Stay at home mom or working mom??

Erinn - posted on 05/01/2009 ( 100 moms have responded )

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Are you happy with what your doing or would you rather do the other?

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Every women is different. My mum worked to provide for the family. In this day and age sometimes that is neccessary-was she a bad Mum- no! Some women like to be home- others need to work. We do it to please the people we love- there is no wrong in that...

Emily - posted on 05/05/2009

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Quoting Lindsey:

haha i always wondered why woman fought for equality..back in teh day so they could work and blah blah blah..what better job could u have than staying at home cooking dinner and making babies..what could be better! i dunno what..def not working in a dead end job doing something you hate...yeah stupid people back then thinking that working was a good idea..lol


Wow, I don't even know why I am replying to this drivel as I am sure it was posted just to start this kind of argument but- Yes, being a mother is an incredible opportunity. It is the best job in the world but every mother who also works is not stuck in a dead-end job nor is she uncommitted to her children. I have a mortgage payment, $21,000 in student loans, two children and the typical bills that come with life. We couldn't afford to live off my husband's income- he is in law enforcement it doesn't pay enough. The women who fought for equality "back in the day" did not do it so we could have the "right" to work a dead end job.  Some people enjoy their jobs. Mine is exciting and productive. I was able to stay home with both of my babies when they were little but now that I am paying off my Masters degree I know that I will not be able to afford to do it longer than three to six months with my next child. I am resigned to that. Some women aren't able to afford to take more than a couple weeks off. It's life. I personally love staying home with my babies- I don't enjoy making dinner or cleaning though. In fact I suck at both. I'd much rather be doing my out of home job than taking care of my house(wtih the exception of my garden). I don't think that makes me a bad mother.

Emily - posted on 05/04/2009

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i work part time,i love my kids but def need a break and talk to pple my own age also. And have extra pocket money. But you do whats best for you!!

Amanda - posted on 05/02/2009

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i work full time and go to school part time in a distance learning program(was already enrolled when i found out i was pregnant). my husband also works full time. i don't consider either of us bad parents. my mom babysits my 7 month old while i work, and i don't think of her as raising my baby. i do feel bad and guilty that i work and study, and do at times worry that he will get confused and think of her as mom. However, if i didn't work my child wouldn't have health insurance, and to me it wouldn't be responsible to let him go without insurance or to expect taxpayers to pay for him to have insurance so that i can be with him all the time. i think its great for some parents that one gets to stay at home and the other makes enough to totally provide for the family. However, just because a parent stays home doesn't mean that they are the best or even good parents.

Chantel - posted on 05/01/2009

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When my children were younger I stayed at home with them, or when I did work I worked part time opposite my husband. That was really nice for him, because he got to spend alone time with the little ones, without me around, and they really had time to bond, it is some of his favorite times.



I enjoyed being around my children, as a matter of fact, we homeschool all 4 of them, so we are together a lot, but I also like being productive and giving to others. So when they were little and I wasn't working (I think I only worked a total of 6 out of the last 18 years if you put it all together) I volunteered.



I would volunteer whereever they needed me, which was usually as a classroom helper, but I also taught art and was a safety monitor. For the most part I would take the younger children with me if I could or sometimes someone would watch the older of the ones home and the baby would come with me. I just plopped him in the sling and off we went.

For about 2 years I volunteered as the afternoon safety monitor, baby in sling!



When the youngest got old enough, I trained and certified as a doula and worked with birthing families until we moved here, where 3 years ago I entered collage and was accepted into the nursing program.



I guess I just like to stay busy, but mostly I feel like to be a good mom I have to be well rounded and my children need to see me as a productive strong example. NOT to say that if I focused solely on my home they would see me different.....each woman is independant and this is how I see myself.

I have a friend who focuses solely on her home and children, down to planning what rooms she cleans on what days. Honestly, my house is almost always a disaster and I readily admit I am a horrible housekeeper.....

I guess with my ramblings I come to this; do what you love, give 100% to your children, don't worry about the "things" they are missing, because what they are taking with them is peices of you!

Parenting is work, the hardest and most exhausting work there is.....funny thing is, my husband says he wouldn't trade places with me for the world. He loves his children and spends as much time with them as he can...but he couldn't parent and run the house 24/7 and stay sane *grin* On the other hand, I was raised by my dad (who lost his vision right before I was born) while my mom worked full time. In our home that was a blessing because my mom has the maternal instinct of a tire (seriously!).

I see absolutely nothing wrong with a stay at home dad.....but I firmly believe that children deserve a parent in the home as much as absolutely possible!

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Shellee - posted on 05/24/2010

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Im abit of both,The only thing i find hard is getting someone to watch my little gurl for an hour 4 times a week..And all the secondly TAX i have to pay IRD.Makes me wana just stay at home and be a Mum.

Traci - posted on 05/17/2009

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I think the best gift you can give your child is yourself. Once you make the decision to have children, its up to you to make sure they grow up right. The only way to ensure that is to spend as much time as possible with them. My daughter is in Kindergarten and I volunteer to help out in her class from time to time. We are new to the community, so I had no past knowledge of anybody, but I could pick out which kids moms stayed home and which kids moms worked. It showed through their behavior. Even my daughter's teacher told me that she felt the same way. She's been teaching for years and says she can tell which kids' mom's are SAHM's. We don't live in a brand new McMansion, and we only keep one car payment at a time, but our kids are not wanting anything. To us it is worth the sacrifice to know our kids are growing up right. Every mom has to make that decision for her family, but 9 times out of 10 staying at home is better.



And to all those SAHM's out there, don't feel like you need to make the money to have worth. As long as your house is clean, dinner is on the table, and the kids are taken care of when your husband gets home, you are doing your job. You can't put a price on that!!!

Shannon - posted on 05/09/2009

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I am a working mum and wouldn't have it any other way. I admire women who can stay at home with there children. I was ready to go back to work when my daughter was 4 mths and I did. I enjoyed being with Raine but something was missing. We r both very happy now. She gets alot from her family day care family.

Margot - posted on 05/09/2009

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I stay at home with my girls. I originally was Active Duty Army when I had 1st baby girl. I was out 6 months later. I had planned on staying in the military, but when I put my baby in daycare (for one month only), I had so many problems with them. They cut her finger nails to short and left little sore spots. Cut holes in her bottle nipples, cause she wasn't drinking fast enough. I took her out and tried to have some home providers watching her but I just couldn't trust anyone to take care of her the way I would. So I got out. Now almost 6 1/2 years later here I am still at home with my other 2. We had children to have something of our love together, put out in the world. I didn't have them to have someone else raising them. Staying at home isn't for everyone. Some people get antsy and really just can't afford to be at home anyway.



I do know a couple that take turns. The first year she stayed home, then she got a really great job offer and took it. Putting her 12 mth old in daycare was NOT an option. So she conned her hubby to stay home for a year to "see" what it was like. He didn't mind it a bit. He was going to baby gymboree, playdates....etc. It was really cute. A year later they swapped out.



I'd to each's own. Whatever you do has to make you happy. If it works, roll with it.

Christel - posted on 05/09/2009

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I do both. I babysit twice a week and stay home the rest of the days. I love it. I have time to go to mommy groups and hang with my kid and then babysit and make money and still hang with my kid. Te best of two worlds

Kelly - posted on 05/09/2009

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I'm actually happy with what I'm doing. I'm a working Mom. I have a 5 year old son and a 2 week old daughter. My son goes to Preschool everyday so I don't really have to worry about finding a babysitter for him unless he's sick or something else comes up. I just take my daughter to work with me and she really loves going to work with me. I sometimes even take my son to work with me and when I do, he has a blast.

Liane - posted on 05/09/2009

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Quoting Tara:

My husband and I discussed this well before we had our daughter (now 13 months) and decided it was cheaper for us for me to stay home with her (no commute, daycare, etc costs). I did want to help with finances though, so I'm taking a course to work at home as a medical transcriptionist. Once I'm done, I'll be able to work full or part-time as I choose, so I'll be getting the best of both worlds. Since we're expecting our 2nd in September, this just makes me feel that I made the choice that was best for us.



Hi Tara;



I've been considering transcibing at home myself.  I used to be a transcriber for our local police service, but took a day job with better benefits.  However, it's full time and I hate that.  I miss my daughter so much!  Did you complete the course yet, and if so, how is it going?  Is it enough money to rely on as a sole income? (I'm a single mom with only one income). I'm not on this site very much, and I'm really interested in knowing more.  Here is my email strawberrfields_22@msn.com (yes, strawberry is spelled wrong---it's a typo!  lol)



 



Liane from Ontario, CAN

Liane - posted on 05/09/2009

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I ask myself that all the time! I think it depnds on my mood---rather my daughter's mood. lol In a perfect world, I would love the luxury of working only part time, maybe a few hours 2 or 3 X a week. But I'm a single mom, so can't afford to stay home. I also want to be a good role model for my daughter, to teach her to be self-reliant and independant. Do i love working full time? DEFINATELY NOT!

Leslie - posted on 05/09/2009

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I'm an older mom with one just out of college, one in college and a 13 year old. I stayed home with the two older ones till my middle one, Josh, was 3 1/2. Then out of necessity I had to go back to work, my husband was having a hard time finding a job at that time. I have pretty much worked f/t ever since, with a couple of temporary part-time stints thrown in there. After 2 years of working f/t again, we had our third child. She's never had a SAHM. I have regretted it many times, but unfortunately to live in a half-way decent neighborhood, buy clothing for a family of 5 and put 3 kids through college I have no choice. My husband just does not make nearly enough to pull it all off. I would love to be a WAHM if I could find the right opportunity and make my full salary at home of what I'm making now. But after searching for years, I've never found such a good paying opportunity. Now my oldest is getting married and even modest weddings are VERY expensive and we refuse to go into debt for it!

Lyndsay - posted on 05/09/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

I am doing both. I run a home daycare and would never want to do anything else



My son is in enriched home daycare.  He goes to provider's house for the day and gets home cooked meals and a comfortable environment, while still having the structured activities and interactions found in a traditional daycare centre.   I think it's the greatest thing for him, I'm thankful for you busy moms :)

Lyndsay - posted on 05/09/2009

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My son is almost 2 and I'm currently going through college. His father is on disability so he is the stay at home parent, and I like it this way. I'm going through Child and Youth Work, and I feel it's really benefitted me as a parent too.

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i am a working mom out of necessity. i wish i could stay at home, but am going through a rough divorce, making me a single mom with full custody. fortunately my mother is able to babysit for me. It is, however, nice to be able to go to work and be around adults sometimes.

Tracy - posted on 05/08/2009

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I'm a working mom and do enjoy helping my clients; however, since we only have 1 child (5 yr old boy) and will not be able to have another I have requested to work part-time to align with his school schedule. This lets me keep working and not miss out on time with our son. It has also greatly reduced the stress in our house. If forced to choose one or the other I would definitely be a stay at home mom :)

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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Quoting Jean:



Quoting Morag:

I have absolutely no choice but to work. I work 40 hours a week now. I lost my job when I was 8 weeks pregnant and we had to beg and borrow just to eat each week. It took me over a year to find another job...and within 3 months of finding one, my husband had his hours cut. In the time I was out of work we nearly lost our home, we have run up huge debts on our credit cards just on necesities like the electric bill, food bills, school books and shoes for the girls...and vacations... there wasn't even enough money to pay to feed the kids, let alone money to save on luxuries like holidays. ....there was NO state help in Spain for us. Nothing. So if I was to be a SAHM I would be incredibly selfish and irresponsible. Yes I would like to be a SAHM, who wouldn't, but to let my kids starve and live on the streets... what kind of life is that? if anything the social services would take them away, So I do find it quite offensive when SAHM who either do receive state handouts or are lucky enough to have husbands who can keep them in the way they are accustomed even with tiny sacrifices like yearly vacations that they have to save for, accuse working mums of just pawning their kids off on to other people, putting our careers before our kids, not being decent mums, and getting others to raise them.

My 15 month old can read the words Cat and Dog, speaks 3 languages, can count to 3 in spanish and say her ABC's to G, So shes not been neglected on the intellectual front. All my spare time I put into my kids. I even still breastfeed my youngest, breastfeeding is hard alone, couple working into that I think that makes me pretty dedicated to my kids considering most people who are SAHM, don't have the stress of work, don't breastfeed that long. I am actually a lot more proactive with my kids than a lot of my SAHM friends, because I feel I don't get enough time with them

I personally don't get any Pampering time... I go to work, I come home, I look after my kids and still have to do all the things SAHM do, just in less time and often staying up very late at night to do it, because I'm mum thats my job. In 2 years I have been out 2 times, once for my birthday and once for our anniversery... I'm a mum first and I feel guilty for going out and spoiling myself when my kids should come first. So it is unfair to say that I am not a 110% dedicated mother, just because the world has done me over, and I am not in a position to stay at home. Just because you are a SAHM doen't mean you are a good mum and anyone who uses that as an excuse to bolster their parenting abilities and make other mothers feel bad imo must feel guilty about not giving their kids their all.






I am very sorry to hear that. I'm also sorry to hear that you are made to feel guilty about not being a stay at home mum.






I realise that I am extremely lucky that I can stay at home to look after my son etc. We only just afford to have me staying at home. While we do get assistance from the government, If I was to go back to work then at least half of my pay would go to child care (I looked into it as I was only going to take 3 months off work- I was frowned upon for that). We don't get child care subsides until the child is between 2-3 years. You get 20 hours a week free child care. Other wise $200 of my pay would go to child care.






While I am off work I am trying to make the best of my time, plan on enrolling in courses so I can get a better paying job.






 






I am thankful for working mothers. It is the working mothers that allow me to stay at home with my kids while providing an income for my family.



there is nothing wrong with puttig your child in daycare as there are some very good daycare centers out there. I had my first child in daycare for 3 years and was very happy with our provider, my daughter was also doing things very early and has just turned 5 yesterday and is still far above grade average. for the most part we are working around grade 3 level.



I see daycare as your childs first form of education and I am happy that my child got to expirence it.

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Quoting Morag:

I have absolutely no choice but to work. I work 40 hours a week now. I lost my job when I was 8 weeks pregnant and we had to beg and borrow just to eat each week. It took me over a year to find another job...and within 3 months of finding one, my husband had his hours cut. In the time I was out of work we nearly lost our home, we have run up huge debts on our credit cards just on necesities like the electric bill, food bills, school books and shoes for the girls...and vacations... there wasn't even enough money to pay to feed the kids, let alone money to save on luxuries like holidays. ....there was NO state help in Spain for us. Nothing. So if I was to be a SAHM I would be incredibly selfish and irresponsible. Yes I would like to be a SAHM, who wouldn't, but to let my kids starve and live on the streets... what kind of life is that? if anything the social services would take them away, So I do find it quite offensive when SAHM who either do receive state handouts or are lucky enough to have husbands who can keep them in the way they are accustomed even with tiny sacrifices like yearly vacations that they have to save for, accuse working mums of just pawning their kids off on to other people, putting our careers before our kids, not being decent mums, and getting others to raise them.

My 15 month old can read the words Cat and Dog, speaks 3 languages, can count to 3 in spanish and say her ABC's to G, So shes not been neglected on the intellectual front. All my spare time I put into my kids. I even still breastfeed my youngest, breastfeeding is hard alone, couple working into that I think that makes me pretty dedicated to my kids considering most people who are SAHM, don't have the stress of work, don't breastfeed that long. I am actually a lot more proactive with my kids than a lot of my SAHM friends, because I feel I don't get enough time with them

I personally don't get any Pampering time... I go to work, I come home, I look after my kids and still have to do all the things SAHM do, just in less time and often staying up very late at night to do it, because I'm mum thats my job. In 2 years I have been out 2 times, once for my birthday and once for our anniversery... I'm a mum first and I feel guilty for going out and spoiling myself when my kids should come first. So it is unfair to say that I am not a 110% dedicated mother, just because the world has done me over, and I am not in a position to stay at home. Just because you are a SAHM doen't mean you are a good mum and anyone who uses that as an excuse to bolster their parenting abilities and make other mothers feel bad imo must feel guilty about not giving their kids their all.



I am very sorry to hear that. I'm also sorry to hear that you are made to feel guilty about not being a stay at home mum.



I realise that I am extremely lucky that I can stay at home to look after my son etc. We only just afford to have me staying at home. While we do get assistance from the government, If I was to go back to work then at least half of my pay would go to child care (I looked into it as I was only going to take 3 months off work- I was frowned upon for that). We don't get child care subsides until the child is between 2-3 years. You get 20 hours a week free child care. Other wise $200 of my pay would go to child care.



While I am off work I am trying to make the best of my time, plan on enrolling in courses so I can get a better paying job.



 

Andie - posted on 05/08/2009

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I'm a working mom, and I love it. I'd need to be heavily medicated to give up having a profession.

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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I am doing both. I run a home daycare and would never want to do anything else

Helen - posted on 05/08/2009

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I work full time because i have to but i am also lucky enough to have a job i love. The only thing i hate is the amount of work i have to bring home with me (teacher) as it intrudes on family time.

Donna - posted on 05/08/2009

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I had 6 years at home with my kids and have recently returned to work parttime and now feel that maybe working is better. We are all different so therefore there is no right or wrong just what works for you

Tory - posted on 05/08/2009

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I am a mom of 3 and I had to work with my first born and I hated leaving him everyday but I had to work so I had no choice. When my second child came I was determined to stay at home and I have been a stay at home now going on six years, I think that if you can afford to stay at home and raise your children then do it, but if you are like so many other mothers that would prefer to stay at home, but that really isn't an option because you need the extra income then I would say not to beat yourself up about it. There is options if you are needing to make money and want to stay at home. I watched my friends children for several years so that I could stay at hoe with my children and also make money and now I am doing mediacal transcription from home which to me is soooo much better bc I always have time to do things when I want. My work is due in 24 hours so I try to get it out of the way in the mornings, but if can't then I will just do it when my kids go to bed. I love it and it is a perfect job for those who want to stay at home but still need to make a really good income!!

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I stay at home and I am happy with my decision. I do plan to go back to school and am anxious to do so but haven't been able to yet.



I may stay home for the rest of my life and that would be ok for me. When our kids (and God willing, Foster Kids) are grown and gone, I will have free time to do other things that I don't have time for now, like volunteering.

Keisha - posted on 05/08/2009

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I'm a working mom and it works perfectly for our family. I feel fulfilled mentally and I love the fact that I am able to provide for my children whatever it is that they need and all of what they want (if they earn it of course). I also know that my children are being well taken care of and that they are extremely advanced and are gaining the very important social and communication skills by being around and interacting with other children during the day. I personally haven't missed any of the milestones in either of my childrens lives by working full time. My career is not extremely demanding so that definitely helps everything work so well.

Theresa - posted on 05/08/2009

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I work outside the home part-time thanks to the free daycare of my mother-in-law. I have recently started being a WAHM to help bring in extra money and hopfully replace me part-time job. My husband and I do whatever we can to make sure our son is happy and healthy. I think me getting out of the house is good to chat is grown ups but I can find ways to do that through volunteering if I decide to WAHM full time! As long as you are happy and love what you do that is all that matters happy mom=happy baby!

Shelagh - posted on 05/08/2009

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I've done bits of both - I went back to work part-time when my first child was three months old, I stayed at home after the second one was born, until he was 10 months old, worked part-time until he started school, then went back full-time. What would I have done differently? I feel I went back too early with my first, for sure. I also wish I'd been better organised for the full-time work. I tried to do everything myself - I should have delegated more. We could have afforded a cleaner, for example - for the life of me, I don't know why we didn't use one.

Leslie - posted on 05/08/2009

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I am a stay at home mommy and wouldn't change a thing. I couldn't imagine being at work somewhere and the babysitter calling me and telling me i missed the first step, or the first crawl. You miss out on so much when you're away from your child. I don't want someone else to steal my memories. It is something that you can not do over.

Sonal - posted on 05/08/2009

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It feels like you are doing everything for the family and not even thinking about yourself. Thats when sadness sinks in sometimes when no body expresses it that what you do is also very important rather going out and earning money.

Traci - posted on 05/08/2009

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I have always been a working mom. My kids are now teenagers and I wish I could have spent more time with them. So if I could have stayed home with them, and only worked when they were in school, this would have been much better.

Amanda - posted on 05/08/2009

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I worked full time from before my son was born until he was 2... when I had my daughter. I have been a SAHM the past 3 years, and I just started a part time job this week. I always thought I'd wait until they were both in school before I'd start working again, but alas, our household just can't deal with it. But so far, I like working part time and knowing that I'm going to be bringing in a paycheck again. Being a SAHM full time is the toughest thing I've ever done. There is a certain sense of freedom (not to mention the 'ME' time) that you get with working outside the home. Everyone has their own preference.

Carol - posted on 05/08/2009

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I went back to work when my son was 6 months old and my daughter was 1 and half and I missed so much of there growing up I wish I didn't and then my daughter started falling behind at school cos I was always at work so now after 8 years I am a full time mum and loving every minute of it.

Nikki - posted on 05/08/2009

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I have a 2 year Early Childhood Degree when I found out I was hainvg a baby I made the choice to open a home day care cause I didn't feel it was right me working in a day care center getting paid to watch other people's kids and then I'm paying someone to watch mine. Just didn't sit right with me so I love being home and my little Emma gets sociliazation with the other kids around and I get to watch her grow-up. I also went back to school all on-line to do Medical Transcriptionist at home part-time and work that around my family's activities.

Stace - posted on 05/08/2009

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im a stay at home mam and i wudnt swap it for d world ! i love watchin mi son grow up :)

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a wahm, and I love it. To me, being a mother is the best job in the world. I design baby shoes as a hobby and my business on the side. I have the best of both worlds and I hope it will last long term for me :-)

Tabitha - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a stay at home mom, but I really miss working. I have workred half of my life, but now I am going to school and trying to recover from knee surgery. I miss having a purpose other than just washing clothes, transporting kids, and being a housewife.

Stacey - posted on 05/07/2009

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I work for a jewelry designer making jewelry. I love it. If I had to have any other job, I'd probably rather stay at home.

Ellen - posted on 05/07/2009

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i love my lil man and love the time i do get to spend with him he is such a good boy but i went back to work being a single mum it was the best option for us as a family my sister is the best and she is a full time student studying to be a counceler she looks after my lil man while i work so it works well for us i only work casualy and i love it the adult interaction stops u from going crazy ...

User - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a stay at home Mum. When we had our first we were fortunate enough to both be home for his first 8 months. Now that my husband is at work full time I am home with both my kids. A lot of my mates have asked when I'll go back to work as I have all this education and frankly I'm not in a hurry. Sure there are days when I long for adult conversations and the opportunity to wear make-up and heels but I reckon their only little for such a short time and I want to be the one to witness their milestones.
To be the one to teach them the basics of life is such an amazing experience and it gets me to slow down and enjoy the simple things in life. Like jumping in mud puddles, discovering new bugs and just being goofy.

Pamela - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a stay at home mom and wouldn't want it any other way. Never really found a job I liked but I sure like going to school.

Julie - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a working mom and i love being a working mom. I like being able to provide for my family financially as well as maintain my independence as a woman.My daughter stays with my mom and also goes to daycare. The daycare she attends is a learning daycare. She is not just being taken care of, she is being taught. She loves it. Daycare/Pre-school helps children developmentally. They get more interaction with other children and by seeing other children crawl, walk, talk, play, they pick it up faster. And i love seeing the bonds she develops with the teachers who care for her. It takes a village to raise a child.

Melody - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a stay at home mom, and I absolutely love it! It is the best job in the world. I wanted to go back to school and get my cosmetologists liscense after about a year, but I decided I would rather be home with him instead of put him in daycare. Money is tight, but its so worth it to be home with my little boy.

Vanessa - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a SAHM. I used to work in childcare and it was sad to me to know that a parent misses so many milestones because they have to work. Money is very tight, but we have family that helps when they can so it's working out.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/07/2009

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i really love my job a lot and i do mean i love it and i love to work thats hard for me to think of not being out there working but with having my baby on the way i would like to stay home and be a stay at homemom but i dont make that much to beable to stay at home.

Argie - posted on 05/07/2009

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am a stay at home mom with a part time job. i work 2 days a week from 4-10 and i love it.

Michelle - posted on 05/07/2009

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i work fulltime as a childminder. get to spend every minute with the kids. its great especially in the summer. drawbacks are i never get no time for myself, i am always surrrounded by kids. very little adult interaction. i have to do all the housework even though i work longer hours than my partner. not many people recognise this as a "proper job"

Heidi - posted on 05/07/2009

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Well I guess I ave the best of both worlds, because I work from home. I have a licensed Daycare in my home. I didn't always though. When my first son was born and my maternity leave ended I quit my full time job to drive a school bus so he could be with me, but then I took on a second job for a year and he had to go to a sitters house, but I felt I didn't want anyone raising my son for me, so just before his 2nd birthday I started my licensed Home Daycare and I love it and now I have 2 boys and a stepson. So you do whats best for you. I love my job and have been doing it for just over 8 years now!

Michelle - posted on 05/07/2009

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I'm a stay at home mom and wouldn't change it for the world! I love seeing my boys everyday and watch them learn and discover new things. No amount of money could replace what they give me every day. I make sacrifices for myself as money is very tight but leaving them all day would be a much bigger loss. These early days go by quick enough as it is so I don't want to miss a thing. There will be time to go back to work when they go to school and then I will be able to provide that bit more for them, but honestly no amount of money can replace time spent together.

Shani - posted on 05/07/2009

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im a working mum and i do not c anything wrong with working 2 provide 4 my children i work nites so i c them in the day but i perfer them having every thing they want and not having 2 struggle to provide 4 them

Erin - posted on 05/07/2009

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I am a SAHM and love it! But I am very grateful that I have the opportunity to choose to stay home when many do not, sure money is tight and we could live in a bigger house or take fancy vacations if I did work but we're not bad off and I get to be a huge part of my daughters development. However, I don't believe all Mom's are cut out to SAHM, I know a couple who never did anything with thier kids during thier 1 year mat leave, hardly ever taking them outside the house or enrolling them in activities or getting involved in playgroups/mom's groups. I feel so sorry for thier kids and they are MUCH better off in a daycare environment that is stimulating, it really shows in thier kids personalities and development levels how poorly stimulated they were, sure they'll likely become daycare generic drones but they're getting experiences and learning. I've learned to stick with my own kind of parents who are involved with thier kids and have the same mindset as I do and I find this much less frustrating (including working Mom's) LOL...sorry this turned into a bit of a rant hahaha Anyway, once we finish having kids I may reconsider re-entering the workforce once they are all well established in school but until then I thank my lucky stars to be able to be such a huge part of the early development.

Jen - posted on 05/07/2009

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I have to work for financial reasons, but I feel like I am missing out on a big part of my kids lives. If there is any way you can possibly stay home and still manage financially, I would definately recommend it!

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