Marijke - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
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my friend has a one year old boy and just had another baby boy.. the first days all was well but now her one year old who has always been a good baby is acting up . he's fine for a while with the baby and then he just starts crying and being difficult.. I gave her some ideas but would love to hear from mom's who have this same issue and what they did about it.. thanks a lot!
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Joelle - posted on 11/16/2009
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My girls are 20 months apart. During #2 sleep times, #1 and I would have our special time. We would do all the things that we use to do together before #2 was born like cuddling or reading a book, etc. When #2 was awake, #1 would "help" me by bringing me the baby wipes or doing other little jobs that were within her ability. They're now 8 & 9...and the best of friends.
Celestina - posted on 11/16/2009
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I had two under two as well. Can be a difficult time for mom. My two are now 11 and 12 and are very close. Initially, I would address my older one's needs first. If both are crying at the same time address the older child first which shows her/him that they are still important then bring them together with the younger one and say "okay let's see what baby needs". This will help with soothing and creating empathy. This process will help the babies bond together as well. Good Luck.
Connie - posted on 11/13/2009
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This is hard....normally I would suggest having the sibling "help" mom with baby, giving him a sense of be wanted, and needed....but one and baby....hmmmm. They don't call them "Irish Twins" for nothing, lol.
Let's see - maybe Mom can verbalize for him time needed with baby, and time needed with "one". She can say things like, "Right now I have to feed baby, but when I'm finished, I play blocks with you!" and vice versa, "When I'm done giving you a bath, I'm going to have change babies diaper". She can also be sure that when baby is asleep, that is specail "Mommy and 'One'" time, where they can do something out of the ordinary - like play with play-duh, or have a sweet treat, or read a favorite book. I also suggest, if possible, getting someone else to care for baby (even for just an hour) and taking "one" for quick, special outings - even just a walk may help.
Good luck!
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