comfortable with it shortly, be patient. If it persist longer than you feel you have the patience for, consult with your doctor. Don't forget what your body just went through!!

Nadine - posted on 06/27/2009

From experience it was about a month for me, some people are different....once you completely heal everything should be fine.... was it natural? did you get stiches?? all of that come is to play...dont worry if it still hurts it wont be forever.

Pamela - posted on 06/27/2009

Everybody is different.. I only had to wait 4 weeks and my body felt like it was back to normal , i didnt have much bleeding either (1week)



Just take it very slow and use lots of lubrication

Heather - posted on 06/27/2009

its been almost 7 months since i have had a c section and I still cant. Its so uncomfortable that it has literally killed my sex drive and Im not interested at all.....

Marabeth - posted on 06/27/2009

yeah decreased amounts of estrogen for me means increased amounts of astroglide. :) i took 10 weeks before it didn't hurt. i agree with the going slow part.

Brittany - posted on 06/27/2009

Everyones body is different, some people heal faster then others and each child will be different. I have a daugher that is 2 months old and I breastfeed her, I dont have a problem with lubrication but if u r def buy some because the less friction there is the better it will be. Just take it slow it will get better.

Sona - posted on 06/27/2009

If you're breastfeeding, it will make you very dry. Your OBGYN might be able to give you estrogen cream.

Hillary - posted on 06/27/2009

If you are breastfeeding, that significantly reduces the amount of lubrication your produce, so that may be a factor. You may want to seriously consider store-bought lubrication, or maybe just ask your partner for a little more foreplay (he waited six weeks, whats the rush?) Aside from that, you just had a baby a month and a half ago, unless you had a c-section, its gonna hurt, don't have sex if it hurts you, its not worth it.

Heather - posted on 06/27/2009

Hopefully this isn't TMI, but we used lots of lube and went extremely slow. We did that for about a month and it hasn't hurt since then.

Jessica - posted on 06/27/2009

It was about 2-3 months after a c-section when I was able to have sex. My boobs were still very sensitive though

Carrie - posted on 06/27/2009

it was about 7 months for me after baby and i breastfeed twice a day. not sure if that makes a difference or not.

Mari - posted on 06/27/2009

had the same problem. it stoped when I stoped breastfeeding and the milk dried up. stopped breastfeeding when bub was 2 months. bub is almost 5 months and sex is a pleasure again. hope it stops soon. ( had a friends took her 10 months after the birth of her daughter )