sleeping with toy or stuffed animal

Cassie - posted on 03/17/2011 ( 204 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 19 months and i have always been told NOT to let her sleep with stuffed animals or toys because it can cause a baby to suffercate during the night because they can roll over on top of them and not turn there head. well my daughter has a few little toys/stuffed animals that she loves to play with. I have never let her sleep with them because i always thought of the worst and didnt want to wake up to something horriable ! Well i think my daughter is old enough to sleep with a toy/stuffed animal and i would like to allow her to. but with her being my first and ONLY child i get alittle nevouse about it. When i found out i was having a girl i went and bought a whole crib set and never used the bumper pad because of what people has told me that its not safe to use them. i spent money on it and NEVER even opened it.. anyway my question would be do you let your child sleep with a toy/stuffed animal ? and if so how old was your child when you started to let him/her sleep with a toy or stuffed animal and were you nervous about letting your child sleep with something in their crib ? thanks to all moms that answers this ! ♥

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From what I understand, they don't want blankets and padding in an INFANTS bed...but once the infant is strong enough to roll over, that threat is gone. They are strong enough to lift their head and turn the other way if something is bothering them. My son sleeps in his toddler bed now, with two blankets, a pillow pet and a normal pillow. Sometimes I go check on him during the night and find hot wheels, his vtech laptop or even a half eaten waffle in his bed too. I really wouldn't sweat the teddy bears, or any other blankets or padding...IF she's strong enough to roll over. At 19 months I expect she IS old enough.
If YOU have an instinct telling you she's old enough...listen to it. God gave you those feelings for a reason.

Renae - posted on 03/19/2011

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Oh and I should add, whatever item it is that your child becomes attached to for sleep - go out and buy another 2 spares (while you can still find them at the shops - guaranteed if you lose it in a year you wont be able to find one anywhere). You also need to switch around the 3 toys, dont keep 2 new ones in the cupboard and expect a new one with no familiar smells on it to suffice if the original is lost. Switch them around every week so they all smell and feel the same and then you can also wash each every few weeks. But never let child see that there is more than one or they will want them all at once. :)

Kate CP - posted on 03/17/2011

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By 19 months they are so active in their sleep that it wouldn't bother me if they slept with a toy. Honestly, my daughter was in a toddler bed by 18 months...I was more worried about her rolling out of bed then suffocating on a stuffed toy. A young infant shouldn't have things in their crib but I would think a toddler would be safe.

Kelly - posted on 03/20/2011

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I let my kids fall asleep with their stuffed animals but before I go to bed I move the animals to the foot of the bed. That way they can wake up and find them but there is no danger through the night.

Karen - posted on 03/18/2011

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my son's had a satin blankie that he's slept with since 3 months and around 9 months he began sleeping with a little tigger toy as well. once your baby is able to move around/roll over and have good head control they are able to move their faces around in their sleep just fine if they need to the same as we do.

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Trish - posted on 03/29/2011

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Gosh dont we make it hard on ourselves. So much to worry about. With a wee one like yours I would make the soft toy small so it cant suffocate them. Lots of kids get comfort from going to bed with their favourite soft toy. The big problem we faced was if they lost their absolutley fav one and couldnt get off to sleep without it. So I would say that if your wee girl likes her small soft toy and it gives her comfort there is no reason why she shouldnt enjoy it but it is a good idea to buy two if it is going to become special so as if the first one gets lost, broken or ends up being vomited on or something like that you have a plan B. But if you end up with a favourite you cant replace Im sure your little one will learn to look after it and leave it safely on the bed when you go out so it doesnt get lost anywhere. Its not a good idea to let them drag them round town etc or you find yourself running back to get it from all sorts of places they accidently left them. Learnt that from experience.

Kristen - posted on 03/29/2011

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Yes I do, my son is 22 months old and has been sleeping with his stuffies since about 12 months old. He can lift his head, move on his own and stand up and almost get out of his crib. I agree before they can do any of that I did not let him have anything in his crib but I think you are fine.

Sylvia - posted on 03/29/2011

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Awwww come on! I slept with my childhood beloved teddy bear until I got married. I'm still married and I have still have the bear. I should add that I'm I'll be 73 years old in 2 months.

Peta - posted on 03/29/2011

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I think from when they start to move around and turn their heads its ok... I did with my boys. They are big enough to move their heads so they can breathe...if I did everything people told me NOT to do then I wouldnt have done anything with my kids! Within reason I think, Once they are out of their swaddles or arent being wrapped anymore then they have their hands and arms free to move about. Id say its ok for you now to let her sleep with one... I remember having my toys when I was little....it was my comfort :)

Amanda - posted on 03/29/2011

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my 1 year old has had three teddy bears in his cot for a few months now,he has no problem with them at all and with the amount of tossing and turning he does i am not worried.

Dawn - posted on 03/29/2011

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maybe one of her favorites or trade off each night with a different one. by6 or 8 months, babies are rolling on their own. around one they are walking. if she is successful with walking and crawling and rolling let her have one.

Marsha - posted on 03/29/2011

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Unless she has developmental delay/physical issues where she can't move away from something, imo, you're prefectly fine letting a 22 mo old sleep with a stuffed animal. My child was in a toddler bed by 18 months WITH a travel sized pillow and multiple stuffed animals (that get rotated constantly) at her request.

I do agree with the one comment about multiple "lovies" and swapping them out. GREAT idea!!

Chris - posted on 03/29/2011

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My boys have always had a stuffed toy in their beds, but I never gave them pillows, just a small cushion once I felt they needed an extra boost to put their heads on. Just make sure that anything you give your child does not have any sharp bits that could break through the fabric and cut her.

Donna - posted on 03/29/2011

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Since birth...if it is small. However the 3ft tall one my husband got each child at birth is not present at bed time lol!

Stace - posted on 03/29/2011

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my daughter will be 3 in may and i have had no problems with letting her sleep with her teddy! its a small one, but its a security thing and shes had it in bed with her from 5 months old! i think people sometimes like to put the fear of god into mothers. i would let her have her toy.

Suzanne - posted on 03/29/2011

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Good gravy. How far are we going to go to protect or children from every little potential danger? I think the emotional comfort of your daughter's cuddly friend far outweighs the risk!
Remember those psychological tests in the 60's with those infant rhesus monkeys that always returned to their soft and cuddly pseudo-mothers after they had fed from the cold metal ones? It would be extremely safe to raise your tiny baby in a chicken wire cage. Would you? Emotional needs are legitimate, too.

Vanessa - posted on 03/29/2011

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Your analyzing this way too much! your child is 19mths and will be fine with a soft toy at bed time. My child had one at 15mths and decided she did not particularly like having a soft toy when she slept. Who encourages this view of not sleeping with a soft toy at 19mths? Take your cues from your daughter she will soon let you know if it's a comfort she likes, and how she can manage the toy while sleeping. Don't overthink things!

Justina - posted on 03/29/2011

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My just turned two year old started waking up every night with a nightmare... and he's been a fabulous sleeper since he was a newborn, so I was so discouraged when this all began. One night I put a stuffed bunny in with him to hold and snuggle on a whim, and he hasn't had a waking nightmare since (knock on wood). I think it will be just fine :) and it will comfort her too :). Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 03/29/2011

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My daughter is 6 years old now and she has always slept with a baby doll or stuffed animal. Even though she is 6 years old I still get up once or twice throughout the night to check on her...mainly to make sure she isn't too hot or cold. I know things do happen but they are rare. I am usually very careful with a lot of things but I try not to live in fear of the little things. I hope this helps.

Teresa - posted on 03/29/2011

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I let my children with stuffed animals at this age. They are are grown now. Good Luck.

Doris - posted on 03/29/2011

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my two kids have always slept with their toys ever since six month, never thought of something terrible happening to them, now they grown now, 7&4 still sleep with their toys.it just a state of the mind. but i made sure i don,t give them hard stuff

Jalyn - posted on 03/29/2011

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That was not a worry to me. My children are 26 23 and 17. I had bumper pads and stuffed toys in the bed but never a pillow. I do remember people saying no pillows. But I remember people saying sleep on the side some said on the stomach I think every few years they come up with a new thing to scare us. I would say place your trust in the Lord Jesus and pray for that baby girl everyday that God would fulfill the previous plan he has for her!! And you just put your lice in his hands!! Amen

Cindy - posted on 03/29/2011

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Its fine...she's strong enough now. I have 4 grown kids & did childcare for years....its no more dangerous than her own arm. Relax. Its commedable to be cautious, but trust your instincts, & relax.

Julie - posted on 03/29/2011

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Post a reply! By this age I would think you are certainly safe to let her sleep with stuffed animals or toys.

Amanda - posted on 03/29/2011

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My 14 months old sleeps with his Pooh, a pillow pet frog and at least one blanket that he drags in there.... If he doesn't have them he won't lay down long enough to go to sleep. I don't worry about him suffocating because he moves around so much anyway and he never keeps anything on his face. He just likes to have them in his hands....

Dana - posted on 03/29/2011

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Both of my children slept with stuffed animals from the time they were born. And at 19 months, she is definitely strong enough to turn her head away from anything blocking her breathing. Just make sure they are safe for her age. No buttons or eyes or anything that could be chewed off. But she will be just fine. She could even sleep with a pillow if she likes...my daughters were sleeping in toddler beds by that age. They had to, I think they were part monkeys...lol. They both would climb out of their cribs, As far as the bumper pads, I think you made a wise decision. I was always scared of those too, because they could come untied. Hope this eases your fears a little.

Samantha - posted on 03/28/2011

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I'm twins had a tiny teddy from birth (although it wasn't used for months) yes by 19mths u don't have to worry. Don't obv have huge teddys that could smother them but there's plenty of smallish teddys that would benefit your Childs sleep. Advice is given that it helps children bond which we all know is a thing we all want out children to have. Learning Healthy relationships start from now.I did the sAme with the bumpers but had introduced them by now.

Evita - posted on 03/28/2011

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I was worried about that at first too. but when she started rolling over on her own she began moving her blnket everywhere I figured that she was able to turn her head if it was in the way. So she's slept with her teddies since probably 6 months, and she's 21months now. My son who is almost 10 months has had one in his crib since about 2 months. I think its up to you what you feel comfortable with. one should be fine. I also had the issue with the bumpers, I made two and I have rarely used them.

Robin - posted on 03/28/2011

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By 19 months, as long as your baby has no severe physical development issues you should have nothing to worry about. As long as they are not large enough for them to stand on and hop around and fall out. I would even think about putting them into a toddler bed by this age. A stuffed animal might make the transition easier.

Heather - posted on 03/28/2011

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My daughter is going to be 2 next month and she has slept with something since she was a year old. Sometimes more than one. At one point there was so many she almost didnt have much room to sleep, Had to cut her back to a couple so she could sleep comfortably. She has been fine but honestly its what you feel comfortable with.

Jennifer - posted on 03/28/2011

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The bumper, no blanket thing is really for when infants do not have any muscle control and cannot roll over on their own. Your child is a toddler so while I still think Bumpers are equal parts silly and dangerous regardless, the small toys and covering them up with a blankie while they sleep is okay. If she can pull herself up, turns on her own in her sleep, etc, she is fine.

Rebecca - posted on 03/28/2011

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My son is 21 months now and he has always had little toys at the bottom of his cot but he has never really bothered with them. A few months ago he took interest in a couple of his stuffed animals that are quite big and now they share his cot!. I started by letting him take them in with him then I would remove them to the bottom of his cot once he was asleep, however he is very attached to them now and likes them to be close if he wakes. I do worry a little as he will bury his head in them to sleep but I keep the monitor on (we have a camera monitor) and usually after a while he moves them away himself in his sleep. He has developed a bond with them and cuddles them and pretends to give them milk etc so I think it is a positive experience. I also took stuffed animals to bed as a child and loved them dearly, so much so that i still have them some 30 years on. Obviously my parents knew no better back then but I think it probably helped me to develop loving relationships in my life.

Laura - posted on 03/28/2011

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It's not a problem. So much is overblown. My daughter has had "dolly" since she was about 9 months old. It is her best friend and the one thing that will always comfort her. Let your child have that cuddly and be comforted in knowing that they too are comforted by the presence. BTW, my daughter is 6 and STILL sleeps with dolly.

Etta - posted on 03/28/2011

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My kids are older, but they always slept with the bumpers & snugglies. Even when they were infants. My 4 year old has so many toys in his bed, sometimes it's hard to find him!
I think the rule is no toys until they can roll from back to front, & back again.

Michelle - posted on 03/28/2011

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My son is 14 months and has slept with soft toys in his cot for several months. I too never used a crib bumper as was nervous about suffocation risk when he was small. I'm wasn't nervous about the toys as I feel he can move his head if any problem. He loves playing and talking to his toys first thing in the morning (and chucking them out later!).

Erica - posted on 03/28/2011

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My daughter is 22 months and she has been sleeping with her stuffed bunny and a plush baby doll by probably 13 months and sleeping in a toddler bed around the same time.

Erica - posted on 03/28/2011

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my son was like 8 mo old when he started to sleep with a pillow and blanket. he is 2.5 now and will not sleep without them. he screams till he gets them. i stared with them in his crib and then to his toddler bed. he also slept on his tummy from the day he was born. that is the only way he would sleep. if he was not on his tummy then he would just scream. i say that she is old enough to sleep with whatever she wants. just make sure there is nothing that she could choke on if something falls off, or whatever. my sons pillow dose not have a case on it but he dont want one anyways. if he did i still would not put one on for a while. we just wash it in the big washer at the laundry mat when we do laundry if it get dirty.

Julia - posted on 03/28/2011

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A baby's big enough at 19 months - they move around so much anyway. My daughter has recently adopted two small stuffed animals (about 3 inches tall, both of them) to have in bed with her - in fact I think having them there helps her settle - she seems happy with them, can hold them in her hands, and snuggles on down with them :-)

I would maybe steer away from very large toys, but there can't be any harm at this age to let her have a smaller toy to cuddle

Jeanine - posted on 03/28/2011

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I felt the same way, my son is my first and only child too, he is 18 mths old. I did use the bumpers on the crib, the thing with those is you had to make sure they fastened to the crib on the top and the bottom. But as far as a toy goes to sleep with, pick something 1/2 the size of your child and make sure it doesn't have anything plastic, whatever you pick should have the eyes and nose sewn on. At this age they would know and understand if they couldn't breathe and they would move. I see a lot of people with their kids that have a ton of stuffed toys in their crib, but my son has only 2 and their fairly small. I hope this helps.

Sherri - posted on 03/28/2011

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You are absolutely right to not let a child under 6 months to have a stuffed animal in the crib with him/her. Bumpers are also not a good idea under 6 months (I never used my bumper, either). But once children master rolling over both ways and have strong neck muscles and good neck and head control, it should be okay. One a child is 19 months she should be able to respond to lack of oxygen and move her head, if needed, just like you and I do. 6 months is just a guideline- obviously every child is different and you know your child best.

So your daughter could absolutely have a stuffed animal with her. See Kim West's book, Good Night Sleep Tight. She calls this a "lovely" and can help children feel safe when going to sleep. Just don't let her bed become littered with stuffed animals- keep it to one. Her bed should be a calm, restful space- not chaotic full of toys.

Melissa - posted on 03/28/2011

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My little boy (now 3yrs 4mths) has slept with a blankie since he was 4 months old and from the age of 1 has had toys in the bed with him. By the age of one he was able to climb in and out of his cot so he would get whatever toys he wanted and put them in with him. I think if your child is able to roll around and move freely in their cot/bed, then there is no problem with sleeping with toys. My little boy's bed is now always full of toys that he "must have" in the bed in order to sleep. As for using the bumpers, the ones I used had ties to tie them to the cot so they couldn't move around. We ended up removing them because our boy used them to help him climb out of the cot.

Bernadette - posted on 03/28/2011

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as soon as your baby is old enough to lift her own head is fine - it's really only a problem if they roll onto it, but are unable to move away voluntarily. Once she can lift her head, if she needs to she will. 19 months is well and truly old enough.

Becky - posted on 03/27/2011

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My guys have been sleeping with stuffed toys since about 9 months. I wasn't too worried about them smothering after they could turn over by themselves, although I didn't give them pillows until they were almost two. The only thing I worried about was them chewing on the toys and a piece of the toy coming off in their mouths. I just make sure there is nothing that could come off and choke them.

Emily - posted on 03/27/2011

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I have a 4 yr old daughter who sleeps on a pillow pet, with a blanket and a stuffed animal. She's been sleeping with her blanket since the day she was born, honestly. The stuffed animal came into play when she was about 8 months old. She's always slept on her tummy (which a lot of pediatricians are against because of the SIDS scare). The pillow pet is, obviously, a new addition. But I think that your daughter is plenty old enough to sleep with a stuffed animal... if that's what she wants. It might be a comfort to her, as you transition her from crib to toddler bed. But she's old enough to cognitively move her head if she can't breathe. This usually happens around 6 months. If you're still nervous about it, try using a baby monitor right beside her crib/bed and keep your volume on high so you can hear her breathing pattern. If it changes, you will be able to hear it and react accordingly.

Terri - posted on 03/27/2011

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At 19 months, I'd say she's probably okay to have a toy with her in bed, so long as it's not some giant stuffed toy. When my daughter turned 2 she got a stuffed Elmo. He slept with her every night for years.

Jean - posted on 03/27/2011

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my girls are all grown now but they always had some sort of stuffed animal in the crib and I have a granddaughter that just turned 1 and I got her a pillow pet for her birthday and she has that along with pooh, tiger, her prayer bear and a 4 ft. long worm in her crib. She doesn't spend much time in her crib her, just for her naps but her mom got her a pillow pet also and she sleeps on that so I guess it's entirely how comfortable you are with it. My granddaughter had the bumper in her crib here until she started rolling around and then I took it off. She liked to play peek with it so I thought it was a good time for it to go. I sometimes worry because my daughter says she rolls over on her tummy now when she's sleeping and her pillow is real fuzzy.
Hopefully she doesn't get it in her mouth and she'll be fine but I'd thing your child was old enough to have stuffed animals.

Linda - posted on 03/27/2011

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I was also so nervous about this but I didn't do it until I could rationally accept that nothing would happen and I could sleep too! When they were about 15 months old we put them in their toddler beds and at that time allowed a small (8 inch) stuffed animal in each bed. If it's a small stuffed animal and your child doesn't have any special needs (that wouldn't allow them to move, turn etc) then I'd say that as soon as you feel ok with it, let her :) Maybe you'd feel better if you tried it at nap time first. BUT, don't forget, she's your daughter and you can do whatever you'd like :)

Alexlv05 - posted on 03/27/2011

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My daughter started sleeping with a stuffed animal around one year. At that age, they are aware enough (even in their sleep) to move or turn their heads if they are uncomfortable. If your child is very oral, make sure that the eyes are sewn on, not those plastic ones, and check it regularly for stuffing leaks. A word of advice, if your child finds a special one then try to get at least one identical one...then rotate them. There's nothing worse than when a child has misplaced their bear or blanket and are wailing for hours!

Brenda - posted on 03/27/2011

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I did after our son was around 12 months. I only picked things that weren't soft or things that had eyes and noses that would come off. I pick small harder stuffed animals rattle type things. I feel if they roll over at this age the would be fine. I am not sure what others would say or what the age is that people start to let them. Do use caution when picking stuffed animals. I wouldn't do a soft fluffy bunny or things like that.

Jenny - posted on 03/26/2011

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ever since my granddaughter was born she always had a blankie/ stuffed animal. the little blnkets with animal heads on them. plus blankets.. she would not sleep without them and she had to have her face covered. we would uncover her but she wanted blankie up next to face. i had 3 boys and they all had blankies. it scared me all the time. it still scarces me. but i go in my granddaughters room and she has all blankets , pillow, and stuffed animals all around her, she sleeps just fine. it is normal to nerveous.like i saaid i still get nervous. she just had a baby brother and cousin within 5 days of each other and they want it the same. even in hospital

see sleeps with her blankie/animal plus about 6 other stuffed animals plus her normal crib blankets and her fav blankets and that could be 1 to 3 any night ( they r recievivng blanket) she just turned 2 in feb

Emily - posted on 03/26/2011

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The recommendation is no pillows, blankets, or stuffed animals in the crib until 12 months. That is when I started letting my kids have their favorite stuffed animal at night. As long as your child can roll over easily, they can turn their head if it gets on something soft.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/26/2011

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Honestly I can see why people would say that...but you should go online and really check out that info. how many children really die from that, cause babies that don't sleep with stuff animals die also, they sleep with blankets, blankets cause suffication. And I'm not trying to be insensitive to your situation. I have children of my own. My oldest who is 23 now I d let her fall asleep with it then take it away...When she was around 2 1/2 - 3 I stop taking her favorite kitty she did fine with it, eventually she kept it but stuck it somewhere she could see it from her bed.
My 2 that liked animals I never let the sleep with big ones...not to small to choke just right for cuddling, one of my kids was a blankie babie....Any way...some good things thus far that your baby does not sleep with a stuff animal is dust (allergies) second not being able to let it go when the time comes and I've worked with children, sometimes they cannot function well when they had a favored doll or blanket for so long and it is time for them to leave it behind...its rough. So, there are alot of good bennefits from not starting that habbit.....So you have peace of
mind do what you feel safe with since this is your first baby, you dont want to spend the night worrying if she might sufficate, and she really does not no what it is like to do it, so she really isn't missing out on something she does not know , hope that makes sense

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My oldest daughter was about a year and a half when she started sleeping with her favorite pony. Your daughter is at the right age.

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