so what do you do if your 10 month old baby doesnt ever sleep?

Jessica - posted on 12/19/2008 ( 16 moms have responded )

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so my son doesnt sleep and i was just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to help him sleep? he doesnt have naps and doesnt sleep at night.

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Ashley - posted on 12/20/2008

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I can tell you what ive done with all three of my kids , ANY THING LAVENDER , lavender baby shampoo lavender baby soap then when they get out of the bath lavender baby lotion and then make them warm and they fall asleep or something my mom did with my oldest daughter she would put her blanket in the dryer to get it warm and then make sure it wasnt too hot and wrap the baby in the blanket and she would go to sleep .make sure ur baby feels secure , rock the baby ,u can also have the babys bed in your room and let the baby see u and smell ur scent , it helps ,make sure they are fed and changed before bed spend time with the baby soothe the baby and should be just fine .

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Hi, I had the same problem with my 2 children. I had set a routine but that never worked, I had tried everything but it didn't work. I finally got my daughter to see a very good pediatician and she had my daughter checked for Reflux and sure enough that's what it was. She was born with it. When my son was born he didn't sleep either and even with a routine it didn't work, once again I brought him to be checked and it was the same thing. Once they had the medication though the routines did work and they loved to sleep.
Just wanted to tell u their story because sometimes not everything is about a baby just being difficult, sometimes there's another reason.

Kate - posted on 12/19/2008

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Is your son very alert when he is awake? Also has he reached certain milestones eg. rolling over, responding to his name, first word, feeding himself earlier than what is usual for a child's development? If he's very active when awake and reaching milestones early then sometimes it can be a sign of fast cognitive development and this often means that because the brain is developing so quickly it's very active and restless meaning sleep and naps can be interrupted because of the fast brain activity and development. It's not necessarily a solution to your problem but it could be an explanation to why it is happening especially when you see your friends getting good night sleeps from 8 weeks and here you are at 10 months yet to have a break. If the brain is very active it could help making sure that he is engaged in some of the cognitive development toys or even getting him involved in toddler music activities that the brain will thrive on and perhaps because he's received lots of stimulation he will feel more satisfied to rest.But this is only one suggestion and you may find it no help at all.

Vanessa - posted on 12/19/2008

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wow! my daughter was a good sleeper, since she was about a month old... during the day I would have to wake her eat.. lazy lil one :)... but.. what I can tell you is that a nice warm bath before bed time can be helpful,try to do it around the same time everyday this way it's a routine, them playing with water usually gets them tired..she wasnt much of a "nap baby" after she was 5months old.. so by the time it was bed time she would be exhausted... hopefully this will help you =)

Christine - posted on 12/19/2008

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My daughter is almost 2 and she still doesn't sleep through the night, so I feel for you. I have found that playing soft relaxing music and keeping the cd on repeat all night long keeps her asleep for a longer time. Without music she only sleeps for about an hour or two but with the music she'll stay in bed for almost 5 or 6 hours straight. She always ends up in my bed by the end of the night but the music seems to keep her in her room longer. Good luck!!

Melissa - posted on 12/19/2008

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I agree with the routine, routine, routine. Pick a time for bedtime.. start later I find is easier say 9... and do that for a few weeks.. then gradually reduce it by a half hour until you end up at the bedtime you want... say 7:30. I think you may have a tricky time for the next week getting him to sleep.. but once you establish a routine things should get better. Good Luck.

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Really try paying attention to his signals...if he's fussing and crabby, it's too late for a nap. Catch him when he JUST starts to get tired. And keep trying! Try the swing, a sling, the car, whatever you can do to get him used to napping/sleeping. Then worry about WHERE he's sleeping.



At bedtime, it really helped us to do a nice bath at 7pm, then a book, then nurse/bottle, then bed. Keep it dim, quiet, calm. At naps, well some days are just busy and they don't happen, but most of the time I can get him to calm down in a dim room, read a quiet story, then bed.

Niki - posted on 12/19/2008

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Routine, routine, routine. A daily consistent schedule is the best remedy. Have them lay down for the same time each day. Before they lay down for nap give him a bottle, perhaps even w/ a little rice cereal or try spoon feeding at lunch too. That always put my daughter down for a good hour or two in the afternoon. And of course make sure he isn't gassy or soiled, that is quite discomforting.

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I wish I had a good reply for you. My son, who is now 14 did not sleep all night until he was 3 years old. I have 2 other kids (the bad sleeper is the middle child) who had normal sleep patterns at 4 weeks and 3 months of age. We tried everything (we even let him cry for 3 hours straight one night) and nothing seemed to work with him. He still is not a good sleeper. The best advice I can give, if you have tried everything else, is to just catch a nap whenever you can. Just know that you can try EVERYTHING, but sometimes it is just their personality. Good luck.

Kathy - posted on 12/19/2008

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Some babies are just better sleeper then others. My daughter now, at 21 months, is just starting to sleep better. For the first 15 months she was up anywhere from 1-5 times a night. Since 15 months she has been getting better but it still far from being that wonderful sleeper some moms brag about.



I don't have much advice except that to avoid co-sleeping if you can, and just stick with a routine as much as possible. Know you are not alone!

User - posted on 12/19/2008

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Sometimes the most important thing is to get some shut eye for both of you. I would reccomend a sling, so you can carry the baby while you put him to sleep, and you can continue to carry him after he falls asleep. You can slowly transition him to sleeping in a better place as he get a routine down. Also, co-sleeping can help a grumpy non-sleeper. Seperation anxiety at 10 months is pretty common and can be very hard on the little one.

Johanne - posted on 12/19/2008

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Is it possible that he doesn't want to go down b/c he knows that you'll come back in to get him when he cries? Now that he's 10 months he definitely knows how to "win" so to speak. Do the same thing day after day so he knows what to expect. Pay attention to his mood, when you notice he's getting cranky, about 2 hours after he's been up, you know it's time for a nap. Same goes with after lunch and perhaps one in the afternoon. I've had the best time of this b/c I've read "Healthy sleep habits, happy child" by Marc Weissbluth. It changed my life. I highly recommend you buy it.

My day is pretty much exactly the same as for my sons routine. He actually doesn't cry when I put him down b/c he's so use to it. There was certainly crying involved at the beginning but not anymore. He's now 10months and has been sleeping great since around 3m.

Hope this was helpful...I would hate for you to be so exhausted for too much longer.

Take care

Lorilynne - posted on 12/19/2008

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I'm a big fan of a daily routine. This way kids always know what to expect at what time and they get used to it. I started my daughter on one when she was about six months old and now she's almost two and she's still on it. Sleeps great at night and takes her 2 hour nap every day at the same time. Start with bed time because its the easiest. I give my daughter a bath and then tuck her in bed and read her a book, we sing a song and then lights out. You might need to do more to calm your little one as he is younger so you can give him a baby massage or read a few more books or rock him. Put him to bed drowsy but awake and then leave the room. He will probably cry and its your choice what to do at this point. When I first started this with my daughter, I personally let her cry it out. I left her for about five minutes, went back in and soothed her (I didn't pick her up at all, just talked softly and let her know I was there) then left the room and added about five minutes after each time I went in. After about 30 minutes, she was out. I only had to do this one night for my daughter to understand but some people have to do it for a few nights. Once they get a good night of sleep, naps the next day usually just fall into place but you may have to do the same thing at nap time for a few days too. This is just what I did and it worked for me but I know some moms aren't down for letting their kids cry so its just a suggestion. My son was going through this too and I've just started the routine with him this week (he's about four months old) and it seems to be working. He wasn't taking naps during the day but I could tell he needed them. After starting this with him, he's napped the past two days and is going to bed earlier at night.

User - posted on 12/19/2008

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It's rough - I have a 15 month old who still sleeps poorly compared to most babies. She's up at least 3-4 times a night still. I do think a nighttime routine helps a lot - lots of moms have good luck with the No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley. Didn't really work for us, but it has lots of really good suggestions. Best of luck, and I wish you rest. It's SO hard, I know.

Christine - posted on 12/19/2008

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I am so sorry-you must be totally sleep deprived. Luckily my daughter who is 2 has been a good sleper since she was one month, but I do have some suggestions. I'm not sure if you breast feed or not but Leah had a bottle which I warmed. I think the whole tryptaphan thing really works. Also, I have a small heater in her room so she's nice and cozy. A mobile helps too. The best thing is a routine. Try to put him down at the same time for a nap each day-even if he just lays there-and the same time each night. Hope this helps!

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