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Jessica - posted on 12/26/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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whats the best way to get a baby to sleep throughout the night???

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Renae - posted on 12/30/2009

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Jessica I clicked on your profile but it didn't tell me how old your baby is. I will give you a few options that work for all ages but I can give you more specific advice if you tell me how old your baby is, how they currently go to sleep and how many times they wake at night.

You have several options. There are no-cry methods and crying methods. Crying methods are most effective, have higher success rates and work quickly. No-cry methods are gentle and require some time and patience.

If you use a crying method I recommend you use crying it out with cry interpretation. Although I do not usually recommend any cry method as a first option without trying other things first, except in some circumstances where mum and baby are both extremely sleep deprived, or the sleep disturbance is causing major problems within the family unit. I am not an advocate of control crying at all or any method where you go in and check on them as each time you go into them, you must leave again, and when you leave they go through the initial distress of being left all over again and it makes the baby more and more distressed. If you use a crying method where you leave them to figure out they are supposed to go to sleep and do some research on cry interpretation and listen to their cries so that you know if they need you, you can cry it out without distressing your baby. This method is very effective and is usually not nearly as bad as mum's expected.

The no-cry method most commonly used by behaviourists and sleep consultants is gradual withdrawal. This is where you gradually withdraw the baby from needing your help to go to sleep. This has an 80% success rate and takes 2-4 weeks. But there are different instructions for younger or older babies so I need to know the age before I can tell you how to do it.

Another no-cry method is that of UK baby whisperer Tracey Hogg, called Pick-up/Put-down. She has a website with a support forum for people using the method. Her book is called The Secrets of the Baby Whisperer. Her method is not commonly recognised but there are plenty of posts that say it works. Message me if you are too tired to read the book and would like instructions :)

You can also try the books Save Our Sleep by Tizzie Hall or if you are really looking for a very gentle approach then read No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley.

There is lots of info out there if you google any of the above methods. You are also more than welcome to contact me for info or instructions on anything I have said (if I include it all this post will be too long).

The method you choose needs to be your decision as to what you think will work best for you and your baby based on considering all of your circumstances (whether you work, whether you have support, how many times you are getting up at night, how long you have been sleep deprived for, whether your baby has any contributing medical issues etc etc etc).

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Pam - posted on 01/05/2010

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We do have a routine. We get home from work and it's bath time, supper, little bit of play time and then bedtime by 7 p.m. She is still teething so that may be part of what's waking her? Thanks however for the tip.

Marcia - posted on 01/05/2010

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What we did since he was 3 months was have a routine . Bath, bottle and then Good nite moon. My son is now 2 and he has always slept though the night. Maybe I was just lucky but it works.

Pam - posted on 01/02/2010

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My little girl is 17 months old and does not sleep through the night. Either my husband or I will get up and try to rock her to comfort her and she falls asleep but the minute we put her down she begins crying again. So my husband just brings her to our bed! Ugghh... We just got our son out of our bed and now will be going through the same thing with our daughter. We attempted to let her cry it out one night and she cried for an hour. It broke my heart. Everyone keeps telling me we need to let her cry. They say the next night she may only cry for 45 minutes and it gets shorter each night thereafter. I don't know the night we were at an hour I'm thinking she might have gone longer had we not given in. Any suggestions?

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Quoting Jessica:

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whats the best way to get a baby to sleep throughout the night???


You have my sympathy!  Our 2nd baby got almost to his first birthday without sleeping through the night.  I was going mad.  Seriously.  My husband was working days and I was left to my own devices to handle the baby at night.  He used to fuss over every little thing.  By the time he was 6 months, he was just crying to get me to come in and give him some cuddles.  I used to go in to his room and cuddle him, then I'd put him down and as soon as he heard me leave, he would lose it.  So then I started going in to cuddle him and sleeping in there with him.  He did fine as long as I was right there.  One night, I decided I'd had enough.  I went in and made sure he was okay, not wet, didn't need his paci or some milk, and put him down.  I left the room and he lost it.  I let him go until he was done.  It was THE longest hour.  He eventually stopped and after that, he slept through most of the night.  Now he's 2 and if he fusses at all during the night, it's because he's lost his paci and can't find it.  Either my husband or I will go in and give it to him and he's back to bed.  You have to decide what's best for you and your baby and do it.  If it means you sleep in the baby's room or let the baby cry it out, you have to decide how far you're willing to go.  Babies were designed, like the rest of us, to sleep through the night, once their food demand has been met.  I noticed that our son did really well if he had a full tummy right before bed.  By really well, I mean that he went longer before he started to fuss and interrupted my night's sleep.  Eventually, you'll both get the hang of things and get some good rest.  You know your baby best.  And you know how far you can push things before the baby needs you.  We tried the Ferber method, where you go in after 5 mins, then wait 10, then 15.  Did not work.  But try as many things as you can.  You have only success to find!  I wish you the best of luck!

Leslee - posted on 01/01/2010

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How old? My son was 10 months and i gave him a small bottle of whole milk. that did the trick. His doctor said it was ok as long as he was getting formula during the day.

Elise - posted on 12/31/2009

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Hmmm, I never had a baby sleep 10-12 hours a night and have long naps during the day. And, since I breast fed, I didn't put cereal in their bottles. What I did learn however, is as the baby matures and eats more at each feeding, he starts to stay full longer...so, the feedings become less frequent and sleep in between feedings will become longer. Babies will adapt to your schedule in their time. Be patient.

Lynnisa - posted on 12/31/2009

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my daughter had colic to and what i found out what helped me with her was peperment water helped her and worm water and stuff helped

LeeAnne - posted on 12/31/2009

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Well, personally I allowed our children to sleep with us. Never, ever used formul. However, that method isn't always suggested by "experts". But, what better place to have your baby/child sleeping than between their loving parents. It is the safest warmest place in the world. I also never allowed my children to "cry their self to sleep".



My oldest had colic so we drove around late at night looking at the type of house or neighborhood we wanted for our family in the future. Again, I didn't "conform" to what some "experts" said. I also breast fed both my children until about 2, as I followed Le Leche League's philosophy.



One major point, I did not work outside the house when our children were under 3 years old. That makes a huge difference in allowing your baby to sleep with you.



Also, my children are now 21 and 28, so there wasn't special products to purchase, like creams, soothing bath remeadies or mechanical devices. I had to use what little knowledge was out there. However, reading some of the responses on these page I found that Renae K. seemed to have a very logical and insightful method in finding ways for babies to sleep.



Good luck to all new moms. This faze will soon pass, and your'll have a new and different challenge with your precious child. Just remember, they do grow up so very quickly!

Terri - posted on 12/30/2009

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Maybe changing your babies position when he/she sleeps will help! I am a mother of 4, 25, 20, 19, and 18 and a gammie to one beautiful 8 years old princess. They tell you now to have the babies sleep on their back?? All four of mine slept on their side with a blanket propping them, two preferred after a few weeks to sleep on their tummies. I don't know why they keep telling us to do something else. I think it is important that, like us, they are comfortable when they sleep. I highly recommend different positions to see what is comfy to baby, but safe! Also, after 4 weeks, I gave all of mine, (starting with 1/2-1 tsp) of rice cereal to 4 oz of milk/formula. It wasn't long before each of them slept a good 5 hours before they were up again and then when you feed them thicker later, they are satisfied longer. It did not hurt them, and there are no effects today because of it! ha~ha I pray this helps!! And congratulations on the new lil precious one!!

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I found that if a baby want's to sleep in the day and not the night that all I had to do was to change it bath time to complete reverse of what it was and with in a night or 2 the baby would be sleeping when I wanted him 2

Melissa - posted on 12/30/2009

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once they hit 12 lbs they should be able to sllep at least 10-12 hrs a night. Everything else is a learned behavior. Let the baby cry it out. After 2 nights my daughter figured out that I wasn't coming in to play. If you do have to go in then be as boring as possible. No talking, lights out! My daughter does get a bath everynight as part of her bedtime routine. That signals to her that its bedtime. If she has a serious problem or bad dream then of course we go tend to her but otherwise she has learned to self soothe herself back to sleep. It was hard for the 2 nights to hear her cry but in the end it was for the best. Now we all sleep better!!

Rachel - posted on 12/30/2009

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Wait until they sleep threw the night on their own, it's terrible and your going to be extremely tierd for a while. My daughter will be 3 months old on the 8th and she wakes up once at least during the night to eat.

Paula - posted on 12/30/2009

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I gave my boys a warm bath in chamiolle parents choice baby bath. They slept through the night.

Shawna - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

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whats the best way to get a baby to sleep throughout the night???


I use Johnson and Johnson Bed time bath and also the bedtime lotion during and after the bath.  We also rock him to sleep while humming and patting his butt. Hopefully it will help you. Good Luck.                                                             Shawna Moore                                                                                                                                                                                       

















 

Laura - posted on 12/30/2009

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Our 1st baby would wake up for 1 hour every 2 hours for many months. Our second baby would sleep for 4 hours then need to be fed and held for 3 hours and then sleep for 4 hours. The only way we could get her to fall asleep was by walking her back an forth in her car seat which was so hard on our necks and backs. We tried several different kinds of swings for her but none of them would work. We finally found the Graco Soothing Center. It helped her sleep so well and thus helped us sleep so well. After I'd feed her, I could just set her down in it press the timer, it would rock her back asleep while I fell asleep at the same time. It worked better for her than me holding her myself. She loved it. It costs about the price of a one night stay at a nice hotel, but it gave us hundreds of good nights of sleep. It also allowed my husband and me to spend more time together and it made both us and our baby more happy during our awake hours.

Renae - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Laurel:

It's great when your baby sleeps through the night, however some babies just don't. Try everything you are told, take all the advice given and they may still wake. I know because my daughter has not sleep through the nite once and she is six months. And it is hard not having a full nite sleep for six months. The worst thing is I sometimes feel like I'm failing as a mother, when I see other babies sleeping through much younger. I am still breastfeeding so when she wakes it about 20 min of feeding and then back to sleep. My doctor suggested giving her a bottle at nite however she will not take the bottle or a dummy! Other then waking for feeds at nite she is a great baby, so I'm lucky for that! Sleeping when your baby sleeps if you can is a great option, but if you can't for work reasons, try not to let it get you down, lack of sleep is a bitch and turns me into a bitch! I find about once every two weeks it really gets me down and I have to take a day of catch up. Good luck.



Laurel, plenty of babies continue to need 1 night feed until about 10mo. I'm sure she will get there. The key point for everyone to remember is any sleep method probably WILL NOT WORK (sometimes does, but mostly doesn't) if your baby is waking hungry. They have to be physiologically ready to sleep through first, then you do the sleep training if they don't sort it out on their own within a couple of months.

Renae - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Monika:

I was given all sort of methods or suggestions from people, none of them worked, my daughter was colicky and literally screamed for most of the night the first 3 months.. it was hell... but suddenly she started to sleep at night and she sorted herself out. She is almost 5 months on and as of late she has started to sleep (some nights) up to 9 hours.. which is amazing, normally she has about 6 hours straight before her first night feed.

Sleep when the baby sleeps, the baby will sort itself out. I was told by a nurse that visited not to expect any real changes until my daughter was 3 months. I do not believe and was told by nurses its almost impossible to try and change their pattern. We even "tried" to cluster feed in the evening to avoid late night sessions of that.. it was a nightmare. All the rumors of feeding rice cereal before they go to bed never worked for me, my daughter has slept on breast milk for 9 hours.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there...



Monika, everything you say is spot on. If you had come to me for a sleep method with a colicy baby less than 3 months old I would have told you to hang in there and wait it out as most babies suddenly get better at 12-14 weeks and start sleeping on their own. I'm surprised anyone who knew what they were talking about wouldn't have told you that! :)



However it all depends how old this baby is. Some babies do need help to learn to sleep on their own and sleep for longer or they never sleep, you just end up with a toddler with a sleep disorder. But all babies are different and the unique circumstances of each situation need to be considered.

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My son is 3 months old and sleeps from about 9 pm to 7 or 8 am...but it's not cause he was born that way. His nights and days were TOTALLY swapped when he was born. After about a week I was begging his doctor for advice. He said from 6 am to 10 pm, feed him whenever you think he's hungry, but don't go longer than 3 hours without feeding. And DO NOT let them sleep longer than 3 hours at a time during the day either (give them a bath...do whatever you have to to wake them). Then from 10 pm to 6 am you don't feed them unless it has been at least three hours (give them a binky, put them in the swing, rock them...whatever). He said they will get there days and nights sorted out within 3 days TOPS. It only took our little guy about a day and a half. We saw HUGE improvement. He would wake up to eat about every four hours then go right back to sleep, and his sleep stretches got longer and longer every couple weeks until right now where he sleeps through the whole night.

Also, as long as your little one is gaining weight fine, he said not to worry if your baby starts sleeping 8-10 hour stretches at night without eating. You don't need to wake them up...even if they're a newborn.

This advice helped us SO MUCH. I hope it helps you. Follow your intuition:)

Gidgit - posted on 12/27/2009

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Somone suggested sleeping when baby sleeps. My little one is 3 weeks and wakes up about every 4 hours. I have learned that a nap durring the day with her and then sleeping when she sleeps at night helps me feel a little more sane. It also helps that hubby gives me time to myself when He comes home from work.

Melanie - posted on 12/27/2009

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When they're six months old they don't need to feed during the night - don't give them a reason to wake up after 6 months and they won't.

Good luck and I feel your pain our latest addition is only 7 weeks old - it's not easy surviving on less than 4 hours of night time sleep!

Doris - posted on 12/27/2009

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Because babies have different sleep patterns, it could be a medical reasons why they dont sleep, ie. colick, autisum. I believe no matter what it is all babies have to have physical stimulation and should be on a routine, ie. dont let the baby take a nap forever while you cook and or clean wake them or the evening bedtime will have trouble. Routine is a must for you and baby dont wait until you go to work or the baby goes to school to start a routine. Conditioning starts now for your sake and the babies, remember as they grow their patterns change, be flexible.

Monika - posted on 12/27/2009

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I know rice cereal is mentioned here but the use of it is extremely discouraged from the medical community before the child is four months old. I did ask about it when given that suggestion and we did try it on my daughter when she was the appropriate age.

Sherry - posted on 12/26/2009

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I gave my babies both a 4oz bottle of cerel before bed at night and my parents did it with us. Both my babies slept most of the night from about a week old.

Debi - posted on 12/26/2009

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Every baby is different! Some are sleepers and some are not...my daughter was up every 2 hours at night until she was 10 months old. She quit taking real naps when she was about 3 months old. She would sleep in spurts...15 min. here 15 min. there...it was really hard! My twins, on the other hand, slept through the night at 6 weeks and took lovely 2 hour naps! You just have to sleep when they sleep, or you could get a friend to come sit with the baby while you nap!

Ryan - posted on 12/26/2009

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i put a little (a tbsp or two) of baby rice cereal in with his formula and it would keep his tummy full throughout the night but you should really wait to do that until they are able to go 4 to 6 hours between feedings during the day. You dont want to starve or dehydrate your child for a few extra house of sleep.

Best bet. Have someone you trust come over and take care of your peanut in the house while you catch some rest for an hour or so. Even if it is once a week it is heavenly

Jacquelyn - posted on 12/26/2009

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Every baby is so different there is no real way to do it... my son slept through the night from day one... my daughter sleeps for about 6 hrs some nights and others she's up every 2 hrs... it's so different for so many baby's just gut through it and trust me when I say it will end at some point. Now if they hit a year and their still not sleeping through the night then you might want to look into night lights and music that will help sooth them so they will sleep at night... just had that problem arise with my son he started having nightmares and waking up screaming.

Veronica - posted on 12/26/2009

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I have to agree with Monika, sleep when the baby does, they do their own thing in their own time.

Monika - posted on 12/26/2009

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I was given all sort of methods or suggestions from people, none of them worked, my daughter was colicky and literally screamed for most of the night the first 3 months.. it was hell... but suddenly she started to sleep at night and she sorted herself out. She is almost 5 months on and as of late she has started to sleep (some nights) up to 9 hours.. which is amazing, normally she has about 6 hours straight before her first night feed.



Sleep when the baby sleeps, the baby will sort itself out. I was told by a nurse that visited not to expect any real changes until my daughter was 3 months. I do not believe and was told by nurses its almost impossible to try and change their pattern. We even "tried" to cluster feed in the evening to avoid late night sessions of that.. it was a nightmare. All the rumors of feeding rice cereal before they go to bed never worked for me, my daughter has slept on breast milk for 9 hours.



There is a light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there...

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