SleepWhisperer

Shawna - posted on 02/12/2009

Ok yeah. I guess it was the wrong track. I tried it for 1 day and by the end of the day he was not himself, he wouldnt even look at me he was so tired. So i rocked him, we are much happier now that i changed back to what i was doing before i bought that book. He sleeps good during the day on us and 2 - 3hrs at a time during the night sometimes a bit longer. Thanks for ur post.

DD - posted on 02/11/2009

Thanks Jennifer! He flipped over this morning and I missed it!  I put him back in his crib to watch his aquarium as it was 5:30am!!  And when I went to check on his about 10 miuntes later, he was on his tummy!  Dern it, I've been watching him like a hawk lately and I missed it!  I missed Logan's first flip too! 

I'm gonna prolly call you today!

Jennifer - posted on 02/10/2009

I think you are amazing DD...I am praying for you.

DD - posted on 02/09/2009

Thank you so much Wendee and Melissa!  This is not my frist baby, but my second. My 1st didnt' sleep well either, but the No Cry Sleep solution helped...we didn't start any type of routine with him until 10 months!  How did I survive?  My thing with this book is that my baby is still not ona 4 hour feeding schedule.  How can she say that all babies have to be on that? he is genuinely hungry after 2-3 hours!  I read somewhere that all milkd ducts are different...some hold tons and some only a bit. I have come to terms that I only hold about 3-4 oz each, as I can only pump 1-2 out of each, and both my boys were frequent nursers.  The PU/PH method made him so insecure in his bed, it was worse than if I had just let him CIO!  Thank you so much for your input, it's good to know that I'm not alone in my opinion.  I know all babies are different...that's kinda of why I was hoping for a sleeper this time around :)  Thank you thank you thank you!

Melissa - posted on 02/09/2009

I personally found the Baby Whipserer to be a terrible book, made me feel like a horrible mother. It says all babies should fall into the same mold and if it didn't work, well the parents are doing something wrong. But it's not true...all babies are different and different things work for different babies. I also tried the PU/PD method per the book and had the same experience with my twins...they, and we, got less sleep.They cried and I cried because they were crying, it was horrible! They are now 11 mos and they still fall asleep in our arms and sleep for an average of 10 hours a night. I haven't picked up that book since and am much happier! I found once my boys hit 6 months they started sleeping much better. Do whatever works for you and your baby...don't listen to the books!

Wendee - posted on 02/09/2009

Quoting DD:

Thanks!  The No Cry Sleep solution is what saved us with my first son...I'm reverting back to that.  We've done modified CIO...lettinghim fuss for 1-2-3-5 minutes, and honestly he did better with that than just laying him in his crib over and over and over. 

For me, the pick up put down thing worked good when DS was 3 months old.  I had been of the mindset that everytime DS cried there was something wrong and I needed to pick him up.  (sigh...the 1st time mom thing!)  The pick up put down thing helped him see that I was there but he could nap without me.  At 5 months, though, your babe might still be doing the transition from 3 to 2 naps a day and it will be up in the air for a while longer.   You are doing great!  Congrats on your baby.  I miss tiny ones :)

Tina - posted on 02/09/2009

I did the rock to sleep method too. It gave me a feeling of bonding with our daughter. There is nothing wrong with rocking a 5 month old to sleep. Make sure he is getting enough food before bedtime. Have you started him on any solids yet? If he has a full tummy, he may not wake as often. Please stop beating yourself up, you are doing a great job!

DD - posted on 02/09/2009

Thanks!  The No Cry Sleep solution is what saved us with my first son...I'm reverting back to that.  We've done modified CIO...lettinghim fuss for 1-2-3-5 minutes, and honestly he did better with that than just laying him in his crib over and over and over. 

Wendee - posted on 02/09/2009

I used a combination of sleep whisperer, no cry sleep solution, and cry it out. I would advise that you get all three books and read them. They each have excellent advice that you can blend. Even Dr Ferber from the CIO books doesnt think that kids should be able to sleep through ( read: 8 hours) before 6 months old. The most important thing is that once you decide on a method, stick with it. Really, though, get all of the books, read all of them all the way through. The scientific and real world advice that is given will shed a great deal of light for you. My boys slept through (using cio) at 6 months and have slept 11-12 hours a night (plus naps) since (they are 6.5 and 4.5) My dd (because I KEPT her dependent on me to go back to sleep....she's my last and I was selfish!) didnt sleep though till I force it at 18 months. She sleeps from 7-7 now with a 2.5 hour nap each day. Good luck. Sleep deprivation is VERY tough.