Sibiling Rivalry - siblings who "hate" each other

Tatum - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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has anyone had to deal with a child who hates one of their siblings so much so that they are contantly "picking" on them - telling them they hate them. Most recently that when they grow up their going to kill them. I know we all had those times with our siblings, but this is constant, non-stop and it is starting to really scare me.

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Tanya - posted on 10/09/2009

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wow I didn't realize that there were so many others out there dealing with extreme sibling rivalry. I have 4 children and the two older boys aged 10 and 8 are extremely violent with each other. The 8 year old chased the 10 year old with a knife, swinging it at him, the 10 year old stabs with pens. There is always someone bleeding in this house. Seems like its a constant competition on who can hurt the other more or who can get the other into the most trouble. Fists are flying every single day in this house. I sure hope this will pass before anyone gets seriously hurt.

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That goes on in my home at times but I truly believe they Love each other and would do anything for each other as well. I remind them constantly how someday they are going to have to depend on each other. This behavior should pass

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Tatum - posted on 10/08/2009

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thanks for all the thoughts - I hope that this too will pass, but it seems to have escalated over the past couple of months. He loves his older brother and younger sister dearly - but wants nothing to do with his younger brother...

Rachael - posted on 10/06/2009

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I think i might talk to someone about anger managment issues. I know that me and my siblings always used to beat on eachother and some time would say im gonna kill you but it wasn't like we were REALLY thinking that we were just mad at something they did. Also i would talk to their teachers to see if they are noticing these problems at school as well.

Consuela - posted on 10/06/2009

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I can understand it being stressful for you being that you were the only child. Don't sweat it. Boys are rough and boys will be boys. They have a lot of testosterone brewing. They have to get it out somehow. Next time they get rough, let them take it outside and when they get too fiesty, spray them with a water hose then run. The fun will take their mind off of fighting.

Consuela - posted on 10/06/2009

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I thought I was the only mother whose two older siblings fight like that. We had an episode this morning. My son's always threatening to kill or harm his sister. I usually make them hug until they get tired and threaten to make them stay that way for an hour if they don't learn to get along. I then lecture them on what God says about loving one another. It's getting better slowly but surely. Since their father isn't around I let them go and talk to my Pastor. It'll get better. Hang in there. Pray and hang in there. My sister and I went through the same thing and she's always there when I need her. I love her dearly.

Amy - posted on 10/06/2009

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I have 4 sons, and they are always arguing, fighting, you name it... It gets scary sometimes, things have gotten broken, such as windows, crockpots, you name it. I did not have siblings growing up, so it is very stressful for me.

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