Beth - posted on 12/11/2009 ( 50 moms have responded )
My husband is a subset of my step father. There is only one difference between the two. This difference is my step father was (is) a child molester and my husband isn't. What they have in common is;
Step father- very controlling, contiuously insulting, verbally abusive towards my mother and her children.
My husband- very controlling, I am unable to do anything right in his eyes, and he is continuously insulting me, very verbally abusive.
I have had both of my children taken from me by his mother. They used my seizures against me and people who said they were my friends helped my husband give my children to his mother. I no longer have seizures, working on getting an education, and wanting to get a job. He doesn't like this. He hates it so much that we fight all the time. He shows nothing but disrespect towards me and so does one of my children. I am now considered a bad MOM because I will not let my 18 year old move back home (because of her disrespect, towards me). My husband is saying that I hate my daughter because I will not jump to her every need. We bought her a trailer, bought stuff furniture for her baby, paid several months of rent, pay for her car insurance, and bought her the first and second car she ever owned. All she has to say about it is 'I did not ask for it'. She is not even staying in the trailer that we bought (and paying rent on) all the babys' things are in this home and she is staying at my mother-in-laws. This means all the money we have spent has gone to waste. My husband has our income seperate, everything (including my car) in his and our daughters name. People (His family and friends) are allowed to treat me like crap and he says nothing. Yet my dumb butt stays with him. WHY? Because of our children. I know no one in this town. Every person I know lives out of state and 1000s' of miles away. This means If I were to stay with friends or family I would never see my children or grandchild. I don't think this is signs of a mother hate her child. Taking abuse everyday, staying home and knowing no one, and staying unhappy, just to be near her children. I am lost though! Everyday I feel like I need to leave. Everyday I keep trying to find a way out, but then I think about my girls. Can anyone give me some advice that might really work. Please do not say tell him how you feel. I have aalready. He does not see what he is doing is wrong. I have explained it to him forwards and backwards and still doesn't get it! HELP!