somone help me im sixteen and pregnant what should i do

LEAH - posted on 01/18/2010

the only person who can help is your mom..remember mother's knows best..and if i were you support the baby..strive hard so that you can give her good future

Paula - posted on 01/18/2010

In your heart you know what you can live with. Everyone has opinions on what you should do. Sixteen is young but people have made it with a child and come out better than imagined. Adoption is always an option but do not be too quick to make a decision. I am an adoptive mother and I can not tell you what a wonderful gift I have been given. My daughters birth family is still a part of our lives. She knows her birth mother and 2 half sisters. You are ultimately making a very adult decision and only you know what it right for you and your child. There are a lot of things out there to help you. Several people indicated WIC and Medicaid. Make sure you have a good support system, parents, counselors and a good Doctor.

Paula - posted on 01/18/2010

In your heart you know what you can live with. Everyone has opinions on what you should do. Sixteen is young but people have made it with a child and come out better than imagined. Adoption is always an option but do not be too quick to make a decision. I am an adoptive mother and I can not tell you what a wonderful gift I have been given. My daughters birth family is still a part of our lives. She knows her birth mother and 2 half sisters. You are ultimately making a very adult decision and only you know what it right for you and your child. There are a lot of things out there to help you. Several people indicated WIC and Medicaid. Make sure you have a good support system, parents, counselors and a good Doctor.

Paula - posted on 01/18/2010

In your heart you know what you can live with. Everyone has opinions on what you should do. Sixteen is young but people have made it with a child and come out better than imagined. Adoption is always an option but do not be too quick to make a decision. I am an adoptive mother and I can not tell you what a wonderful gift I have been given. My daughters birth family is still a part of our lives. She knows her birth mother and 2 half sisters. You are ultimately making a very adult decision and only you know what it right for you and your child. There are a lot of things out there to help you. Several people indicated WIC and Medicaid. Make sure you have a good support system, parents, counselors and a good Doctor.

Meged - posted on 01/18/2010

You really need to lay off. When you are a teenage mother, you do this to yourself enough. You don't need to do this to her. Seriously!!

I understand where you are coming from, because I had people tell me that too. But you really need to knock it off!

CLAIRE - posted on 01/18/2010

DONT do it.....its not only your life yor fucking up!take it from someone who knows

Meged - posted on 01/18/2010

you could also find a teen mops in your area! they are awesome!!

Shatika - posted on 01/18/2010

You are brave to keep your child. I know how scary it can be and the fact that you are wanting to keep your child is a huge step in the right place. It will be hard, but I promise that when you hold your baby for the first time, every little thing that seemed so bad before will desolve. I wasn't 16 but I was 19 when I got pregnant and turned 20 before I had my daughter and it was hard then. All the women in my family had children before they were 19 and some even had 2 or 3 by then too and they are all doing just fine. Just get any kind of medical help/support you can, there are plenty of ways to get money and be taken care of. Even after you have your baby you can have insurance on your child and help take care of anything medical. It will all be ok. Like I said earlier, you are already stronger than most by willing to keep your baby. Best of luck =) you will fully start enjoying your life now that it will have a deeper meaning. Just stay in school and do everything you want to do. Don't let anyone tell you that just because you have a baby that you can't succeed because I'm here to tell you different. You have my best wishes

Katie - posted on 01/18/2010

I was sixteen when I found out I was pregnant. I would look into a highschool that has a daycare for mom just like us. This helped a lot. I would work if you could in this econ. do what you need to to get the health care you need. Look into Women Infants and Children for your area. It will help with certian groceries and formula. I would also look into any other resources that are in your area that are availble to you. Please email me if you just need someone to talk to. I know you are scared and dont know what to do, but it will all be okay.

Bianca - posted on 01/18/2010

I'm here for any questions you may have.

I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with my first, who did come 3 months premature. But he's fine now and a total angel.

I am not even 17 yet, and I am already 3 months pregnant with a set of twins. So I know the hassles!

Let me know if you need any guidance :)

Laura - posted on 01/18/2010

I haven't read what others have said, but. I work for a program called Healthy Families. Our program really focuses on Teen pregnancy. It's a great program for a first time mom no matter what your age. You should look and see if there is a Healthy Families in your county. It's great for support and education as far as pregnancy and then other outside resources that you might not even think of. Good luck! But I'm sure you will do fine.

Lorena - posted on 01/18/2010

if you're wondering how to finish school, do what im doing. i took a year off to avoid any complications in the pregnancy and to take care of my son when he was younger, and im now about to return to school. but i'll be doing online courses from home, to be able to still take care of him, and work. it's scary finding out youre pregnant, but trust me all those worries are worth it in the end to see your child smiling at you everyday. i just turned 18, and have a 5 month old, and i dont regret a single thing.



send me a message anytime, even just to talk.

Lona - posted on 01/18/2010

If you have family near by let them help. It is important that you keep your baby. I have 4 of my own 3 boys and 1 girl. 2 of them are twins..Pray and love yourself and this life inside you.. It is a Miracle!!! Good Luck!!

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2010

do what your heart tells you,

La Vay - posted on 01/18/2010

your not alone i am 16 and pregnant as well... i was scared at first but now i know that its the best thing ever i found out about 2 weeks ago that i am having a girl it was the happiest day of my life!!! yes of course it will be hard at times but in the end its all worth it because you now have someone that will always love you, need you, and depend on you!!! me and my fiance are very gratefull for this blessing!!! congradulations and good luck!!!1

Heather - posted on 01/18/2010

Hi there sweetie :) First thing you should know is that you are NOT alone. I was 15 when I had my first child. I'm 21 now & have 2. I'll tell you now that it is the HARDEST thing you will EVER have to deal with whether you are alone or have a supportive family. Something you should also understand, is that you DO NOT need the father.You are a capable young woman & you can do it alone if you have to. I give you props for wanting to keep your child. You're taking responsablilty for your actions & that is step one. I went to a special school called School Age Mothers Program (SAMP) & I think they have them pretty much everywhere.Look it up for your area. Its this amazing program for pregnant teenagers. You go to this place as you would a regular school but you attend with other girls in your situation.It helps you finish school.And then when you have your baby you can take him/her with you until they are 1 year old. Its really an amazing place. Things were really good for me though, unlike some. I know it may sound like BS to some but I married the father..(5 yrs later) b/c we really truley love eachother. We have owned a house for 3 yrs now (hes only a mere 3 yrs older then myself)& actually planned for our 2nd child. I miscarried in between my 2 & that helped me realize how special each child is whether they are planned or not. My son is now going on 6 & my daughter just turned 2. I am really truley a very happy person. Know that its possible for you too.*~ Heather

Rabecca - posted on 01/18/2010

though I had my son at 25 it was still scary and felt to young and not ready and my boyfiend of 7 years left me was just gone when we found out so I know what its like to be scared and depressed but the main thing I have learned is that as long as you are committed to your child and strive to make a good life for them and learn how to be self sacrificing ( which is not easy for anyone let alone a teen ) and not to settle for being a statistic you know like poor single young mom type of bull but to show the world your child that you can do it you will always find a way .

My sister had my nephew when she was 15 and I always admired her for being a really good mom she never let the fact that he was a young mom get in her way or determine who she was as a parent she graduated from high school on time went to nursing school and now 19 yeas later she has a great job owns her owns home shes married and had 2 other kids if anything having a child that young gave her the push to be sucessful and yes it wasnt always easy collage was a time of real stuggle and everyday keeping her head afloat at times but she did it and you can do just dont ever play into the you ruined your life or things will never work out for you because you have a baby yopu cant listen to that because its easy to start to believe it will be harder yes but nothing is impossible there are programs set up to help you find them and use them but set your mind on they are to help you be sucessful and not something you want to depend on forever because it can be a sink hole for some once you start down that road thats where you will stay have the mind set of striving to be a strong independant woman that your kids will look up to because of your determionation and strenght they will have that role model of sheer strnght of charater you can do it !!!

Sherre - posted on 01/18/2010

Sharon, she's asking for advice. Stop being rude. If you don't want to give advice, get off the site. Thanks

Sharon - posted on 01/18/2010

No offense.



Help yourself.



You made this decision to get pregnant and you made the decision to keep it.



How, with what means, where to live and how to clothe it are up to you. same as the rest of us. You're 16 and so smart - you figure it out.

Kirsty - posted on 01/18/2010

i was 16 when i had my child, i dont regret it at all! shes my life, if thats what u want dont listen to ANYONE! cos having an abortion when you dont want to is the worse thing ever xxxxx

Bree - posted on 01/18/2010

What is it you would like help with? I found out I was pregnant when I was 14! Everyone could only talk about adoption! I amanctipated myself, and decided to keep my daughter! She is now 4! You have to find that will power! Don't let anyone talk you into something, you don't want to do! If you want to keep the baby, then do it =)..I was terrified, but I did the best I can, and now I could not ask for more!! Feel free to send me a message with any question, or concern you might have...

Meged - posted on 01/18/2010

i am 18. & found out I was pregnant when I was 17. I just had him in September. If you have any questions, let me know.

Victoria - posted on 01/18/2010

i woz preg at 16 do wot u feel iz right i ad no family nufin dun it all on me own bein a christian me family disowned me u no summat now i wouldnt change a thing.

bab its hard but ul do it u av 2

Janet - posted on 01/18/2010

hey there, i'm not sure how your feeling bout everything else but if your happy enough to keep the baby who do you think is guna try and stop you???. there is no one than can. there is lots of help you can get from your family and friends if you have told them. yes being pregnant is scary but i promise you its one of th best jobs i could ever have had. she's my only one at th moment, its not the easiest thing to do i'll admit. what does your partner think. its up to you whether you want to stay in school dear but if you did leave you can always finish what you were doing at a later date. i did, i'm now in college doing my level 2 in childcare and education. my motto is: - no matter how many times you ask a Q? you'll always get a response, always ask for help if you need it someone will always be there for you.

Janet - posted on 01/18/2010

hey there, i'm not sure how your feeling bout everything else but if your happy enough to keep the baby who do you think is guna try and stop you???. there is no one than can. there is lots of help you can get from your family and friends if you have told them. yes being pregnant is scary but i promise you its one of th best jobs i could ever have had. she's my only one at th moment, its not the easiest thing to do i'll admit. what does your partner think. its up to you whether you want to stay in school dear but if you did leave you can always finish what you were doing at a later date. i did, i'm now in college doing my level 2 in childcare and education. my motto is: - no matter how many times you ask a Q? you'll always get a response, always ask for help if you need it someone will always be there for you.

Melissa - posted on 01/18/2010

Hunny, you have come to the right place. I got pregnant when I was 19. My first thought was an abortion. But I don't believe in abortions, I was just scared. I eventually came to my senses and of course wanted to kep the baby. My older brother told my parents, which I was really upset about, but kinid of glad in a way. because then I didn't havve to tell them. They were really supportive. My son is now 7 and the love of my life. Tell your mother. I hope she would understand. It will be hard, but us mothers are here for you. If you have any questions, please feel free to message me. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!! Best of luck.

Jessica - posted on 01/18/2010

I had a baby last January it was the scariest time of my life! I didn't know much about babies and was terrified about having one. But as soon as they handed her to me all that fear went away!!! It was the best day of my life!!! If you need any advice or have any questions just ask!!!! I'll do my best to help you!!!

Zoraida - posted on 01/18/2010

Well first of all I admire you for wanting to keep your baby. Have you told your parent if not I strongly recommend that you do. You will need medical attention pre-natal care to make sure that your baby is growing healthy. You also need to eat right, sleep and excercise all these things you can discuss with your doctor as well as know what to expect(changes) you will be going through as you get further along. You are quite young and you need your parent support on this one. Now more than ever if you are in school do not drop out stay and finish your schooling as this will give a better chance of making a better life for you and your baby. You might also think of giving up the child for adoption but this are decision that you and your family as well I think the baby's father. what ever you decide I wish you all the best.

Elaine - posted on 01/18/2010

I know that you are probably scared and nervous but I applaud you wanting to keep the baby. I am not sure where you live but there are any resources available in our area to help with classes, finances, and

Elaine - posted on 01/18/2010

I know that you are probably scared and nervous but I applaud you wanting to keep the baby. I am not sure where you live but there are any resources available in our area to help with classes, finances, and

Kelley - posted on 01/18/2010

good word! U never get anything u can't handle. Good luck!! I was 33 when I had my Son. My first. It was still hard but so amazing. Though emotional I was ready. But not alot of money. But if everyone waited for the money no one would have kid's. LOL

Kaelin - posted on 01/18/2010

First, have you told your parents? I know it will be the hardest thing you have to do, but I am betting they will be more understanding and helpful than you think. If you are too scared to tell them alone ask a trusted teacher, counselor or neighbor to go with you to tell them.

Candice - posted on 01/18/2010

I got pregnant at 16 but me and my boyfriend made the decision that not keeping it would be best for us. We had ZERO support from anyone. You just need to think it through. And just mentally prepare yourself. I had my son at 20 and its hard. I work go to school and take care of my son. I wouldnt have been able to do it without the support of my boyfriend and my family so if you have support youll be ok. My advice to you would be DONT become a statistic! STAY in school get a job(if u dont have one) and do what you gotta do to provide for that baby. Because its no longer just about you, your life is gonn change,but as long as your doing the best you can youll be ok. Idk where your from but in mass there are programs by the state that can help you such as teen mom housing, daycare vouchers, food stamps, cash benefits ect. Just keep in your mind that you need to stay in school. Itll be the best decision for you and your child. Good luck with everything

Jennifer - posted on 01/18/2010

Ask yourself sinple questions..... are you ready to give up your life as you know it? are you willing to put your child's needs above your own? how are you going to buy things your baby needs? Do you have a strong support group to help you through the rough times?

I found out I was pregnant at 16, I had my son at 17. It has NOT been easy, most of my friends stoped hanging out with me. My life as I knew it was gone. I had this 7lb baby that needed me non stop no time for rest, no time for ME. I am now 28 years old and I wouldn't have changed it for the world. YES it was hard very hard at times. But if you truly want your baby you will have to become an adult right now, and give up a lot in your life. If you can't do that then I would suguest adoption, just for the simple fact that so many wonderful couples are out there that can't have a child of their own. But the choice is yours.

Good luck with your choice. I hope you do what is right for yourself and your unborn child.

If you need anything, have any questions or anything.. please feel free to contact me. I am just around the cornor.

Tara - posted on 01/18/2010

I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant. It was very scary, but if you have already made up your mind that you want to keep your baby that is wonderful! If you ever have any questions please let me know! I'd be glad to help!

Tammy - posted on 01/18/2010

My 17 year old daughter is expecting in April 2010...the most important thing to do is be open and honest with your parents, and seek prenatal care. Best of luck to you.

Theresa - posted on 01/18/2010

Have you ever thought of adoption? There are so many infertile women out there...my youngest is adopted and has brought us so much joy. Think of the child and how you will be able to afford diapers, formula and such....you're greatest gift could be giving the baby up to a loving couple and you knowing your baby will be cared for and loved. Good luck with your decision and May God Bless you with this decision.

Cindy - posted on 01/18/2010

You're not alone out there. When the baby arrives you'll find it's the most AMAZING experience! www.babycenter.com - great site to show the development of the baby - helpful advice. www.mom2momsale.com - great place to pick-up gently used clothing, strollers, etc. Take time to enjoy this experience - pls. be sure to take your prenatal vitamins everyday. God Bless you and Your Baby!!!!

Rosie - posted on 01/18/2010

If you need help feel free to contact me for I will be there for you and give you any help and I am willing to assist you , you need something or a place to go I am available.



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Sylvia - posted on 01/18/2010

well the only thing you can do is hope for the best and dnt worry bout what othwr ppl think...GOOD LUCK>

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2010

I was 20 when I got pregnant not ready to be a mom, but life goes on.It will be hard but if you want to keep you baby and you feel that its the best thing for you then keep your child. ALOT of people will tell you its a bad decision but you have to do what you feel is right. You can message me if you have anymore questions.

Maria - posted on 01/18/2010

Hi there well what a age to become a mommy i fell pregnant with my child when i was nineteen but nothing in this world could make me change my mind of how it feels to know that your expecting i will say you have to keep the baby because god gave it to you and even if their is people out there telling you to have a abortion you send them to hell that baby is yours no one else can take it away from you, take care of it love it and be their when ever he or she needs you i believe that you will be able to do that and gongrats on your pregnancy.

Jess - posted on 01/18/2010

Congratulations, a baby is a wonderful joy no matter what your age ! If you believe you have the physical and emotial rescourses to raise your baby than go for it. When I was in school a lot of girls had babies and they were great mums. I think with the right support you will be able to do it. Don't be ashamed to ask for help, we all need it !!! I do hope that you have told your parents, they will be your greatest support and rescource. They may be upset now but once they see that baby for the first time everything will be forgiven. Congratulations and take care of yourself.

Jess - posted on 01/18/2010

Congratulations, a baby is a wonderful joy no matter what your age ! If you believe you have the physical and emotial rescourses to raise your baby than go for it. When I was in school a lot of girls had babies and they were great mums. I think with the right support you will be able to do it. Don't be ashamed to ask for help, we all need it !!! I do hope that you have told your parents, they will be your greatest support and rescource. They may be upset now but once they see that baby for the first time everything will be forgiven. Congratulations and take care of yourself.

Jaimelee - posted on 01/18/2010

I was just 16 when I found out, Its alight you will have planty of support and heaps on here you can message me if youd like, :) hang in there, my baby girl is 8 weeks and i wouldnt trade being her mum for the world, your not too young at all age is only a number, and im sure that the are 35yrs old that do a much worse job than youll ever do ;) stay strong,

Michelle - posted on 01/18/2010

Just remember it's not the end of the world.

Michele - posted on 01/18/2010

it is your body and your choice, nobody has the right to tell you that you have to get rid of the child. If your parents aren't supportive there are lots of assistance in the community ( like WIC, welfare etc) to help you through it. ALso, most people change the negitive opinion about being a pregnant teen once that baby is born and they get to hold it :)

Dominique - posted on 01/17/2010

YOu can do it if you work hard at it, Will not be easy. I am glad you have lots of support. I am going to throw out an option that I did not really have information back when I had my boys is adoption, there are many differnt kinds like open or closed or just were you have pictures sent etc, I will be praying for you and your baby, health and guidence

C. - posted on 01/17/2010

I already posted something on here, but upon reading a couple posts I just had to say something.



Amanda Sammarco suggested not telling the WIC office or any other government assisted program that you live with the father of your baby (if you even DO live with the father of your baby). However, please, PLEASE do NOT abuse the system like that!!!! Be honest about everything. There are places to turn to if you live with the baby's dad that can help you out financially. When I worked at a grocery store (started when I was 16, quit when I was 19 b/c I had about a month and a half left in my pregnancy and just could not do it anymore) I saw WAY too many people, young and old, abusing WIC and FoodStamps. It is sick when people do that b/c the people that do NEED those programs often cannot get assistance from them. I say this b/c one lady I worked with had a son and was on Food Stamps and they only gave her $70/month to live on for food. She was making just above minimum wage and had to pay rent. The apartment she lived in was in a complex that bases your rent on your paycheck, so she wasn't paying much, but she still did not have enough money to feed both her 2 1/2 year old and herself for an entire month and they would not give her any more than $70/month no matter how many hearings she went to. Her son ended up going to live with his aunt b/c my coworker just could not afford to take care of him with such little assistance. Oh, and she didn't have a car, internet, cable or anything like that, so she wasn't exactly spending her money on things she did not need. But then people with one child were coming in with Food Stamps that had almost $400/month to spend that WERE living with the baby's father, both of them worked but had told them they couldn't work.. It's just sick when people abuse programs like that. Please do not do that. Get a job, that will help. And you can get government assistance W/O lying to them! Not to mention that if they do find out that you were abusing the program, it could mean some jail time. It's not worth it, especially when you have a baby to think about now.



My husband and I had to put our son on WIC, my husband is military but we were living in a high-cost state (Hawaii- and for good reason since they have to ship things so far). Everything was almost double the price out there than it was back at the east coast of the US. My husband wasn't making much and I had no way that I could get to work if I had a job since I still had no driver's license and the closest bus stop where we lived was about a 3 hour walk from our house.. Plus we couldn't get our son into daycare b/c by the time we got there the waiting list was already a mile long and we didn't know anyone at all- so getting someone to watch him was out of the question. BUT, we did not lie about our circumstances and they still gave us WIC. Just proof that you don't have to lie and abuse the system to get what you need. Good luck with everything, Shantrell!

JoAnna - posted on 01/17/2010

If you want to keep it then keep it. There are many programs out there to help young woman who become pregrant. Just try to stay in school if at all posible. I did and i am so happy that i did. i was only 13 when i gave birth. 12 when i got pregnant. i know it can be done. If you like add me ot your friends list and we can talk ok.