Sleep Training at 5 months

Jennifer - posted on 12/08/2008 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Hi. I have a 5 month old who sleeps with us in our bed. We want to sleep train her (she won't sleep alone) and move her to the crib. Is this too much to do at once? Also, the crib is in our room right now (not being used). Should we move it to her room too? Or is that a triple disaster? Thanks.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/19/2008

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Thanks so much everyone for your help. We've been sleep training this week and it's rough but I'm hoping for the light at the end of the tunnel!

Melissa - posted on 12/09/2008

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Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Weisbluth is fantastic. However, like Marissa said, I also chose to not use the Cry it Out method. But rather concentrated on the routine and and soothing techniques. Try napping your little one in her crib to start and then go from there. If she naps fine, it shouldn't be too different to sleep there at night.

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This has been a huge issue in my life, and I have two kids who now sleep in their own beds, (ages 5 and 8) so I'll just give you some quick advice: do it now, and suffer through about five nights of torture. If you drag it out, you can have sleep deprivation for years, as I did with my oldest. Move the crib to her room, rock her for 15 minutes, put her in her crib, and let her cry for 15 minutes. Do it all over again, as many times as you need to, for a few days. I promise you that it will work, and it will not hurt her. It's a lot easier at 5 months than it is at 3 years, when they can get up!

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My advice to new Moms is that 'You' know best. Do whatever is right for you and your situation. If it no longer works one way, try another way. I have three children that very rarely slept the night with me, are all really well adjusted and love me to bits. With my first child I asked a mother of 9 where she slept her babies she said from day 1 they were at the furthest room away from hers, if they needed her, they let her know! I couldn't be that harsh though. I love your photo by the way. Happy sleeping!

User - posted on 12/08/2008

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In third world countries because space is a problem the family shares sleeping accomdations. Research has showen these kids have fewer traumatic experiences than the children of the western world. On the other hand we see cases where the child is so depended on us, in the western world we try to develop independence in our children.. i think a balance of the two is a good combination. If your baby or you feel ready then make a schedule with feeds and sleep - trust your intuition -your gut is usually never wrong. Also know that all children are different and have different needs a book is a great tool but never take anything literally use everything like guidelines not the rule. I have read so many books that sometimes i wonder who writes them a robot and nothing is easy with kids but remeber you need to always stay calm and dont stress- you are in control. PS if you are stressed so will your baby - so dont be stressed.

Reannan - posted on 12/08/2008

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I have a 5 month old too and he slept in our bed.. We've kept the cot in our bed for the meantime becuase we thought that would be too much at one time and we just persisted with everytime he went to sleep we put him in his cot and if he woke up we put him to sleep again during the day and still let him sleep with us during the night.. Then we eventually did the same during the night and now he doesn't even need us lol! He sleeps by himself in his cot day and night and doesn't even need us to put him to sleep.. We've still got the cot in our room though because one transistion at a time is enough and sometimes he still wants to sleep with us but we have to be persistant.. Oh and another thing we bought him a sheep skin and put it in our bed for a couple of days so it would have our smells on it then put it in his cot! That really helped..

User - posted on 12/08/2008

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Hi Jennifer! Your baby is so beautiful! I have five children and we're going to have our 6th in 2 months. I read Babywise when I was pregnant with our first (she just turned 9) and have used that book's advice on all my kids. I have heard people say some pretty horrible things about Babywise, (they even handed out literature at the hospital where I had my 4th baby that spoke vehemently against the book) but I already knew the criticism was ridiculous. Everyone that I've known to follow Babywise has had great results. My kids all slept through the night by 6 weeks (or earlier) and in their OWN bed. They were all happy, content babies and easy to "read". My husband and I were extremely happy and content too. :-) Anyhow, I recommend you read that book if you haven't already. There will be crying and it might take 3 or 4 days or training, but your baby can be trained to sleep on her own, in her own crib, and NOT be psychologically messed up. It will actually be very good for her! Babies need to have a really good night's sleep, along with good naps during the day. Hope everything works out for you!!

Patty - posted on 12/08/2008

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Hi I'm a mother of 2. a 8mth old and a 3yr old. W/ my first he slept in our room in a crib at the end of our bed. It took me untill he was a year to stop waking up throughout the night. I had him take all his naps in is crib in our room to get used to the crib. I finally moved him out of our room and he finally stopped crying and slept thru the night. The first 6mths he slept in our bed soundly, but wouldnt at night time. With my daughter i tried to co sleep w/ her but she moved so much and wouldnt stay asleep so at 5mths I put her in her crib at night after bathing and feeding her at night and all her naps were in her bed. I would stay for 1o to 15 mins to feed, rub her back and walk out. if she cried i'd go back in for 1 to 2 mins and walk out. I'd only have to do that a few times. Within 1mth she goes right to bed (all naps and bedtime) and might cry but only till i leave her room then she stops. I would definitely recommend not having her crib in your room and starting to put her in her crib for all naps and just keep going in for a few minutes but space it out. Let her cry for 2mins then go in, then let her cry for 4mins and go back in. Lengthening the amount of time between you going back in. Trial by error. If I only knew how easy it would of been to get the crib out of my room w/ my first I would have had more sleep. I had to do something different b/c I'm also a step mother of a 10 yrear old too! Good luck:)

Dianna - posted on 12/08/2008

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We have a 7 month old in our bed too. I have several friends who have successfully shared the family bed with their children and the key is to do it as long as it works for the family. All of my friends had the children in their beds for about 2 years. And all the kids are happy, weel adjusted, confident people. According to research a baby in the bed will wake more than one out of the bed, and one in the room will wake more than in their own room. All that aside, my friends who move their children out of the bed, first moved them out of the bed but still in the parents room. I do believe to doall at one time would be a bit of a shock for her. While we are not ready to give up the family bed, our little one is almost sleeping through the night and since I do not have to get up to take care of him, I feel fully rested. Hope this helps

Marissa - posted on 12/08/2008

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I'd do one transition at a time. There are many wonderful sleep training books out there. Ferber suggests starting at 6 months and Dr. Weisbluth suggests 4 months. I read Dr. Weisbluth's book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child however, I did not use it to have my children cry it out. I used it as a guide to make a schedule for them and they fell into sleeping through the night. HSH, HC has good ideas as to how long babies should be awake before going for naps, etc and how to do a sleep/bedtime routine in it that made sense to me.

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