Should I call CPS.......

Emilie - posted on 04/19/2010 ( 59 moms have responded )

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There is a 5 year old boy that lives a few apt. down from me and I am not sure if his parents properly care for this child. He wears the same clothes for days at a time even if they are covered in dirt. I thought that maybe they don't have enough clothes for him, so I went through my sons clothes and gathered up all the clothes that are to small for my son (my son is 7) I could have taken the clothes to a thrift store but I wanted to make sure that little boy had enough clothes, I know some other people have given him clothes also, but they don't ever put those clothes that I gave to him on him.

When he gets hurt outside the neighbors are always the ones to clean it and bandage it. He is outside all the time with no adult suppervision. He goes around asking neighbors for food. Sometimes his parents leave him alone while they go up the road. I walked outside a couple days ago and he was outside like always, but I didn't see his parents car. I asked him if anybody was home and he said no, that his father had left to take his mother to work. I think it is very wrong of them to leave him alone. What if he was seriously hurt and we didn't know how to get in touch with anybody about him. Sometimes they ask if I can watch him while they go up the road and then they are gone for hours with out leaving me any contact information. I really feel like his parents don't care much about him.



The thing is, is that I am kind of friends with the father. I don't talk to the mother much because she works all the time. The boy plays with my son alot, but alot of time my son does not want to play with him because he is kind of on the annoying side. He does go to daycare, he is in the "More at 4" program, I know he is 5 but he started when he was 4, and he stays in until he starts real school. The daycare teacher has given him some stuff, I don't know if she has called CPS or not. I am going to call tomorrow. I am really nervious about calling though. Today I though he was alone. His dad was not at home and his mother was inside sleeping and the front door was locked (his mother dosen't like to sleep with the door unlocked.) It is not really the mothers fault though because she had worked 3rd shift, and the father should have taken him with him. I didn't realize that he was basically alone until his father got home and I saw him unlock the door, then I found out that his mother was inside sleeping. I also saw the parents fighting the other day and the father was holding the front door shut so his wife couldn't get out. They have a weird relationship.

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Catherine - posted on 04/22/2010

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Janine, I have to disagree with your suggestion. She may not be around the next time he is left alone to make that call to the police, and suggesting she pick him up and take him to the police could have sever consequence, such as being slapped with a charge of kidnapping Emillie.

Sharon - posted on 04/19/2010

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Agreed. The next time you see him home alone, call the police about a crying child who is home alone without his parents.

Amy - posted on 04/19/2010

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Yes I would call. I would maybe wait until a time when he is left alone. CPS is pretty hard to deal with sometimes and unfortunately, they don't always do their part either. But a young child left alone cannot be ignored. Follow your gut and help this child have proper care. Sounds like you and many others are helping, but this child is in danger. Sorry you have to be in that position. My parents are foster parents and we've seen a lot of stuff. It is very sad.

Stephanie - posted on 04/19/2010

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I don't think there is anything wrong with contacting them. They will do an investigation and check things out. If there is nothing wrong then great at least you will know that things were looked into.

Theresa - posted on 04/19/2010

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They are leaving a 5 year old home alone!?! YES, call CPS before something happens to him. He shouldn't be outside without supervision either. Call CPS.

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Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 06/02/2013

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I would call. If you say you have a friendship with the father then maybe try talking to him. Explain your worried about him being left alone and try to speak in a friendly tone. I would even try to possibly find a grandma or relatives phone number. Some have already stated that calling CPS might not help bc they don't always follow through. I know if someone called my dad and said my child wasn't being taken care of he would take my kid in a heartbeat( and probably beat my ass too!!). I feel sorry for this kid and I hope someone does something. How could these parents live with themselves? Do you suspect drug or alcohol abuse?

Charlene - posted on 05/14/2010

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I would say call.
You mentioned that the child is on the 'annoying' side and that really doesn't surprise me in the least. He is probably so starved for attention, so lonely, that he goes overboard when people are paying attention to him. These parents may be naive/oblivious about what they are doing or they really just might not care, but either way, something needs to be done.

JuLeah - posted on 05/14/2010

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Based on my time with CPS .... they may or may not respond, they may or may not do anything of they do respond, they may or may not make it worse ..... they might make things A LOT worse - I've seen that happen many times.
They are under trained, over worked, under paid, over whelemed ..... it's a crap shoot, but at least the kid will know someone cared enough to try.

Nicole - posted on 05/14/2010

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I'm going to school and majoring in Social Work....Please call CPS if you haven't already...Calls like yours can save a child's life! In the event that something ever happened to this little boy you would feel very guilty for not calling! The call can be anonymous. And if nothing is truly wrong one call will not cause this family to lose their son!

Janie - posted on 04/22/2010

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just pick him up and take him ti the police station or better yet when you know he is alone call the police this question shouldnt have to have an answer it is plain what to do now has it been done!

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when i see a question like this, my first reaction is almost always no, stay out of it! but after reading what this little boys parents are like, i say yes, if you seriously feel the child is in harms way. and running around alone outside and being left alone is putting him in harms way. poor kid. at least he has a neighbour like you to look out for him.

Catherine - posted on 04/22/2010

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Make the call, and let CPS decide if the child needs placement out side the home. And if you are feeling bad that he might be sent to a foster home, CPS offers the parents the opportunity to place the child with capable family members. Oh and by the way, you can be an anonymous caller. Even though CPS will never tell the parents who called, if it makes you feel better they would prefer you make the call anonymously than not call at all. Please post your decision, I would like to know what you decided.

MaryLou - posted on 04/22/2010

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Call, he is not being taken care of. I am glad you have helped. Until something is done keep offering to watch him. Look at it this way. With you, he is fed, clothed, and not by his self making him easy picking for all kinds of abusers. You are keeping him safe. Has his school not noticed? Time these losers were dealt with. His parents don't care about him at all. The reason they have not got caught is because no one reported and the neighbourhood is looking after him. Get some reports from the neighbours if you can so that Children's Aid can see that you are not the only one.

Janie - posted on 04/22/2010

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it is illigal to leave a child alone under 14 years of age you should do something before it is to late to do anything,because once that happens then they're is no need to worry about it anymore!

Lanie - posted on 04/22/2010

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If I was in your place I would call, not because of the clothes because some children have favortie clothes and want to wear them all the time no matter if there clean or dirty especially if the child is just going out to play. The main reason I would call is because by law he is to young to be left alone especailly if the parents have left the premisses.

Cynthia - posted on 04/22/2010

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This will be harsh but needs to be said. You knowing that this is going on and have not done anything about it yet..... you are just as guilty and can be charged for not reporting it should the police find out that you have known about this.
People need to stop being afraid to step on toes when it comes to their safety and well being. Please, do not wait to call fcs the next time you see this. You know it, call NOW. The next time you see him outside alone, call the police.

Amber - posted on 04/22/2010

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I have to agree with the other moms on here. You need to call CPS. No child should be left alone. There are plenty of programs to help with the food situation if they can't afford food for their family. With the child being left alone that is neglect same with wearing the same clothes for days at a time. You need to call CPS.

Cindy - posted on 04/21/2010

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ok i suggest that you dont even wait for a next time, maybe there wont be a next time because something bad has already happened just call them right away, let them know of each and every time he has been left alone, and dirty and hungry, there is no reason why a child is hungry, there is chow pantries and soup kitchens it is very clear something isnt right please do this little boy a favor and call them RIGHT NOW!

Charity - posted on 04/21/2010

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I would definitely call CPS. Noone has to know that is was you that called. It can be completely anonymous, CPS will then come out to investigate. Their first visit is announced and scheduled, but if they keep getting complaints, (which you should do everytime you notice him left alone) they will start showing up unannounced and making surprise visits. If you don't do anything you may one day feel guilty if something bad was to happen to him.

Darlena - posted on 04/21/2010

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If you have any doubts or concerns at all then definatly call the CPS cause if there is something wrong in the house then atleast they can get the help they need from the CPS.

Renee - posted on 04/21/2010

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Call 911 - they will contact the proper authorities. this is an emergency situation.

Chelsea - posted on 04/21/2010

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i would call. some people would say its non of your business, but they've asked you to watch their son, so it now is. he deserves better, and you could make that happen for him.

Amanda - posted on 04/21/2010

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Emilie,

I read this and was brought to tears. I have a 5 year old. We live in a very rural neighborhood where the neighbors are very close and we have several homes with children the same age in a small area, and traffic is non-existant. We allow the children to play outside "without being watched". Each mom checks on the kids constantly but we do try to give them a little independance. They are always in earshot and know to check with their parents before going in anyone's house. This obviously isn't the case in your situation. I couldn't imagine being in the same situation you are, having to decide to step-in on a situation where you may not know the parents that well and help that you have offered has only been accepted out of politeness.

This truly is a case of neglect. Is the little boy in school? If he is, then it should also be the school's responsibility to provide intervention. If not, you still have definite grounds to report neglect. I know the CPS system isn't great, but hopefully he will be placed somewhere where he will recieve nutritious food, care, and love.

Please keep us updated!

Danielle - posted on 04/21/2010

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We have the same situation here with a little boy, and I have called cps. I also called the police and the school, who informed me that cps has already been involved with the family several times. Its so unfortunate. I think all of informations is definatly a concern. For his sake I would call. You never know, maybe they are just naive and needs some parenting tips and guidence to become better parents, or maybe you could be saving him from a really bad situation. That is where cps can make the call. good luck.

Lyndsay - posted on 04/21/2010

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You should definitely call CPS. People in the community have a duty to report -- tons of children are being forced to live in really shitty situations because the people around them see what is happening but don't do anything about it. If you can't bring yourself to do it, send me a message with the child's name and address and the number of your local CPS agency, and I will do it for you.

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Hi Emilie hope all turned out okay in the end if you called..i hope this young boy is being treated well and cared for the way he should.:-)

Rose - posted on 04/21/2010

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I agree with the others. The next time he is alone I would bring him in and call the cops and cps. It seams to me they don't care about what happens to him or he would be suppervised. I'm just now letting my 7 yr old to go in the front yard by himself. He needs someone to care for him.

Danielle - posted on 04/21/2010

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I'd call if it were me. Anonymously. If something bad happened to that 5 year old boy I'd feel guilty for not having called in the first place. The way I see it is that if there isn't anything wrong over there than they should have nothing to hide and therefore a surprise visit from CPS wouldn't be a big deal. Right?

Becky - posted on 04/21/2010

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Yes, I would definitely call CPS! (this is from a CPS worker, btw) Five years old is too young to be left home alone even for short periods of time.

Brandi - posted on 04/20/2010

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I would call. I can only imagine how hard it is to make this decision, but the child is the most important factor. Poor little thing! I would take him in an instant. Even though there's a lot of bad things said about children who are exposed to the CPS system, it is the system that is often flawed, not the kids and we should all pray that this little boy gets the help that he needs before something bad happens to him. I also want to say bless you and the other neighbors who take care of this little angel who has been tossed aside by his parents. I wish there were more people in the world like you and less like them!

Sue - posted on 04/19/2010

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Wow! Serious neglect. Leaving him home alone? I would call. There is no reason for that. He is way too small.

Emily - posted on 04/19/2010

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I would absolutely call CPS. There are many, many concerning things there. Remember it is an anonymous call.

Meagan - posted on 04/19/2010

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You should definitely call them thats neglect right there. Anything can happen to him while his parents are gone and they probably wouldn't know or even care.

Sarah - posted on 04/19/2010

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This is a case where you wonder if you should get involved for sure. But if it was me I would that child is in danger of being kidnapped raped or molested cause of lack of concern from his parents.

Mary - posted on 04/19/2010

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u have to do what u think is best for that innocent child he has to be taken care of first and foremost

Mary - posted on 04/19/2010

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In this case I feel you should definitely call CPS. This child could be hurt or kidnapped or something worse. His parents may have issues with drugs or alcohol or mental health and may be in need of some help. CPS could see to it that they get the help they need. They obviously need some help regarding parenting skills as well and some counseling. Perhaps the mother didn't have a good example with her parents when she was growing up and doesn't really know how to be a good mother and care for her son. In that case she should be given some help. I don't necessarily want to see the child taken off her but if that is what it comes down to then that is what will be best for the child. I'd like to see some other things tried first though like some counseling for the parents and some help with parenting skills before something so desperate happens like her losing her son altogether. But as far as calling, I'd definitely do that. You remain totally anonymous to my understanding so she will have no way of knowing who did it. You may wind up saving more than one life by doing this.

Melissa - posted on 04/19/2010

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The next time you notice his parents are gone and he's wondering around call the police. The police can handle it from there. They will charge them with child abandonment and he'll be taken care of =) I use to work at a mall and people would leave their kids in shops if the parents didn't show up within 15 mins to claim their child the police were called. What's sad is most parents blame the children if the parents get caught leaving them alone. =( No child should have to go through what this child is.

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sorry my comment sounds harsh i feel so strongly aganist people who neglect there children thats why its put like that..please report do what you have to..its people like you who can turn a childs life around for the best so your doing the right thing for this young child.:-)

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Report, why ask, go do it the signs are there clear as day,this is what cps is put in place for cases like this.

AsheLeigh - posted on 04/19/2010

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If it was me I would call them!! I wouldn't even wait! If you wait it could be to late you know that things can happen in a slipt second! His parents aren't giving him what he needs!

Samantha - posted on 04/19/2010

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i would call its just to supsocious and a lil boy like that don deserve that he needs parents and leavin a lil boy that young alone and outside were there is so much danger is just wrong he needs parental suppervision

Mary - posted on 04/19/2010

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If the boy has no supervision and he's being left home alone then It's your duty to report what your seeing. You could be saving a child from neglect. Its Child Abuse Awareness Month.. CALL!!!!!! Even if its nothing.. You did what you felt was right ... by protecting the child. Who is innocent...

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DEFINITELY!!!! This child is in an unsafe/unfit environment. He is not being supervised and neglect is just as bad as physical or mental abuse..He needs to have someone watching him and supervising him..He shouldn't have to go around begging for food..and if his clothes are that bad, imagine how long it's been since he's had a bath..These parents shouldn't be parents at all and the child deserves a better home environment. CPS will likely put him in a foster home or take him if he's in an environment that they deem unfit. I couldn't sleep at night if I knew that child was in that circumstance and I had done nothing. Call them ASAP. for the sake of the child and your own peace of mind

Karen - posted on 04/19/2010

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i say if it's making you even think about whether or not they should be contacted, then do it! if it's a situation that even for a second makes your mind wander to the involvement of cps then you need to follow your instincts and give them a call - he absolutely deserves better then that!

Christine - posted on 04/19/2010

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If I was in your situation yes. That being said be ready for backlash of anger from the parents. Although CPS is not to give out who called
you are required to leave your contact information. The parents are likely to react badly because they clearly don't see what they are doing as wrong, but they will lash out at all those around them, and even the child.

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