Stupid question, but oh well......

Erinn - posted on 04/10/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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This may sound stupid, but what does an orgasm feel like?? Is it so obvious that you KNOW your having one? I've never had one so I hav no clue what they're like!! I've heard they're incredible and would love to experience one (or more!) I think I might be trying tooo hard and my husband really wants me too, which makes me feel like I have to try TOO hard! I have a vibrator and it feels good, but doesn't do a whole lot!

It's also hard for me to be soo relaxed that I have NOTHING on my mind! So, anyways...... can someone tell me how it feels to orgasm so I have an idea?? I'm 30..... seems like I would've had one by now!!

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Tracey - posted on 09/22/2010

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my suggestion would be not only explore yourself but let your husband explore you too and you him, that way you both get to know the things and places that are most pleasurable, the best way I can explain it is sort of like that moment right before you sneeze but a million times better, and yes sort of like a body implosion but nice :)

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Orgasms feel differently for different people. And they feel differently when caused by different people. And they can feel differently at different times. The point - just relax more and enjoy the lovemaking act for what it is worth. Try different things, different times and places, different positions. Try clitoral stimulation more before vaginal stimulation. The rabbit people chat about is designed for both vaginal and clitoral stimulation simultaneously. Be lewd and lascivious - make your husband feel the same way. Act out different fantasies - you might be surprised if you're tied up and taken forcibly, or if you become the aggressor (Domme). DO NOT try 3somes, as the act of bringing another person into your marriage usually results in long term trouble. Nuff said - just try things differently. Show him how to find your G spot.

Val - posted on 04/15/2009

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Hi Erinn,
The biggest thing is to RELAX!
Try by yourself with no time restrictions and no pressure to succeed, just explore.
Use your finger(s) and make sure you are lubricated. If you get turned on by a certain scent and/or nipple stimulation, go for it! The clitoris is the most sensitive spot and will get swollen when you are excited. If you rub or try too hard it will cause numbness, so remember to relax and take your time, gently. You may experience a mini-orgasm and your body will shudder inside, that's a great start. As you explore, speed up and slow down and you will feel the climax building inside. Only you know what feels good!

Many women can't have an orgasm during intercourse. If you are on top and stimulate your clitoris at the same time that definitely helps. I have actually timed an orgasm with my partner by listening to him moan and groan (which turns me on) and stimulating my clitoris at the same time, it's the most awesome feeling.

Good Luck Erinn and if it doesn't happen right away, have fun exploring!
You are at your sexual peak so you probably get lubricated just thinking about it. Take advantage and enjoy!

btw... no question is a stupid question ;)

Julie - posted on 04/15/2009

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An orgasm builds up your sexual feelings down below until your body feels like it is spasming... Just enjoy sex with your husband it will happen. If you worry about it it will be harder to experience it.

It's wonderful!

Summer - posted on 04/12/2009

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Quoting Erinn:

Stupid question, but oh well......

This may sound stupid, but what does an orgasm feel like?? Is it so obvious that you KNOW your having one? I've never had one so I hav no clue what they're like!! I've heard they're incredible and would love to experience one (or more!) I think I might be trying tooo hard and my husband really wants me too, which makes me feel like I have to try TOO hard! I have a vibrator and it feels good, but doesn't do a whole lot!
It's also hard for me to be soo relaxed that I have NOTHING on my mind! So, anyways...... can someone tell me how it feels to orgasm so I have an idea?? I'm 30..... seems like I would've had one by now!!


 

Mel - posted on 04/12/2009

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i think i had my first one at about 16 by myself and no one could do it for me til about 18 as much as they tried no guy has ever done it for me with finger and i dont orgasm from sex i only do from clitoral stimulation so try that vibrators are more intense it still takes me about an hour tho as i have trouble but you will know when you do it feels intense then you just feel a release and after you have one its easy to have so many more afterwards. i can climax from oral sex but its much more intense by myself just find the spot keep going for a while see how ya go!

Tracey - posted on 04/11/2009

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it is amazing!!!! and I find that if I'm tired or been at work (I look at vaginas all day, I'm a midwife) that if we do make love then an orgasm can be elusive but sex is still enjoyable.





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Feels amazing! When you have one, your going to know it.

You should try to do it yourself - then explain it to your partner.

Good luck =]

Susie - posted on 04/11/2009

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Women sexually peak at 29 or around then. Sometimes being tired with children and stressed with the responsibilities of everyday life. Sometimes it can be earth shattering but sometimes you just have a beautiful relaxed experience with your husband. Stop looking for the earth shattering and enjoy the beauty and as you learn and grow it will happen for you.

Karen - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Toni:



Quoting Karen:




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If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!















Ummm, I think it's Rampant Rabbit....lol, but you did give me a laugh *wink*.













hehehehe....a friend of mine owns an Adult shop and im pretty sure its called Roger Rabbit and he has another called Danny the Dolphin.....If im not mistaken i think there is an upgrade on the rabbit :)









Lol...oh ok. I only know of the ones on Ann Summers and they're all called Rampant Rabbits. The only Roger Rabbit I know of is in the Disney film which is why it made me laugh.





Where you from Toni?

Toni - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Karen:



Quoting Toni:




Quoting Karen:





If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!












Ummm, I think it's Rampant Rabbit....lol, but you did give me a laugh *wink*.










hehehehe....a friend of mine owns an Adult shop and im pretty sure its called Roger Rabbit and he has another called Danny the Dolphin.....If im not mistaken i think there is an upgrade on the rabbit :)





Lol...oh ok. I only know of the ones on Ann Summers and they're all called Rampant Rabbits. The only Roger Rabbit I know of is in the Disney film which is why it made me laugh.

Karen - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Toni:



Quoting Karen:




If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!









Ummm, I think it's Rampant Rabbit....lol, but you did give me a laugh *wink*.






hehehehe....a friend of mine owns an Adult shop and im pretty sure its called Roger Rabbit and he has another called Danny the Dolphin.....If im not mistaken i think there is an upgrade on the rabbit :)

Karen - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Toni:



Quoting Karen:




If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!









Ummm, I think it's Rampant Rabbit....lol, but you did give me a laugh *wink*.






hehehehe....a friend of mine owns an Adult shop and im pretty sure its called Roger Rabbit and he has another called Danny the Dolphin.....If im not mistaken i think there is an upgrade on the rabbit :)

Mary - posted on 04/11/2009

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i definitely think the rabbit would be a good investment for u....mine are always more clitoris so if u get one...get some tingler and rub it on and use the rabbit for the vibration...give it a minute but youll b there within 5 ..and the more u get em the faster theyll come...mine can be as easy as 30 seconds haha...TRY IT!

Margi - posted on 04/11/2009

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buy a vibrator and experiment when you have some alone time, i didnt have an orgasm till i was 18, and i really didnt think i was normal, i thought i didnt have a clitoris and now i know i do, yeah, but it was a vibrator that taught me!

Toni - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Karen:



If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!





Ummm, I think it's Rampant Rabbit....lol, but you did give me a laugh *wink*.

Karen - posted on 04/11/2009

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If im not mistaken its called Roger Rabbit....i have heard good things about it but i dont have one i just use a normal one.  Also something good is this toy called the Pharoah. Its a pharoah's head that you place over your DH's penis and the head vibrates so if you sit on him the vibration stimulates you....its great!!!

Toni - posted on 04/11/2009

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I agree with what many have already said. You can't tell your husband what to do if you don't know what works for you yourself. You need some alone time and find out what works for you. I never had an orgasm with my partners until I was about 25, after then it was hit or miss if i did or didn't. But now with my current partner I have one everytime. I can't have one vaginally but it does feel good, I only have them clitorally so my partner looks after me and then we have full sex. It improves sex for us and I enjoy penitrative sex a lot more.



I don't enjoy vibrators, like someone else said, they make me numb after a while, but I haven't tried a rabbit and friends that I know who have said they're fantastic. You'll find them on the AnnSummers website, I'll try and post a link for you. 



http://www.annsummers.com/webapp/wcs/sto...



It seems they have a sale on at the moment...lol. Go for it!!

Leslie - posted on 04/11/2009

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Quoting Phillipa:



Hi there Im pretty much the same as you jocelyn............but what is a bunny rabbit thing you people are talking about lol?





its a vibrator that is spose to be really great hahaha. its pretty funky looken and quite pricey





Phillipa - posted on 04/11/2009

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Hi there Im pretty much the same as you jocelyn............but what is a bunny rabbit thing you people are talking about lol?

Jocelyn - posted on 04/10/2009

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i am also a big fan of the rabbit (hubby works nights :(  but it really does "get the job done").  i've just started having orgasms, and i actually read a book called " how to have an orgasm everytime you want"  basicly it says to explore yourself using your own hands and fingers, then gradually move towards pleasuring yourself with a soft/safe object (ie, teddybear paw lol), it goes one like that, in little steps.  it did help me a bit, gave me some good ideas



for me tho, an orgasm doesn't have the earth-shattering effect as it does for some (i actually just had this convo with a group of friends lol) for me, it;s more of a warm sensasion that (sometimes, not always) spreads to the rest of my body, it really is hard to explain :)



i still don't orgasm if we're just having intercourse, i have to have the clit stimulation or nothing happens for me :S



so PRACTICE! and then keep practicing lol, i'm sure you will find something that will work for you, if all else fails, you can always go see a sex therapist (i've heard sometimes women just wont orgasm because they are scared of it (the letting yourself go part)



happy learning!

Samantha - posted on 04/10/2009

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try to relax and dont think about it the more you "try" the harder it is you cannot force it but it will happen try oral?

Chrissy - posted on 04/10/2009

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It's hard for me to have one during sex. So, my husband will do things to me so I have one right before and then we'll have sex. It still feels good. Try rubbing in areas that feels good and go from there.

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For me, my whole body got HOT and normally it hits me fast... there are times when I don't know that I go but obviously I have. Everyone is different ... if you can't relax, try have a couple of drinks and that should losen you up. :)

Shanna - posted on 04/10/2009

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Your 30 and haven't had one...WOW im so sorry!!! Does your hubby get upset about it... Anyway, it;s hard to explain what it feels like..its just the best feeling in the world...You will no when you have one..GOOK LUCK

Leslie - posted on 04/10/2009

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i would say do it by yourself first. maybe you can't have g spots did you try clitoral stymulation?? try it by yourself first..so theres no pressure. vibrators don't work 4 me soi dont no i find they make me numb after awhile



just a thought let us know lol





Leslie - posted on 04/10/2009

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i would say do it by yourself first. maybe you can't have g spots did you try clitoral stymulation?? try it by yourself first..so theres no pressure. vibrators don't work 4 me soi dont no i find they make me numb after awhile



just a thought let us know lol





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Agree with Trudis post - the rabbit is the one! Personally - the vibrator part doesnt do it for me..but the rabbit-ears bit is just amazing!

PS - I had to wait til I was 36 to find out... x

Kate CP - posted on 04/10/2009

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Quoting Trudi:

You will know when u have one. It's earth shattering and makes your whole body shake. My suggestion? Go to a sex shop and buy the rabbit. You'll be thanking god within minutes. Good luck.


That thing is awesome. Expensive, but awesome.



 

Trudi - posted on 04/10/2009

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You will know when u have one. It's earth shattering and makes your whole body shake. My suggestion? Go to a sex shop and buy the rabbit. You'll be thanking god within minutes. Good luck.

Kate CP - posted on 04/10/2009

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I was watching a documentary once about women who just physically couldn't have one. They had to go through experimental spinal surgery to attempt to rewire themselves so they could experience one. Even then it didn't always work. :/
There are some stimulating creams and gels out there you could try. Also, maybe just a different position would help. Have you tried using the vibrator while having intercourse?

...you don't have to answer that last question cause it's really personal. Think of it as more of a suggestion. ;)

Sarah - posted on 04/10/2009

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Actually do you know taht it is some what if a common thing for some women to never experience an orgasm. I heard that from my OB once. SOmetimes some  women just have a harder time experiencing that. I have a friend and ya shes only 22, but has never had one and has tried all the vibrators...everything and anything and still hasnt.

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you are not hte first person i have heard this from. It is an awesome feeling especailly when you are with the person that you love.  it is a roll your eyes in the back of your head feeling. You have to take time to get to know your own body before your husband can please you in that way.  Explore yourself, That may sound strange but that is what i got. Hope it helps

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