Should income affect decision 2 have a 2nd baby?

Tonya - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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I am just wondering if anyone else wonders if having a 2nd child before you are financial stable is irresponsible? My husband and I have a 1 year old and we would like our children to be 2 1/2 to 3 years apart which would mean trying to get prego in about 6 month or so, but we would really like to purchase a house by then. Because we currently live in a 2 bedroom trailor. Would it be wrong on our part to still try to have a 2nd little one before we are able to purchase a house? All opinions are welcome! Thanks!!

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Jeanette - posted on 11/05/2009

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I think that depends on how financially responsible you are, not just where you are financially. Like, are you able to set a budget and then stick close to it? Do you have some savings you are working on or do you spend your entire paycheck almost before you get it? If you are barely making ends meet now with just 1 child it might be wise to wait. However, if everyone waited until they had money to have kids then 75% of people in today's world wouldn't be having kids!!

Michelle - posted on 11/05/2009

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i think if you sit down and add up what you spend every month on everything including food and gas for the car .. bills everything, and you still have enough for diapers and formula then go for it .. I keep a file on my computer of all of our bills, food, diapers, and debt and when they are due and subtract it from the bi-weekly paycheck.. that way i know how much extra we should have every month .. that pretty much made us decide to have another baby .. plus i saved everything from the first little one so we have almost everything for a new baby .. and buy diapers every time you go to the store so when she/he is born you'll be set

Anna - posted on 11/05/2009

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Oh yeah, and breastfeeding is free, plus if you use washable diapers, it doesn't really cost you anything.

Anna - posted on 11/05/2009

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I don't think it's irresponsible. Little kids just need love and the basic necessities. As long as you can afford to feed them, I don't think it matters if you live in your own house or not. Also, it doesn't have to be expensive to have children - you can get perfectly good second hand stuff like strollers and cribs and babies generally like playing with cardboard boxes etc more than expensive toys.

Michelle - posted on 11/05/2009

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i think if you sit down and add up what you spend every month on everything including food and gas for the car .. bills everything, and you still have enough for diapers and formula then go for it .. I keep a file on my computer of all of our bills, food, diapers, and debt and when they are due and subtract it from the bi-weekly paycheck.. that way i know how much extra we should have every month

Dawn - posted on 11/05/2009

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I think that if you aren't financially stable that should have a HUGE affect on the decision. just my opinion.

Krystal - posted on 11/05/2009

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I just had my second daughter about 3 months ago. My oldest daughter is going to be 5 tomorrow. Right now we are in a 2 bedroom house and things are a little tight, house and money wise, but I say go for it and things will work out. They are going good for us.

Samantha - posted on 11/05/2009

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Honestly, if u wait until u r "financially stable" that will be never. It is always great to think that but I don't think anyone, unless your a millionaire, is ever really ready. I say if it is in your hearts then you can make it work. You may have to be really careful about large purchases but if you can reuse anything from your first child and shop responsibly then it will be ok. Good Luck to your family. Kids are the greatest. I have three that I probably can't afford. But I would never change it.

Autumn - posted on 11/05/2009

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I think it is hard to predict the future, but being financially stable does make it easier with the 2nd child because there is a lot of expense associated with 2 children

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