Should I separate my twins???

Ashley - posted on 08/15/2013 ( 169 moms have responded )

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My twins start kindergarten next week, they attended pre K as well last year and were in separate classrooms I have to admit I didn't have a pleasant experience. So I was actually considering talking with there principal to see if I could possibly keep them in the same classroom. They attended a different school last year due to the fact it was pre k and were in separate classrooms. I wonder am I concerned about my experience last year or the fear about it being a new school and just seams easier for them and mommy to cope with them enduring this experience together. Any suggestions anybody???

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Tammy - posted on 08/20/2013

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Every set of twins are different. Mine are 11 year old girls in 5th grade. They have been together since Preschool. In the beginning they were together just because I didn't know any different and also because I looked at them as one child. I dressed them alike too. As all of us grew older (LOL) I began to realize that they are two different children with two VERY different personalities. One is outgoing but struggles in school and the other a bit more shy, worries about people liking her but is a straight A student. I have always told their teachers to let me know if being in the same class is hurting them in any way. Other moms and some teachers have said by 5th grade I should begin separating them so it is not such a shock in middle school. However, I decided to ask my girls what their preference is. They both said they wanted to be in the same class again. They enjoy having the support; they are good friends to each other; and it is fun for them. They have some of the same friends, but also have their own best friends. They don't always play at recess together or even eat lunch together. One plays soccer and the other prefers Girl Scouts. So I think there is no right or wrong answer to the situation. Just evaluate your children and go with your heart. Your heart will never steer you wrong.

Carol - posted on 09/26/2013

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My twins are 25 and both are successful adults. They were together until upper elementary school. Being together didn't cause them any problems and made life lots easier for me (one set of homework, same teacher conference schedules, no worries about who had the better teacher, etc.). By grade 5, they wanted separate teachers and we did so then. As both a teacher and a parent, I have found that parents usually know what their own children need and schools seem to worry far too much about this issue. Bottom line: children are resilient. Do what works best for your family and things will usually work out okay!

Diana - posted on 08/22/2013

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I assure you, I am not selfish. I am a mother of twins and I have an older child as well. I am an expert on MY twins! I don't need someone who doesn't have twins trying to tell what is best for MY girls. My girls like to be together. I asked them during the summer what they would prefer. They have chosen to stay together. Next year, I will ask them the same. I am doing what is best for my family and I have given my reasons. Degrading or insulting my reasons shows your lack of education on this topic. You could have simply disagreed. Unless you are a parent of multiples, you really can't understand this situation.

Jodie - posted on 08/20/2013

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I myself AM an identical twin. My mom decided to separate us for kindergarten (we never went to preschool). While we were a wreck in the beginning, it was for the best. It forced us to grow up as individuals (which we were, after all) and develop our own friendships. For years we had only felt we needed each other. This forced us to develop our own friends and did out individual strengths. My sister excelled in math and myself in English. We finally became MORE than part of a pair. And became known as an individual. As we grew we both became nurses and went to nursing school together. We are still inseparable but the lessons being separated has been priceless. I also got tired of being referred to as "one of the twins". I'm ME.

Amber - posted on 08/20/2013

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I have a friend with quad girls. They always keep them in the same class so they are all at the same level, same homework, same everything. They separated them one year and it was hell according to my friend. They all had different schedules, different places in each subject, etc. The good thing is their teacher always separates them in class activities so they do have their independence. They aren't in the same groups for class projects, etc and that's with quads! Seems like they could keep your twins in the same class but separate them for activities, etc.

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Katherine - posted on 10/23/2013

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I am so worn out a single parent of 17 year old girls last year of high school it has been horrible arguing in public at school. They act like they hate each other I am so lost at this point. Behaviour is sad.

Diana - posted on 10/10/2013

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I completely agree w/ you. That is the same approach we are taking w/ our twin girls ( 1st grade ) my husband is a twin as well and back in the 70's they didn't have a choice, but to be separated. He ended up failing first grade. He was not ready emotionally to be torn away from his sister.

Karen - posted on 10/09/2013

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The schools here separate twins as policy. I don't know if its the same over there.

Mandy - posted on 10/07/2013

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My twins are now 23 and were together all through nursery infants and juniors in the same class but in different groups for English and maths when they had there interview for senior school and were asked would they like to be in the same form they looked at each other and both said together no thank you they themselves knew it was the right time my advice to you would be let them stay together if possible they will find there own way my son is a porter and my daughter a nursery nurse

Soha - posted on 10/06/2013

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Yes seperate them and don't afraid they will be fine I have twins biy and girl and now they are in yesr 10 and frim day one if school they are in different classes and now they are very happy and having friends and their personality completely different from each other, so go a head and seperate them

Jolie - posted on 10/06/2013

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School does have the final say. I made them put mine back in the same room and that school year was so much nicer!

Angela - posted on 10/05/2013

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I have fraternal twin boys and we too seperated them last year for pre-k (3 hours a day 4 days a week). They did pretty well but really missed each other. Where we live kindergarten is full day so we decided to put them together for an easier transition. I strongly felt that to be away from mommy and each other for 7 hours a day would be too much. We are half through the 1st semester and they are doing wonderfully! They sit at different tables and are already making their own friends. More than anything it's a comfort knowing they are near each other.

Soha - posted on 10/05/2013

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Dont worry they will fine and will enjoy the school but my advice for you never change the classes let them sepetaye from each other to have their own perdonality, friends and to depend upon themselves. As mainly twins you will find one shyand one with strong personality so let them improve it.

Rick - posted on 10/04/2013

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Stand school policy is to separate. We had twin girls and they were in an Open Classroom. so it was a measure of their progress when they stopped running around the partition to hug each other.

Rick - posted on 10/04/2013

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we had girl twins - in K they were in two OPEN classrooms - so it was a measure of their progress when they stopped running around the partition to hug each other.

Jeanie - posted on 10/03/2013

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I am a twin and we were separated in school. You should allow them to be individuals and let them go into separate classes that way they will learn to interact with other children instead of each other and become individuals and independent of each other. You will always have a dominate twin and if they are kept together then the passive twin will become more dependent on the dominate twin.
They may look a like and were born together but they have individual tastes just like siblings that were born years apart. You need to step back and always look at the situation with them as if they were born years apart and do with them like you would other siblings.
If you treat them the same then you run the risk of them not being close to each other due to competing with each other constantly and resentment that they didn't get to do things as individuals.

Sharon - posted on 10/02/2013

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Hi! As an identical twin myself, I can speak from my experience. We were not allowed in same class until middle school. We were told it would help form our own identity. My parents did not have an issue with this, but it was the 70's. I believe it did help as I was the dominant twin. Twins cannot explain the bond because we do not know it any other way. I do know that I can't live without her and we speak/email/text @ least 4 times/day -- and yes, about nothing :)

Whatever you decide, your children will be fine.

Holly - posted on 09/29/2013

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I would second the suggestion that you know your kids! I have a coworker who is probably in her 40s. Her twin had been living in Idaho for 16 yrs. She is finally back to help care for their aging parents and she says she feels like a "whole person again." I think it is hard for singletons to get the twin bond. At such a young age it doesn't seem reasonable to force a separation if they are not ready for it. My kindergarten daughter is with a "separated twin" whose sister is in another class. I think it is a struggle for her. Best of luck with your amazing kids!

Erin - posted on 09/27/2013

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My twins (boy girl) are in first grade. They are together and I intend on keeping them together until they ask to be apart. They have different friends and interests but get very preoccupied with their sibling and worried if they are seperated for a long time. I feel it is in their best interest to keep them together for the time being.

Amber - posted on 09/26/2013

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I am actually a twin! My sister and I are really close, (still are, always will be!) In kindergarten I think it is a good idea for them to be together, but as they get older they are going to need to learn how to be more independent. You should talk to the principal and ask him about putting them together in kindergarten, but definitely have them separated after that!

Rachel - posted on 09/26/2013

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On one hand, I think they should be separated because they are two different people so they should have two different experiences. On the other hand, I think sometimes they like to remain together and might learn better if they have the other around.
I'm not a twin though so I don't really understand the connection they can have.
I'd ask twins what they preferred. There have to be people on here that are twins and can relate.

Shaina - posted on 09/26/2013

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I live in texas, & here there is a texas twin law that allows parents to decide if they want the twins to be in the same class or not....im pretty sure mine are going to be together. Though they are identicle genetically, they are very different & have distinct personalities. They play well together, & often have a scuffle or 2 over sharing, but were a very close family & im thinking having the same homework sent home each day, the same spelling lusts each week, & one teacher (poor teacher who gets my trouble makers) to deal with will help us have that much more time to dedicate to them. We try very hard to make sure they have their own identities, & they stand up for who they are! I dont think having the same teacher in a group of 20 kids is going to change that..not for mine anyway.

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Where I live, they separate twins to give them each an identity and to learn individual social skills. Twins have a way to bond to each other before other children. In order to encourage individuality, they separate them. They will see each other during lunch, recess, before and after school, so they will never be 100% out of each other's sight's - but in order to allow each one to grow into their own person and not constantly be identified as a "twin" and one half of a whole - they split them. We have several sets in my son's school and each set does wonderfully.

Jess - posted on 09/24/2013

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I am a twin & we were in kindergarten together and both primary and secondary schools, we were in the same class for prep and year one but after that we developed our own friends and intrest, but it was very convenient to have my twin at my school

Leanne - posted on 09/24/2013

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My boys are 6 they where separated in nursery this was an ordeal, I was informed that they where going to be separated in juniors so this would get them ready for it.
However when they start there junior school they stayed in the same class but in separate groups this I felt was much better for them, they have been together since the start of there little life's who is anybody to say they should be separated, they have growing up to do, they have friends, they are high achievers.
As they grow I am sure they may develop different interests outside of school, if this happens then I will encourage them to do soccer rugby or guitar or dance separately if that's what they are in to.
My outlook is they grow up too quickly as it is due to the world we live in because of one thing or another.
Twins special bound is there's, why do people assume what is best for them like governments etc. Let them grow up have there spats naturally. they are best friends. I say mother knows best and do what you feel is right. mine actually thrive off each other. But enjoy them they are a special gift to any mother. x

Deborah Ridgely - posted on 09/23/2013

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I have twin sisters several years younger than me, and they were together in daycare, preschool and Kindergarten, but I think their school gave them separate classes in 1st or 2 nd grade. It was tough for them, but they learned to be different individuals, too. I think they should stay together in the earlier years if possible, especially since they are in a new school setting. I would ask the principal or administrator to allow them to be in the same classroom since they are new, if the twins are telling you that is what they are hoping for. If they are not placed in the same room, it may seem harder for them, but remind them that the other children are not so fortunate as to have a twin and must learn to do school without a twin. They can do it, too. It may not be easy, but it is how you handle it that will teàch the twins how to deal with it. You can help them adjust, either way.

Diana - posted on 09/20/2013

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Hi Amy! Thank you for your kind post. I am in contact w/ my girls teachers. I'm also on the PTA and I volunteer anywhere from 5-10 a week at our elementary school. We have the twins who will be 7 in Nov and our older daughter who just turned 8 last week. The twins are doing well in first grade. They just made a 100 on their first spelling test. They are in the same classroom roughly 90% of the time. They are in different reading levels, so they are separated during that time. My girls like to be together. In fact, they are sleeping together as I type. They have the same friends as well as some of their own individually. This is the best way I can explain it. One doesn't step on the other. They each have their strong suits as well as their weak suits. My husband is a twin and he remembers being ripped out of his sisters arms. He ended being held back in first grade. He wasn't ready to be separated. If they waited another yr, they would have had better results. My opinion is that I will keep my girls together until THEY tell me otherwise, not when some educator decides for me. In Texas there is a state law called " The Twins Law " protecting our choice to keep them together. I'm not claiming to be an expert on anyone else's kids, I'm just an expert on mine. If they choose to be separated next yr, I'd be more then happy to obliged. BTW, our 2nd grade daughter makes straight A's, so obviously we are doing something right!! Thank you again for your input.

Nicole - posted on 09/20/2013

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I have 8 year old twin girls. They are in 2nd grade but have been separated since Kindergarten. Their teacher at the time suggested the separation to encourage the girls having their own identity (socially at least) and because the teachers were having a hard time telling them apart (which is not why I agreed to the separation). They've been separated ever since.

In fact, last year was the first time they didn't sleep in the same room. I learned while we were moving in that the rooms in the house we were renting were too small for two twin beds. They've adjusted just fine. I agree that all kids/multiples are different so I think feeling them out is best. You may be surprised as to how they adjust/react.

The next task as a single parent, is for me to encourage and expose them to what they are interested in as individuals with only myself to get them to and from events/practice, etc.

Keri - posted on 09/20/2013

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I went to school with a set of identical twins from 7-12th grade. The only classes I knew of that they had together were their "electives" (like band, drama, etc.) I can't say what it was like for them, but they seemed like regular kids who had their own friends and their own lives. Of course, they had some of the same friends, but they were their own selves and not copies of one another. I think if multiples get put together for the convenience of adults it's really depriving the kids of becoming their own person. Even as a single-born child, I still had an older brother and I was expected to live my life similarly to my older brother. There were milestones in life that were celebrated similarly for both of us. Admittedly, we both did band and floor hockey and a couple other things, but they were each our own choices and I chose the activity because it was fun for ME, not because my brother did it. I love to swim and joined the swim team. My brother likes to swim but wanted nothing to do with the competitive aspect. In short, let your kids be themselves and don't put them together just because you think it would be better for them. It might not be.

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2013

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I'm a 29 year old identical twin and I clearly remember being in pre-k and kindergarten in a school that required us to be in separate classrooms and I also remember both of us crying about it probly every morning. Please don't separate them if you have any say in it. My mother ended up switching our school cuz it was that bad for us. Let them stay together as long as they decide they want to be. Its a horrible thing they do, forcing such little kids to be apart from what's literally their other half. Don't do it for homework purposes or time management purposes or for your own benefit.

Linda - posted on 09/19/2013

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my twin grandsons are in the same classroom, and have always been. my son, said, that their homework is outragious......so, if you have 2 different teachers, and they give home work, the chances r you will be up all night tyring to help them.....he said for the second grade, they come home with homework, that sometimes he can't even answers,,,,,,and he has two degrees. said the boys are cluless, that the teacher doesn't explain, what the home work is about. algebra in the 2nd grade????

Mary - posted on 09/17/2013

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hi i have twin girls and i kept my girls together at kindy. they are now at school going into there 4th month. i just think that they were born as twins you should be able too see the signs when its time too seperate but you have too let them no what you are doing and why. haha very important stage without them or you getting upset over it. talk to the teachers at preschool and school how you feel.. i have seen one of my girls advanced in there class bit more than the other one. i am keeping a close eye on them both and decided i may seperate them next year, as they are growing up and have different friends too play with in the playground which is really good. they enjoy school but still look after one another if anything happens at school. so one will be correcting the other if she does anything wrong.

Kim - posted on 09/17/2013

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Ashley, I'm a twin and was with my sister in Kindergarden. Don't listen to everyone about the separation thing, there will be plenty of time for that. You, better than anyone else, know your girls. For my sister and I kindergarten was the first time we were with that many other kids at one time. Your girls did have preschool but for us having each other did make it easier and I think enriched the experience. Twins do have a unique relationship and, like it or not, they are dependent on each other for many things and will be for a while which is not a bad thing. They will naturally grow at their own pace and learn their individual strengths. Now when they are ready to separate for college, you will wish they were back in kindergarten. Much Love.

Karen - posted on 09/16/2013

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I am reading several "I" statements in the OP's question which leads me to ask - is this about your experience or about theirs? What is best in the situation is what is best for them. Are their personalities and interests the same or different? Often different teachers have different teaching styles and personalities, therefore what works best for one child may not work best for another. The concern should be on maximizing the potential of each child, not the convenience of the parent. It is very possible that separating them, at least in early grades, will allow to become their own person rather than as one of "the twins". At least in our school many things come into play in how kids are assigned, including the other kids in the class. Some kids just don't do well together. If one of your children clashes with another child, is it really fair to keep your child in the same class as their sibling because it is convenient for you and have them dislike the year because of clashing with another child? Do they tend to rely on each other too much and not develop their own coping skills and/or friend making skills because they don't have to due to the sibling always being there? Maybe splitting them up will help strengthen those very useful skills. The focus needs to be on them and enjoying, not enduring any experience, together or separate. The focus also should not be on making it "easier for them" as children need to stretch and grow and be challenged. Making things easy for them limits them in the long run.

Eshani - posted on 09/16/2013

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Hi Ashley! I went through the same issue last year at the beginning of Kindergarten with my twins! However they are now in Reception and have adjusted so well! However I had to deal with an issue last year which was that at Break time when they get together to play they lost each other and couldn't play together!! That was very scary and traumatic coz they couldn't find each other between the whole crowd of kids who all wore the same uniform! It did trouble me too! Anyway after speaking with my friend we told them, there is a slide which they both like! So if one l loses the other run and stand near the slide and then the one can find the other at that meeting point. We had a lot of enacting at home and glad to say In a few days they were happy and very soon Found their own friends and are happy!
I feel they are individual people when in separate classes and specially no chance to be compared by one class teacher.. As to "oh one is good in x than the other.." Etc.
hope you find a solution and al the best for your little Angels !

Devon - posted on 09/14/2013

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I have 10 year old twin girls and they have been separated since kindergarten and it has worked out great. They get to make there own friends, figure out who they are as an individual and they concentrate a lot better. Even though they are twins, they still need to do there own things and make there own friends

Sheena - posted on 09/13/2013

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I am a twin and my sister and I spent pre-k and kinder together and the rest of our school life apart. We are completely different individuals now with our own lives but our bond is still extreamly strong, we call each other multiple times a week.

Carolyn - posted on 09/13/2013

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I am a twin...and attended a relatively small school from K-12. My twin and I were in the same Kindergarten class and separate (with the exception of a few single classes off and on) for the remainder of our school years. We did GREAT being separate. It really allowed the focus to be on each of us individually vs "the twins". Whether we ever discussed it with our mom, I do not remember. However, I remember the importance of individuality. Now, my mom continued to dress us alike (or very similar) for several years; and, due to the small size of our school and community, we shared the same group of friends. We set our own "rules" in regards to extracurricular activities. Once Marilyn tried out and made football cheerleader, I was "prohibited". I ended up doing basketball cheer. We both did band, but I stuck with it longer. Then, upon graduation, she went to a totally separate college than I. Long story short, I don't know that it matters as your twins are going into kindergarten. However you choose to proceed, make sure you recognize the importance of individuality with them. Maybe by separating them, you will encourage independence, inner strength, and confidence. Good luck. You are in a very special position.

Janey - posted on 09/10/2013

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I have identical twin girls who are 13 now and had this conversation with the principal when they started kindergarten. He left it up to me so the 1st time they did kindergarten I had them separated and we all cried when they found out they wouldn't be together. My reasons for separating was that one was more independent and the other more dependent. So they did their first year separate with being in rooms next to each other and when the dependent one needed a hug or pep talk the other was allowed to go talk to her. They ended up having to repeat kindergarten...another hour long discussion with the principal cause one teacher passed one and the other didn't by her teacher. And for their repeat year in kindergarten they were together with a different teacher for both of them from the previous year. Both exceled and have been separate since. You just have to go with how your twins are but ultimately they will thrive on their own. Mine are 13 now and argue constantly... hoping it's a phase cause they used to be attached at the hip. Wishing you luck.

Kimi - posted on 08/29/2013

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It really just depends on the girls. I was in the same class as my brother once in a while (like if there was a favorite teacher) and it honestly made no difference either way. He's one year younger than me and my mom chose to have us start together because I was so little and quiet. I'm sure it made me feel a bit better having him there but we didn't lean on each other at all. I made my own friends, he made his own friends, and we shared a few too.

Tim - posted on 08/26/2013

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I think it depends on them: some twins need to have their own space and class, and others really want to be together and that is fine too. Trust your gut in knowing YOUR kids. Ask them what yhey want also, and make that part of your decision.
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Darlene - posted on 08/26/2013

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I always separated my twin boys. First, because they looked so much alike and no one could tell them apart and second, because they were so ornery. In middle school and high school they did have some classes together. They are 26 now and successful. I do not feel it hurt them to be separated,

Sandra - posted on 08/26/2013

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No no I have 16 yr old twins boys and now a 10 month old baby boy (all having the same father incase your thinking) and I never ever separated them
As they grew the found themselves in the twin world and
Found separate friends although they grew apart then together lovely to see now there both very mature young men with a very striong bond they look
After each other x

Kari - posted on 08/26/2013

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While it might make you more comfortable, I think you would be doing a disservice to your kids. They need to develop their own individual personalities and open up to socializing with other kids that are in their class. I think it is healthy for them to be apart, especially since they will be coming home together and spending most other time together. That way, they can each share their individual wonderful stories about their day with the family at the dinner table, etc... I would be worried that they would "cling" to each other and not socialize as well, if they were in the same class.

Corlene A.R - posted on 08/26/2013

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I'm a mother of two girls and even though it's easier to have them in the same class room because of home work PTA etc. It's much more profitable to have them in separate classroom. When my girls started I had the same fear of separating them but the teachers taught it was wise to do that and I did at first it was really hard for me I don't think it's that hard for the children as it is for the parents, but I glad I did and to this day now 11years, I'm proud because it give them a chance to develop their own personalities they became individuals and I became very happy. My biggest problem I had with them is when one got sick the next one will, every thing happens at the same time but as they grow in school they grow in every thing else as individuals after all they may be twins but they are individuals and I saw that when they decided that they did not want to dress alike any more they wanted different clothing

Lise - posted on 08/26/2013

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I have twins starting Kindergarten this year and I plan to ask for separate classrooms. They are both great girls and they play well together, but one of them is really passive and looks to the other to provide cues on how to behave, and the dominant one is always "taking care" of the other. I know if they don't have a chance to experience school without that dynamic, it's possible she won't learn to speak up for herself and make her own decisions. They were in the same Pre-K class last year and together they were a force of distraction difficult for the teachers to manage. The teachers chose to separate them into different groups putting one of them with the 3-year olds even though they were four, and they responded well to that.

Paula - posted on 08/25/2013

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I forgot to add - that for some their twins seem to dominate or only play with each other, but mine couldn't care less about their sibling being in the same class - they had their own friends and activities. Even the teachers liked that they were individuals and we didn't make them do everything the same.

Paula - posted on 08/25/2013

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I put my twins in the same classroom even into junior high. I did this because I tried to do separate classrooms and it was way too much for this working at the time) mom of 4 to try to navigate. Different teachers, rooms, homework and classroom happenings. Even in middle school I kept them in the same hall with the same teachers, just different schedules.

Amy - posted on 08/25/2013

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Diana- I am sure you are an expert on your kiddos at home. You sound like a fantastic mother. Have you ever asked a teacher or the school how they are doing in class? Has the school recommended separating them? What is hard for many parents to understand is that children behave very different at school than they do at home. When out of their "comfort zone" some children will become very introverted. If the twin is there to speak for them, they never have to stretch themselves and overcome this. Many parents refuse to accept this because its not the behavior they see. Or, because the children say they don't want to be separated. My twin sisters were a year older than I was. I would have LOVED to have been in a class with my sisters, but it wasn't an option. I loved having "built in friends" because it meant I didn't really have to try. I wouldn't have learned many basic social skills needed to be a successful adult if that was the case...

Amy - posted on 08/25/2013

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I am not a mom of twins, but I am a teacher of K and Prek for 18 years. I'm not claiming to be a twin expert, but I guess I can be pretty close to a Kindergarten expert. I also have sisters that are twins. In my teaching experience I have had twins that are together, and twins that are separate. In every single one of my experiences where the twins stayed together, one of the twins was dominate in one facet or another. Sometimes the parents acknowledged it-- sometimes they did not. When separate, the twins are allowed to soar... They grow both academically and socially, which is exactly what kindergarten is all about. In the end, twins are still individual people. They should be allowed to begin to develop their own personality, separate from their sibling, even if just for a few hours a day. No one is saying stop being a twin, don't play with them on the playground, don't have the same friends. However, this gives each child the opportunity to develop equally. As several people mentioned, teachers are very accommodating for parents of multiples. We usually assign the same homework, do the same activities, talk about the same things in class. At some point you need to view your children as two unique individuals, and give them separate time apart from each other. Unless they are conjoined twins, when they are adults, they will be not be living together and working together. Help them begin to become independent.

Tarin - posted on 08/24/2013

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I have triplets girls (one with special needs) and they were all together for three years of pre-school. At Kindergarten they were separated, my special needs child was in an inclusion class and "bounced" and out of the others classrooms for the past 7 years. They are 14 now, and I praise the fact that they are separated in school, as they are on top of each other in every other aspect of life. Two families I've connected with also have a set of twins each: one has a boy-girl who are nine and have not been separated, but do very well together. The other two boys who were not separated until 5th grade and their grades and social performance improved.

Trust your instincts as their mother and certainly take into consideration has you want them to grow as individuals and how you want other to view them. I only refer to my girls as triplets when I'm talking to strangers referring to our family dynamic. Good uck!

Rose - posted on 08/24/2013

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I have twin girls that are seventeen now and they've been seperated all through school and I think it was the best thing for them, it helped them develop their own personalities

Diana - posted on 08/23/2013

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So you have " heard " this many times huh? Obviously you don't have twins. You are just basing your opinion on what you have heard. I'm basing my opinion on the fact that my husband is a twin and we have twin girls! So, I am speaking from personal experience! .. Not just on hearsay!

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