sleeping in own room?

Steph - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 210 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies :)

At what age did everyone put their little one in their own room? Our little girl is 11 months and i feel like she needs to go in her own room soon but i think im a little anxious about it lol

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Dara - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hi. From what I've been learning, the whole concept of separate sleep is a "Western" notion and it has bad consequences to the baby...especially if the baby has to be left to cry in order to sleep in their own room. One example of the bad consequences is that in countries where you have cribs in other rooms...you have SIDS (formerly called Crib Death). In countries where babies sleep with parents you just don't find that. We women in "Western Culture" feel pressured to put our kids in cribs in other rooms, but, the reason we even have to "ask" about it is because inside we know that's not the right place for the baby to sleep. Physically we're not created to sleep alone. Here's a good article about it written by an anthropologist... http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepth... Check it out. Go with your instincts. Trust yourself. :)

Ethylene - posted on 05/15/2010

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I'm a grandmother...so can I put in my .02cents. :) I wouldn't be too rigid or demanding putting them off into their own room. When mine were small as I recall they ended up inour bed many nights, although probably at about 6 months old I put them into their bed/room, then would move them later during the night many nights.

I doubt it really is a big deal to damage a child one way or the other so if they are sleeping alone before they go to college that is probably best. LOL...otherwise, hang loose and just enjoy them!

Now when my youngest grandchild spends the night she sleeps with me after snuggling and reading books. She is 7, we both enjoy it and I have no plans to change until she expresses a wish to go to the other bedroom. I am single. :)

Some things just aren't worth worrying about.

Charlotte - posted on 05/18/2010

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my little boy is 11 months one week and tonigh is his 4th night in his own room first night i woke up and checked on him loads last night i checked on him at 10pm when i went to bed then i woke up in a panic at 3am because i hadn't heard him or checked on him but when i went in he was fine. i knew it was the right time for him to move some people do it a lot eailer some people move them later trust your self you will know if the time is right



But i must say i was very suprised to read how young most of the babies are i was expecting most answers to be around the 6 month mark as that what most book recommend.

Kristen - posted on 05/18/2010

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I think any response to this has to start with "in my case," or "I believe" because there is no certain right or wrong. For those who say something like "it's best if you do it right away," there's an equal argument, like Bodaline's, that says later is better. My husband and I fall in the latter camp; our kids coslept with us (safely! There is a way, despite all the recent terrible deaths and negative publicity) till they were ready.

Our son asked for his own room at about age 3 when we brought our daughter home from the hospital. Now our two girls prefer to fall asleep together in bunks, but the older one sometimes moves into the big bed at night if she's restless (she's 12, and the most independent of our kids during the day, but needs to connect with a parent at night sometimes).

Primates, including humans, have an extragestational phase of infant development, where they continue to need close contact with their parent. If you anticipate a battle at some point with getting your child to sleep independently, why fight the battle before you need to? If you need to make the baby cry it out to keep her away from you, then why not wait till they're older and more secure before you force the issue?

Erica - posted on 05/18/2010

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I think as soon as you feel comfortable with it and you won't be up running back and forth all night to keep them asleep you are good to go.

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ERIKA - posted on 05/18/2010

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I put my daughter in her own room when she was 4 months old.everytime she moved I would wake up to make sure she was okay and it was disturbing my sleep and I wouldn't be ready to get going the next morning :(

Jennifer - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son was about 3-4 weeks old. We both slept much better without him hearing mine and my husband's every move. I say the earlier the better, The longer you wait the harder it will be on the child.

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We put all four of our children in their own rooms by 4 or 5 months. Usually as soon as they out grew the bassinet they were in a crib in their own room. Just get a good baby monitor and you're all set. She'll be completely fine, and you'll sleep better, PROMISE!

Kelsey - posted on 05/18/2010

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I agree--the younger the better. I know a child who is not in her own bed yet and she is 9!!!! And showing no signs of going in her own room because no one is making her. Her mom doesn't want her to and she doesn't want to, but I think it is WAY past due. I think it is ridiculous that she still sleeps in a super packed bed...she needs to be in her own room...so the sooner u start the better off u both will be.

Angela - posted on 05/18/2010

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I moved my first at 4 weeks and my second at 5 weeks. Basically once we got past the eating every 2 hours phase. Everyone has a much sounder sleep when you can't hear every little noise they make:) I think the longer you wait to do it, the more difficult a transistion it will become....What about starting with naps and then moving to a nightime routine?

Cristl - posted on 05/18/2010

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My little dude was 3 months when he went to his own room...That was mostly because we were living with my parents though while the hubby was on deployment. There wasnt anyone but me in the room, and it was just easier for nursing. The first week my hubby got home ((3 months) the little man had his own room. I think that it is so important for mommy and daddy to be able to have their room, without a child occupying it. There are always certain circumstances and to them needing to be in the sam room, but otherwise, i do not thing it is healthy for the child or parents for them to be with you so long. It will end up leading to alot of seperation problems when they hit that phase;

Amanda - posted on 05/18/2010

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I think I will start putting my son in his room when he is about 1 1/2. He still sleeps in the bed with us and he is 8 months (almost).

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Our daughter has been in her own room since she was three days old. We put her in there right away and she sleeps there every night. She may have slept 3 or 4 nights in our bed in her 21 months. Every child and parent is different.

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My children slept in their own room from day 1. Once we left the hospital, there was no more sleeping with mommy. My mother always told me that you should never start a child to sleeping with you or else they'll always want to sleep with you. I always kept the monitor with me so I can hear them if they cry, but they sleep by themselves, in their room.

Ramona - posted on 05/18/2010

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I had 5 and have 7 grans.....all were in their own room with monitors between 4 to 6 months......great success.!!!!
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2 and a half weeks!



My daughter was in her pram for 2.5 weeks, in our room initially. Then we set up her cot nicely, with sheets, a comfy blanket to lay on, wrapped her up nice and tight and plonker her in the cot at 2 and a half weeks and she's been there ever since. We don't use a monitor cos I wake up to her anyway, but now I get a decent sleep cos I don't hear all her little dream noises (cute as they are) or breathing or snoring etc.

Trisha - posted on 05/18/2010

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I did the same thing as someone mentioned below...as soon as they were sleeping through the night because I would wake up at every little sound they made and they were not even awake. My first girl was 3 months old and my second girl was around 2 1/2 months.

Mindy - posted on 05/18/2010

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'mom of 4' All of my kids slept in thier own beds within the fisrt two weeks. I find it has alowed them to adjust and we never really went through a 'clingy' phase with any of our kids. You need to remember that the habits our children form are started by us. so if you would like your daughter to be confident and secure in sleeping on her own then yes do it now!! And to make it easier try bedding that she will be excited about ie, Dora, elmo, whatever she likes. be prepared for a fight as she is used to being with you but DON'T GIVE IN!!! It will only take a 1-3 nights and she will settle down...just be strong! And good luck, this is a fun time really play up the big girl aspect...even for that age kids love it!

Zoe - posted on 05/18/2010

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my first, 10 months. my 3 month old is in his own room for the 2nd night running now :) theres no right or wrong. x

Cristina - posted on 05/18/2010

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Dear Steph, I am Cristy. All I can tell you is that that opcion it's all up to you. I have learned something. A friend toll me "nobody can tell you how to raise your kids. My hsusband works nights, I have a big room, and I do not like to sleep by myself. Since my kids rooms are at the other side of the house, they sleep with me. That if perfectly fine with me, because if they move, I feel it, they got up, I feel it too. My point is I feel happy knowing that my kids are there next to me, and not in a room where anything can happen and I won't know. Your can also put them in the room next to yours. To me, it's depends how you feel. Good luck. Love, Cristy

Robyn - posted on 05/18/2010

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I Never had my children in my room, from they day I brought both home, they went straight into their own room in their own cot. They have never slept with us or in our bedroom. They now just jump in bed when they wake up for a morning cuddle then we all get up.

Brittany - posted on 05/18/2010

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We started putting our son in his own rooms at about 5 1/2 months. How we started was that if he woke up he would just stay with us the rest of the night. At 6 months he got too big for all 3 of us to fit comfortably so we started putting him to sleep in his crib and we developed a routine. He sleeps through the night much better in his own room. Just be careful about what time you put them to bed; we put ours to bed at 9 o'clock and he wakes up at a quarter to 7 every morning like clock work!

Lisa - posted on 05/18/2010

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Try not to feel too anxious. It's a necessary emotional & developmental step for your baby. It can also help prevent losing your sanity and your sex life. I put my first in his room after about 2 weeks, but his bedroom was right next to mine, I was getting no sleep, and he didn't do well in his bassinet. With my second, he moved to his room when he was about 6 weeks old. I would be scared to death to have a baby sleep in the bed with us for fear of rolling over him. It can also put more of a strain on your marriage than you may realize. Best of luck!

Tricia - posted on 05/18/2010

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I do have a friend who had her daughter in her room, in bed wiht her until she was 5. she tried and tried but couldn't get the kid to sleep in her own bed. Good Luck

Jennifer - posted on 05/18/2010

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when u feel its right. my 2 girls have slept in their own rooms from day one. every once in awhile my oldest will sleep with us for a couple of hrs if she has a bad dream. maybe start off slow, maybe do naps first or maybe start a little earlier at bed time and put her in her own bed read her a story. leave a nite light on.

Tanasha - posted on 05/18/2010

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I waited until my daughter was sleeping fully through the night (which she did at about 4 months) before moving her into her own room. The longer they sleep with you, the harder it will be to get them to accept thier own room and bed, so the sooner, the better, if you plan on having your bedroom to yourselves. I plan on doing the same with my son as well. My cousin made the mistake of letting her youngest sleep with her in her bed until they were about 3 years old.. and had the hardest time ever getting them to sleep in thier own rooms in thier own beds.

KATHY - posted on 05/18/2010

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Try getting her to first go to bed in her room,if she goes and gets in your bed keep putting her back in her bed. I know this is a pain but after awhile she will stay in her bed when she sleeps all night long.

Tricia - posted on 05/18/2010

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i put Tayli in her own room at about 6 months. Before that it was just me and her so she was fine in my room. At about 2 or so she started sleeping on the floor in our room, for about 6 months. Then we got her a new toddler bed and she has been in her own room ever since.

Kellie - posted on 05/18/2010

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my daughter is almost 6 months. I made a promise to my husband (and myself) that will transition her into her own room at 6 months. I'm very afraid of bad habits forming. I think it's starting already.

Janice - posted on 05/18/2010

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Although my youngest was in his own bed sharing a room with his big brother we often found him in bed with us in the mornings until he was about 3 years old maybe more.

Tamara - posted on 05/18/2010

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Lianne, we still got our sex on. Co-sleeping just made us be more creative. :D

Lisa - posted on 05/18/2010

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My daughter was a little under two months old. It was much easier for me to get sleep because I wasn't constantly waking up from her every sound. She was able to sleep through the night around two months also BECAUSE I was not waking her up either.

Crystal - posted on 05/18/2010

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I put my son in his own room when he was 7 months old and he sleeps like a baby.... he also sleeps all night long except when hes got a tooth cutting in.

Becca - posted on 05/18/2010

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I have 4 children. When I was pregnant with my oldest, who is 14 now, I was given the advice to put them in their own beds right away. I did and it was a lot better for me. I could not sleep with a baby in my bed. I was always afraid of rolling over on top of them. So I put them in their own beds with a baby moniter

Tiffany - posted on 05/18/2010

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I think its when you feel ready. My daughter was about 1o months old. Probably would have been sooner but at the time we didnt have three bedrooms and we werent goin to put her in the same room with her big brother. She was fine. Had a monitor in her and our room. She was fine. I honestly think thearlier the better. It gets them use to it and less of a struggle and less traumatizing for them at a younger age.

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My oldest son slept with us off and on because we were moving. It was a nightmare when we got settled and tried to get him to sleep in his bed - right around 2 yrs. My youngest went to his crib about about 4 weeks - took naps in there -and has been a perfect sleeper ever since. He's 10 months old and has been sleeping in his room all night for 3-4 months. I know it's hard - but get them in their own rooms as soon as possible.

Anne-marie - posted on 05/18/2010

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hi i let mine sleep in there own room as soon as we come home from hospital so they would get used to going to sleep alone ,it has worked brilliant as my sister in law didnt and she has had a bad time of it getting her two to sleep,i say do it now while shes still young good luck will be thinking of you.

Florence - posted on 05/18/2010

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Our little one has been sleeping in his own room since he's been home from the hospital. He was just in the next room and we had a really good baby monitor so we were able to hear everything.

Sophie - posted on 05/18/2010

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my little boy was in his own room at 8wks old, we used the angel monitor which is a big help for anxious parents i still use it now, he is in a bed but if the monitor goes off i know he is out of bed x

Diane - posted on 05/18/2010

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My twin were 7 weeks prem and went into their own room once they reached the date they were supposed to be born. They started sleeping though a week later. They are now 2 1/2, we have never had bed time issues or nap time issues. If one or both have a bad dream they can crawl into bed with mom, and when they are asleep I put them back in their own beds.

Soha - posted on 05/18/2010

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hey steph i have a baby boy and he is 3 months old. he sleeps in his own room since he was 1 1/2. you dont need to be anxious as long as your girl ate well and burped you dont have to worry.
babies need to get used to their room environment.
hope this helped.
update me :)

Charlotte - posted on 05/18/2010

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that's what i miss most now robert is in his own room is hearing him breathing if i wake up in the night as im getting used to being on my own in the room to

Kim - posted on 05/18/2010

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my daughter slept in her own room the first night we came home with her. and she does very well with it.

Melissa - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son was 5 months old when we switched him from the bassinet in our room to his crib. I wanted to wait until he was sleeping through the night.

Krystle - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hi Steph,

My son is 10 months and we JUST moved him into his own room. I felt it was the right time for him, even though I didn't want to move him. :) He sleeps the exact same and so do I. Don't listen to all the advice about "spoiling your baby" and that "they have to learn to be independent".....move her when you think SHE is ready!

And my response to Kelly Stinson, right above my post: my husband wanted our son to stay in our room even longer. He loved waking up at night to be able to hear him breathing.

Renee - posted on 05/18/2010

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Both my kids were about month old when I moved them into their own room. We would wake up everytime they made a noise. Good luck!

Dana - posted on 05/18/2010

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I am a big fan of independence.. There are times that my son wakes randomly though out the night, once in the past 2 weeks.. I just find when I put him in the bed with me, Neither of us sleep well.. I am paranoid that I will bump him or put weight on his body some how and I dont sleep because when he is in my bed he pulls my hair.. He has started to flip over and grabs my hair, for 17 weeks he has a good pull to him..

Victoria - posted on 05/18/2010

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My two kids were in there own rooms by 5 /6 months it was about the time they were almost sleeping through the night and they were able to roll and sit up . I had the baby montior on and i was up checking for a couple of the nights and i had musical and fish tank toys to keep them busy so they wanted to be in crib -- i made it fun - its a big step for mom and child but as soon as you do it the better it is for the two of you . And run the vacuum or music the more noise the better my kids sleep though a hurricane.

Dana - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son is 17 weeks.. He has been sleeping in his own room since week 1.. With the exception, I fell and broke my tail bone when he was 3 weeks old, he then spent 2 weeks in my room.. but then I moved him quickly back to his own bed.. He sleeps from 10pm till 10:30am every night without waking. He is rocked to sleep (in his swing) and then put into his crib, I have put him in there awake, he would just rustle around a little and then fall asleep, I would never let him cry himself to sleep..

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