Should I do C Section or Vaginal Birth?

Kelsey - posted on 05/23/2012 ( 565 moms have responded )

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I had a vaginal birth with my first child and am now pregnant with my second. I have had several friends who had c sections and they said it was the way to go. I am not sure which route I want to take! I must say that my vaginal birth was just awful. My epidural ran out and had to be redone 3 times (trying being 9cm along and having to sit still for a needle, ha). I also was vomiting for 2-3 hours and had to wear an oxygen mask the last 2 hours. 16 hours later I had my beautiful daughter but I am so afraid to go through that again. I know labor in general is not easy but I just want to have my baby and hold him, without all the pain and suffering I went through. This was less than a year ago, so maybe that is why I remember so much. But any comments or thoughts?
The doctors don't want to do a c section unless its absolutely necessary and I think that is because I am diabetic. I know recovering is harder but I from what I have heard is that it's not as hard as it used to be. I appreciate any thoughts to help me with this!

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Esther - posted on 05/27/2012

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My first was natural and it was aweful and my baby was not breathing. My was c section and it was great! You not tired from natural birthing, so you have plenty energy to look after baby. With natuural. Pain and tireness = grumpy mum. Happy mum = happy baby.

Phelicia - posted on 05/27/2012

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I have had a vaginal birth in the hospital, a c-section and a vbac homebirth. I would NEVER suggest anyone to have an elective surgery for an uncomplicated pregnancy. C-sections are major surgeries and carry more risks to both you and baby. Having a baby is a natural process which generally completes it's course without issue. Healing from an invasive surgery such as a c-section is far more difficult on you and more painful, and takes longer too. Additionally, passing through the birth canal has many benefits for baby including assisting to clear the lungs. While it is a blessing to live in a time and place where medical assistance is available when needed, it should be used only when needed to lower risk of secondary infections and injuries.

Phelicia - posted on 05/27/2012

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I have had a vaginal birth in the hospital, a c-section and a vbac homebirth. I would NEVER suggest anyone to have an elective surgery for an uncomplicated pregnancy. C-sections are major surgeries and carry more risks to both you and baby. Having a baby is a natural process which generally completes it's course without issue. Healing from an invasive surgery such as a c-section is far more difficult on you and more painful, and takes longer too. Additionally, passing through the birth canal has many benefits for baby including assisting to clear the lungs. While it is a blessing to live in a time and place where medical assistance is available when needed, it should be used only when needed to lower risk of secondary infections and injuries.

Jane - posted on 05/27/2012

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New science discoveries show that there is a process that helps the baby from vaginal delivery to immediately begin to develop good bacteria in their new and sterile gut that will help their immune system as they grow. This doesn't happen with Cesareans. If you think having a surgical procedure done for ease, that is a major misconception . It was meant to save mother and child in emergency situations and should not be an elective procedure for ease or convenience.

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2012

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You don't know me from anyone, but I thought I would just give you my situation. I wanted a completely natural birth. I ended up with an epidural, and later a C-section. It was the worst pain of my life. For me, I felt every tug and pull on my innards as they tried to get my son out. Then it was another few hours before I even got to see my son or hold him. It was not something I would ever elect to do again. Sometimes, I still feel where my incision is; my son is now three. I will still try to go natural next time. In my opinion, C-sections should only be done in emergency situations.
Good luck with this birth! I hope it works out for you, whatever you decide :D

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2012

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Marian, I think it is reckless and irresponsible of you to encourage someone to have an unnecessary surgical procedure because your husband is a jerk. I understand you may have had marital problems following the delivery of your child (for the record many people do and it has nothing to do with sex). If your husband is so insensitive that he would complain over how loose you are, then don't have sex with him! It's not your fault he doesn't know how to please you. Did you think maybe it's not that you're vagina is too big? Maybe his dick is too small? Really!? I just can't fathom a husband, who is supposed to LOVE his wife being so unsupportive. I would suspect that if he has so little compassion for you that there were likely problems there before (or brewing) and have nothing to do with your body. The OP has had a vaginal delivery, and obviously they've had sex because she's pregnant again! NO doctor would say that a C-section should be given so as not to loosen a woman's vagina! That's the most ridiculous argument I have ever heard. She SHOULD do what is safest for her and her baby, what her health care provider is recommending, and THAT is a vaginal delivery.

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2012

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I highly recommend Hency Goer's _A Thinking Woman's Guide to Childbirth_. I had two C-sections, both after laboring without medication for many hours (19 in the first, 36 in the second.)

Every birth is different, and even with the best-laid birth plan, the end result will be affected by what happens with your bodies, and who is attending your birth. Keep in mind that if you are in a hospital, the OB nurse will have a lot of power in terms of interpreting vital signs and reporting them to the attending midwife or obstetrician.

If you do end up having a C-section for medical reasons, it's best to be as informed as possible. But having one for convenience is most likely in neither your best interests nor your baby's.

Is there someone who can work with you to help you come to peace with your last birth experience? I wish you all the best for a wonderful birth experience.

Kristi - posted on 05/27/2012

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You are going to get more advice than you want, but since you asked I had 2 c- sections and lived them both!! They were both planned due to restricted growth but having witnessed the trauma some of my natural friends went thru and the calm peaceful way both of mine went it will b a section for me everytime. I had no problems-- babies were great, tiny scar, no poochie belly, i started working out again at 4 weeks and my babies are super healthy. Loved mine!

Samantha - posted on 05/27/2012

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There's so many posts here, you probably won't read them all, but go Vaginal. You never know how the second one is going to go. It might be vastly different, especially being so soon after the first.
If the epidural didn't work, then explore all your pain options prior to the birth with professionals.

Even check hypnobirthing with can help a lot with the pain. Another friend of mine has terrible pain during labour and made sure for the second and third times that she demanded the epidural early, because she knew she would pass out from the pain if they didn't do it.

Explore all your options and make a plan you are comfortable with. the support people you have with you on the day could be chosen to help you with in the moment decisions as well. eg if you think you will waver then get someone in whose job it is to keep you to your plan.

Vaginal birth is so much better for you and the baby in so many ways. I had 3 kids in under three years, so I know what you mean about it still all being fresh in your mind. I had good labours and births and I still remember crying and crying through my third labour that it was too soon and I didn't want to do this again. But we got through it and my baby was healthy and he's a gem and I wouldn't trade my experience for anything.

Amy - posted on 05/27/2012

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As someone who has never experienced a vaginal birth due to complications in both my pregnancies and subsequent labours I would say I'd love to have experienced a vaginal birth just once! Every labour and delivery are different and you may find that this one is alot easier, however if there are problems and your consultant needs to deliver he/she will so don't worry. The decision was taken from me after 29 hours in labour the first time and was done very very quickly. I was signing the pink permission slip literally on the trolley with doctors rushing me down the corridor! C Sections are a 6-8 week recovery and leave you with a scar from hip to hip which although very neat leaves what I call a 'shelf' where your stomach muscles used to be (ask your c section friends to show you what I mean) and your stomach is never flat again no matter what you do. I couldn't change my children's first nappies or assist in their first outfits being put on as you cannot get out of bed for 24 hours and are connected to cannulars, drips etc. and I missed out on the first hour of my son's life due to an allergic reaction to the morphine meaning I was whisked away to recovery on oxygen whilst my husband was quite literally left holding the baby. Saying that, the c sections themselves were very straight forward as was recovery but weigh up your options very carefully and good luck

Daniella - posted on 05/27/2012

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C-sections are awful. I had a c-section with my second child. It was no planned that way but when the babies heart rate dropped, the doctor took me right into the OR. It took me 2 1/2 days until i could even get out of bed and when i finally did, I thought my belly was gonna rip open. I was in so much pain. I could barely shower and getting in and out of bed was the worst. I could not even turn over in bed either. If you dont need a c-section... dont do it!

Stephanie - posted on 05/27/2012

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I would say try to stay away from Csection. It's a longer recovery. Sorry that your first delivery was so hard on you. Hopefully your body is adjusting to the changes and you'll have an easier delivery the 2nd time around. I had 2 Csections. Not back to back either. My first child was emergency Csection and the 2nd was Vaginal as well as the 3rd. My fourth pregnancy was twins and they were born Csection because twin B was breech(and my OB was not a 'multiples' doctor). If I had MY druthers vaginal is the way to go. That's the way God designed it to be.

Hope that helps.

ANNA - posted on 05/27/2012

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There is so much that could be said regarding this.

1. There are far more dangers with a c section than with a vaginal birth. About 10 times the mortality rate for the mom for one thing.
2. There are many benefits to a vaginal birth for your baby, specifically for instance the birth helps to turn on the nervous system and improves breathing and lung maturation in most babies.
3. Recovery from a c section is longer even with out complications even if nothing goes wrong.
4. Nursing if you are wanting to do so is statistically more successful with a vaginal birth.

I would suggest you read a couple of books before you make more decisions, all decisions should be made with great care.

1. The thinking woman's guide to a better birth.
2. The Birth book
3. Spiritual midwifery

One other thing to keep in mind. Sounds like the epidural does not work too well with you and that is alot more common than people think. Often you feel just as much as you would with out the drugs. Perhaps it would be easier for you if you just trained to do things with out drugs. Many of the moms I trained as a childbirth educator found that their natural births were less painful by far than the drugged ones they had in the past. The fact that the drugs did not work well for you should be a concern if you are going to have surgery....it would be even harder to deal with a sugery with out drugs working than it would be to sit still for an epidural in labor. With property training you may find that there are so many ways to avoid pain in labor that the pain that is left is very manageable.

Rebecca - posted on 05/27/2012

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PS, though I must say. I am one of those people who bounce back from surgery well. You must remember that you won't be able to drive yourself anywhere for a while and no heavy lifting which includes full washing baskets and your other child. You MUST MUST do the exercises they give you to do also. GOOD LUCK xxx

Rebecca - posted on 05/27/2012

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I was induced at 2 weeks overdue 38 hours of the most revolting pain a being sick they decided on an emergency C section. I only dilated to 5cm this whole time. HORRENDOUS. Child birth is the most naturally unnatural thing a woman can go through. Second child was a planned C section because I have problems progressing. I waited till as close to the due date because I thought if I went into labour naturally maybe it would be different. Alas, baby didn't want to come. I walked into theatre sat myself on the bed. The did the spinal zip zap I have a baby. None of all the unnessesary other drugs they give you. Paracetamol and Ibuprofen and DONE... Personally I would only have C sections...

Karen - posted on 05/27/2012

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I would definitely opt for natural rather than c-section...
Since a c-section is major surgery and has a host of possible complications and the recovery period is long... especially since you have a child.The only solution that is realistic is to have a live in nanny/mother/mother-in-law.. to help with the housework and childcare of the older child..

I definitely agree that speaking about your concerns and fear of natural birth to your midwife and ask her about what options are available to you with regards to pain control other than an epidural for example gas and air, tens machine, ... also find out if they have alternative options like water births,

also let them know about the vomiting this might have been a side effect of the epidural and ask if they could give you something to help prevent or control the nausea and vomiting...

If you don't like the oxygen mask ask them if it is possible for nasal canula instead.

You being a diabetic does raise the possibility of a "big" baby... but as long as your diabetes is well controlled that is less likely.

This is all my opinion.. I am not the one having to face my fear of repeating a negative experience.. SO talk to you doctor and or midwife and make a decision that is best for you and your baby...

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I had 3 c-sections (the last two I had no choice over), so I am not an expert on the whole natural birth thing, but I WISH I could have had mine naturally... I feel I wasn't given enough of the facts about c-sections (heaps on literature, nothing verbal). No driving or lifting for 6 weeks, including your other child. (I started driving etc after 3 weeks and caused myself a world of pain and complications...). C-sections might be convenient if you want to 'plan' your child's birth, but recovery time is greater, I got an infection in y scar (gross), and scars get itchy ever years after. Plus, if you are planning more kids, it's not impossible, but more difficult to go back to natural.

Angee - posted on 05/27/2012

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I wish I could have had a vaginal birth. 36 hrs. of contractions after induction, then finding out that I had to have an emergency C section was definitely not how I imagined or wanted it to go. During the recovery I couldn't bend over and pick up my son from his bassinet because of the incision. My husband did everything and I got depressed because I didn't feel like I was connecting with my new baby or being a good mommy.
Luckily, my health plan is pro VBAC so I will try to go vaginal on our next one.
Bottom line, all pregnancies/labor can be completely different so don't think this one will be exactly like the previous.
Good luck to you and your baby!

Pamela - posted on 05/27/2012

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The goal is a healthy baby and healthy mama. There should be no judging in this and each of us chooses what we believe to be best. The main thing is educate yourself. Know yourself, your limits and your desires. Don't make a decision out of fear. Learn about the pros and cons of each choice and then choose wisely. I really wanted to go natural a fourth time in a row but when we saw that our little girl was footling breeched at 41 weeks we were faced with a decision. Wait it out and maybe she would turn. Try to turn her and then try to go naturally with a chance of an emergency c-section or do a planned c-section. I am so grateful we had the choice and so grateful we chose the planned c-section. But, that doesn't change my opinion that c-sections are last resort.

BONNIE - posted on 05/27/2012

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If this was your expeprience did you have your child in a third world country??? No woman in the US would be treated that way or told such ridiculous things. I had a section wit my first child in 1965 and two vaginal births after. In those days they dd a vertical incision which handles the stress of a labor much better thn the bikini cut of today. In the old days you got stitches, mine came out on the fourth day and i was already healed over them. It was uncomfortable to cough, sneeze or laugh for a couple of weeks but not terible. I would find another doctor if I were you thi one sounds like a sadist. Everyones experience, c section or vaginal is different. I have great grand babies now and have been present at the brth of two of them. I sure wish they had epidurals years ago.

Dawn - posted on 05/27/2012

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I really want to go off on a tangent about this but I'll restrain myself...let me just put it this way: a c- section is not a fashion trend...it's not a fad. It it's a legitimate medical procedure-a major surgery. Your friends are seriously nuts telling you to do it. Listen to YOUR body and YOUR doctor. My only suggestion would be to learn ways to cope with the pain naturally (it can be done by even the weaniest of moms...myself especially lol) or see about using something other than the epidural. In my opinion the less you rely on the more alert you and your baby are. I had my first at 24 with no drugs at all...at a birthing center. Best experience of my life. Challenging, painful sure, but rewarding. I got to hold my son the second he came out...b4 his cord was even cut! That was a wonderful experience for me, and I remember every detail. I am 23 weeks pregnant with my second and I'm doing the same thing I did last time because despite the pain and stuff I'm confident that it will go as well if not better than the first time because I well be surrounded by encouraging, positive people. If you have at least that you will be fine! besides...I hear the second one it's easier than the first anyway so just put aside your fears and negative memories and focus on bringing that baby into the world. I can promise you that you well have a much easier time.

Best of luck to you no matter what you choose. :)

Ps: sry for any typos...my phone is being goofy lol

Pamela - posted on 05/27/2012

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One more thing...(and I want to repeat that I know I had a relatively easy recovery from my c-section like Robin Henry, I too was up and walking around within the first 24 hours, I left the hospital a day earlier than normal and I stopped taking pain meds within the first week). But, consider also, I thought it totally stunk that I wasn't supposed to drive for the first 6 weeks (I cheated on this and drove earlier) and even worse was not being able to pick up my 2 year old. Then there is this gross "mother's apron" that I had never had with my 3 other vaginal deliveries. I was also so frustrated with the fact that for the first week I needed my husbands help to get out of bed and that it hurt too much to nurse while lying on my side for the first couple weeks. All the things you may not consider before choosing a c-section. Also, though I did not experience this, my doctor told me it is often more painful to have intercourse after a c-section than vaginal delivery. This made no sense to me but yet another a big point against selective c-sections!

Amy - posted on 05/27/2012

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I had an elective c-section because I panic in moments of surprise. It was amazing. I chose the date, within range of course, the time, the doctor, and the location. It was simple, took less than 1 hour, and was not scary because it was so controlled.

The day after a c-section is hard. Standing up is the worst of it...you simply think you can't. But 3 days later I was driving, hustling a stroller, and breast-feeding.

You can't see a scar, the surgeons these days are fabulous. I can't speak for all doctors of course, but get good recommendations and you should be all set.

I know that others will argue that natural is best, but for me, it just wasn't an option. I'm a pretty fearless lady, but when it came to birth, I did what I wanted to do and didn't care if others looked down on me. Being a mom is a sacrifice no matter how you do it. Choose what is best for you and remember that a calm and happy mother is a calm and happy baby. :) Good luck!

Jenn - posted on 05/27/2012

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there's really nothing easier about having ur abdominal wall sliced open. sorry it just sucks. my youngest is 18 and i still have numb spots on my belly.

Robin - posted on 05/27/2012

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thats funny I didnt have to go threw any of the things these other women are saying they went threw.. i moved a 2 bedroom house 2 days after my 1st C-section by my self.. I was up walking and carrying my baby and her car seat... the day after my 2nd c-section I walked into walmart and did my grocery shopping which took 2 hrs... the day after my 2nd c-section I felt so good after my second C-section they didnt keep me the usual 3 days I went in on friday and went home 20 minutes after my daughter turned 24hrs old.

Noosha - posted on 05/27/2012

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I was made to have a c section due to being to small to deliver my 2nd child, my first one was vaginal and with horrific results which is why they made me go c section for my second one. Even though my first vaginal birht was so bad that i was stuck in bed for a week not being able to eat silids or move, I personally would take it again over the c section. The dr that did my c section was wonderfull and the rest of the staff great, but for me the whole thing was horrid. I also got left with a feeling of sadness that I could not deliver my boy myself. Each person is different so all i would stringly say is make sure you do your research fully so you can make an informed choice, and in the end..............follow your heart xx

Heather - posted on 05/27/2012

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Unless you live in Hollywood or it is Medically necessary your doctor wont give you a choice. Let me say and I am sure others have said it is horrible to have a csection, I had two one Emergency after 24 hours of labor, vomiting, being on a magnesium drip for high blood pressure, and then my baby started having decels; her heart rate was low with each contraction. The second was really up to me and I outweighed the risks for both. You have a big risk of infection, bleeding, or death, because it is surgery on YOU. PLUS, you hurt and cant carry baby and car seat for at least 2-3 weeks. It hurts to get up and down for me at least 2 weeks cause I was alone. So I took longer to heal, I just had to do it the second time in pain. Most doctors are trying not to do as many just because of all the risk, also with surgery and being women increase risk for blood clots. I think it will be easier the second time, make sure to tell the anesthesiolgist about the your first epidural, maybe they can leave it in and give it when it wears off by drip. I hope things work. Also I thought I read diabetes. Your csection wound might take longer to heal. If I have more vaginal.....

Robin - posted on 05/27/2012

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I myself had 2 C-sections and I was asleep for both of them. I am not good with pain personally. I would have to say a C-section is easier. But it would really have to do I think on weather or not you are going to want to have your tubes tied after this new baby. If yes then if you have a C-section they can tie your tubes while they are already in there. I don't know about the other comments but I'm glad I had both of mine by C-section. With my first 1 I followed all the Dr's orders but my second 1 I went in to the hospital on Friday Jan. 8th and was up walking and showering the same night and went home Saturday Jan 9th Both of my C-sections were a breeze. But every1 is different I guess.

Diane - posted on 05/27/2012

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I always say, vaginal childbirth is pain for one day, c-sections are pain for six weeks! I had an emergency c-section with my son and regret it to this day, although the doctor assured me it was absolutely necessary (the cord was wrapped around my son's neck). The bleeding goes on forever, you can't walk for days, after that every step feels like your guts are about the spill out on the floor, and that first poo? (yours, not the baby's!) TOTAL nightmare. You feel like you're going to split yourself in half! Do what's right for you and your baby, but if I got pregnant again, I'd definitely try for a v-bac. Wish you all the best!

Pamela - posted on 05/27/2012

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Vaginal, no question!! My first 3 deliveries were vaginal, unmedicated, all natural if you will. My 4th baby was a footling breech and I wound up having a c-section. I would take an unmedicated, vaginal delivery over a c-section any day and am baffled at anyone that would say otherwise! C-sections should be reserved for those deliveries where it is medically necessary. Recovering from it stinks compared with a vaginal!

Julie - posted on 05/27/2012

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I gave birth four times, C-section once. Some of the labours were horrible (and BTW I laboured to fully dilated all 5 times.) but not quite as difficult in the same way as yours. I didn't have an epidural for any of them.

I recommend you take some relaxation/meditation/mindfulness classes to help you through it, as long as you are calm and work with the labour and not against it you will have a much easier birth. Maybe music or a big warm bath might help you through. Focus on relaxed, natural birth experience and will turn the whole process around for you.

C-Sections are the very last option, the recovery, pain from the recovery, the actual experience, I don't want to go there again. Worse, being diabetic I'm sure (as wounds take longer to heal, easier to infect).

Rachael - posted on 05/27/2012

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Vaginal birth all the way. My first was vaginal and second I had an emergency c section lost 1.5 litres of blood and recovery time much longer especially if you have an older little one who will still want you to pick her up. I had a VBAC only 12 months later which was fantastic. I would however recommend you do a coarse that teaches you how to breath properly and help with the fear that you would have from your first experience. A hypnobirthing coarse or something similar will help with this. My two vaginal birth were virtually pain free quick labours without drugs and i put it down to hypnobirthing.

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2012

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Are you serious? All three of my deliveries were C sections. Although I was happy not to have the pain I hear about with childbirth the recovery is awful. You can't do anything for weeks, just picking your baby up is painful. It is major surgery so why do it if you don't have to. The woman who said she was up walking around justa few hours later is definetly the exception.

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2012

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I had a c section and it was awful! I was in so much pain after the epidural wore off. I couldn't stand up straight for weeks because it hurt so bad! I was on pain meds that made me sick and so tired! On top of all that I had a little boy to take care of. I was so happy he was finally in my arms but I could hardly enjoy him when I was feeling the way I was feeling. I had to have my mom help for a month until I was able to fully function again. It took months to completely heal! My baby is now five and I remember the pain like it was yesterday because it was so traumatic! I would think a vaginal birth is painful but a lot less traumatic and the healing time would be far less. I had no choice but to have a c section. I only dialated to two after many hours. I'm not sure the doc would give you a choice and insurance may not pay for a c section if it is not neccessary. I wish you only the best with the birth of your baby. Please do your homework before going forward. C sections are considered major surgery. Take care of you so you care take care of your little one to the best of your ability. God bless.

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2012

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VAGINAL! If you have a choice stick to what is most natural. I have delivered vaginally after 30 hours of labor, failed epidural also, with episiotomy, forceps, and suction. That was my first child. Second child was an emergency c-section (which is the up and down incision). Very long recovery and just coming off of anesthesia is such a tough thing. My third child was vaginal. My fourth child was the best delivery and recovery I experienced. Vaginal and no drugs. I was up and about in about an hour. When we came home from the hospital I was out in the yard on a blanket with him within only days. My fifth child was a required c-section due to the previous c-section. It is now required. This incision is the traditional below the bikini line. It was a painful and long recovery. It was so hard to get in and out of bed for so long afterwards. Since I have experienced all of this I think I can fairly say that vaginal is by far the best way to go. Stick to what's natural to your body and the least amount of drugs possible. Of course be willing to do whatever you need to do for the situation. You never know what life throws at ya. I wish you the best and whatever you decide to do I hope that it is the best choice for you and your family. Congratulations!

Barbara - posted on 05/27/2012

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Every pregnancy/ birth is different first of all, one bad one doesn'y mean the second or third will be bad. Generally the first is the most difficult and gets easier after the vagina has stretched to accommodate the first birth. Second, it may not seem like a big deal but a C-section is a major invasive surgery which carries risk and should not evewn be an option unless vaginal birth would endanger you and / or the baby. The gynecologists can determine whether a natural birth presents a risk. Third. if you choose this as an option without medicall necessity the insurance can refuse to pay for it. I can't tell you what to do, only that I would opt for the vaginal birth, gets lots of rest, exercise and eat right allowing nature to take it's course unless the doctor insists a C-section is of medical necessity. Good luck with the birth of your second child,

Nikki - posted on 05/27/2012

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C section should only be when medically necessary. With my two I had pain meds in an iv slept through most of the night while having contractions. The nurses said I had very unusually easy deliveries however I suggest the iv meds because I was able to recover very easy with no spinal shots or surgery. After being in the delivery room during my step daughter delivering with an epidural,( she is about same size and weight as me). I would never wish that on anyone!!

Stacey - posted on 05/27/2012

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I have just had bub number 6, 2 weeks ago. All have been vaginal births except number 5 which was an emergency c-section. My first birth was by far the hardest, and the longest. For the majority of women subsequent births are usually much easier and quicker. It certainly was in my case. My c-section was fine. I had a really good recovery. I went home on day 2 and was walking around fine and had minimal pain, but it was much longer than after the vaginal births, even though with all of them I had perineal tears needing quite a few stitches. And I actually felt a bit robbed. I didn't get to spend the first couple of hours with baby because I was getting stitched up and then was in recovery. I did not bond with him as quickly and it was harder looking after him post-natally because I was very nervous about the scar. I know women who have happily only ever had caesars. One who has had 6!!! But having experienced both I would opt for natural birth every time!!!

Katie - posted on 05/27/2012

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After my c section, the next morning they told me to shower as well. And to clean the area that was stitched with soap amd water. And then they applied new steristrips...I was in for 6 day every morning a shower

Marina - posted on 05/27/2012

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Having had a very bad vaginal birth which required major surgery(5 days recovery in hospital in morphine)and 8 months to heal, to repair the damage and 2 subsequent c-sections because I can no longer have vaginal births, I would STILL choose vaginal birth. My first c-section was horrible, I had all kinds of complications with the anesthesia, I had a chemical burn from the bandages that felt like my skin was literally in flames, my fascia tore inside my stomach because of the cutting(so painful) my muscles were practically unusable and my incision took 3 months to close, it kept opening and leaking blood and fluid. My 3rd baby,2nd c-section went pretty well and I healed well but a normal vaginal birth is the ideal thing. We weren't meant to have to be cut open to get a baby out any more than a chimp or a cow it an elephant is meant to. Your body can do this, given the chance =)

Kimberley - posted on 05/27/2012

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I had a natural birth with my daughter and a c-section with my son. Although labour hurts, we are having natural again with our next baby, Im due in 4 weeks. After a c-section, it hurts to carry your bubby, it hurts just to walk!! And you are in bed for the first week or 2. You cant do much at all due to the stitches and pain. I found I couldnt even lift my baby out of his bassinette. My partner had to pass him to me. Recovery was long and painful. My scar still stings occasionally and It was nearly 2 years ago! I may have to have another c-section if bubby doesnt come on her own and im not looking forward to it! The actual birth with a c-section is awesome!! I loved the experience. However, recovery was alot more painful and longer than I expected. Its really not worth it without good reason. I would advise vaginal birth if you can. The birth is painful but you can pick up and do things for your baby straight away, and afterwards is a quick, easy recovery.

Sonia - posted on 05/27/2012

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I would definitely recommend vaginal birth. Not everyone recuperates the same & there are more risks with a"C". My experience has been with vaginal births (2). My first child took forever to come out (pushed for 2.5 hrs), episiotomy but I held her right away. My 2nd daughter was easy & I think it was because I had already been stretched out! Lol No episiotomy pushed for 15 min! Held her right away & nursed too. Now earlier this year I had a small procedure done which was similar to a c section & I ended up in the hospital with a blood clot & infected incision. Although only 1-2% of women have this kind of experience, it can happen & then ur kids won't have mom around for a few days. Listen to Drs & go with the safer option!

Ragenna - posted on 05/27/2012

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I had a c section and they kept me drugged and didn't even know some people came to visit me
If you can have it natural I would. But also think they cut you open and them push on your stomach every three hours that is what really hurts

Tania - posted on 05/27/2012

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Kelsey!!! A C Section is major abdominal surgery - and recovery can be very difficult. If you can avoid that...do. And remember - they uses the needles for a spinal tap for a c section also.

Kimberly - posted on 05/27/2012

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I had my son, c-section, it was easy, recovery takes few weeks longer than vaginal, but no long labor or pains. Delivery date is pre determined. I would do again.

Angela - posted on 05/27/2012

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A cs is major abdominal surgery. I wouldn't unless it was medically necessary. Most second births are easier and faster than first births but it's still difficult. I'd recommend educating yourself about birth. The position you give birth in and the procedures you elect can make a big difference in your birth experience,

Kristin - posted on 05/27/2012

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Just had my second cs a week ago, not my choice. I cant pick up my older daughter and its killing me, she doesnt understand. She didnt want to visit me in the hospital. And it hurts, plus i have a rash all over my abdomen and hips from one of the meds. Wish like hell my pelvis would have allowed a vbac.

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2012

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Kelsey, You do what is best for the child, I has 2 c sections and was up and running within 3 hours of the birth, Do what feels best for you,

Cara - posted on 05/27/2012

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This birth may be 100 times easier. Mine was. You body is made for a vaginal birth,
Not made for a c-section. Plus nursing can be more difficult as well.
you can do this. Your body knows just what to do
Trust your body

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