smack a baby?

Clare - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 365 moms have responded )

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ok there are alot of questions on here about smacking- wheter its right or wrong, but at what age would you smack a child i personnally have never hit my child and never intend to but its worrying to think that a child under a year would get smacked please dont tell me thats the case?

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Charlie - posted on 07/14/2009

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What in the world could a BABY do to deserve a smack , i am completly against smacking children , but a baby that is INSANE parents who hit babies have issues ! oh by the way in australia it IS abuse !!! people who hit children dont deserve them , harsh but true !

Marilyn - posted on 07/14/2009

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"Abuse and Correction of children are two totally different terms. Abuse is done with anger and correction is done with authority and love. Parents who do not use the 'swat' must have very clever means to correct unruly - rude children. If misbehavior goes unattended, a monster emerges because children do grow up. Babies do not understand and do explore. As they grow, they need direction and lots of it. If children do not get good direction, they will constantly be a 'headache" to their parents and to society."

Clare - posted on 07/14/2009

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ok thank u for all your advice much appreated but there is no need to be bitchy saying im better than u! its pathetic im only asking a question stop bitching get over yourself! this doesn't apply 2 all of u most have been fantastci thank u for all your help really appreciated xxx

Dawn - posted on 07/14/2009

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i was spanked a few times as a kid. it didn't hurt me any...in fact after those few times i learned not to misbehave because i knew the consequence. do i spank my kids? i try not to, especially for hitting or biting someone. to me it's an oxymoron to hit your child because the hit someone. i will give my 4 year old a swat on the hiny from time to time when talking isn't getting me anywhere. just hard enough to get her attention but not hard enough to leave a mark. then after she's calmed down and is listening i calmly explain why i did it.

i knew kids growing up that used to get BEAT by their parents with spoons, sticks, belts whatever the parents could grab and that's not right.

Bev - posted on 07/14/2009

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I was beaten by my father growing up (he was beaten by his father...), so I did my best to not ever strike my kids. I was determined to stop this cycle in the family....

Ashley - posted on 07/14/2009

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I don't think we did until after a year old... and not really hard, just enough to get his attention.

Minnie - posted on 07/14/2009

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These are getting really really REALLY old....

I would never smack (spank, swat, tap, hit,whip) a child no matter the age. Children deserve every ounce of respect that an adult does. If it's not alright for my husband to hit me when I'm rude to him, it shouldn't be all right for me to do the same to my kids.

It doesn't teach children. It doesn't change the heart. All kids, whether spanked or not, will outgrow the exploratory impulsive stage, so what was the point of spanking during that time? It's called being vigilant.

Jocelyn - posted on 07/14/2009

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the only time i remember smacking my son (before he was a year old, he's 2,5 now, i've tried the whole spanking thing...and i could beat him senseless and it wouldn't do a thing! anyways...) i remember nursing him, and he bit me, first time ever. i was so caught off guard that i smacked him (total reflex) and i felt sooo bad, he wasn't wearing a shirt and i left a big hand mark on him :( i don't think it's helpful to spank before a year, they don't know what they are doing is wrong yet.

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On the off chance you actually want an answer, yes, I had one child who got her hands smacked at about 9 or 10 months. I'd say 14 months or so is more of "the normal" minimum age for getting spanks or hand smacks. It totally depends on the individual child and what they are doing/not doing.

There you have it. I'll be going off to hell now. I can never hope to be as holy, righteous and good as those of you who do not spank your kids so I just give up. Thank you for this lesson in "holier than thou". I thought Christians had the lock on that but you guys make us look like amateurs. I bow to your superior haughtiness.

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

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Babies do not know if they are doing right or wrong. At about a year old they might start biting you because they're mad or something. I usaully lightly swatted my daughters hand and told her not to do that it hurts. I think that was about the point where she was learning what is wrong and right. When they get to an age where they realize and are intentionally doing something wrong would be when it's an appropriate time to smack a child if you chose to do so. Not beat their tail or leave marks on them but a light smack just to get their attention which basically does nothing more than let hurt the feelings a little and let them know you disappointed in their behavior. But some kids are hard headed and the only way to get their attention is to give them a little smack on the behind. For example: My daughter was running on a boat dock totally out of control throwing a fit because I didn't let her have her way. I ran as fast as I could and smacked her butt and sat her down on a bench. Had no other choice. She could have gotten hurt very badly if I wouldn't have gotten her back under control.

Laura - posted on 07/14/2009

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At 18 months my son went through this biting stage. Nothing seemed to stop him. But one day after putting in a 10 hour day at work and a three hour commute, I picked my son up from the babysitter. I was holding him on my hip and he reached up and gave me a big hug and chomped into my shoulder muscle. It hurt so bad that I reacted before I thought and yes, I smacked him for it. It shocked him so much that he released my shoulder, pulled back and looked at me, and THEN started crying. But ya know what? A minute or so of crying and it was over and he never bit anyone again. I looked at my shoulder in the mirror later and he had actually drawn blood he had bit so hard. The bruise didn't go away for over a week. But that one smack didn't harm him at all and he learned a valuable lesson.

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Smacking is not appropriate not matter what the age. A swat on the seat of the pants to get a child's attention is appropriate but then once you have his/her attention let him know what was wrong and use an appropriate form of punishment. People should never use the word smack in reference to a child. Anyone who uses that word should have "smack me" written in permanent marker across their forehead to see how they really like the word smack after it happens to them.

Heidi - posted on 07/14/2009

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Honestly I think "smacking" a child is completely wrong. At no age should it be done. There are other ways to discipline a child. When I was a child it was nothing for kids to get a smack or a spank, but that didn't get my parents anywhere, so why would it now? It doesn't resolve anything and when the child grows up, they may think its normal to hit. I certainly don't want my boys growing up thinking its ok to hit. So I have to lead by example.

I certainly hope more people see it that way, but I do know there are parents out there that think its normal to hit. I just don't see it that way!

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