Stopping a toddler from coming into our bed at night?

Candice - posted on 05/21/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have a 2 and a half old lil girl and ever since she was put into a bed she has stopped sleeping through the night and comes into our bed!
The hubby and I are not getting much sleep as she is a big wriggler.
Does anyone have an suggestions for how to keep her in her own bed? Thanks

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I say pick your battles! Is sleeping in her bed versus your bed truly an issue? I get it, she's a wiggler. But is it more of a concern you want her OUT of your bed? In my home, my philosophy is pretty simple: Pick a bed, and sleep in it. I don;t care where you sleep, just sleep! I know longer fight sleep battles with my 6 year old son. SOme times he wakes up in our bed. Sometimes my husband goes to his bed (it's a full size bed). We are both working people, and my alarm goes off at 4:30 am. If I honestly had to get up and march my son back to his own bed, well we'd never sleep. My son just needs the comfort of snuggling. I provide comfort, or which ever bed he is in temporarily with Mommy or Daddy. So while we never set out to co-sleep, it just turned out that way. My son can sleep with the lights on all he wants and put himself to sleep after reading. But when he wakes up in the middl eof the night an dis scared, well he wants to be comforted. Besides, I guarantee he won't be 13 years old and snuggling in with Mommy! But for now, I pick my battles and sleep is really not one of them.

Karla - posted on 05/21/2011

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If you truly don't want her in your bed you have to take her back to her bed EVERY TIME she comes to your bed. Choose one statement such as "It's time for bed" or "This is where you sleep".....and say that and nothing more each time you put her bed. It will be really rough for a short period of time, but in the end, it will be worth it.

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WOW! Good for you :) I'm so glad to hear that this helped. My 3yo climbs into bed with us every night. A lot of the time I don't even wake up when he gets into bed, but I'm expecting another baby and really need to get him trained to sleep in his own bed. I've been SO tired and not sure what to do... I'll have to try what Karla suggested. It sounds right.

Candice - posted on 05/23/2011

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Thanks for the tips ladies it really worked!! and wasn't as hard as I thought. I did exactly what you said Karla and the first night she came into our room and before she could get in bed I took her back to her room and said your a big girl now you have to sleep in your own bed. Well the first night was hard it took about half hour to an hour with a few lil tears and many trips back and froward but then all of a sudden she was asleep and we slept the rest of the night. The next night (last night) she came in once, I walked her bak to bed and then that was it she didnt come in until 7am!!
So not only are we getting more sleep but she is also sleeping in cuz my hubby isn't waking her up when he goes to work at 5am :)
It was tricky but I definately recommend it, heres hoping it keeps going this good :)

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I am my 3 year old son's personal footrest when we're asleep. But most nights I'm so tired, I don't care.

Karla - posted on 05/22/2011

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It would be worth it for us, too. Our 3 yo doesn't come to our bed at home, but when we travel, he does...and it is complete misery. Like yours, he moves around way too much for us to get any rest. And that is usually in a king sized bed. Good luck!!!

Candice - posted on 05/21/2011

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I think it is worth it cuz we arn't getting any sleep with her in our bed anyway!! She's not just a wriggler she is a mover, she will be vertial one minute, horizontal the next, Ive woken up with her fast asleep on top of my head before.
I will just have to put her back into her own bed everytime like you said.

Katherine - posted on 05/21/2011

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I absolutely agree with Sharon on this one. If you want sleep keep her in your bed. She'll grow out of it trust me. Mine is two also. She starts out in her bed and then migrates to mine. If I fought with her every time I would get NO sleep.
Her sister did the same thing and now she's 5.5.

Amy - posted on 05/21/2011

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our son is 2. although he doesn't come into our bed, he has started getting out of his bed and walking downstairs. We just pick him up and put him in bed and simply tell him he needs to stay in his own bed, goodnight. and leave. we make very little deal out of it and he's only done it a few times this week. we never let him stay up or be anywhere else and take him right back. we only took him back twice tonight and he stayed. used to be numerous times. so twice is a big improvement. pretty soon, hopefully, he'll be like his sister and just stay in bed because she knows she is just getting put there again anyway.

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