She is 22 months old...and I cant get rid of the bottle!!!

Jen - posted on 12/06/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Ok....Im at fault, Im the one who gives them to her. Im at my wits end now on how to get rid of it. Any advice at all would be appreciated. She treats the bottle like a special blanket, or a pacifier.

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Jonna - posted on 12/06/2010

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Bottle of milk or water? I have gotten rid of the bottle very early (9-10 mo) for all of my kids, so I've never gone down this road myself. What I have always done is just substitute a cup. Throw all the bottles away. If you don't have them in the house you won't be able to break down and give one to her. Let her know that they are going away and she will have to use a cup like a big girl. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to make up your mind and stick with it. It's the same with potty training. You have to decide when it is time and not give her the option of having it any other way.

Shirley - posted on 12/07/2010

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we had a bottle fairy who took away the bottle and left a shiny new cup in its place. this worked for us.

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My mom said the same thing about my brother who will "give it up" when hes ready..he was 7. Naturally giving it up sometimes doesnt work the best.....

Laura - posted on 12/06/2010

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First of all, you CAN get rid of the bottle--you're the parent! You are choosing not to, for one reason or another. Jonna and Jolene are right on the mark with this one: If you choose to get rid of the bottle, simply switch the contents to a cup. It really is that easy! Your daughter may not like it right away, especially if she is using it as a security device, but she will get used to it quickly enough if you are consistent.

I suggest you take your daughter shopping to pick out "big girl" cups of her choosing then have her help box up the bottles for disposal. Personally, I would donate them to your local women's shelter or to Goodwill rather than actually throw them away. This is the method I used with my daughter when she was about 10 months old and it worked very well. Hope this helps and good luck!

Jolene - posted on 12/06/2010

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I agree with Jonna, I run an in home day care and I take the bottles away by 1 and put them on a cup. Sometimes (130 kids give me lots of examples) they may fuss for the bottle come time for a drink but in 3 days they are used to the cup and do just fine.

It is always the best to stick with a decision. She will learn you are the mom and you mean what you say. Don't give in if you are truely wanting her to get off the bottle. I am telling you from 23 years of watching children, they know how to push your buttons. So don't let her. The option is whether she would like milk, or water, the blue cup or green one, weather to drink by the kitchen sink or at the table. But not a choice of a bottle.

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Margaret - posted on 12/10/2010

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JEN THAT IS A TOUGH ONE, YOU GUYS BEING IN THE SAME ROOM. SHE STILL NEEDS TO KNOW THAT AT BED TIME IT IS SLEEP TIME, TRY GIVING HER A LITTLE DRINK FROM A CUP JUST BEFORE BED TIME. TELLING HER BIG GIRLS USE CUPS NOW. SHE MAY STILL PITCH A FIT, BUT DON'T GIVE IN. IT WILL ALL WORK OUT, YOU'LL SEE.

Jen - posted on 12/10/2010

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First, I thank you all for the great advise and tips...I do have two issues ...
1) I made the mistake of letting her take a bottle to bed. I never used all milk. She might get 3-4 ozs of milk, the rest water. And, because of MY mistake, she associates BOTTLE with SLEEP, and now will not sleep without one.

2) We own a duplex (we live in the lower level) which was renovated and we made what WAS 2 bedrooms into one HUGE one for us. And then I became pregnant. The problem is we had an upstairs tenant (that signed a 2 year lease). So, we turned the HUGE bedroom into our smaller bedroom / nursery. Im sure you are wondering what my issue is, BUT until the upstairs of the duplex has been remodeled and the 2 unit, becomes one home (which we are in the process of doing-the tenant is gone now), her "temper tantrums" or crying because she wants her bottle, will now keep my husband up who wakes at 4am to start his work day, since we are basically in the same room.

Any thoughts on how to handle this? Of course our daughter comes first, and yes i regret DEARLY giving her the bottle during sleep time.

Margaret - posted on 12/09/2010

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Lots of good advice...I also never had a problem with taking the bottle away from my children or my grand daughter that lives with us. My mother always told me, "NEVER put your baby to bed with a bottle, because, it will be very difficult to take it away", so I never did. The transitions were always pretty easy.

But the bottom line is, you are the parent, you make the decisions. It may be hard at first, but they will get over it and get used to it. :)

Maggie - posted on 12/09/2010

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mm thats hard one hun. some just do that them selfs. i hear these days you can get cup with lids like bottles. a friend told her little girl that there was a baby who needed a bottle and seeing that she was a big girl now. may she would give it too the baby in need. it worked for her. good luck hun. xx

Misty - posted on 12/09/2010

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there are sippy cups with soft tops they r close to being bottles thats what i gave my son n i slowly switched his to the hard tops my son wanted nothin to do with the hard ones at first

Angela - posted on 12/08/2010

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Oh sweety. Best plan is to just go ahead and try to get her to use a real cup at this point. Throw away all her bottles so you wont be tempted and make a big deal about her using a big girl cup. Even take her and let her pick them out if you want to. Guaranteed it will be hell for up to a week but after that you will be fine. :D

Sadie - posted on 12/07/2010

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Take her shopping and let her pick her new big girl sippy cup, or a special toy that she snuggles with instead. Make her feel like it's her idea to be a big girl. Good luck, generally will have a couple of tough nights but be strong and you will win this battle!!

Kerrie - posted on 12/07/2010

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give her a glass one and tell her there are no more bottles left and let her smash it.. worked for me..:)

Christy - posted on 12/07/2010

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You are halfway there admitting you are the problem!! lol At least it's the bottle and not her thumb! I would do one of 2 things, either just take them all out of the house so that you can honestly say, we don't have anymore OR bribe her! Tell her if she helps you throw them out (or donate them) then you will take her to go get some big girl cups. Make sure to take her to get some fun ones that she gets to pick out. That way it's special to her and you aren't the big mean mommy...lol Good Luck!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/07/2010

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Hey, I made the same mistake with a binky. My son had his until he was almost 4...ugh...it is tough. I was gonna say the same thing about water in it only...offer the milk in a cup or a sippy cup and stick to your guns. You don't need to pry the bottle out of gripped hands...let it happen gradually..keep offering the milk in different ways until she gets the point. I am not one for snatching away security objects...obviously...Don't worry, she is NOT gonna be in high school with her bottle!

Katherine - posted on 12/07/2010

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I think Renae hit the nail on the head. I have a 20mo and she still takes a bottle. I just give her water.
I have a lot of peer pressure to get rid of it and I don't listen to it because she is MY child and I am the parent.
Others don't have to deal with the sleepless nights of trying to break her from the bottle, or the heart wrenching crying.
I say keep it, she'll give it up when she's ready.

Tammy - posted on 12/07/2010

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I to kept my son on a bottle till he was 2 . I finaly threw them away when we moved and told him they were left at the old house . In doing daycare in my home for 25 years I had all children on a sippy by 1 or 1 1/2 years old . the bottle really is a habit of mom and dads as a way of pacify baby when we are to busy . lets just face it it is easyer and less messy . but not good for teaching our children to grow and learn . Pick a time when she can have 1 bottle a day . no baby should have a bottle with then in bed unless it is with just water . Not good for there teeth to have milk setting on then all nite. put sippy cup on tray with meals and snack . if thrown off put on your table and give sips once in a while . Also quite time with mom , give her a sipppy cup and read her a story what a wonderful time to have together . Enjoy her they grow up so fast

Julie - posted on 12/07/2010

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After 5 kids, I found that there is no easy way to do this. You just have to take the bottle away, give them a cup and tell them there is no more bottle! My first was the easiest in the world. She decided she wanted a cup like mummy's at about 11 months old. The boys.... Were a nightmare, we had tantrums, we had hissy fits, we had screaming half the night... But it only lasted a few days, so don't fret, there is an end in sight. You just have to be very strong and not give in to the pouting, crying and the guilt trips! Kids are born knowing how to manipulate us lol!

Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010

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I took the bottle away from my son just before he turned 2. I had the advantage of having another baby and I told him bottles were for babies and that he was a big boy and had to use a cup. I had a set of mix and match cups and lids and if he chose to drink out of a cup he could choose what colour cup and lid he drank from.

Sarah - posted on 12/06/2010

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Toss it into the garbage. She'll throw a temper tantrum for a couple days then get over it. It'll be rough, but tough it out, it'll be worth it in the end.

Medic - posted on 12/06/2010

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My only ideas are advice as I threw my sons bottles away at a year and threw out all sippies at two years and my daughter was on a sippy only at 6 months. I agree with the mom above that stated to have her throw them out and get her a special big girl cup. At this point I would forgo the sippies and just get her on a regular cup.

Jolene - posted on 12/06/2010

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Have you tried having her throw them out the day that the trash trucks collect the trash. Have her put them in the trash and watch them leave with the trash. My friend did that with the pacifier and her son cried for it at night and she reminded him the trash man took them. That was the end of it. He was 2 and she also wanted to get rid of them and had tried everything and he always cried until she gave them to him. When he threw them away and remembered they were gone the battle was over. It was out of her hands to give them back to him.

Renae - posted on 12/06/2010

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My first question is why do you want to get rid of it? Just think about it and make sure your reasons are not ones based on societal expectations or peer pressure.



If she is drinking milk from the bottle and you take the bottle away suddenly, she will probably stop drinking milk completely - that is very common when the bottle is taken away after 12 months of age. So you need to decide what you think about milk and its importance (I'm not going there as views on this differ massively and I'm not well informed enough to debate one way or the other).



The easiest subsitute for her to accept will be a training cup that she has to suck on in a similar fashion to the bottle - such as the Heinz or Avent training cups.



If you want to do this gradually, you start by giving her the training cup at a time when she would not normally have milk. Only put a small amount of milk in it because you will be throwing most of it away for the first month. Continue to give her the cup every day even though she never drinks it so that she becomes familiar with it, understands that there is milk in there, knows how to use it and gets used to the feel of it in her mouth (she will eventually start putting it in her mouth). If she so much as puts the cup anywhere near her mouth, give her a big big praise for being such a good girl. After at least a month, give her the cup full of milk at a time when she is very hungry and would normally have a bottle, like first thing in the morning. If she refuses it, wait 10 minutes and just give her a bottle and try again the next day. If she still doesn't drink it after 4 or 5 days, go back to just giving her the cup at a random time every day for another month, then try again. Once she drinks from the cup when she is hungry, continue replacing that one drink with the cup and give her the bottle the rest of the time for about a week, then replace a second drink for a week, then the third if she still has a third, probably not at her age.



This will work, but may take up to 3 months so you have to have the patience to want to do it this way. Just remember that we dont always have to force children into doing what we want them to, we just have to outsmart them.

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