teen pregnancy debate

Caity - posted on 12/26/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Soo after being on this site for some time it has become apparent that there are a lot of strong opinions about the subject of Teen Pregancy. I was a teen mum at barely 16 my partner was 17, we are still together to this day after seven years, very much in love, our daughter is soon to be five and we are planning baby number two before we are married. We are not religious and don't beleive we are all deemed to go to hell for bringing such wonderful pieces of life on to the earth. I want to know how people can turn there noses and find it so easy to lump us all into this one group of disfunctional teenagers who apparently can't possibly feel love or be a good parent at such a young age... what are your own feelings towards teen pregnancy and why do you feel this way? is it lack of knowledge or acceptance of the few opinions of others, what makes a teen mum, a teen mum other than the fact she is a teenager? is there a line that can be drawn for teen mums who dedicate there time to raising there baby and also work on being succesful in life just like any other parent would? or are we all just the same because we are "teens"?. i know there are people in the world who are less cappible parents, who couldn't tie there own shoes let alone teach a child to tie theres, who couldn't read a book to themselves let alone read one to their child, yet thats acceptabe to society they get judged less than us so called "teen mums" just because they have a piece of jewlery on there finger or theyr older. I was a fabulous teen mum and although i am truely glad to not have to be one any longer, it is not through regret it is simply that i no longer have to deal with the judgment of other small minded people. i would never judge a mother by her age, heck i don't even ike the term "teen mum" i have learnt this and feel it's time the world opened it's eyes.

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Jodi - posted on 12/26/2012

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In my opinion, no teen should ever plan to have a baby, BUT shit happens, and I would never condemn a teen mother to being any less of a mother than anyone else. I just don't believe it is the "ideal" situation and it shouldn't be encouraged.

And in my opinion, I don't see people on this site condemning teen mothers. Perhaps you are reading more into it than there is.....*shrug*

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/26/2012

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First of all, you are no longer a teen mom. Yes there is a lot of controversy over BEING a teen mom. Sometimes it is on accident, but it seems more and more often it is intentional. WHY is there such a bad stigma?? Well because being a mom is hard as hell. I love it, but I will not lie and say it is easy. Being that young to me means not being able to do so much with your life. In many circumstances, it leads to dropping out of high school, and not achieving goals whatever they may be. Mind you, teen mom also means a 13 year old having a child.

I don't see it as people "turn their noses" at teen moms, it is more about knowing how difficult it is, and not wanting our OWN children to be teen parents. You have a daughter, would you like to think she is having sex at 13, 14, 15, 16 and possibly becoming pregnant so young?

There is no "is it lack of knowledge or acceptance of the few opinions of others, what makes a teen mum, a teen mum other than the fact she is a teenager?"

It is more about educating your child on the safety practices of sex and avoiding a complicated situation.

Yeah, pregnancy happens plenty to teenagers. Some will be successful in their life and as a parent. Others won't. Regardless of the statistics, I would rather my child didn't have a child. What is so wrong with not wanting a 13 year old having a baby? I see plenty more wrong with WANTING a teenager to get pregnant.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/26/2012

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I want my child to live their life without having to worry about raising another.

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