Should i pierce my son's ears??

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Tasha - posted on 03/14/2010

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I was thinking the same thing about my little boy who is 5.It would look sooo cute. Im not 2 sure tho. I got my 7 year old girls ears pierced & asked my 5 year old if he wanted an earring.He said yes if it didnt hurt,so nt 2 sure wot 2 do.May have 2 think that 1 over some more.

Sarah - posted on 03/13/2010

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hun it doesnt hurt to get his ear pierced but two ears is to much for a little boy, my son is 14 months and he didnt cry once when i got his ear pierced but every baby is different, just make sure its always clean and that he doesnt touch it

Samantha - posted on 03/12/2010

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I think pierced ears look great on both boys and girls but it should be the choice of the child to have it done or not, as they are the ones feeling the pain. Body modification, even as minute as ear piercing should always be a personal choice of the individual once they are mature enough to make those kind of decisions.

Tanushree - posted on 03/11/2010

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Well I had my son's ears pierced when he was 10 months old as in India in our Hindu tradition we do it...Well its should be ur choice if u want to do or wait for the child to grow up and make a choice for himself..either ways i dont think its crazy for guys to have their ears pierced

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Cheryl - posted on 12/13/2011

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huh? he's not a girl. Strange things ppl do to their kids - for what? Let him decide when he's out of school whether this is for him..... donate the funds to an animal shelter rather!

Kirsty - posted on 07/30/2011

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Never pierce your sons ears until he is old enough to decide for himself. I think that a person should always choose for themselves when and if they need piercing,it is a mark on their body they have to live with for the rest of their lives so should be their choice. Would you get them tattoo's or a Prince Albert piercing, I should think not so why should you chose to pierce their ears it is after all their body not yours.

Candace - posted on 07/30/2011

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He is your son and no one has to raise him but u so do what you feel us right. Everyone have their own opinion on how to raise someone else child or how things may affect them. They really don't know because every situation is different. I say YES

Eugenie - posted on 03/14/2010

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how old is he? you need to consider a few things you can't unpierce his ears and what if he doesn't like them that way when he is older there is a window of time when they are young when it is best to do this if you don't want to wait and that is before they start using basic motor skills like grabbing at toys because they will be less likely to pull or play with their ears and cause infection I personally think that anything permanent should be the decision of the child it is after all the body they will have to live with their entire lives even if they would look just so cute that way

Danelle - posted on 03/12/2010

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This has turned out to be an interesting read with all the replies. I have to say a few things though (I just couldn't help but add my own two cents).

I was eight when I was allowed to get my ears pierced. My mom, like many mom's thought it should be a choice that I made when I was old enough to decide. I can tell you that I remember it hurting really bad. I really wished that she would have pierced them when I was little. We just pierced my daughters ears (she is nine months).

On the other hand, a son is a little different and there are a few things to consider. First, is it something that will be accepted in your area? I know that different areas have different opinions on this. Some places it is very common for young boys to have pierced ears and in other places that isn't something that is done. You will also need to decide if you want to take care of them. Finally you will want to make sure that it is something you want for his future. Pierced ears are often seen as cool among young boys, teenagers, and men in their 20's. However, many professional jobs see it as unprofessional (doctors, lawyers, business men) and won't allow it or frown upon it. So, it is important that you take consideration of the now as well as the future.

Denisse - posted on 03/12/2010

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i mean its up to u but u should think about when he's older that might not be in style or whats most important he won't like it and he will always blame u for it so really think about it.

Teresa - posted on 03/12/2010

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not if you don't want people talking about you. and lets remember that people have very sharp tongues now days.

Taheena - posted on 03/11/2010

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Well it's ur choice.. u are the mom.. but... it also depends on alot of things... like ppl may mistake him for a girl or maybe he wont want them when he grows up... i mean why spend out the money now if they might not want them later.. i think u should wait.. i was actually thinking of doing it to.. to my son..but i wanted to wait until he can choose. but its all up to you hun...

Josephine - posted on 03/11/2010

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Ok, I just want to put this out there. Piercing any child's ears at a young age is a bad idea. For several reasons.

You spend all day every day worrying that your child will find some tiny item on the floor that they will eat and choke on or make them self sick with. Why add to it by giving them access to more tiny objects? If you think they cannot remove those earrings, you are mistaken.

Beyond that, kids are cruel. It is a fact of life. Case in point: When I was in elementary school, I wore a pair of long earrings for some rodeo theme thing. One of the boys in my class walked up to me and said "Hey, what happens if I do this?" and yanked on them! It tore my piercings all the way to the bottom of my ears, almost splitting them. It never healed. I have been told that for them to heal back closed, I would have to have surgery where they cut them more and stitched them. I do not wear earrings anymore.

The biggest slap in the face about this is, I had not even wanted my ears pierced. My older sister wanted hers done, so my parents had mine done at the same time, assuming that I probably did to, to save them the effort of having to do it again later. Had they not done it then, I would have probably never asked for it, and I only really wore earrings because I did not want to hurt their feelings.

I believe that is is okay for a child to have their ears pierced, but only if it is their choice. There is absolutely no reason for a baby to have pierced ears. It is not saving them any amount of pain doing it early (and they might just remember you putting them through that pain for no reason...) and they don't have to worry about fashion or anything at that age. No one is going to judge them. Wait and let them make the decision when they are ready to.

Dorinda - posted on 03/11/2010

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My son is 3 yr old, he wanted his done so we went to Wal-Mart and it was done,he likes it and there have been no probelms

Chantana - posted on 03/11/2010

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I have not pierced any of my sons at all and honestly I wouldn't 'cause I want them to make that decision on their own.

Sara - posted on 03/11/2010

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It's different with a son than it is a daughter, with both of my daughters I did it before 6 months, with my son, he didn't want it till he was 10, I allowed it to be his choice and a reward, after 2 years of honor roll I allowed him to get it at the age of 12 and he loves it. It's so different with boys, because it's not just "natural", I think you should allow him to be old enough to even want it.

Patricia - posted on 03/11/2010

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No please don't most people don't know that the piercing of a man child ear is a sign of slavery

Karen - posted on 03/11/2010

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my other half got our two (5 and 6) lads ear done and with in a month they took them out they had had enough of them but it is up to you at the end of the day.

Kayla - posted on 03/11/2010

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it really depends on how boyish is his features if he could pull off havin them pierced. Or else you could go with just one. But i would do them either when they are really little to where they will be used to them by the time they realize they are there so they dont pull on them, or else wait untill they are older so they know to leave them alone. In the long run its all up to you since you are the one who knows how he is and wether or not he can handel it or pull it off. :)

Rachel - posted on 03/10/2010

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I really dont think so!! Even if it was a little girl I still would say no... Let them get bigger and if they want to that will be something you two can go and get done together!!

Bridgette - posted on 03/10/2010

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I think it is different for a boy. Girls fine cause they will usually make that decision when they get older. A boy not so much on the approval side. I think that should be his choice

Tammy - posted on 03/10/2010

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Only if it's something that he wants. I think we as parents get hyped up with the current trends going on and we always want to keep our children up with those trends. I asked my oldest son that and he told me no. I wanted him to do it but I understand it is not something that is really necessary such as buying clothes or the newest Jordans just for the sake of vanity.

Renee - posted on 03/10/2010

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It's up to you to decide, but I have two girls and I have decided not to get their ears pierced. I do think babies with piercings look really cute, but when it comes down to it, it is not my body and I feel my girls should decide if they want holes in their ears, not me.

Jenn - posted on 03/10/2010

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Funny how many people say no to a boy but yes to a girl. Personally I don't think ANY babies should have their ears pierced. If, when my son is older, he asks for it, I will let him, just like my daughters - when they are older and ask for it. And I don't see what's wrong with a boy having it done when their older, I think the stereotype that used to be associated with it is long gone - like 20 years ago gone. I know a LOT of men who have pierced ears who come from all different walks of life and I'm pretty sure they are not judged because they like to wear jewellery.

Heidi - posted on 03/10/2010

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Boy what a response you have gotten. So let me tell you what I think. I have 3 boys. The 4 year old does not have any piercings at all. My almost 11 year old has 1 ear pierced, and is bugging to have the other pierced along with his eyebrow and tongue. I had no problem with the 1 ear, but I am drawing the line to the other piercings until he is at least 16. Now my 19 year old has both ears pierced, and 1 nipple pierced. Not much I can do to control him as he is of age, and works full time and can pay for it himself. Later this week he is getting his other nipple pierced. I think it all depends on the age, and I think 1 ear pierced on a boy is totally fine under the age of 16. So you do what you feel is best for your son! Good Luck! And if you decide to get them pierced be sure to help him take care of them so they dont get infected.

Susan - posted on 03/10/2010

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NO! This is a big pet peeve of mine. People freely making lifelong desions for their child, they may not want their ears peirced. Yes it can grow back but it does scar. When they can keep it clean on their own and are about 14 - 16 make it a right of passage!

Nicole - posted on 03/09/2010

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no i wouldnt i would let them chose their own decisions about that whole ear piercing especially for a little boy i mean a girl is different but dont get a little boys ears pierced unless he really wants it and is older

Camesha - posted on 03/09/2010

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No! He's a boy and not a girl. Let that be his choice. Then you have to deal with the stigma of an "african american " child that may be ghetto or hood just because of his appearance.

Veronica - posted on 03/09/2010

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I've seen quite a few comments on here where people talk about stereotyping, yet they believe that a boy should be old enough to make the decision to have done but a girl doesn't have that right. I don't know how old your son is and am just assuming that he is an infant. I too agree that NO child should be pierced without knowing what they are getting into. I have even seen OTHERS commenting about this same subject claiming that it is cruelty. Every decision made in life has some sort of consequence. Besides, babies are cute enough on their own to not have to be adorned with jewelry to be noticed. Gods work is unfailing. Your child(ren) is beautiful and perfect without earings.

Kori - posted on 03/09/2010

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I waited until both of my sons turned 10. 1 Chose to get them pierced and 1 chose not too.

Brittany - posted on 03/09/2010

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No. Probably not. I'd wait until he is older, and then let him decide that for himself.

Karen - posted on 03/09/2010

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If you want to pierce your son's ears, do it. If he doesn't want to wear earrings when he gets older, he can simply not wear them and the holes will close. Very simple! I have two sons and they got one ear pierced when they were 5 and 7. When they were 14 and 12, they came to me and asked to have the other one done. We parents get so uptight over the smallest things - it's an earring, not a tattoo! By the way - my sons are 19 and 17 now....they both have a tattoo! They have the same one on the upper arm. :~)

Tara - posted on 03/09/2010

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I would say no. I don't think I will ever let my son get his ears pierced even when he is to the age he can. LOL

Nikki - posted on 03/09/2010

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While it is true that children have opinions of their own, we as parents are here to guide our children into making the RIGHT decisions that could affect their life in the long run. Though it may not be right sometimes that piercing or tattoo may prevent a child when he/she is an adult from getting a job.

Jennifer - posted on 03/09/2010

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I didnt research you enough to know how old your son is but this was my situation...hope it helps. My son was 6 and him and my ex husband pierced his ear at home WITHOUT permission! I was furious needless to say. I made him take it out immediately. Now my child is turning 10 in a few months and he still wants his ear pierced. Im going to let him. He may not be 15 or 16 or even in middle school but he has an opinion of his own. After 4 years and he still wants it then I say its his own thing and I stand behind him. Acceptance starts at home for all the nay sayers! If a child can not be accepted for who they are at home then they will be self conscious else where and can cause problems at school. Not only does my child want his ear pierced, he also has colored his hair since PRESCHOOL! Of course I only let him use the halloween spray and it would wash out and was safe but I have occasionally streaked his hair and he loves different colors. This is something he likes. He doesnt get ridiculed at school or in trouble. Teachers actually compliment him. I have 5 children ranging in age from 4 to 16. He is the only one even out of 2 girls that I have that has been constant about his decisions. Thats how I know it is just his thing. Even when grand parents voice their opinion, I stand behind my child. Its him being him. I dont want to change him, he is a part of me. And now grand parent comments are smiles because they have learned that its just Cameron. I never want my children to conform to what others THINK they should be or act or dress. And my 16 yr old already talking bout tatoos. Fine with me. I will sign because I did make him wait 2 years now to get it. Only because I wanted to make sure he really wanted one and not because a friend got one or that I had one. He has an idea in his head of what he wants and has stuck with it. That tells me he really is serious. Parents really do need to listen to their children more and respect them for who they are and value their opinions!

Jaime - posted on 03/09/2010

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How old is he? If hes younger than high school and he doesn'thave a mullet...than NO! If he's older and Wants to, than let him

Nikki - posted on 03/09/2010

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No I personally don't think little boys should have their ear pierced, but that's just my opinion!

Bronwyn - posted on 03/09/2010

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mom honestly, i would wait. It is not that important anyway. Focus on lighter things for now. Believe me the older they get there is more complicated things to deal with.

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I did my oldest daughters and she ended up with them growing into her lobes, she has since healed but I do think they should decide so they can take the steps they need to ensure they can have them and then keep them clean.

Sabrina - posted on 03/08/2010

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Definitley Not! I think you should wait until he can make that decision himself. you might regret it if you do it.

Jamie - posted on 03/08/2010

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YES there is nothing wrong with it!! All my kids have theres done 3 boys and 1 girl, my 10 and 15 year old boys have both ears done!!

Danielle - posted on 03/08/2010

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no...while it is generally accepted to pierce a little girls ears when they are very young...i don't feel that ANY kid should have this done until they are old enough to ask for it. my parents wouldn't even let me until i turned 18. i always said i was going to go crazy and get tons of piercings...i didn't i got my ears and nose done. i hardly even wear earrings so i really only count my nose piercing.

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