Should i still rock my 10 week old baby boy to sleep??

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Kerrie - posted on 10/13/2012

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off course you should .babies dont have rule books ...you do what ever your baby needs at what ever age he is....dont listen to family and friends who tell you ...to do this and dont do that. you should nurture and attend to all your babies needs no matter wht the age.every babie is different so there is no right or wrong do wht feels right and follow your natural instinks and watch your baby thrive .....good luck

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Laura - posted on 02/18/2009

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hi emma please dont think about anything anyone says you should or shouldnt do  my little girl is 10mths next week and some nights i rock her to sleep some times i just put her in her cot to settle herself its totally up to you and how you feel i honestly believe the more contact you get with them the better they trust you and know you wont ever leave them i prob started to put her in her cot awake when she was 6mths and she took to it bril and everyone ive suggested it to says exactly the same as long as you dont abandon them and they feel safe til they get used to it do it when your ready i sit in he room not sayin a thing and she settles herself in less than 10 mins usually less cos she knows im always there do whats right for you and your boy and no one else !!!



 

Laura - posted on 02/18/2009

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hi emma please dont think about anything anyone says you should or shouldnt do  my little girl is 10mths next week and some nights i rock her to sleep some times i just put her in her cot to settle herself its totally up to you and how you feel i honestly believe the more contact you get with them the better they trust you and know you wont ever leave them i prob started to put her in her cot awake when she was 6mths and she took to it bril and everyone ive suggested it to says exactly the same as long as you dont abandon them and they feel safe til they get used to it do it when your ready i sit in he room not sayin a thing and she settles herself in less than 10 mins usually less cos she knows im always there do whats right for you and your boy and no one else !!!



 

Laura - posted on 02/18/2009

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hi emma please dont think about anything anyone says you should or shouldnt do  my little girl is 10mths next week and some nights i rock her to sleep some times i just put her in her cot to settle herself its totally up to you and how you feel i honestly believe the more contact you get with them the better they trust you and know you wont ever leave them i prob started to put her in her cot awake when she was 6mths and she took to it bril and everyone ive suggested it to says exactly the same as long as you dont abandon them and they feel safe til they get used to it do it when your ready i sit in he room not sayin a thing and she settles herself in less than 10 mins usually less cos she knows im always there do whats right for you and your boy and no one else !!!



 

Sandra - posted on 02/18/2009

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Yes I think that is fine. My son is five months and I still occassionally rock him to sleep. He is a pretty good sleeper and at around 12 weeks I started being able to put him in his cot awake and he would put himself to sleep as long as I did it during the early tired signs. I wouldn't be too concerned how you get your little one to go to sleep just yet, as long as both of you are getting enough rest that's all that matters. I still sit in the rocking chair with my almost two year old each night for a little cuddle and she tells me good-night when she's had enough - usually after only a couple of minutes.

Maria - posted on 02/18/2009

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NO!! Lots of cuddles and mum time but baby needs to be able to put himself to sleep. think about it in 4 months, do you want to be rocking a 6 month old to sleep? Good Luck

Seema - posted on 02/18/2009

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My daughter is 6 months old and she doesn't go to sleep until i or my hubby rocks her.. definitely u should rock him as he is only 10 weeks old... he luvs it.

Katherine - posted on 02/17/2009

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I rocked my son to sleep till he was a year old, he wudnt go to sleep otherwise, I enjoyed the bonding, we're very close because of this he's now 13, still sits on my knee for a cuddle

Francis - posted on 02/17/2009

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i don't see a problem with it. I still rock my daughter to sleep every night and sometimes at nap times and she is 6 months old. It is my special time with her to bond. She has a radio in her room that plays children's songs on it and i sit in the chair with her and rock her and sing to her, and she loves it she stares at me while i sing and grins and then eventually falls asleep to the sound of my voice. I love it.

Cecilia - posted on 02/15/2009

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I read from a few books that you should help your baby sleep in anyways until they are at least three months old. Babies younger than three months are still not capable to sooth themselves.

Maggie - posted on 02/15/2009

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Their are some great answers here! I agree that you certainly can rock your little one to sleep. He will feel such comfort and peace. He will learn to sleep on his own eventually, when he is ready and you can even work with him on this in a non-traumatic way (i.e. not CIO) when he is older. :) Enjoy your little guy!

Alisha - posted on 02/14/2009

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My theroy is, rock them as long as you can. They will evenutaully grow up and not want to any more. You will never get that time back and never be able to wish you had done it for longer. Enjoy this special time with your little one, because it will go by fast.

Barbara - posted on 02/14/2009

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My children are now 17 and 13 years old. I rocked them whenever they wanted and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! Those times--even the ones in the middle of the night--are precious memories for me. As someone else said here earlier, there is NOTHING like a sleeping baby on your shoulder...enjoy! :)

Dana - posted on 02/14/2009

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It's hard not to be confused on this subject, but as a childcare provider I can't tell you how difficult it is on the little ones when they are being cared for by someone or just away from home and there isn't always time/equipment to do the same routines as they are use to at home. I know as a mom how precious that bonding time is with your little one, but I also feel it is important for them to develop their own habits to soothe themselves as they grow. Good luck with your decision and most importantly enjoy every moment with your child!

Evelyn - posted on 02/14/2009

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OMG YES!  Look, they say your baby has to learn to soothe himself at some point and you'll learn when and how to let them get to that point.  Enjoy the time you spend soothing your little one... they grow up way too fast!  I still nurse or rock her to sleep sometimes and she has also learned to soothe herself to sleep or back to sleep if she wakes during the night..... I think that ultimately mother's instinct kicks in and you'll know what and when to do something.

Angie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My kids are 7 and 9 now but i rocked them both for as long as I could...I think that they are very loving good harded kids because of the love a mother gives them from birth on...I love when the kids still want to cuddle.  I think personal touch and love is what we all need makes one feel love and safe.



Your baby is so cute!

Angie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My kids are 7 and 9 now but i rocked them both for as long as I could...I think that they are very loving good harded kids because of the love a mother gives them from birth on...I love when the kids still want to cuddle.  I think personal touch and love is what we all need makes one feel love and safe.



Your baby is so cute!

Angie - posted on 02/14/2009

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My kids are 7 and 9 now but i rocked them both for as long as I could...I think that they are very loving good harded kids because of the love a mother gives them from birth on...I love when the kids still want to cuddle.  I think personal touch and love is what we all need makes one feel love and safe.



Your baby is so cute!

Shirley - posted on 02/14/2009

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We did a lot of rocking, but finally found it was better to develop a different kind of bed time routine which involved less time and effort on our behalf. It is habits you are forming, and you want to make sure you develop the right ones.



One thing is you have always to feel comfortable with what you do with your baby and not just follow advice others give you.



 



Shirley

Shelly - posted on 02/14/2009

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Oh Emma,



 Cherish it while he will still let you, What a beautiful bonding moment. I hate that my boys are now teenagers( kind hard to rock them now)  I miss that time we had together just me and them being able to snuggle with him.  Oh how I miss that, they grow up fast enough enjoy the time you have to rock him.  I know alot of people will say that you are starting a habit that is hard to break, and yes in some ways that is true but just like any other habit new ones can be establish once he gets to big to rock...Please Pleas Please enjoy him while he is young take every oppurtunity to just bond with him, they don't stay that way very long...Good luck  

Hayley - posted on 02/14/2009

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My son is 7 months and i still rock him to sleep, although i do try to put him down before he is fully asleep just so he learns to go down by himself. But i will continue to do it for as long as we want to- regardless to what the health visitor says! if it works stick to it lol

Alison - posted on 02/14/2009

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After he falls asleep does he stay asleep or does he wake up and need to rocked again. If he stays asleep then by all means rock him but if he continuously wakes and needs to be rocked to fall asleep then stop. A baby must learn to soothe themselves to sleep and if the only way he can fall asleep is be rocked then you are starting a problem which will haunt you until he learns how soothe himself to sleep.

Sarah - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi Emma,



My little boy is now 12 months old and i some times still rock him to sleep, its nice to hold your child and watch them fall asleep in your arms. I put him down to sleep at around 7pm, awake i put n his musical light on,  give him a good night kiss and lay him down for the night he some times he still crys for a llittle bit but soon falls asleep. you should do what you feel is best for you and your little boy good luck x

Jenni - posted on 02/13/2009

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if u enjoy doing it why not? rocking use to never work for my son until he was about 5 months old which was weird lol just recently it stopped working and he's 7 months... but before that i had to just let him cry or else he would stay awake allllll day! i dont care what ppl say now, that u shouldn't rock them... i think it's fine as long especially when they're too young to let cry... u can always train him to sleep on his own after a few months but i would definitely try to teach him to fall asleep on his own before 6 months b/c they tend to get a little more stubborn after that... but at 10 weeks i dont think there is ne harm in it and when they're that young it's usually the only way! as long as he stays asleep when u lay him down in his crib, what's the harm? besides, rocking feels good for mom and baby and like u said, it's great bonding time... keep on with it but just keep in mind that there will be a time where it doesn't work nemore or it may be just impratical so it would be good to start occasionally teaching him to fall asleep in other ways

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Hi my name is Jennifer and I have a two year old and one yr old and I still rock my babies. It doesnt hurt them or spoil them. It lets them know they are secure and that you are there for them.

Cindy - posted on 02/13/2009

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The best advice I could give you is, You do what feels right to you! You are the best judge, to many mothers question themselves too much. I myself still rock my 14 month old daughter and my 3 year daughter from time to time. But if you want to stop that's ok, too. You, are your son's mom and you will know what he needs.

Eryn - posted on 02/13/2009

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my son is 6 months old and i still do it sometimes. He's starting to put himself to sleep but he still like that time with me.

Shripriya - posted on 02/13/2009

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Ofcourse!!!!! There's no harm in rocking them to sleep. and 10 weeks is so small! i did that for my son till he was a year old. they grow out of it on their own, we don't have to worry about giving them that habit!

Julia - posted on 02/13/2009

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Well I guess I'm the 58th responder.

So I will say to all the Moms, think of holding the baby (child) like emotionally feeding them (just like giving them food physically feeds them!) Little babies need to register over and over again that their needs are going to be met. Just because they can only communicate by crying doesn't mean that they are not picking up "vibes" so to speak from you or your attitude. Do you ever wonder why it seems when you are having a bad day that baby is fussier and more demanding? Baby is picking up on your mood, and trust me they are very sensitive little "receptors" of mamas mood. So yes, by all means hold him, nurture him while he is little, he will carry the imprint on his self image clear into manhood!

Lori - posted on 02/12/2009

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My suggestion is this... Rock away but maybe put him to bed before he falls asleep. I think you have to do what's best for your family but I found that if a baby can't fall asleep on his own, that could be a problem. What if you have another child that is sick and needs you as well... Just make sure he can fall asleep without the rocking as well.

Barbara - posted on 02/12/2009

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Yes.  Your sweet little baby needs your touch and thrives on it.  A baby this age does not have the ability to self sooth.  Do what your instincts tell you...I bet they are saying you should hold onto your baby and rock your LO.  :)

Isa (Betsy) - posted on 02/12/2009

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Emma,

Ask yourself this questions...Is my baby still a baby? YES!! Now you have your answer. All kids, babies and older, like to snuggle and be close to their mom. Enjoy this because soon enough they will be running right by you practically forgetting you are there! Rock, hug, snuggle, hold and love every minute.

Heidi - posted on 02/12/2009

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Absolutely!!! I rocked my son every night and every nap time!! I loved every minute of it, now he's too big to rock lol Enjoy it!!! for as long as you can

Andrea - posted on 02/12/2009

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I had a friend who told me I shouldn't rock my daughter every night because "you don't want to make that a habit". I told her I did. I think you have to do what makes you happy. My daughter is almost 6 months, and I LOVE rocking her to sleep. She still sleeps in her crib just fine, even though she falls asleep in my arms (minus her growing spurt days- then she wakes up more often). I'd be sad if I couldn't have that special time every evening- it makes me feel reconnected to her, especially if we've had a long or tiring day. Do what's best for you!!

Allison - posted on 02/12/2009

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Hi,  That is between you and your baby.  If it still works for both of you, do it by all means!!! they are only babies for a tiny amount of time.    I hope tat helps a little.



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I used to rock my first son and I found it extremely difficult and until today he still wants either my husband or I to stay with him until he falls asleep and he's 2. Now that I have a newborn I rock him, but only limited time, ie during the middle of the night feeding, he seems to fall asleep on his own most of the time which gives me time to take care of chores and anything else that comes my way....

Christina - posted on 02/12/2009

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my daughter is 10 weeks today too!!! i had a lot of issues with her in the beginning when she would sleep in my arms all day. after spending a day at the baby health clinic they suggested rocking her in her bassinet until she was almost asleep and then stopping as the rocking in the arms or rocking right off to sleep would lead to the baby not being able to settle themselves back to sleep if they wake as they are not in your arms. being rocked. After doing the bassinet rocking thing i have not needed to do it the last 2 weeks as now the cue for sleep is being laid in her bassinet and she goes straight off to sleep. I'm not against rocking as such however i think it can become time consuming and as i also have a two year old i need to spend time with her also. PLus don't think that you are taking that time of cuddles away from your baby. you can cuddle and interact with her when she is aways and cooing and smiling....good luck

Carol - posted on 02/12/2009

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I rocked my children till they were about 2 this is the most precious time a mother has with there children. Don't let people tell you it is spoiling this is your child and it's up to you  what you chose to do .  carol

Ronda - posted on 02/12/2009

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Rocking them and spending that special time with them is most definitely needed for both mom and baby. I did this with my son and he became so used to it and would not fall asleep on his own. I learned with my daughter to rock her until she was almost asleep and then lay her in her crib so she could learn to soothe herself to sleep. This was what worked best for me.

Charlotte - posted on 02/12/2009

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hi emma



my son is also 10 weeks old and i love to watch him fall asleep in my arms, he is my fourth baby and i know just how quickly they grow out of falling asleep in ya arms, i think as long as they  wake up in their own crib/bed so that they get used to waking up on their own then like most of the other comments that ive read lets just enjoy our quality time with our babiesfor as long as we can/want!! 



charli 



 

Christina - posted on 02/12/2009

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absolutely!! It's wonderful quality time and when he gets older you'll miss it!! :^) Look for the book "Love You Forever" by Robert N. Munsch. My grandmother gave it to my father and his 3 brothers one year for Christmas. I'll be giving my son a copy when he's an adult. It's a sweet little story of a mom who never got tired of rocking her son...a real tear jerker. :^)

Vickie - posted on 02/12/2009

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Absolutely!  I rocked my son to sleep when he was a baby.  In fact, I rocked him to sleep until he reached the point where he felt he was "too big" to be rocked anymore.  But I didn't just sit there & rock,  sang to him & also wound up a little music box that would cast cuddly animals & stars on the walls & ceiling in his room. 



 



You'll be surprised how fast time marches on & when your baby is older, you'll have precious memories of rocking him as a baby.

Kendra - posted on 02/12/2009

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I just have to comment on some of the comments that say you shouldn't rock a 10 week old, that you have to teach them how to sleep on their own. Of course at some point you have to start to let them learn how to fall asleep on their own, but rocking a little before they go to sleep is fine. Reminder, he's only 10 weeks old. Maybe at 4-6 months if he's having trouble sleeping on his own, or falling back to sleep on his own, then reconsider whether you're 'helping' him too much, but not now. He needs nurturance and to know you're there for him. Sorry, just had to comment.

Jennifer - posted on 02/11/2009

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Hello SOO cute!! I still rock my daughter who's 20 months old not to sleep but right before bed. What ever works for you and the baby. Before I had kids I used to say I'd never do this or that but my "new" motto is "What ever works" Goodluck! They are only small for so long!! ENJOY!!!

Eileen - posted on 02/11/2009

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You should do what feels right for you! Does he sleep better when rocked? Do you feel good rocking him? Do you enjoy the bonding time??



If you answer is yes, then by all means do it! I regret having rushed my first two babies to learn to sleep on their own too fast, I missed alot of cuddle time! and so did they!



If it helps, my youngest, 21 months often falls asleep on the couch with his daddy, and does just fine at nap time on his own.. So....



Follow your heart. Do what works for you!!



 

Kerri - posted on 02/11/2009

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Please stop for your own sanity!!!!  I made the mistake as a first time mom to rock my son everynight to go to bed.  When he was 3 i still had to lye with him until he went to sleep.  I learned my lesson with the second and let him go to sleep on his own from the start.  A little cuddle in the chair after feeding is one thing but take it from me it will not help the baby or you if you do not teach him to learn how to put himself to sleep.

Jenn - posted on 02/11/2009

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Emma,

You should do whatever you feel is right. When you first become a mom you will get SO many offers of advice...many people parent on different planes, and that is OK...you need to do what you feel is right and what your heart of hearts feels you should do. With that said, I rocked my daughter every night, and when she was a toddler that was so soothing to her...if she was sad or sick, I would sit and rock with her, it was a wonderful bonding experience. My son is 2 and half and still rocks on occasion. Children grow up very fast, and before you know it, those moments will be lost. Enjoy your baby, and try not to second guess your intuitions!!! Congrats on a beautiful baby!!

Lisa - posted on 02/11/2009

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I still rock my 15 month old at night.  I don't rock him until he falls asleep because he prefers to rock with a bottle and he lets me know when he's done and ready for the crib.  When he was about 6 mos old, he decided that he didn't want to be "rocked to sleep" any more.  For naps and bed time he would have a bottle and rock and then we would lay him down awake.  We've completely gotten away from that with the naps but not at bed time.  That's my time with him to just relax and cuddle.  I think he'll let you know when he's ready to give it up. 

Gloria - posted on 02/11/2009

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Wow.  This society has generations of mothers thinking that rocking our children to sleep is spoiling them.  Whether 10 weeks, months or a few years old, our children need to know that we are here to care for them, to nurture them.  Those who say you should not are not present when your baby is crying or having trouble sleeping.  Listen to your true mother instincts.

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