Tanya - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )
My brother is in jail (he often is off and on). When he is out he is a great Uncle to my children. He will be transfered soon from the jail in our city to a prison (not known where) possibly being there for a year and a half to two years. My children know that Uncle is in jail, they know he did bad things and has to be there because when adult do very bad things and break the law they get into trouble and are sent to jail as a punishment for breaking the law. It is hard explaining to children this because there Uncle is loving and kind with them so I know this can be hard for them to comprehend. I am hoping this is also a good life lesson to my children seeing that if you break the law you can go to jail and your family misses you, you miss holidays and don't get to see your family all the time. I have never brought them to visit my brother in jail. So my question is since he is going to be transfered to a prison should I take my children to the jail to see him before hes moved? Has anyone had experience with this. I have looked at the pros and cons but I would like to hear suggestions from others on this topic.
Also would it make a difference that his birthday is coming up and he has been incarcerated during his last 3 birthdays so he has not had a birthday for a few years now and this would make a great suprise for him?