Rachel - posted on 12/02/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
My sister in law has asked that we don't do gifts for the children at Christmas time and only give them on birthdays, she says it's because they don't want to spend all that money on presents, which is fair because it is an expensive time of year BUT all the other kids and adults are going to be giving and receiving gifts this year as we are all going to be at the same place for Xmas. My partner and I really want to give her daughter something, at least something small, because we don't want her to feel left out while everyone else is opening presents, we don't expect anything in return for our children we just want to keep on with the giving spirit. My question is should we respect her wishes and not get our niece something or just get her something small eg coloring book and crayons? I really don't want to get offside with her (shes been a friend longer than i can count on both hands) but I just feel terrible for her daughter.