sleeping in own room?

Steph - posted on 05/14/2010 ( 210 moms have responded )

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Hey ladies :)

At what age did everyone put their little one in their own room? Our little girl is 11 months and i feel like she needs to go in her own room soon but i think im a little anxious about it lol

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Heather - posted on 05/18/2010

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My daughter was a month old. I found she slept better in her own room and in her crib than in our room in her basinett. It was very hard..I think the first couple nights I slept with the baby monitor against my ear.... but now I wouldn't have it any other way!

Dara - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hi. From what I've been learning, the whole concept of separate sleep is a "Western" notion and it has bad consequences to the baby...especially if the baby has to be left to cry in order to sleep in their own room. One example of the bad consequences is that in countries where you have cribs in other rooms...you have SIDS (formerly called Crib Death). In countries where babies sleep with parents you just don't find that. We women in "Western Culture" feel pressured to put our kids in cribs in other rooms, but, the reason we even have to "ask" about it is because inside we know that's not the right place for the baby to sleep. Physically we're not created to sleep alone. Here's a good article about it written by an anthropologist... http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detsleepth... Check it out. Go with your instincts. Trust yourself. :)

Helen - posted on 05/18/2010

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My children came home from the hospital and went right into their own rooms. We had an excellent baby monitor and kept the volume up high. That way we didn't have sleep issues and my husband and I had the privacy we needed.

Natalie - posted on 05/18/2010

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If you feel it's time for her to move, then you are probably right. We didn't have our last 3 girls in our room after the 1st week. We didn't want to acustom them to sleeping in our room.We made the mistake of letting our first born sleep in our room and sometimes in our bed and we couldn't get her to sleep in her room by herself until she was 3 years old...

I know that it can seem a little hard to leave them in their room by themselves, especially when they are so little! But in the long run, the younger they are, the better I think. Just keep your monitors on and you'll be able to hear wvwrything that goes on in her room!

Cindy - posted on 05/18/2010

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I WAS SOOO NERVOUS ABOUT PUTTING AUSTYN IN HIS OWN ROOM BUT WE DID IT AT 3 1/2 MONTHS. HE SLEPT BETTER AND SO DID WE. I WOKE UP AT EVERY LITTLE NOISE AND MY HUSBAND IS SUCH A LIGHT SLEEPER THAT IF AUSSIE ROLLED OVER HE WAS AWAKE. I DIDN'T SLEEP FOR 3 DAYS AND FOR 2 WEEKS, I LIVED WITH THE MONITER IN MY EAR BUT IT REALLY WAS THE BEST MOVE!

Erin - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son was in his own room by probably 4-6 months. I wanted to make sure he was used to it before he realized he missed us. The younger they are the better a transition I think. They just know that they sleep in another room and that's just the way it is... no fussing about it, no guilt!

Tiffany - posted on 05/18/2010

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My daughter was a few days to a week old when she went into her crib in her bedroom. We had the baby monitor up loud and up by our head. Her room, of course was on the other side of our wall. We would check on her often when we were awake and still do. So it isn't like she was on the other side of the house. She is now 2 and skipped the toddler bed. We bought a daybed and a trundle a few months ago. She slept in the trundle close to the floor up until this past Saturday night when she insisted on sleeping in the daybed. We let her and put the trundle just under the bed in case she fell out. So it is all dependent on what you feel is right. IF you put little girl in there now just keep encouraging her that her room is okay and safe. And before you know it she will be growing up and maturing at her rate.

Amy - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son, who is 6 1/2 months has slept in his own bed since he was about 2wks. We did have a pack n play bassinet in our room but the room was too crowded for a pack n play. Any way during his daytime naps he would sleep in his bed cuz his daddy worked 2nd shift & would be sleeping & we didn't wanna wake daddy up. So I just decided scine he is sleeping in his own bed for naps why not night time too. I would always keep the monitor on loud cuz I'm a sound sleeper.

Stephanie - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son was 10 months old. I would have moved him earlier but he was sick when he was born.

Kelly - posted on 05/18/2010

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The younger they are put in their own room/crib the better; then there is no need for transition as they haven't developed the habit of sleeping with you yet. Why are people so afraid to let their babies grow up. And I believe that a child is fine in a bassinet in your room for a couple of weeks or even a couple of months, but this craziness of co-sleeping for months on end is ridiculous. You should all ask your husbands what they think of this co-sleeping thing...

Elizabeth - posted on 05/18/2010

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We've had a range of ages when we put them in their own rooms from 3 months all the way up to over a year (6 kids, wide ranges). If you're really anxious you can get a baby monitor and you'll still be able to hear if she rouses in the night. If you're anxious however,you may unwittingly transfer some of that anxiety to her, so be reassured that whenever you go ahead it's fine, she's definitely old enough, and it's just a comfort level for you and your family.

Camia - posted on 05/18/2010

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It was about that age that I moved her out of the room. i breast feed so i had grown to let her sleep next to me. But you will want to move her. She will get spoiled and come in at unexpected moments. Dont want that to happen.

Candace - posted on 05/18/2010

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My son was about two months old when we moved him into his crib in his own room. He is 2 now and we just moved him into a toddler bed that he loves! He has always loved having his own room so much that if something is in there that is normally not in there he'll want it out of his room! LOL

Shannon - posted on 05/18/2010

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I put my son into his own room when he was 15 months, but I so some people that put their children in their own room once the child started sleeping throw the night.

Nirra - posted on 05/18/2010

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We put our little boy into his own room as soon as he came home from the hospital but we used a monitor. We had a crib in his room, but we didn't have anything in our room to put him in except for our bed and I was afraid my husband would roll on him as he is a heavy sleeper. I just had a c section so I knew there was no way I could roll, lol.

Sarah - posted on 05/18/2010

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My baby was 2 weeks old when we moved her into her own room - best solution for us. We both arranged that we wanted the transition to be smoothed and she loves her own time in her room. She's now nearly 9 months and she doesn't like to come into our room. As long as you have a monitor, she should be fine.

Zoe - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hi I put my daughter in her own room around that age, she took a little while to adjust to it but like you I felt it was time. As long as she is reassured that you are there, its quite normal to be anxious, there will be of the first things that will make you feel this way lol

Nicole - posted on 05/18/2010

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My daughter slept in her pack n play in our room til about 3-4mths old then she moved into her own room in a crib.

Debra - posted on 05/18/2010

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I put my daughter in her own room with a big girl bed a few months ago. She is now 17 months and is so proud of the transition she made. Seh adjusted so well and loves all her new things like cusions and blankets etc. Make your daughter part of the move and talk to her about it as you ready the room for her - it really helps in the preparation. Bedtimes are more difficult now as they can leave the bed, so be prepared for that - just be firm!

Anna - posted on 05/18/2010

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My little girl was 6 months old. We would constantly disturb her when going to bed and I think my partners snoring would sometimes wake her up! She is now 12 months old and sleeps contently in her own room. She will sleep through nearly every night, the only time she wakes is if she is ill or teething. Think it's whenever you feel ready though :)

Sam - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hello, my son slept in our room until he was 6 months old. I was very anxious about putting him in his room, but he was fine and he didnt even seem to notice. The first nite is the worst but now I find I am sleeping better with him not in our room. I have a monitor so can still hear him if he cries but I find I am not waking to every sigh and gurgle! You will be fine but if you fel you are really not ready then there is no rush. Hope this helps and good luck!

Deanna - posted on 05/18/2010

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i moved my daughter out just after christmas she was 4 months and i have not had any problems she still comes to bed when she wakes at night to nurse and then goes back to her own bed due to she kicks and wants the whole bed

Jane - posted on 05/18/2010

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six days old I think after little sleep I went your out of here.I could hear her breath, cough, squirm and pass wind. And I needed some sleep.

Kylie - posted on 05/18/2010

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Hey there!!!
My first child was in his own room at the age of 8 weeks, and have never looked back since. He was a really good sleeper, but made sure he was monitored while in his own room.My second was later (my kids are oly 16mnths apart) so he didn't wake his 6mnth old brother. He slept in a cradle right next to me in our room. By the age of 10mnths I started to get him into a routine for his own bed as he was a very clingy Mum's boy & it was getting harder to ignore him when he wanted attention..
Hope it all works out but perserverance is the key :-)

Lisa - posted on 05/18/2010

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Mine were about 8 weeks. Harder as they get older I'd imagine, but if you are anxious then they will be too. So I guess when you are ready... :)

Claire - posted on 05/18/2010

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we have just put our son in his own room and he is 6months i believe its entirely up to the parent. so if you feel she needs her own room then take your own advice... hope this helps xx

Lauren - posted on 05/17/2010

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wow... Both my daughters have slept in their own rooms since we came home from the hospital... baby monitors are a must, but everything else has been fine. i didn't know some people let their children sleep with them for so long! i have had it great,my babies, now 2 1/2 and 4, sleep great where ever.

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Maybe I am old fashioned, but I don't get this whole co-sleeping thing. Parents get their own bed. Babies get their own bed. I tried it ONE TIME when my husband was away at night, and the entire night neither me nor my daughter slept well. After about 3 hours, she was back in her own crib. We both needed our personal private space.

Ashley - posted on 05/17/2010

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My husband and I decided to put our son in his room at 2 months old. We both felt comfortable with this decision and it was by far the best thing for all of us. He is only 8 months old now but he goes to sleep very easy and doesn't wake up throughout the night.

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My daughter who is now 12 years old slept in a bassinette in our room until she was 2 weeks old. She's been in her own room ever since. No issues. She never slept in the bed with us. No need to. She decided at 11 months that she was done with her crib, so we got her a single bed, pushed it against a wall and lined the other side with a net/gate. No issues with that either. Needless to say, she to this day is headstrong and determined in everything she does.

Jodie - posted on 05/17/2010

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2 months (as soon as she started sleeping through the night) and i kept the monitor by my bed all night

Marissa - posted on 05/17/2010

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We moved our little girl when she was 5 weeks. She slept much better in her crib. I was nervous the first night and slept with the baby monitor in my hand. After the first night, it got easier. She is now 14 weeks and sleeps like a champ.

Kelcey - posted on 05/17/2010

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We put our 2 younger kids in their own rooms at 3 months...Number one son we waited until 18months and that was harder than the younger siblings.

ALMA - posted on 05/17/2010

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MY FIRST CHILD SLEPT WITH US FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND IT WAS SO DIFFICULT TO GET HIM OUT OF OUR BED CUZ HE WAS SO USED TO US. OUR SECOND CHILD WAS PUT IN HER OWN ROOM AS SOON AS SHE CAME HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL. THAT WAS THE BEST THING EVER! I WOULD RECOMEND PUTTING YOUR CHILD IN THEIR OWN ROOM ASAP! FOR YOUR SAKE AND YOU WILL SEE HOW NICE IT IS TO HAVE ATLEAST A FEW HOURS OF GREAT SLEEP!

Jeannie - posted on 05/17/2010

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All my kids were in their own room from the time they came home from the hospital.

Sarah - posted on 05/17/2010

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We moved our little girl in her own room around 2-3months. I was very hesitant, but knew it was best for us and I think for her.

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We moved our daughter to her crib in her own room just before she was 6 months old and it has worked out great for all of us. She is now almost 2 yrs and we are getting ready to transition her to a big girl bed.

Jasmine - posted on 05/17/2010

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We waited until he started to sleep through the night because the bedrooms are on separate levels of the house. He was about 3 months old. We forgot how big our bedroom is!

Nicola - posted on 05/17/2010

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We couldn'e move our son into his own room until he was 20 months as we only had effectively a one bedroom flat. But if I had it my way I would have left it no later then 8 months. Most people move there baby into there own room as at that age the chance on sids is drematically reduced, this is also the age most health proffesionals will recommend but at the end of the day its your call.

Tamara - posted on 05/17/2010

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Ours is 2 1/2 and is transitioning into her own room. Its a process and definitely is not happening overnight. Some nights are better than others but its something that will happen eventually. I promise, he won't be cosleeping w/you when he's in high school. :D

Selena - posted on 05/17/2010

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I put my daughter in her own room at night at 2.5 months old, but she always did her daytime naps in her room.

Allie - posted on 05/17/2010

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My daughter started sleeping in her own room at 4 months old...as soon as she started rolling over. She went from the bassinet to the crib!

Samantha - posted on 05/17/2010

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Both of my girls have always been in their own room within the first month. If not it will be very difficult to get them to start going to their own room.

Karen - posted on 05/17/2010

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My first daughter was in her own room from the first day home. Our 1month old will be in her room as soon as she is sleeping longer at night. She is in our room so she doesn't disturb her big sister.

Nikki - posted on 05/17/2010

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My daughter went to her room upstairs when she was 3 months old and she would've gone sooner but she had reflux issues and would spit up and choke at night.

Rose - posted on 05/17/2010

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I put mine in their own rooms and own beds as soon as they were sleeping thru the night.

Amber - posted on 05/17/2010

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My daughter started sleeping in her own room at about 4 months. She wasn't a very sound sleeper, so needless to say, every move she made, my boyfriend and I were up. It was really tough on me at first, I was always worried about waking up and finding that something had happened to her throughout the night, but it has actually been great to have my own room and bed back. And I did notice that once she adjusted to being in her own room and sleeping in her own big crib, she started to have better sleep habits. Now at almost 10 months she sleeps at least 10 hours through the night, which is WONDERFUL compared to the 4 or 5 hours when she was co-sleeping with me and daddy!

It's a personal choice, but I can say that I think it's best for them to adjust earlier and really will improve their sleep habits and even yours!

Melita - posted on 05/17/2010

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We put our son in his own room when he was about 5 weeks old, and he has slept through the night ever since! Even though he's 15 months I still worry about him, so we always have a monitor on and I usually check on him before I go to bed.

Lori - posted on 05/17/2010

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I think each child is so different. Me, personally, both of my children (son 5, daughter 20 months) have been in their own crib since the day they came home from the hospital. My son has never wanted to sleep anywhere but his own room. And it looks like my daughter is going to be the same. What you could try if it makes you more comfortable, is sleeping in their room for a few nights to ease the transition. Good luck!

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