Sexy????

Tabitha - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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What do you think about mothers or people in genera calling babies or infants sexy??? I hear and see it all the time and IT BOTHERS and DISTURBS me beyond all understandment. Im hoping im not the only one to think this. What is your out look?

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Tanya - posted on 02/16/2010

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I have had people say this to babies even my daughters as babies I put them in a cute outfit or they just put on some cute sunglasses and someone will say oh look at you sexy.... I hate that, my babies are not sexy they might be cutie pie's and adorable but not the other thing they are my babies. I have 3 daughters and just like all female's they like to be pretty and told they are pretty I tell my daughters everyday they are beautiful and pretty but never sexy they are not sexy!!!! I don't call my daughters momma or lil momma I have heard people call there children or little girls this, I just don't like to.. I call my girls endearing but approiate terms but lil momma that is a term the rappers use to address women and I can't address my daughters that way. I think when people say see one of my daughters helping with their sisters and they say she's the little momma that don't offend me too much I understand they are saying she is being the "little momma" by helping with her younger sisters, so I get that but when someone just goes to my daughters somewhere like at a store or at my relatives house and they say "hey lil momma" I hate it like I said that is what rappers say to women they are hitting on in songs.

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I've never heard of that either, but I'll tell you the first thing that pops into my head is pedophile! Only sickos like that would consider a baby or child sexy! I have no problem and often do call my baby boy little man, as I did his older brother and his older sister I often called little lady, but sexy, mama, or anything like that, I'm pretty sure I'd smack someone for calling my baby any of those things!

Isobel - posted on 02/16/2010

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I read it too...creepy and weird. I've never heard it used around where I am, and I'm glad for that.

Tabitha - posted on 02/16/2010

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Sharon OH GOSH I am GLAD you were able to read that post too. I had posted it there first and the first post was a mom saying she calls her son sexy cause she thinks he is. JUST GOSH I cant grasp on realistic concept point of view or reasoning in calling a child this. I will say I have called her daughter little mamas but NEVER till now thought of it in the aspect these women have expressed and now it changs my perspective. Thank you Mothers!

Tabitha - posted on 02/16/2010

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Katt my daughters WHOLE family did it on Christmas when she had a darling outfit on and my nephew in law SAID aloud "OH NOO DONT SAY THAT THAT IS JUSSSTTTT WRONG" mind you he is 17, I than said "Oh thank you atleast there someone to read my mind" Than left it alone cause of the discomfort I had.

Sharon - posted on 02/16/2010

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I replied in the leaders forum - not really sure why it was posted there, but it is sooo disturbing - I gagged just reading it.



Its "innocent" & "disgusting" btw.



I've never heard some refer to their child as "sexy" but I see babies with "sexy" or "hawt" and other obnoxious things pasted on their butts or bellies via shorts or t-shirt.



I've also never heard anyone refer to their child as "mumma" or "dad" to me that is very weird, but not disturbing. I have heard people - usually women - refer to their daughters as "little mom" etc because the child has an exceedingly strong nurturing nature.



I've heard of little boys being referred to as "little man" for their very adult attitudes.



but sexy? OHGOD EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Gwen - posted on 02/16/2010

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I've never heard of that before, but I agree with you that it's messed up!

Renae - posted on 02/16/2010

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Ayla, maybe you are right, I am Australian and we dont use those terms, so I wouldn't have understood until you just explained, in fact I had never heard anyone say "mumma" or "dad" in the way you described until just now! lol

Ayla - posted on 02/15/2010

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I dont get what the big deal is about calling a baby mumma? I think Australians veiws this in a differant way. When I call my daughters mum or muuma I dont mean it in a sexy way at all. I'll Call my baby mumma because I'm her mumma. It's hard to explain but Sometimes I use mum or mumma instead of their name. "Like I'll say come here mum" or "mum can you pick that up please." I guess I use it as a referance to me like saying "come to mum" or "pick that up for mum". I know it sounds strange but it gets my girls attention and I even call my son mum and my husband calls them all dad. Like "What do u want dad?" meaning "what do u want dad to do?" i guess. Maybe other people use this as well lol.

Heather - posted on 02/15/2010

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Wow, I was just thinking about this the other day! I absolutely cannot stand this either. I don't know if it's some sort of new "trend" or maybe something that the younger generation is saying, but I NEVER heard someone call a baby sexy until my husband's little 16 year old sister (who we both just met) called her little 2 year old sexy. She said "yeah sexy mama. tell them how sexy you are" I told her she doesn't need to be telling ANYONE how sexy she is at 2 years old. That's something for adults and she shouldn't even be saying it herself.

Katt - posted on 02/15/2010

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Maybe when mothers refer to their little girls as "little mama's" is because they may be very nurturing and caring like a mother. I've herd some mothers say "oh she'll be such a good big sister, she's very motherly" one lady was even like (she has 3 kids, the girl the oldest and 2 young boys) "oh she's such a little mommy, always taking care of the boys" Maybe it's something along those lines.

Katt - posted on 02/15/2010

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This one time, me and my daughter were and my grandmas (her great grandma) and she had put this hat or something on her then was like "oh, sexy girl" I was like nana, did you just call her sexy? and she was like "oh darn, I didn't mean sexy, I meant pretty" haha she's like 80 and mixes her words up lots!! Thats the one and only time she's said it, and it was a complete mistake! Other than that I've never herd anyone refer an infant as sexy. Thats just awkward and very disturbing.

Tabitha - posted on 02/15/2010

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AGREE 100% WOMEN...THANK YOU FOR THE EXPRESSING OF ALL YOUR POINT OF VIEWS..GOOD TO KNOW MOTHERS ARE ON MY SIDE AND IM NOT THE WEIRD ONE AS SOME CONSIDER ME....

Renae - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have never in my life heard anyone refer to a baby or young child as sexy. I am absolutely astounded! If I did hear that, I would tell them to keep their inappropriate comments to themselves. Maybe those people have a different definition of the word "sexy"??? I dont know. Babies are cute, adorable, some little baby girls I would call pretty. Occasionally you see a baby boy could looks like a little man with a very grown up face so maybe handsome would be an appropriate description there. But def not sexy.

Theresa - posted on 02/15/2010

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I think it's wrong too. There are enough sick people out there who sexualize children the way it is. We don't need to put extra ideas into their heads by calling a small child sexy. Unless you're a teenager calling another teen sexy then it should only be reserved for those over the age of 18. The definition of sexy is: having sexual appeal, suggestive of sex. Not something I want associated with anyone under 18, let alone a small child or infant. WRONG! I also don't understand the calling of little girls mama, like Andria said. To me it almost as if expecting, or encouraging young pregnancy. Maybe I'm overly sensitive??? I personally think that things should not be written across the butts of little girls either. OK, the "does this dipaer make my butt look big?" is cute on a baby's butt, but once they're out of diapers to me it just encourages sickos to look at the girl's butt. Like I said maybe I'm overly sensitive, but I know my daughter will not have words written across her butt for as long as I have a say in it. It just seem you hear more and more cases of child molestation, why do anything that could even possibly encourage it.

Tabitha - posted on 02/15/2010

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OH MY GOSH THANK GOODNESS... I posted it under another community and the lady said she calls her little man sexy cause she thinks he is. I said I dont see why you cant find another name such as handsome or whatever to call you child and gave the definition of sexy she than responded that she NEVER thought of it that way. NOW I thought it was because I hadhad my innocence taken from me as a child by my father and thought possibably I could have a personal issue with the situation. I HEAR and see mothers and people say it all the time. I always speak my mind on how wrong it is. THANK You for helping me to understand ITS NOT JUST ME

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2010

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Never heard that before, but I would be very upset..Babies are Babies!!
But I have heard ladies call my baby "Little Mama", and that too irritates me to no end.

Sheralyn - posted on 02/15/2010

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You arent alone there! I think it is so wrong! Babies are not, and should never be, concidered sexy!

Andria - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have never heard anyone call a baby sexy. It would bother me too. Babies are not sexy lol they are cute and adorable and perfect... not sexy! Another thing I dont like is when people call my daughter mama, whats that she aint a mom lol

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