Tantrums!!!!

Joleen - posted on 10/19/2009

Prevention is number one with toddler tantrums. They tend to happen more when kids are tired, hungry or bored. So lots of sleep, regular naps, good meals and snacks, and keep small toys with you for distraction when she is bored. Many times a tantrum can be stopped in the beginning stages with a snack or small toy from home that suddenly appears..."are you hungry?" or "did you know that this was hiding in my pocket?". Public crisis averted.



As far as those pesky everyday tantrums at home, remember that they are a normal stage of developement. Try to think about the same issues: tired, hungry, bored and fix them if you can. Maybe she needs to go to bed or nap 30 minutes earlier, maybe she needs a protein source with her morning snack to make it last longer (ie cheese with her crackers), maybe she just needs some one-to-one with mom reading a book. If you can't prevent or redirect the tantrum early....Ignore it! Walk away. When she is over it, squat down and open up your arms and give her a big hug. I usually say something like, "there you are! Let's move on with our day now. Do you want to help me stir this?". Then we do something that reassures them that I still love them (even when they are stinkers) and we can go on to have a great day!

Emma - posted on 10/18/2009

I put my step daughter in her room and let her have her tantrum there, if we were out in public I would put her in the car until she was done. There was only one extreme time that I actually drove her home and put her in her room. That was the last straw for her. Once the tantrum was done she was allowed to come out and once she was old enough she started getting time outs at the kitchen table. But like the others the time out didn't start til she was done crying and lasted no longer than her age. Good luck!

NINA - posted on 10/18/2009

my son20 months old and is always trys to get his way by throwing tantrums and i used to give in but now i have taken to ignoring him and letting his scream until he realizes its just not going to happen. i have noticed that he is throwing tamtrums less and less and i couldnt be happier! it is hard to do but in the end its the best way i have found to deal with it.

Samantha - posted on 10/18/2009

I agree with most posts, all they want is attention. I put my son in a timeout chair for a few minutes and watch him without him knowing and he'll stop his fit within 3-5minutes.

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2009

i let my kids throw there tantrums and i walk away if we are in a store i put them in the cart and do what i got to do so what if they are screaming and going on thats life and if poeple don;t like it to bad i am not going to let my kids run my life we are at the store for a reason!!! and at home i do the time out thing plus with my 3 and 6 year old i well take there favorit toy away for the day or longer!!

Rachel - posted on 10/18/2009

I just move anything dangerous out of the way, and ignore them. A tantrom is all about attention. If you give it to them, they are getting exactly what they want. After they finish, try sitting down with her and helping her with whatever she got mad at in the first place. Try showing her more praise and good attention when she is good. She will eventually realize which is better, and she'll develop better ways of expressing herself.

Kyle - posted on 10/18/2009

well when i first saw my friend do this to his kids i thought it was a little extreme but my daughter is 5 and has started throwing tantrums when she doesnt get what she wants since my friend came her from Alaska with her kid (her kids do nothing but whine). but anyways a different friends kids are from 2-7 and when they really miss behave or don't listen he makes them lay on the floor and hold their legs up in the air until he says they can put them down. I am seriously considering it for my daughter if she doesn't straighten up. atleast it will give her some exercise. Now days you can't even open hand spank your child or smack their hand without someone calling the cops!

Amanda - posted on 10/18/2009

Quoting Jessica:

I was told by my doctor when they have tantrums walk away from them (if you are home) if they come for you and are still throwing the tantrum continue to leave the room.. it helps with my 2 year old..luckily i havent had that happen in a store. LOL

Jessica - posted on 10/18/2009

I was told by my doctor when they have tantrums walk away from them (if you are home) if they come for you and are still throwing the tantrum continue to leave the room.. it helps with my 2 year old..luckily i havent had that happen in a store. LOL

Marla - posted on 10/18/2009

she understands probably better than you think lol. try countdown from 7 or so and a tmeout. maybe sitting in a chair for a few minutes.

Colleen - posted on 10/18/2009

i really like the time doesn't start till they stop crying

Colleen - posted on 10/18/2009

TIME OUT!!!! this has saved my behind more than a few times you go straight super nanny on her. Time out for on minute and you ignore her the whole time unless she us doing somthing harmful to herself or others and as she starts to get older and think I can scream for a minute and be out of here in no time you tell her if she doesn't calm down she you will start adding minutes when she gets out of time out you sit down with her and asked her to tell you what she did wrong and why she shouldn't do it and then ask her to apologize to whom ever she was hurting or disrepecting. Just try to stay calm and let her wear herself out if all else fails.

Nicole - posted on 10/18/2009

I have boys and I'm told that it's different, but I used a "time out" chair and the corner. They had to stand in the corner or sit on the chair for their age in time. The time didn't start until they stopped crying and it also started over if they started again or talked. It took a while, but evenually they got the idea

Colleen - posted on 10/18/2009

TIME OUT!!!! this has saved my behind more than a few times you go straight super nanny on her. Time out for on minute and you ignore her the whole time unless she us doing somthing harmful to herself or others and as she starts to get older and think I can scream for a minute and be out of here in no time you tell her if she doesn't calm down she you will start adding minutes when she gets out of time out you sit down with her and asked her to tell you what she did wrong and why she shouldn't do it and then ask her to apologize to whom ever she was hurting or disrepecting. Just try to stay calm and let her wear herself out if all else fails.