Should my 3 year old be doing chores?

Jennifer - posted on 06/07/2013 ( 239 moms have responded )

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Some of my friends are saying my 3 year old should be helping me around the house. I feel like he's too young though, and I don't want to put too much pressure on him.

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Heather - posted on 06/08/2013

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You can give a child the number of responsibilities of their age. So a 3 year old can handle 3 responsibilities. Make them simple like throw away their own trash, put their shoes away, and clean up toys. Starting young will help them understand that work is part of life and to respect and appreciate all the parents do for them.

Lisa - posted on 06/09/2013

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My daughter is 5 and has been helping with chores since 2. She feeds her dog every day and now her kitten. She started out putting her toys away with help and progressed to putting her clean laundry away. At 5 she cleans up her toys, puts her dishes in the sink after meals, empies her lunch box each night, sorts her dirty laundry, puts away her clothes and helps dust her room and change her bed, as well as feeding her pets. She has never been forced to do any of it but helps willing. Now that she understands about working as a family she asks what she can do to help.
Kids should start early learning about a family working together. They do however still need time for age appropriate play.

Kimberly - posted on 06/11/2013

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You are looking at it from the wrong perspective. It is not about placing pressure, but teaching, educating and making it fun. Don't call it chores because you don't want them growing up seeing it as something negative. It you make it out to be something fun and exciting then they will want to do it. My daughter is 2, she puts her own clothes in her dirty clothes basket, places her own dishes in the sink and helps unstack the dishwasher and she loves it. Why?? because we make it fun and exciting, we praise and do it consistently.

Kelly - posted on 06/10/2013

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I'm so glad to see that most of the people on here have their young children help out around the house. That's encouraging.

I absolutely believe that a 3 year old should be helping out. That's not to say he should be sweeping the floor or cleaning the bathtub, but he does need to be helping. Start young, and he'll have a sense of responsibility and teamwork. Put it off too long and he'll expect you to do everything for him long after you should be.

He should be able to take care of his own personal belongings. Things like making sure his toys are put away, putting his dirty clothes and dishes where they belong, etc. These are not chores. This is making sure we take care of our things, so that they last long enough for us to enjoy them. If we don't take care of our toys, they may get broken or lost and then we couldn't play with them.

He can also help out with general household stuff. My little one LOVED to fold socks and washcloths at that age. Maybe it can be his job to feed the dog (with supervision). Mine could grasp that at about four, though we did buy a scoop that held the right amount of food, so the dogs didn't get overfed or underfed. Measurements are sometimes a bit beyond them, but "fill up the scoop with food and pour it into the bowl" was right up her alley.

Emily - posted on 06/10/2013

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I guess everyone else has pretty much covered it, but maybe check out Maria Montessori's philosophy - she studied young kids and found that there are sensitive periods through a child's life when they are in the right headspace for learning. But if the opportunity isn't there, they can miss these special periods and struggle to learn things as easily. My point being - no matter how old, expose your child to all kinds of activities, including housework - they may be completely uninterested, or they may really latch onto it and have a great old time. My 14 month daughter grabs the dishcloth off me now when I'm wiping her table mat, and wipes it herself (not very well, but hey, she's having fun and learning at the same time.

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Samantha - posted on 06/28/2013

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My son is nearly 3yo and he literally stands at the laundry door and cries if I don't let him help me with the clothes washing. He loves loading the machine and clearing out the baskets and when he is finished, he proudly states "All done Mummy". He has also started cleaning his placemat after meals. He gets very upset if I try to do it and says "No Mummy, I clean it!!!".

For the child it is not really a chore, that is just how we feel. To them it is just a way to spend some precious time with you when you are otherwise busy and to also feel a sense of achievement themselves. :-)

Imbeautifuldawn - posted on 06/26/2013

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I have 5 kids and have learned that in order to keep the house in order you MUST START YOUNG! Not only that, but teaching him a good work ethic young will serve him well his entire life. Making him help gives him roads to success that would otherwise be a struggle for him to learn!
At 3 he should be responsible for picking up his own toys (they can start that at 1yr old), bringing his plate to the sink and can help with laundry. be sure to add new chores every year and find incentives (maybe promising to go to the park if he will help you get the housework done, or as allowance when older).
Give him the chance to feel that marvelous sense of accomplishment that comes from finishing a task well! it will serve him his entire life.

Lisa - posted on 06/24/2013

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Another thing my daughter loved (and she was just 2 at the time) was to help me sort the utensils into their proper compartments. I'd remove all knives first, then put her on a stool so she was high enough to look into the drawer and put everything away. This not only occupied her with something useful while I finished cleaning up in the kitchen, it also gave her a sense of achievement.

Lisa - posted on 06/24/2013

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3 years old is definitely not too young to start helping around the house. My son started helping me to stuff laundry into the washing machine when he was just a year old and could barely walk. I start my kids early and on simple tasks. They both know they need to clean up after spills (I go over the spills again just in case they've missed anything), they put their own clothes in the laundry, clean up their toys, bring their dishes to the kitchen, and help hang up small laundry items.
Now 3 and 5 respectively, they are learning to fold their own pyjamas, and I've taught them how to fold a bed sheet together, each taking opposite sides and folding until it's a size they like. They make a lot of mistakes along the way and sometimes squabble about how to do it properly, but it's all part of the learning process. They are certainly more independent and capable than many of their peers whose caregivers won't even let them go up a climbing frame for fear of falling.

Kyra - posted on 06/22/2013

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My daughter was 18 months when I started. I would sing "Clean Up" song and she and I would pick up her toys and put them in her toy box. She loved the song and that we cleaned up together.

Leigh - posted on 06/22/2013

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I can't remember the exact age I started with my daughter who is now 12, but it was young. One that we started with was putting the silverware away from the dishwasher. Sharp knives roved, of course. This way she not only helped with chores but worked on matching. Another one I had her do was sort her laundry. Again, she was doing a chore but also working on colors. BTW she now does the WHOLE dishwasher and responds whenever I ask. (The last part could be luck, or traing when she was young. Who knows? )

Monica - posted on 06/22/2013

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Maybe not doing actual chores but teaching him how to be clean like picking up toys after his done playing with them, asking him to throw sumthing to the trash just little things. In my opinion it will help him to learn how to clean after himself. .... For example I have 2 nieces one is 4 the other is 3 from different moms(my sisters) the 4 yr old if u ask her to throw something to the trash or pick up toys she says no and doesn't listen why because her mom let's her do what she wants but in the other hand the 3yr old throws things to the trash if ask or not ask she's more helpful and listens more. So in the end it's your decision my son is 8th months and I will be teaching him to clean after himself of course when he gets a little more older.

Audra - posted on 06/22/2013

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At 3 years old most kids want to help I believe it gives them a feeling of accomplishment. Of course, don't have him mow the yard but yes give him small chores such as sorting clothes, emptying trash, washing dishes, making bed, etc. (only one of these). You will teach him to be independent and these values will carry over for a lifetime. You will be glad you did when he is 13 or younger and when he gets married later in life his wife will thank you! Blessings!

Danielle - posted on 06/22/2013

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Make him put his toys away. That was the main chore my son had at that age.

La Tasha - posted on 06/21/2013

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I think that it is a great idea to teach your 3 year old to clean up after himself at a early age. This will be great for the both of you.
The more he learns now in the area of cleaning or putting his toys away will help once he is older. I mean your not going to make him mop, wash dishes or cloths, but you want to teach him to be responsible now.

Sarah - posted on 06/21/2013

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My nearly 4 year old son loves to help me with what I'm doing. If I'm dusting, I give him a duster too, he likes wiping down things. He often lays the table. I often need to re-do it but he loves it!! He also tidies after himself, not always but sometimes. They love to feel useful and grown up!! I never pressure. I ask if he'd like to do things, but insist on helping me tidy his things. He puts his washing in the bin and often takes things out to the kitchen. make it all fun and loads of praise and they do things willingly!!

Vicky - posted on 06/21/2013

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My dd is 16 months and she helps me, its not forced or required but she helps. If I am doing laundry she helps put things from the washer to dryer and attempts to fold clothes. She also helps me with recycling and picking up her toys.

Donna - posted on 06/20/2013

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You should start him with small chores like picking up his toys. Let him help with dinner by setting the table or baking cookies. You have to in still in he the values you want him to have. At 3 years what ever he helps with may not be perfect. But you must tell him what a big boy and great helper his. Children these days know more and can do more than you thick. Try the clean up song and make cleaning fun. I started my kids, grand kids and god children early. Hope this help and good luck you can do this.

Jeanette - posted on 06/20/2013

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Yes, give him some responsibility like putting back his own toys, bring his bottle to the sink, throw his diaper in the bin, dirty clothes in the basket etc. That's what I had my girl do when she was 2-3 years old. Now she's 5 and it's become a habit and she doesn't complain or throw tantrum like other kids when asked to do all those things. Of coz please don't make him wash the bottle or mop the floor and stuffs like that...

Linda - posted on 06/19/2013

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Chores No, learning to pick up after himself yes, that teaches him to do chores later. You might also find he likes to help. To let him help is good teaching, but to put an expectation on him to to ask too much at 3, except to pick up his own things.

Jaja - posted on 06/19/2013

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I'm pretty much sure when your friends said that before, what they meant was start with basic/simple chores..
e.g. after playing, put the toys back; after changing clothes put it in the clothes hamper, stuff like that..

Tracie - posted on 06/19/2013

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Absolutely!! He is definitely old enough to start taking some responsibility for himself. If you make chores a normal, everyday part of life in the house, he will not question it as he gets older. We've set it up at our house where each birthday the kids get one new privilege and one new responsibility. They are learning that these things go hand in hand. For example, my daughter will turn 12 soon and she'll be allowed to ride in the front seat of the car (something she's been begging to do for years) but she'll also be in charge of her own laundry.

Your son is old enough to put away his own toys, put his clothes in the hamper, and help you with dinner. (stir ingredients together, break the eggs, mix the meatloaf, learn to measure) You can also give him a damp cloth (no chemicals) and let him dust while you're cleaning the house. You might be surprised - kids love to help! Just remember that you'll have to do these chores WITH him a few times so he understands how to do them. Having ownership of a job gives kids a feeling of value and independence. It's wonderful for their self esteem.

Our most important job as parents is to teach our children how to get along in the world without us. Best of luck to you and your precious son!!

Price - posted on 06/18/2013

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I believe that children younger than three can help around the house. It doesn't have to be anything difficult, but even the simplest things like picking up toys teaches them responsibility. I have observed many child care facilities and I am totally amazed at what these little ones can do. My granddaughter when she was 18 months to 2 years was in a child care facility where they taught the children how to pick up toys. At mealtime, they learned to put their plates, cups, utensils... in the dish tub when they were finished. If children are taught at an early age basic self-help skills then they learn not only how to help themselves, but also how to help others. I believe praising children for the little things is important too. So, when your child picks up two or three toys and put them where they go, applaud his success in doing so. In addition, help your child to put things away or other simple chores. This teaches children the act of sharing responsibilities and helping others. Children learn by doing. A rule of thumb I have read somewhere is, "Children learn what they live and they live what they learn". It is up to us as parents to set the tone for what we want our children to learn and how we want them to be responsible for themselves.

Good Luck to You!! :0)

Carla - posted on 06/18/2013

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He should be doing little "chores". My daughter at that age was helping pick up her toys, taking care of her dirty clothes in the hamper and other little things. She loved helping wash the larger dishes that wouldn't fit in the dishwasher. I had a stepladder and she would wash the larger plastic bowls. Even now at 8yrs old, she still likes washing the larger dishes :) I think starting them out at a young age really helps when they get older. Her room is always clean and her stuff isn't all over my house because she cleans up after herself.

Jenny - posted on 06/17/2013

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Of course he should have chores. Nothing too big but enough to start instilling responsibility and working on their self esteem. My 3 year old daughter puts all the utensils away from the dishwasher, helps me prepare some of our meals and picks up her toys when she is finished playing. (well she sometimes needs help with the toys but you get the point) She enjoys helping around the house she feels proud that she can do things on her own. Just my opinion.

Kristy - posted on 06/16/2013

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There are some "chores" he can do at his age. They are lite things like pick up toys, clothes and put them where they go. Also putting silverware and napkins on the table for meals, and helping to clear the table. There is a book called "what every child should know" it has a list of age appropriate chores. Good luck.

Kati - posted on 06/15/2013

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I have a 3 1/2 year old & he definitely has his "chores" to do. I started him about a year ago cleaning up after himself. He takes his dishes to the kitchen sink after we eat, he picks up his toys, & he cleans his room. A year ago when we started, these were very simple tasks. Literally just put his dish in the sink. Now he takes it to the kitchen, will ask if it goes in the dishwasher or sink & wipes down his place at the table if needed. I usually have to wipe it down again, but he is getting in the habit & trying. The same thing with picking up. We started with basically everything goes in the toy box, now he knows that legos go together in one tote, books in his baskets, & separates game & puzzle pieces. Separating generally needs my assistance. I have started stressing he clean up one thing before getting out more, but we haven't achieved that level. Its all a process that I build on as he learns what is expected & it becomes his habit.

Jacqui - posted on 06/15/2013

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I wouldn't say chores, but helping put his toys away or helping clean up his messes.

Rhonda - posted on 06/15/2013

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At three, a child should be given an age-appropriate chore. Think of it as your opportunity to prepare your son for being competent in his future aspirations.

Start by explaining that he is now old enough to be given some responsibility. Assure him that you will help him this one specific task until he feels ready to do it on his own. Then, teach as you work with him. Make it fun and entertaining--get creative or just turn on some fun music if creativity doesn't come to you easily. But, work on remaining patient and cheerful. Make this a special Mommy/Son time-and have someone else watch over any other children while you work with your little guy.

Three-year-olds can pull up their sheets and blankets on their beds. Show him how, then the next time, ask him to help. Once you see that he can do it on his own, show some admiration and say something like, "Wow, you seem to know how to do this. Looks like you are ready to try it on your own. I'll stay right here and if you need it, I'll help." and then back off from making the bed unless he asks for help. Once he has made it, no matter how tempting, do NOT re-make it! It sends a negative message to the child. Instead, celebrate his victory in a way that honors him, and inspires him to keep working at his new skill.
I would still expect him to make his bed each day, but would challenge him to try learning another new chore. Perhaps you could allow him to decide on the next one by offering a choice between two or three chores. Again, follow the procedure above, and be sure to voice your recognition for completing his chores.
I should point out, that once a child has learned how to do a chore, he can and should be held to doing it correctly. For instance, just pulling up the comforter over the top of a big lump of sheets and blankets is not showing responsibility. Remind him in a way that does not belittle him, but challenges him to do his best work. By teaching a child to do his best, you are teaching him a work ethic which will take him far in life.

Maxine - posted on 06/15/2013

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Jennifer, Make the chore age appropriate and don't expect adult results and it is fine for children to help around the house. Children need to learn the responsibility early on, appropriate chores can be as follows: pick up toys, pick up floor, help care for pets, extra... My four year old loves to hit the button on the washer and dryer to start them, and to water the animals and feed them. And he is big on carrying groceries in or trash out for me. He has learned from Uncles and Cousins that something are most often done by the males and he tries to do all these things.

User - posted on 06/15/2013

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I say a three year old can be doing very simple things to help mommy, and have the effort praised. Many very young children love to be involved in their parents' lives, and very simple chores, such as picking up toys, or helping to make a bed, can be good ways to encourage independence and a good work ethic.

Judy - posted on 06/14/2013

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We're not talking hard labor just a small task. Kids are very smart when they're three. Start with putting a toy away when they're finished play with it. It is much easier to teach a good habit then it is to to change a bad one. It is our job as parent to teach our children how to take care of themselves.

Bekki - posted on 06/14/2013

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My son has been doing "chores" since he was about 18 months old. Back then it was just helping to tidy his toys and putting his dirty clothes in the wash. Now he's 4 I expect him to tidy his toys away, keep his room tidy, put him clothes in the washing and put his clean in the drawers, set the table on certain days and help wash lunch dishes twice a week. People are amazed that he willingly does so much but I got him started young an he understands that's part of being a family. Plus he earns a small amount of pocket money which he is free to spend as he chooses. I think its important for children to have responsibilities as its a valuable life lesson.

Carolyn - posted on 06/14/2013

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It is not pressuring THREE YEAR TO ASK THEM TO SMALL, SIMPLE CHORES AROUND THE HOUSE, WHAT IT IS DOING IS TEACH THEM RESPONSIBILITY THAT WILL STAY WITH THEM THRU OUT THEIR LIVES. EMPTYING A SMALL TRASH CAN IS A SIMPLE THAT ANY THREE YEAR OLD CAN HANDLE. tHIS MAKES THEM FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES AND ADDS TO THEIR SELF - ESTEEM.

Wendy - posted on 06/14/2013

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three is not to young it just depends what you want them to do as a mother of 6 kids with the oldest being 18 and the youngest being 1. my kids are 18,16,13,5,2,and 1. with the 2 and 1 year old being the ones i am adopting. but they have chores they dont have a chore chart or anything like that but the things they have to do is twice a day with the help of the 5 year old they have to pick up all the toys in the living room to be swept they pick up there own stuff and all the time they are doing this they are singing the clean up song and learning it is there responsibility to help one another and to clean up after themselves but to them they are not chores they are playing and having fun the whole time as they get older he will want to help you with other things

Lisa - posted on 06/14/2013

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Oh yeah, I would also like to say, your friends are not you and they are not your childs parents. This being said, unless you are hurting your child in anyway, no one has the right to tell you what your child should and should not be doing by a certain age. No friend should make you feel like like a bad parent. There is no right way or wrong way to parent...(well except the obvious as stated before). No child is the same. They do not grow the same, learn the same, play the same etc. That also means no parent is the same. Everyone has their own way of doing things and just because your way is different than your friends, does not make you wrong. We all have to make our own mistakes in our own way. This is true for both parent and child. You have to raise your child to match your life and your way of doing things and in your own way. It's good to teach responsibility and all that, but at what age you feel is right for you and your child. You are his parent and it is up to you on how and what and when to teach your child and how you want him to grow up. Your child is an individual and as the saying goes, "there is no handbook for being a parent".

Lisa - posted on 06/13/2013

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I wouldn't force him to do chores. He is 3 and imagination and play should be encouraged. It also wouldn't hurt to to start teaching responsibility. Make chores fun and kinda like a game. My 3 year old daughter loves helping me around the house. If she see's me doing dishes, she will grab her step stool and climb up and offer to help. I usually only let her rinse and only after all knives and forks are done and out of the way. I turn on the water to a luke warm and let her rinse away. She also likes to help with laundry. I will ask her if she would like to gather up the dirty clothes for me and she gladly does and she also offers to put them in the washer and loves pouring the detergent in. She will also teamwork with me to transfer from washer to dryer! The key is to make it fun, have patience, and don't force it, but encourage it. My daughter will sometimes volunteer on her own and I will in return give her piggy bank whatever change is in the bottom of my purse or enough to equal the amount and type of work she does for me. Biggest thing is to make him feel like he is accomplishing something while still maintaining his innocents and enjoying his childhood! Hope this helps!

Sarah - posted on 06/13/2013

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Your little son can help do a few small chores that match his age and ability. For instance for him to carry his plate and cup after a meal is ok. Kids also love to help washing, he may not do it meaningfully but he will enjoy and as he grows he will have learnt and will be able to help you better at an older age

Lorie - posted on 06/13/2013

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How is it too much pressure? I don't really want to assume what you mean by that. Is it that your afraid to ask your son to help because he will just throw a fit no matter how nice you say it or what kind of reward you offer? Or do you just think he's not able to do it? I think you need to ask if it's really him that's not ready or maybe you don't want him to be (which is soooo totally normal BTW lol). Most importantly, YOU are his Mom, you know him better than anyone. If he's not ready, then he's not ready. Just make sure your decisions aren't soley based on "what everyone else is doing". Trust in your love for him, and know he will grow-up to be an awesome person :) Good Luck to you & your family ♥

Jess - posted on 06/13/2013

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My 2 yr old helps me with cleanin her room n laundry she loves puttin up groceries n throwing trash away. It makes her feel like a big girl. We always tell her thank you and how big she is. She loves to help. I used to teach pre-school n my kids in school always loved to be my helper. My daughter gets to put change that she finds when helping in her piggy bank. She likes that lol. It seams to make her day. A penny does a lot :)

Emilie - posted on 06/13/2013

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yes I think children should understand that everyone helps one another to look after their house and clean up after them selves as well from as early as you can.
My 4 year old son and 6 year old daughter have chore charts that they look at on alternated mornings ,except Sundays, to see what is expected of them during the day my son will do washing, drying and putting away the washing up and hovering and my daughter will have chores such as putting away folded washing, dusting and making beds.
It is mostly done together to encourage team work but my children do it without complaint and earn their sweets on the Friday. it works very well for our family as we're always busy. The children understand that if they help in the house we will then have time to do more exciting things like swimming and parks.
Best of luck xx

User - posted on 06/13/2013

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We have three little ones a 5 year old Daughter, 4 year old son and a 2 year old son, our two older kiddos love sweeping, vacuuming and even dusting. They used to watch me do it and then they started wanting to do it. When my Husband purchased a new vacuum, he gave the kids our older one which is a like the dust buster style and same weight as well. They love using it, chores can be fun if you allow them to be. Chores are only chores if you make them out to be. You don't need him to clean the house from top to bottom, but he is old enough to pick up after himself and help you spot clean make it a game. Also your His Mother not anyone else, do it when you feel comfortable! Good luck and Take Care

Edyie Jones - posted on 06/13/2013

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absolutely!.. I'm not saying they should be washing the car or srubbing floors but 3 is not too young to be teaching a child to help and/or be a little self-reliant.. to pick up after themselves...

Majo - posted on 06/13/2013

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I agree he is too young to be helping you with the chores, however he is able at this young age to tidy up his toys when it's time to, take his empty dishes to the kitchen himself. At this age we do teach them to be independent so that there isn't pressure on him but we do encourage them to do things for themselves and they do enjoy this.

Johanne - posted on 06/12/2013

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I'm trying to think of a reason why your three year old couldn't or shouldn't have "chores". I also wonder what your idea is of a chore. Helping other family members with achievable chores is a wonderful idea. Think about how the participation will build relationships, help develop a sense of accomplishment, pride, teach and strengthen skill sets. Sometimes during a chore is simply fun! It is not about the chore itself, whatevef it is. It's about your child and what experiences you can provide him in ordef to build him up physically, emotionally, psychologically, socially. What did I forget? Lol.

Faye - posted on 06/12/2013

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My kids (now 22 and 18) always put their clothes away and that was after they dragged their baskets into the laundry room. At three, they also picked up their toys as they shared a room and we had them do so between bath and bed.

At about 5 they were unloading and loading the dishwasher minus sharp knives.

By the time they were 7, they were loading the washer with their clothes and by the age of 10 they were starting the machine. There were a few times that they would fail to do their laundry and then wonder why they had no clothes in the dresser/closet. This was even as recent as November with the youngest. He got mad at me one morning for not washing his jeans, I let him know that my number 1 rule had not been followed so I did not know that he needed clothes washed. My number 1 rule: if it is in the laundry room then I will make sure it gets washed.

Investigate the internet, for a "chore" chart which lists different chores for each age. I found this one: http://housekeeping.about.com/od/chorech... I am sure there are others out there you can print and add stickers to when the chore is complete.

Denise - posted on 06/12/2013

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Your young son is old enough to do a few simple chores. At this age, he should be putting away his own toys, he can "make" his bed, he can throw away his napkin after meals, etc. If you wait too long to have kids begin helping out, then it's a much more difficult struggle to get them to do chores because they are used to you doing everything for them. In the long run, that doesn't really help your children out because they won't learn to do things for themselves.

Alicia - posted on 06/12/2013

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My son wanted to help! That being said he does not want to pick up his own toys though! He is four and at two he stated mimicking me so as time went on I'd let him sweep then I'd have a turn same with other things! Now his responsibility is to feed the dog! He gets stars for it and it helps him feel like he's helping! Let him play let him be a kid but let him find joy in accomplishing something in caring for things ie plants animals ect! My son also loves gardening (which I hate doing) so we do that too! Mind you all of those things do not happen ALL of the time just the dog is his daily duty! Don't look at as a chore but a learning experience for them emotionally and cognitively! Even kids need purpose!

User - posted on 06/12/2013

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From my observations of my grandson and trying to remember back when my kids were small, kids want to help. My grandson would always come to me, why? so I would pick him up...he wanted to see what was going on and he couldn't see that from the floor. So no matter what I was doing, I would pick him up and explain what I was doing. He wasn't doing any chores, but it just shows that kids are like sponges, they want to learn. Kids love the attention too. I personally think by us as parents its our given duty to teach our kids, so that way one day they when they leave home, and I miss mine dearly, they can go out into the world and take care of themselves.
I never realized how much my little teachings would do them until my daughter-in-law gave me the credit for my son helping her in the kitchen when her mother asked her how she got him to help....made me feel good!
It's up to you of course...but I wish my mom had asked me to do more...just gives you a sense of well being and pride to help around the house!

Lisa - posted on 06/12/2013

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Its good for children even at 3 to help around the house. Start by having your child pick up their own toys, see if they would like to help you put dishes in the dish washer or even hand wash them with you.. My daughter is 3 and she loves to help me in the kitchen and we pick her toys up together.. It will teach your child a little independence and respect.

Lia - posted on 06/12/2013

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that's a first...and how much pressure does this "golden child" put on you? Do you think what he needs is no direction? Just to have no structure or expectations? That's how little boys are created to blow up there schools. Because mommy didn't put pressure and expectations on the kid to live in a structured way. Trust me, it's for the best to have that boy doing for himself. He'll know how to work. Start small. Have his chore be to carry bread into the house or put the doggy in his crate, fix the shoes. It'll make him feel like he is needed too.

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