Should I put my daughter up for adoption?

Nellie - posted on 10/21/2010 ( 361 moms have responded )

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My daughter is four months old and this isn't the first time I've thought about this. I love my daughter, she is my reason for living, she is the only reason I get up in the morning. I feel like I would die without her, but I also feel like I'm being selfish. I am a single mom with absolutely no one to help me. When I say I'm doing this thing solo, I mean it! My brother has tried to physically hurt my daughter, Kayla, and my parents have supported this behaviour so I have nothing to do with them. My brother is 18, so yes, he does know better. Right now I am so broke that I usually only eat once a day, sometimes two. I have tried everything to make things better. And it's not a matter of me struggling, because I would go through this a million times for Kayla. I'm worried that my daughter would be better off without me. I hae a friend who is in the process of trying to adopt a child, and I know here extremely well, and we have the exact same views on parenting, and I know that my daughter would have everything she would ever need with her. I've been sobbing for days because I've actually started researching adoption. I want to take my baby girl and run away from the cruel world, but I want what is best for Kayla. What should I do?





*I`ve been recieving some replies that are base on mis-understanding, so I`m editing his post and putting in more info. I do not "want" to give my daughter up. I love her more then life itself and would definitely regret it and I would NEVER be able to get past that. BUT this is not about my feelings. This is about what's best for my daughter. Also, frequently asked questions: I'm 19, have my own appartment, am not religous. Oh, and I'm in Nova Scotia, Canada.

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Amanda - posted on 10/21/2010

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You are in canada, there is welfare, babybonus, Universal Benfits. Are you recieving these? And where is the father does he pay support? If not take him to court. Where in Canada are you, there are plenty of support groups, and foodbanks you can use. Also CAS will help you find help with food, clothing, and even get you dollar a day childcare so you can work, without removing your child from your care. Call Redcross (they will give diapers and food for babys to familys in need), Salvation army also will help out familys in need, with food clothing, furnature.

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Oh Sweetheart, my heart is breaking for you. Here are some things to think about...

Would it be a guarantee that your friend would get your daughter? Probably not...

Where would your daughter go if she couldn't get adopted? Most people want newborns, though your daughter is not far off. Think about the hardships she would face in foster care if she couldn't get adopted.

Where do you live? Do you qualify for government assistance like WIC, food stamps, free daycare (so you can work), housing assistance, etc? There is no shame in taking help so you can better provide for you and your daughter.

If you need to, move to another city to get away from your family if you are truly concerned about they harm they'll cause.

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Sorry I edited my post while you were posting.

Cas will set you up with cheap (normally $1 a day for low income familys).

As for your lease you can leave a lease legally in Canada just by giving 2 months notice.

I hope that helps you out with your choices.

Does your city have more then one foodbank (Some do), you can visit each of them once a month if they do?

You can message me if you like privately, I raised 2 young children on my own in the Canadian system for many years, so if i can give you any tips just ask. :0)

Kate CP - posted on 10/21/2010

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...but you can afford an internet connection and a computer?

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Shellyann - posted on 10/26/2010

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Hi Nellie,
Not sure if you still have your laptop to get this and I truly feel for you, but I agree with what someone said earlier about friends are like apt you don't stay with them for long. Think on this for a sec what if your friend adopts your daughter and then decides to move to another state and won't let you see her anymore and believe or not things like that has happen. PLEASE take a look into all the help you can get from your state/gov because there is help out there for you DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR CHILD. I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

Sharon - posted on 10/26/2010

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Praying for you to make the right decision. Also for provision for you. I've seen single mom do either. The family who gets a child is so blessed and the birth mom is sad but knows her child is safe. We have a crisis pregnancy program at our church that provides open adoptions or help for single moms.

Shari - posted on 10/26/2010

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Go to LDS Family services. Even if you are not LDS, they will help you get the support and counseling you need to make the right decision for you and your daughter. Good Luck!

Kelina - posted on 10/26/2010

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This is her last month with internet, and she is waiting for her computer to sell. It was way back on like page four but i know you guys can't have read through all 18 pages. I certainly haven't!

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Who are you talking to Alyssa? Random.

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE CLOSE THIS THREAD? I think you've been given tons of advice, Nellie. Do you know how to lock it?

Alyssa - posted on 10/26/2010

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You should not assume that she is spending her money inappropriately...for all you know she could be at a library.

Odessa - posted on 10/26/2010

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Can you go to a church or organization to get help? why would your brother hurt your daughter? hello! report him to the police..get a restraining order! can you move? try to get help anywhere or anyplace you can! im not in your position and cannot know what you are going through but if you can manage to get through this. i promise you that when you are older, you will be so glad that you didnt give your daughter up for adoption..please please dont give her up! what she needs more than anything else in the world is you, your love, your attention..if you have no money than you should at least be able to get food or help for her. i am in the states and we have food stamps and wic, which pays for food and formula for babies and parents who have low income. go to a church whether you're religious or not..that doesnt matter..just save your daughter..you are what matters most to her and you do have what it takes to raise her! your love is what she needs more than anything else! you will be soo glad you stuck it out and got through. and religion? it will not hurt anything if you pray! and right now is the time to do it i promise..how do you get online if you dont have anything...just keep and take care of her!

Bev - posted on 10/26/2010

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You can do an open adoption where you and your friend could decide how much contact you would have with your child. Talk to an attorney. You shouldn't have to pay for this. The greatest love you can give your child in a situation like yours is to let go. I think that you know the answer in your heart. Let your baby go and have a stable life. You are a brave and good person to think of your baby first before your own feelings. You can get past it. Do the right thing. You are so young yet. You have a lot of living and learning to do. I support you no matter what your ultimately decide.

Heather - posted on 10/26/2010

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You are being VERY unselfish! Ignore others who are not being positive right now. I have three daughters - 5, 3 & 1. They are my life too. You need to make sure your daughter is safe & taken care of - that is your responsibility as a mom. If that means with you, great. If not, then you need to make that happen. Even thinking about this shows you are mature & are putting her first. As far as your brother - if he tries anything again then you need to call the police. Remember - Kayla comes first. Try to take care of yourself & her. She can't take care of herself or tell you what is best. You need to decide for her. Good luck & god bless!

Kristi - posted on 10/26/2010

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Hi Nellie,
You must be going through such a hard time to be having such feelings. My heart goes out to you and Kayla. Sounds like you are doing the right things in putting her needs first and keeping her safe from harm, if your family would let that happen. It must be very difficult to have to separate yourselves from what might have been your only means of support. My first advice would be to surround yourself with the support of other mothers so you are not feeling so alone. Your baby will sense your sadness and anxiety, and you cannot be the best mother you can be if you allow these emotions to overcome your day to day life. It is really important to get counseling for these issues. In your situation, I would seek the assistance of a public hospital so that you can make sure you have appropriate counseling resources at your disposal. In addition, you might receive a referral to a social worker who could help you with proper groceries and necessities for living. If you are really going through such a tough time that you feel you are unable to provide for your daughter, then it is a brave and noble thing for you to consider other options for her. Perhaps the thing to do is to look into asking your friend to provide temporary shelter for your daughter while you get your ducks in a row. You should know, though, that it would be a terrible hardship for your daughter emotionally to suffer a separation from you at this age. She needs little more than you. But, that being said, you MUST take care of your emotional state and your basic needs. Please don't delay in seeking help for your little family. Much love to you both! Hang in there!

Tamega - posted on 10/26/2010

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Do they offer foodstamps up in Canada? If so go ahead an apply because they're a big help with food.

Amy - posted on 10/26/2010

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I agree with everyone who encourages you to look into all the assistance you can get to help you & your daughter while you try to take care of her yourself. Going into foster care doesn't guarantee she'll be better off - in fact many children end up in bad situations in foster care. People can be motivated to become foster parents just for the money. Plus, statistically most children in foster care end up on a cocktail of psychiatric drugs. :-( Definitely look into all community resources available to you...and is there any other extended family you could reach out to, or friends?

Dana - posted on 10/26/2010

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Try to get assistance from govt. U don't want to regret...try to get help from good people...churches will help with food, the state programs, etc. Be strong!! Best wishes.

Natasha - posted on 10/26/2010

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i know your not religous but mabe try praying about it cus that is one of the tuffest things to do. if u do or dont your a great mom for wanting the best for your baby girl never forgit that.

Janice - posted on 10/26/2010

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Sounds to me, like you DO love your child, and giving her up , I don't think, would be the solution. There are so many churchs, agencies, programs that would help you and your daughter. You would still have to struggle, but would be together. God never gives us more than we can handle, and I believe that. You, are devoted to her, is how you sound, and giving her up is not the answer for your well-being and her, either. If you can make it through this difficult period, you'll only love and appreciate her more-and you'll have a relationship that can weather all storms...She is a baby, love, food,shelter, the minimum is all you have to give her................people will help you....the adoption seems to be the last resort, first seek assistance!!!

Jeanne - posted on 10/26/2010

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Allowing a friend to adopt your daughter is a lot like getting an apt, with a friend. You most likely won't be friends long.

Mary - posted on 10/26/2010

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Hi Nellie,

I really feel for you. I cant imagine how hard that must be. I'm in Australia and know that over here they have a thing for single mums called the JET program. Its to get single parents into study so that when they qualify they can get a good job to support their family. The incentives they give are pretty much free childcare (i think about a dollar a day) and rent assistance and i think payments of about 600 or 700 a fortnight.

Do they have a program like that in Canada??

Giving up you child is such a hard decision. my sister and her husband have been trying to get pregnant for 10 yrs and have only just received a child. The tests they had to go through were very in depth including psych analysis, home visits everything u can imagine. i think usually they are pretty strict about who they give these children too. I think alot of people prefer newborns but 4 months is still quite young as well.
they child they have adopted was 12 months at the time. he has brought them so much joy.

Its such a hard decision. I wish i could help you in some way. Being in australia i dont really know how the system works over there. but i wish you all the best with whatever decision you make.

mary

ps, with the child support thing im pretty sure they should have a government agency over there that forces the guy to pay up. thats what they have here.

HEIDI - posted on 10/26/2010

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You hang on to your little girl...You get help from the government. I live in Canada too.. We have a great system you just need to get the proper connections.
Your baby will do just fine with you. In fact it'll only make your bond stronger. I don't live fancy and I don't have much either but I will give my girl everything she needs not everything she may want...

April - posted on 10/26/2010

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it is heartbreaking to hear that so much has been put on you. i can not imagine what you are going through. i dont think you should give her up though. there are government programs out there to help. I am a very proud person and i hate asking people for help but when it comes to me losing my daughter i would do whatever it takes to keep her in my life. Pray about it!

Kina - posted on 10/26/2010

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I say give her up for adoption because you're right it's not about your feelings it's about what you think (logic) is best for her and you obviously feel you she would be better off.

Danielle - posted on 10/26/2010

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Hello Nellie dear, I read ur post & my heart & prayers go out to u & ur beautiful daughter. I noticed u said u aren't religious, but u don't have to be to put all ur trust in GOD. I think u have a very sweet spirit just from ur post & i believe u can make it. Raising a child is never easy, trust me i have 4!!!!!, but it's a pleasure & u would cherish every moment. U already have ur own place, so that's a great start. I read another young lady's post & she suggested options to u for clothing & food. A mother has to do what she has to do. I think u should give urself & lil Kayla (my sister's name) a chance to see all the great things of life has to offer & it starts with u. Never worry about how little u have, because u said she is ur reason for living & that should be a great reason to keep her!! She's ur pride & joy, so please try to reconsider adoption, because i think u can do it!!!! TRUST GOD NELLIE.......

Diane - posted on 10/26/2010

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One of our daughters went solo like you for a month and decided to give her son the happiness he deserved. I went w/ her and it was the most difficult thing to do! BUT he's now 13 and is in a complete loving family w/ an adopted older brother as well. The parents are well off so they can spend much needed one on one time w/ him. This is so rewarding! My daughter's my hero. You are brave either way.

Inez - posted on 10/26/2010

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Just read your latest post, you're awesome and doing a great job. Especially making the decision that your parents will not do to her what happened to you. We are tight on funds too so sold my fancy stroller and got a free one that works just the same. Keep it up, you're going to be fine I can tell.

Trish - posted on 10/26/2010

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I think you are a strong amazing mom! Not only are you doing this on your own without family because you are protecting your daughter but you are willing to give her up for adoption to ensure she has a good future. You are truelly a remarkable person, and because of that you can get through this. Your daughter needs you because you are a wonderful mom. As far as the lease, I worked as a rental agent for years at an apartment building complex and you can sublet the apartment. Also look for resources to help you out. Is there a family resource centre or something like that? I live in Thunder Bay, ON and we have a fantastic program called Family resource. Hang in there girl you are going to get through this!

Inez - posted on 10/26/2010

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P.s. I have just done a google search, http://www.freecycle.org/search, there are about 543 freecycle groups near you. They are not a charity, just people who believe in giving and not wasting. If i can think of anything else i will let you know.

Inez - posted on 10/26/2010

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Hi Nellie, your daughter will know and remember that she was loved and that is the most important thing to a child, they get over everything else. It is so great to hear that you are so dedicated to her that you have made some big sacrifices to try and make ends meet. Focus on this positive aspect because, 90% of being a good mother is being there to nurture and having a good state of mind, don't worry if you don't have lots of things. Join up to an online community called Freecycle through yahoo.com. Im in Australia but i know they are all over the world. It is an online group where people post what they dont want or use for free and you can pick up normally that day. Some of the posters in my community give away fruit from trees, food, beds, fridges etc on a daily basis including myself. I have given lots of good furniture and near new baby goods and have pretty much clothed my children in for the last two years from freecycled clothes and when they grow out of them I repost online. Im not trying to do advertising but just letting you know that there are resources and communities out there that can help. Have faith, it doesnt have to be in a god but just believe that goodness exists but that it comes and goes and when it comes back to you, you will probably want your daughter back. On the other hand if you do end up adopting out, is there a possibility of having an open adoption? Good luck, and fight till the end! Being a mother is meant to be hard because the rewards are so great! you can do it

Jaymee - posted on 10/26/2010

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i am 16 and i have a 19 month old daughter and i feel the exact same way about my feelings towards my daughter, she is my world and she saved my life. granted i am not in your situation and i cant say i feel the same because i dont, but as for your situation i would say dont do it, if you say she is your life and you cant live without her dont d it because she wont be able to live without you either. to her you are the world just as she is to you, if you feel you must then you can but make sure you dont stop seeing her because it will hurt her when she finds out u gave her away and never came back. i know im young and to you this is probably a stupid answer and im sorry i cant help.

if you think it is best to get away and live your life as you and her and if you think it will help and make kayla have a better life then do it! she needs you no matter what.
i hope this answer helps becuase this just has my feelings in it

Holly - posted on 10/26/2010

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I can relate to being a single parent I have 15 month old son and his daddy barely comes to him. I live with dad and brother and getting food stamps along with child support from the father and its hard being a single parent

Nellie - posted on 10/26/2010

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I've see a few posts askig for an update: as of right now I am not placing my daughter into adoption, however that may change and I want to be well informed about the options in my area so I'm going to be in contact with a social worker. I talked to theHalthy Beginings worker, I talked to Salvation Army. I got a certificate to get clothes fo myself as I only own one pair of jeans: any extra money I have goes towards items that Kayla needs. My friend (not the one who I was considering to have adopt Kayla) is buyin me a few groceries to get me though until I get paid. I'm applying for subsidised housing. I'm selling items to help pay bills, stuff that isn't neccity: rocking chair, laptop, stroller as I have a sling so I don't need a stroller. Ièm pretty sure someone asked about other relatives: all my relatives who know the situation are pressuring me into sucking it up and getting in contact with my parents and brother. I haven't given in. I refuse to have my daughter grow up in th battlefield of WWIII. I am not okay with my brother trying to harm Kayla and I am not okay with my parents always screaming around her. When I was growing up, my parents were constantly screaming at everyone and I was terrified. I do not want that for my daughter. I'm going to look into finding a counsler. Thank you to everyone for 324 replies. I am beyond amazed and grateful for the support and encouragment of COM!

Dawn - posted on 10/26/2010

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Employment Support and Income Assistance:
http://www.hrsdc.gc.ca/eng/publications_...

National Child Benefit:
http://www.gov.ns.ca/coms/families/Child...

Food Bank Information:
http://www.feednovascotia.ca/aboutus_faq...

I hope these help you in some way shape or form. God loves both you and your precious daughter. He knows what you are going through, and what you are sacrificing to keep your daughter safe happy and healthy.

Michelle - posted on 10/26/2010

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Kate, I have a problem with your wording of "giving up your child" she is not thinking of giving up her daughter. She is trying to do what is best for her daughter. I have an adopted daughter and I have never thought of her birthmom "giving her up". I think birthmoms have to be the most UNselfish people out there. They are thinking about what is best for their children not themselves.

Nellie, If your daughter goes to your friend then at least you can have an "open adoption" where you would still be able to see your daughter. Bless your heart!!

Karolynn - posted on 10/26/2010

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you need to look inside of your soul and you will see the answer for YOU. No judgment, you need to do what is right for you. Today, one hears more often of an adoption which includes contact from maternal/paternal parents. Have you considered a conversation and paperwork which would allow you contact, maybe in the form as "Aunt X" to the child. All of your parental rights would be gone, but, you would be in touch with Kayla. ??? no adoption is to go through without you considering WHAT you want that to be. (just sharing, I have heard of this style before) This would provide you an opportunity to seek education and to get on your feet. USA does allow low income "moms" education and childcare with grants/scholarships.... maybe check into that too. You live on your own, that may be the ticket for you to provide Kayla with a future with you. Hope this gives you another way to look at it.

Valerie - posted on 10/26/2010

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I feel from the mere fact that you would express this, that you should consider the adoption. Too many children are raised in homes such as yours and many times it turns out tragic. There are many couples, myself included, that are considering adopting a baby. There are wonderful caring people in the world that you can turn to. I wish you and your family the best. Seek some counseling. I don't know too much about Canadian law, but it seems there shold be resources for you. All the best and lots of love to you.

Angie - posted on 10/26/2010

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Oh Nellie-I know things don't look good now but hang in there. Do check in your area for Government Assisted programs and also check with your local city government-there might be programs offered you don't know about. I live in Huntington Beach, California and sit on a Board that allocates government funding to groups that help and support single women with children among other programs.

What about your babies father? Not sure of the laws in Canada but he should have financial responsibility.

Even though you are not religious churches usually work with organizations that help people just like you.

Bottom line is there is help out there for you. I am a mom of 3 girls-the youngest at 10 weeks. Email me privately if you need a shoulder.

Amanda - posted on 10/26/2010

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i dont know about canada but are there places that serve 1 hot meal a nite that would help and mayb discount grocery stores so you can eat more i truely know how hard it can be i have 2 young children i raised with little to no money there has to be something to do so u dont have to give up ur life as u call her as all parents call there children i wish u the best of luck and even though u are not religous mayb a prayer wouldnt hurt u will b in my prays hun

Wendy - posted on 10/26/2010

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Short sweet and simple answer:NO! No, you should not put your daughter up for adoption. First, if your brother does any harm to your daughter, call the police and have him arrested. I am sorry your parents/family are not supportive. Second, Do you believe in God? Please remember to pray and I will be praying for you and your daugther from now on. Third, never ever do anything that you know you will regret! Fourth, if there is a will, there is a way...help can be found through many sources as someone mentioned earlier through government programs (child and family services), child support, shelters, moving, etc. Just call the local social services department for information. In my prayers, WB

Anne - posted on 10/26/2010

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I would say try for all or any type of assistance from your area and the goverment 1st. There is also help groups u can join made up of single moms and ones with young moms. If you want any help finding help I am here for you,

Diane - posted on 10/26/2010

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As long as you love your daughter, which you do, you will find a way through and things will get better. Down the track you will be thankful that you worked your way through all this and kept your little girl. Material things are no where near as important as the love you can and are giving her. Keep with it and you will be happy in the future.

Andrea - posted on 10/26/2010

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We have an adopted child and we adopted from a single parent who had no support and the father was not in the picture. We have letters every month from this wonderful woman telling us how she knows that she made the right decision for her child... to give it a better life. Being on welfare, etc.. isn't the life for everyone. I don't know if you should let your friend adopt the baby - that might be harder on you than you think. Knowing that the child is with someone that you know and calling that person mom might be very hard for you. I differ about the "has to be a newborn" to be adoptable.. there are many loving people out there who would love to have a child in there life that couldn't have one on there own. Just something to think about from the other side of the opnion. Just another suggestion for you.. at the agency that you go to - you could ask them to show you potential adoptive families "scrapbooks" and see what life has to offer who a child who came into this wonderful world by chance. There are also "open" adoptions - where you would get to see your child as little or as much as you want. There are always adoptive parents out there willing to do what you think needs to be done. Good luck.

Bettina - posted on 10/26/2010

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whoa whoa whoa Luwanna. Can we be more adult at how we approach a situation?? I little more compassion and maturity. Yes, she is young and YES this may NOT be the best decision, but she feels bad enough within her mind and heart than to have people NOT in the situation negatively criticize her. You don't know exactly how a person feels if YOU yourself have not personally gone through it or know someone who has. Everyone is NOT built the same and the fact that she came on here to post this is because she wants help. She needs to hear positive words and give her food for thought....NOT slander her. That was rude. She is NOT an idiot or stupid or a deadbeat selfish mother.

I will say this, I feel adoption after 4 months is selfish in itself, however, that is a personal decision and before making that decision, all options should be exhausted. She has to find out ALL resources in Canada that are available to single parents. It is NOT as hard as most think it is. Children are GIFTS from GOD and there are resources out there that will help. She may need counseling. She is suffering sounds like from Post Partum depression right now. She is a new mom and psychologically, she may just need help adjusting. She just needs help....NOT ridicule!

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If you don't want to give her up then don't. you will regret it for the rest of your life. Remember somehow things always work out..and it will be worth it to stick it out. It sounds like you are depressed, and do not see another solution. I suggest find someone you can trust to talk to, and make a plan for your life. trust that God will guide your steps. Love is unconditional and does not depend on how much we have material wise. Reach out for help !

Angie - posted on 10/26/2010

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Oh honey, you are the BEST mommy ever. Wanting the best for your daughter, even though you think it may not be with you, is what being a mommy is all about. You are showing where your heart is, and you are so courageous for doing so. I'm so sorry that you don't have family support- that has to be tough. I myself gave up a baby girl for adoption when I was 18, and looking back it was the best decision for her- she is thriving and a beautiful young lady now (it was an open adoption, where I got to stay in touch). It was heartbreaking, but I'm glad I did it. That may or may not be the right decision for you, it's all individual. I will pray for guidance and peace of mind for you. From a fellow mommy who wrestled with this choice.

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I think this is the best advice ANYONE could have given her. And I hope it helps bc family is family but people who hurt children are criminals and don't deserve to have anything to do with the child anymore. Even if they "only" allow it. That's just as bad!!!

Betsy - posted on 10/26/2010

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Will honey if I may call u that I know first hand how hard it is to be a single mom, I had my children when I was 15 &17 so I know how hard can be my children are now 44&42 my first husband took my daughter from me then she was 4 and would not let me see her she reached out for me back 1999 and we been together ever since It leaves a big whole in ur heart and soul to lose a child like that.So please talk with a man of God for guidance before u do any thing ,a child is a gift from GOD there is help out there for you Betsy

Janine - posted on 10/26/2010

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What kind of assistance is available in Canada? My heart breaks for you. I cannot imagine thinking about making that kind of choice and it also sounds as if you are pretty depressed, as well. Think it over, seek counseling about it, bc for anyone who has lost a baby could get really offended about thinking about someone who has one that is thinking about giving her away...you need to do what you have to do to make the life she has with you better for her...you see so many real life movies where the kids are so upset after finding out that their parents put them up for adoption. you can do it alone, many ppl do. there just has to be programs out there for you!!!!! i've read a couple of replies, and the one says there is help in Canada. We have Catholic Charities in the USA. . . but what about churches? Food pantries. Call an Independent Living Center... http://www.jik.com/ilcs.html#Canada check this site out, for starters. Independent Living Centers help ppl with disabilities, but they may be able to help with some guidance about who to call...(I work at one and that's something we would help with, if we know the info, we give whatever info we have) Good luck to you.

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I have actually read every single message on this thread. I have been slowly reading it for the past day.
And I have to say. Wow COMs! This is exactly what this community is about. Way to go and it sounds like everyone would take you Nellie into thier homes in a heartbeat. If you lived in Alberta I would have you set up so fast you wouldnt know what hit you!

I think this is a heavy decision for anyone to make.
And yes you do need faith. You need faith in yourself. Because God or no God no one is going to pull you and baby out of this situation but yourself. You are an example of the word "Woman". It is the mothers of this world that make it go round. Sacrifice and Love and Determination. But its also true that "It takes a village to raise a child". So go out there and get all the support you can. I wanna read a thread in 3 years on here that is from you asking about who elses kids have broken arms because Kayla fell off the swingset and is now in a cast. I want to hear that you have her in your arms. I want to hear that she can read before her friends and she hates eating her vegetables. Message me anytime. I dont think you are done being a mom yet.

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