Should I plan on hosting my own baby shower? Or keep waiting?

Erin - posted on 11/02/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am here trying to figure out if I should host my own baby shower.

I live in a different state then my family, my husbands family is not interested...(long story)

And Nobody has stepped forward or hinted about it.

I am a "Do-it-yourself" kind of person since I have not known a lot of support in my life growing up or with the decisions I have made to better my life in the past as an adult.

My husband is working full time But I was laid off in a probation period for my job because of my pregnancy, So I could use the extra help with baby things, I just want to make sure I am ready as a first time mom When My little boy gets here.

Growing up my family used to use baby showers as a way too not only prepare you with gifts etc, but they would have other mothers answer questions and give advice for things to do with labor-to after birth things. Basically a party where everyone imparts their knowledge and expertise too help the mother prepare, and help the oncoming excitement or anxiety of having a person in her life who relies on her. I would love to be able to get these advice tips and Input from people with more experience.

I have heard people say its selfish to do so and that I am "making it seem" Like I want people to buy me things, well In the grand scheme of things no matter who throws it thats exactly what your doing anyways.

Just want to know how long should I wait for someone to offer before planning one myself with the help of a friend or something? And since the holidays are coming what would you suggest for time of the party?

I am currently 25 weeks, And He is due in Feb. So I don't think doing it before Christmas is the best plan lol!

No negative comments please, just a mom who needs a little help and advice here!

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Liz - posted on 11/03/2012

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No one threw me a baby shower, so I didn't have one. Doing it yourself really smacks of greed.



As Dove suggested, you could throw a welcome party after he's born; I think that's an awesome idea.

Jessica - posted on 11/03/2012

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Just for the record, it is not selfish to throw your own baby shower, if your friends and family are not capable of doing so. It is a time to celebrate your coming baby and is 100% for the baby, not you. I am so tired of people saying that it is selfish... I am really happy that someone is going to host it for you, but in the case you had to host it yourself, id say go for it!!! :)

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I hope you have a wonderful Baby shower Erin. I'm glad someone stepped up to the plate for you ;-)

Erin - posted on 11/02/2012

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Thank you for your input as well! :) I kinda think sometimes the rush of everything happening gets a bit much lol

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/02/2012

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You still have plenty of time! Usually baby showers are done around 35 weeks or later. Give everyone a chance to do it for you! It is an exciting time, and a nervous time thinking about everything you have to prepare for. But really, you have time yet. Good luck! And give your family a chance to do it for you. It may end up being a big surprise baby shower.

Erin - posted on 11/02/2012

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Thanks Ladies, I actually Just was asked by my husbands cousin if she could help me throw one before baby gets here, Kinda weird how things work out huh? Lol

I appreciate the comments and am glad I hadnt started to plan one on my own.

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My opinion is this: I think it is bad form to throw your own baby shower. I realise that for some, a baby shower is very important. I never had one, no big deal. Your world won't fall apart if you don't have one. But if you really want to do something special then have a chat with you best friend/s and see if you can all organise something together. Otherwise, as Dove has suggested, throw a little welcome party once your baby has been born.

Dove - posted on 11/02/2012

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Throwing yourself a baby shower with the intention of getting gifts is quite frowned upon.



In my opinion, a better approach would be to wait. Someone might end up throwing you a baby shower, but if not.... After your son is born throw HIM a 'welcome to the world' or 'meet the baby' party. You know people will, most likely, still bring gifts, but at that point it is no longer about 'you'... and about introducing your friends to your precious baby. ;)

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